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5 Ways To Bring Happiness and Fulfillment Into Your Life

5 Ways To Bring Happiness and Fulfillment Into Your Life
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The purpose of our entire life could be summed up into one accurate word — happiness. Why you’ve not found happiness may be unexplainable, but finding and unlocking the secret to true and lasting happiness is a duty we all owe ourselves. According to research, only one in three Americans say they are very happy.

Fulfillment in life will always bring happiness, but how do you attain fulfillment? This article will be sharing ways to stay happy and fulfilled.

1. Remind yourself of things that make you happy

For many of us, some of the things and people in our lives are what makes us happy. It could be the smile on the face of a loved one or the conversations you have with your significant other. This makes it possible for you to look within your circle to find the happiness that you seek. Reminding yourself that you have these beautiful people in your life will keep you fulfilled when you’re experiencing depression and letdown. Depression particularly depletes your energy and focus – leading many people to make mistakes that often cost them their loved ones.

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“Depressed drivers are most prone to road accidents,” says Jimmy Doan, a Houston accident truck lawyer. He has handled a lot of cases involving truck accidents (the accident type that takes the most lives on American roads), and he believes depression is one of the leading causes of accidents involving truck drivers.

Being able to find a way to fight depression and keep your mood light always will help you avoid a lot of human-errors and stay fulfilled. Keeping your mind on the joy that your loved ones bring you is certainly one of the best ways to stay happy and fulfilled.

2. Keep your focus on your life goals

People often get depressed when they stop focusing on their main goals and let distractions occupy their minds. Realizing that you can achieve your goals and make whatever dream you set your mind on become a reality, will help you stay fulfilled.

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Experts recommend celebrating every little wins on your way to success. This means you should stop beating yourself up whenever you think you’ve not achieved your goals, but to take time and celebrate the small steps you’ve successfully completed. Keeping your focus on your life goals and celebrating every little win will help you stay happier and fulfilled.

3. Only spend time with people that make your happy

The people we surround ourselves with can impact our mood significantly. This means you have to cut off communications with those that constantly let you down by injecting negativity into your life.

It’s true that you can’t make everybody happy. That said, you can’t be friends with everyone either. Only spend time with those people in your life that go out of their way to make you happy, and you’ll see how much your mood improves. Spending time with positive minded people is key to fulfillment and happiness.

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4. Seek the happiness of others

When we go out of our way to make others happy, the positive effect rubs off on us. According to a Harvard research, doing things that make other people happy such as spending money on them will always have a positive effect on our happiness.

Just make time out of your day and take someone out for a cup of coffee. This will have more impact on your entire day than you imagine.

5. Stop taking yourself too seriously

Do you often find that you criticize yourself too much? We’re humans and that means we will make a couple of mistakes every now and then. That doesn’t mean you should spend time wishing you had done things differently. Rather look at the fun side of it and make fun of yourself. Not taking yourself too seriously can help you fight stress and keep you in a lighter mood.

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Staying happy and fulfilled always is not out of reach for anyone. We only need to discover the things we could do to help us stay happy and spend more time doing these things.

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The Importance of Reminders (And How to Make a Reminder Work)

The Importance of Reminders (And How to Make a Reminder Work)
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No matter how well you set up your todo list and calendar, you aren’t going to get things done unless you have a reliable way of reminding yourself to actually do them.

Anyone who’s spent an hour writing up the perfect grocery list only to realize at the store that they forgot to bring the list understands the importance of reminders.

Reminders of some sort or another are what turn a collection of paper goods or web services into what David Allen calls a “trusted system.”[1]

A lot of people resist getting better organized. No matter what kind of chaotic mess, their lives are on a day-to-day basis because they know themselves well enough to know that there’s after all that work they’ll probably forget to take their lists with them when it matters most.

Fortunately, there are ways to make sure we remember to check our lists — and to remember to do the things we need to do, whether they’re on a list or not.

In most cases, we need a lot of pushing at first, for example by making a reminder, but eventually we build up enough momentum that doing what needs doing becomes a habit — not an exception.

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From Creating Reminders to Building Habits

A habit is any act we engage in automatically without thinking about it.

For example, when you brush your teeth, you don’t have to think about every single step from start to finish; once you stagger up to the sink, habit takes over (and, really, habit got you to the sink in the first place) and you find yourself putting toothpaste on your toothbrush, putting the toothbrush in your mouth (and never your ear!), spitting, rinsing, and so on without any conscious effort at all.

This is a good thing because if you’re anything like me, you’re not even capable of conscious thought when you’re brushing your teeth.

The good news is you already have a whole set of productivity habits you’ve built up over the course of your life. The bad news is, a lot of them aren’t very good habits.

That quick game Frogger to “loosen you up” before you get working, that always ends up being 6 hours of Frogger –– that’s a habit. And as you know, habits like that can be hard to break — which is one of the reasons why habits are so important in the first place.

Once you’ve replaced an unproductive habit with a more productive one, the new habit will be just as hard to break as the old one was. Getting there, though, can be a chore!

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The old saw about anything you do for 21 days becoming a habit has been pretty much discredited, but there is a kernel of truth there — anything you do long enough becomes an ingrained behavior, a habit. Some people pick up habits quickly, others over a longer time span, but eventually, the behaviors become automatic.

Building productive habits, then, is a matter of repeating a desired behavior over a long enough period of time that you start doing it without thinking.

But how do you remember to do that? And what about the things that don’t need to be habits — the one-off events, like taking your paycheck stubs to your mortgage banker or making a particular phone call?

The trick to reminding yourself often enough for something to become a habit, or just that one time that you need to do something, is to interrupt yourself in some way in a way that triggers the desired behavior.

The Wonderful Thing About Triggers — Reminders

A trigger is anything that you put “in your way” to remind you to do something. The best triggers are related in some way to the behavior you want to produce.

For instance, if you want to remember to take something to work that you wouldn’t normally take, you might place it in front of the door so you have to pick it up to get out of your house.

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But anything that catches your attention and reminds you to do something can be a trigger. An alarm clock or kitchen timer is a perfect example — when the bell rings, you know to wake up or take the quiche out of the oven. (Hopefully you remember which trigger goes with which behavior!)

If you want to instill a habit, the thing to do is to place a trigger in your path to remind you to do whatever it is you’re trying to make into a habit — and keep it there until you realize that you’ve already done the thing it’s supposed to remind you of.

For instance, a post-it saying “count your calories” placed on the refrigerator door (or maybe on your favorite sugary snack itself)  can help you remember that you’re supposed to be cutting back — until one day you realize that you don’t need to be reminded anymore.

These triggers all require a lot of forethought, though — you have to remember that you need to remember something in the first place.

For a lot of tasks, the best reminder is one that’s completely automated — you set it up and then forget about it, trusting the trigger to pop up when you need it.

How to Make a Reminder Works for You

Computers and ubiquity of mobile Internet-connected devices make it possible to set up automatic triggers for just about anything.

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Desktop software like Outlook will pop up reminders on your desktop screen, and most online services go an extra step and send reminders via email or SMS text message — just the thing to keep you on track. Sandy, for example, just does automatic reminders.

Automated reminders can help you build habits — but it can also help you remember things that are too important to be trusted even to habit. Diabetics who need to take their insulin, HIV patients whose medication must be taken at an exact time in a precise order, phone calls that have to be made exactly on time, and other crucial events require triggers even when the habit is already in place.

My advice is to set reminders for just about everything — have them sent to your mobile phone in some way (either through a built-in calendar or an online service that sends updates) so you never have to think about it — and never have to worry about forgetting.

Your weekly review is a good time to enter new reminders for the coming weeks or months. I simply don’t want to think about what I’m supposed to be doing; I want to be reminded so I can think just about actually doing it.

I tend to use my calendar for reminders, mostly, though I do like Sandy quite a bit.

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Reference

[1] Getting Things Done: Trusted System

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