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Dare To Be A Weirdo. This Is What Makes You A Unique Limited Edition.

Dare To Be A Weirdo. This Is What Makes You A Unique Limited Edition.

We live in a world that tells us we need to stand out from the crowd to be successful, but on the other hand expressing your individualism can be deemed negative; the more you blend in with everyone else, the more compliant and safe your life will be.

You express your individual style, opinions, thoughts and beliefs and you’re immediately told by society that you’re weird, attention-seeking or eccentric. Trying to be yourself can be a game of judgement and many people don’t dare to take that step for fear they’ll be judged or rejected for who they really are and this only leads to ultimate unhappiness.

Whether you love her music or not, Lady Gaga has been a pioneer and representation of individuality, creativity and just plain weirdness and does she care? Who knows, we’re not inside her head thinking her thoughts, but one thing’s for sure – she’s not afraid to keep emulating her weirdness and advocates the need to show that weirdness is just our true beauty shining through.

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Fuelling Bullying For Drive And Success

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    Being a naturally creative child, Lady Gaga didn’t shy away from being different at school and that inevitably brought negativity from others. Bullying was a big part of her life and it was mainly down to her daring to have her own sense of style. For anyone who has been bullied, it is something that can affect the beliefs and thoughts you have of yourself for years. For Lady Gaga, she channelled this into her drive to succeed and just follow her dreams and passions.

    “Bullying really stays with you your whole life and it really, really never goes away. And I know you’re using words like ‘superstar’ and ‘most-Googled’ and ‘billions of YouTube [views].’ But I was never the winner. I was always the loser. And that still stays with me. And do I want to stick it to anybody? No. I just wanna make music.”

    She shows bullying can make or break someone – choosing to go against the hurtful comments and negativity can be hard but can also be a huge fuel in moving forward being your best, creative, weird self.

    Rejection Is Not Failure. Be Yourself To Succeed

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      Being a classically trained pianist, Lady Gaga pursued her creative talents to break the music industry but it wasn’t easy. At 19, she signed to Def Jam records but not as the wacky-dressed lady we see today. Despite her love of being different, she tamed herself down in order to try and fit in with the record company ideals. After a few months she was dropped, it seemed she wasn’t gaining success with her mainstream image. A lesson that compromising on your true self will never truly get you to where you want to be. Would she have been successful without the outlandish costumes and hairstyles? Possibly. Would she have been happy? Possibly not.

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      Embracing Uniqueness For Success

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        Embracing her weirdness and getting back on track lead Lady Gaga to get noticed and landed herself a job as a songwriter for Interscope Records. From then on her success only got better and better. Making the decision to claim back her unique style and with the resilience she built up from negative feedback, she was able to create music in a way she probably only dreamed of.

        Embrace The Weirdness In Order To Love Yourself For Who You Are

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          If Lady Gaga is to teach us anything, it’s the importance of accepting ourselves for who we really are. Whatever your journey in life, you can’t make the most of each and every positive path without the ability to love yourself. To live a truly happy and successful life, you have to be true to yourself, ignore the naysayers and the criticisers and be pleased with the person you are. Happiness can’t be found outside of yourself, it can only come from within and it all starts with accepting yourself and embracing your unique qualities.

          Revolutionising The Concept Of What’s ‘Normal’

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            Her battles with not ‘fitting in’ and bouncing back from constant negativity from others around her, has made Lady Gaga a true advocate for those in society who are marginalised and made to feel abnormal for not slotting in to society’s ideals. Her strong empathy for people who are victimised for just trying to be themselves are not only shown through her unique sense of style and personality but through her songs.

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            Love her or hate her, Lady Gaga represents hope and inspiration for many of her fans and shows that we’re all unique and weird in our own way. Be yourself – be the true weirdo that you are because in reality, there’s no such thing as normal.

            Featured photo credit: ceoworld magazine via ceoworld.biz

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            Last Updated on September 30, 2020

            How to Live a Stress Free Life in a Way Most People Don’t

            How to Live a Stress Free Life in a Way Most People Don’t

            Learning how to live a stress free life may seem impossible, but the truth is that there are specific things you can do to begin eliminating sources of stress.

            No, it doesn’t look like a made-for-television movie. No, it doesn’t look like something only people with extra time and money can do. It looks like your life—but without any self-created stress triggers.

            Here are 11 ways to help you live a stress-free life:

            1. Stop Overanalyzing Situations That Haven’t Happened

            The first step to living a stress-free life is to stop overanalyzing imaginary scenarios. It’s easy to spend time in the world of worst-case scenarios. People tend to cultivate this world for one of two reasons.

            First, because if you know what the worst-case scenario is, then it won’t surprise you when it happens. Second, if you know what the worst-case scenario is, then you can do everything in your power to control the universe so the worst case never happens.

            If that’s really the world you want to cultivate, then become a professional risk assessor. If not, then ask yourself how you are benefiting from continuing to live that way.

            Does it make you feel better about yourself and your life? Does it make you want to leap out of bed in the morning, eager to embrace the worst-case scenario? Does it bring you joy or fulfillment?

            If your answer to these three questions is no, then stop living in the future and bring yourself back into the present.

            2. Don’t Take on Other People’s Problems

            The whole advantage of other people having problems is that they aren’t your problems. When you frequently take on other people’s problems, you get into the habit of enabling.

            Let’s get crystal clear about the definition of enabling: enabling is the art of continuing to take responsibility for other people, thereby disallowing their personal responsibility[1].

            It is of no service to other people to take on their problems because they can’t/won’t/don’t know how to fix the problem.

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            It is of service to empower others to take responsibility for themselves and their lives, to encourage, teach, and motivate others to address their own problems. So stop enabling, and start empowering.

            3. Get Present in the Moment

            Being present in the moment involves being in your body and feeling your feelings—two things that lots of folks actually don’t know how to do.

            Ask yourself these two questions: What does fear feel like in your body? What are you afraid of?

            If you don’t know the answer to these questions, you probably aren’t present in the moment. Being present involves vulnerability, humility, and openness[2].

            How to live a stress free life by being present

              The past and the future stop being so relevant and intriguing when you’re able to get in your body and feel your feelings. When you can do these two things, you actually want to be in the present moment.

              To get started, close your eyes, focus on your breathing, and watch your stress levels drop. Then, try these tips: How to Live in the Moment and Stop Worrying.

              4. Focus on What You Have, Not What You Don’t

              The easiest way to stop focusing on what you don’t have is by not watching TV commercials. Marketing teaches us to focus on what we don’t have, and advertising campaigns spend millions of dollars convincing us that we must have what we don’t yet have.

              Can you think of a marketing campaign that teaches you to enjoy what you already have without buying something to enhance it? Odds are you can’t.

              In a world dictated by Super Bowl commercials and Facebook ads, it takes stalwart focus to recognize what you have more than what you don’t. If you want a stress-free life now, get stalwart, and stop letting other people dictate your focus.

              In order to do this, try cultivating a gratitude practice to help refocus your mind toward what is good in your life. You can get started with this guide.

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              5. Stop Surrounding Yourself With People Who Don’t Make You Happy

              Honestly, what kind of people do you really like to be around with? People who get you, who see you clearly, who accept your flaws and all; people you can be yourself with; people who have shared interests?

              How many of those people are in your life? What characteristics do all of the other people in your life have?

              If you find that the people in your life aren’t adding anything positive, it may be time to make some changes. If you find that other relationships you have are downright toxic, start working to cut out those relationships immediately.

              6. Find a Job That Makes You Feel Good

              You don’t have to stay at a job just because it pays the bills. Most people spend more time working than sleeping. The average person spends 40 to 80 hours a week—or 2,000 to 4,000 hours a year—working. That is a significant investment!

              If your best friend or child told you that they were going to spend 4,000 hours giving their emotional, mental, and physical energy to something (or someone) that wasn’t going to value them, give anything back to them, or pay them what they were worth, what advice would you offer? Give that same advice to yourself. You won’t be stress-free unless you don’t learn this[3].

              Here’re 11 Signs That You Should Leave Your Job.

              7. Only Take on What You Can Handle

              Busyness is an addiction. Slowing down can actually be terrifying because it causes you to notice that you have feelings that you now have time to feel.

              I get it.

              By the time I slowed down, I had decades of busyness under my belt. I went into a tailspin depression because I didn’t understand how to be in the right relationship with my own emotions.

              When I finally figured out that feelings are just feelings and allowing them to express themselves is healthy and natural, I stopped experiencing withdrawal from my addiction to busyness and started figuring out the pace of life that felt best for me.

              Remarkably, I discovered that I don’t actually like being busy. What will you discover about yourself?

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              8. Let Go of Grudges and Anger

              For me, it took 20 years of adulthood to figure out that holding on to grudges and anger only hurt me. Lucky for you, though, you can benefit vicariously from my experience just by reading one short paragraph!

              No one is holding your feet to the fire, demanding that you hold on to grudges and anger. The energy of anger slowly eats away at your body, mind, and spirit, until one day you wake up more resentful than optimistic.

              One day, people no longer want to be around you because the stink of negativity is oozing out of your pores. One day, you even get tired of hearing yourself get angry. And the person or people you are angry at or holding grudges against probably haven’t been affected at all.

              Who gets hurt the most in that process of repeating negative thoughts? You do.

              Some good advice for you here: How to Let Go of Resentment and Anger

              9. Stop Reliving Your Past

              To live a stress-free life, you have to stop reliving your past. I know it seems like fun to compare everything in your present to your past, and to experience the present through past-colored glasses, but it actually isn’t.

              When you wear past-colored glasses, you can’t truly experience the present for what it is. Your boyfriend or girlfriend gets compared to a list of expectations and failed relationships rather than recognized for the unique blessing they are in your life.

              Your boss gets compared to all the bosses who came before her/him. Your friends’ ability to parent gets compared to your parents’ ability to parent.

              People, including you, deserve to stand on their own past-free merit.

              10. Don’t Complain About Things You Can’t Change

              There are always going to be people elected into office whom you don’t like, taxes that you don’t want to pay, idiot drivers who refuse to move out of the left-hand lane, and a person ahead of you in the check-out line who won’t stop chatting with the clerk.

              The great benefit of being human is that we get to experience all of what life offers us. To live stress-free is to learn to deal with this fact.

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              Dwelling on your frustration with something that can’t be changed doesn’t do anything other than drag you down. You are the only person who will ultimately decide how to respond to what is.

              11. Stop Living Through Other People’s Lives

              Someone else’s life is not your life. Your life is your life.

              What that means is you get to live your life in the way you want. You get to make ridiculous mistakes, take leaps of faith, and stuff things inside your handbag of fear just as much as the next person.

              Going through stuff is the whole great messy adventure of being human! Being alive and living life is terrifying and glorious and everything in between.

              Stop living through social media, trying to soak in all of the experiences everyone else is having. Focus, instead, on what it feels like to be you in this moment. You may find you like it.

              Final Thoughts

              An astounding thing happens when you reduce stress and anxiety, get into a relationship with your body, mind, and spirit, and just be yourself without judgment.

              Your life literally slows down. You stop wishing for the weekend. You begin to live in each moment, and you start feeling like a human being. You just ride the wave that is life, with this feeling of contentment and joy.

              You move fluidly, steadily, calmly, and gratefully. A veil is lifted, and a whole new perspective is born through improved mental health. And this is how you live a stress-free life.

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              Featured photo credit: Drew Coffman via unsplash.com

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