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6 Ways to Relax While Wedding Planning

6 Ways to Relax While Wedding Planning

Planning a wedding is no cakewalk. You’ve got a million and one details to take care of, family expectations to balance with what you and your partner want, and a budget to watch. The lead-up to the best day of your life can be some of the most stressful months of your life.

Weddings bring together relationships, money, and expectations in a way that can be very stressful. If you’re feeling under the gun, you’re not alone — and you’re not helpless. There are many things you can do to manage your stress and relax while planning your wedding day.

Here are six tips for keeping you relaxed as the big day draws closer.

Identify Sources of Stress

What are the tasks that are most likely to cause you stress? Perhaps the idea of doing the seating chart is most stressful to you, or choosing the favors is. Identify what makes you stressed about that activity and see if you can delegate or eliminate the task from your list. Maybe your partner can choose the favors, or a family member can help you with the seating chart.

Perhaps it’s a relationship rather than a task that is taking your energy. If one of your parents is asserting their opinions too forcefully, or Grandma is calling too often insisting you say the same vows she did when she married Grandpa, see if one of your siblings or other family members can step in to run interference for you.

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Preparation and self-awareness are key to reducing and managing stress. Remember, you’re not alone; you have a partner, friends, and relatives who can help you eliminate the stress you face as you plan your wedding.

Create a Stress-Free Environment

Even small changes to your home and work environment can make a big difference to your stress levels. Consider doing the following to help you feel less stressed:

  • Light perfumed candles and incense, which reduces stress, calms anxieties, and makes you feel better.
  • Place some potted plants on your desk or windowsill, which can lower your blood pressure.
  • Decorate your space in tones of green, blue, and violet, which can make you feel calm and peaceful.
  • Open your blinds to let natural light in, which contributes to wellness.

Your surroundings can have a huge impact on how you feel. Make sure your environment promotes calm and wellness.

Take Care of Your Body and Mind

With the steady stream of things to be done, it’s easy to let taking care of yourself fall to the bottom of the list. Fight the urge to put yourself last, and make sure you’re taking care of both your body and mind.

Take care of your body with regular exercise, whether that’s going to the gym, making time for a sports team, or going for regular walks. You need the stress-busting endorphins that exercise provides.

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It’s equally important to take care of your mind and emotions. Try meditating, even if only for a few minutes each morning, or journal your thoughts to have an outlet for all the emotions you’re feeling. If you’re religious, make an effort to attend religious services and connect with your spiritual side.

Yoga is a particularly good activity to nurture the body, spirit, and mind. Find a class near you or find videos online so you can do it in the comfort of your home.

You’ll look and feel better on your big day if you’re taking care of yourself during the wedding preparation. Even a few minutes of meditation and a brisk walk around the block can make a huge difference if you’re pressed for time.

Schedule Wedding-Free Days

Don’t let the wedding planning overshadow the reason for the wedding – you’re getting married to the person you love. It’s easy for the wedding to take over all the time you spend together.

Schedule time where you focus on connecting with your partner rather than planning the wedding. Go on dinner dates where discussing the wedding is off limits. Spend a day doing something you love doing together, whether that’s watching sports, cooking together, or visiting a museum. Nurture your relationship so it can offer you support and encouragement as you look forward to not only the wedding, but also your lives together.

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Make the same effort to have wedding-free time with your friends and family, too. Those relationships are also important, and you need to stay engaged with your friends and family even as you’re planning your wedding.

Delegate, Delegate, Delegate

We already suggested identifying tasks that cause you stress and delegating them to others, but it bears repeating: delegate, delegate, delegate. Delegate tasks that don’t cause you particular stress – you can’t do everything on your own. Get friends and family to run errands, decorate, and make place cards. If you can afford it, consider hiring a wedding planner or day-of coordinator to help you take things off your plate.

Prioritize the tasks that you absolutely need to do and what you can get others to do. Perhaps you’re not too concerned with the music at the reception but the food is very important to you. Ask your partner or a trusted friend to take care of the set list while you sample desserts.

It’s true that many hands make light work. Be sure to find yourself some extra hands.

Pamper Yourself

Take the time to do something luxurious and decadent for yourself, whatever that may be. Get a massage. Go to the driving range. Schedule a spa day. Sleep in and have a late brunch.

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Think of these activities not as indulgences, but as necessities for staying balanced and relaxed. If it’s not possible to go to the spa, take a bath instead. Find the ways that work for you to relax.

You don’t need to sacrifice your sanity to plan your wedding. By identifying sources of stress, creating a relaxed environment, taking care of your body and mind, scheduling wedding-free days to reconnect with your partner and loved ones, delegating, and pampering yourself, you can stay calm and collected as your big day draws near.

What are some of the ways you stay relaxed as you’re planning your wedding? Leave a comment below.

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How to Get out of a Rut: 12 Useful Ways to Get Unstuck

How to Get out of a Rut: 12 Useful Ways to Get Unstuck

Have you gotten into a rut before? Or are you in a rut right now?

You know you’re in a rut when you run out of ideas and inspiration. I personally see a rut as a productivity vacuum. It might very well be a reason why you aren’t getting results. Even as you spend more time on your work, you can’t seem to get anything constructive done. While I’m normally productive, I get into occasional ruts (especially when I’ve been working back-to-back without rest). During those times, I can spend an entire day in front of the computer and get nothing done. It can be quite frustrating.

Over time, I have tried and found several methods that are helpful to pull me out of a rut. If you experience ruts too, whether as a working professional, a writer, a blogger, a student or other work, you will find these useful. Here are 12 of my personal tips to get out of ruts:

1. Work on the small tasks.

When you are in a rut, tackle it by starting small. Clear away your smaller tasks which have been piling up. Reply to your emails, organize your documents, declutter your work space, and reply to private messages.

Whenever I finish doing that, I generate a positive momentum which I bring forward to my work.

2. Take a break from your work desk.

Get yourself away from your desk and go take a walk. Go to the washroom, walk around the office, go out and get a snack.

Your mind is too bogged down and needs some airing. Sometimes I get new ideas right after I walk away from my computer.

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3. Upgrade yourself

Take the down time to upgrade yourself. Go to a seminar. Read up on new materials (#7). Pick up a new language. Or any of the 42 ways here to improve yourself.

The modern computer uses different typefaces because Steve Jobs dropped in on a calligraphy class back in college. How’s that for inspiration?

4. Talk to a friend.

Talk to someone and get your mind off work for a while.

Talk about anything, from casual chatting to a deep conversation about something you really care about. You will be surprised at how the short encounter can be rejuvenating in its own way.

5. Forget about trying to be perfect.

If you are in a rut, the last thing you want to do is step on your own toes with perfectionist tendencies.

Just start small. Do what you can, at your own pace. Let yourself make mistakes.

Soon, a little trickle of inspiration will come. And then it’ll build up with more trickles. Before you know it, you have a whole stream of ideas.

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6. Paint a vision to work towards.

If you are continuously getting in a rut with your work, maybe there’s no vision inspiring you to move forward.

Think about why you are doing this, and what you are doing it for. What is the end vision in mind?

Make it as vivid as possible. Make sure it’s a vision that inspires you and use that to trigger you to action.

7. Read a book (or blog).

The things we read are like food to our brain. If you are out of ideas, it’s time to feed your brain with great materials.

Here’s a list of 40 books you can start off with. Stock your browser with only the feeds of high quality blogs, such as Lifehack.org, DumbLittleMan, Seth Godin’s Blog, Tim Ferris’ Blog, Zen Habits or The Personal Excellence Blog.

Check out the best selling books; those are generally packed with great wisdom.

8. Have a quick nap.

If you are at home, take a quick nap for about 20-30 minutes. This clears up your mind and gives you a quick boost. Nothing quite like starting off on a fresh start after catching up on sleep.

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9. Remember why you are doing this.

Sometimes we lose sight of why we do what we do, and after a while we become jaded. A quick refresher on why you even started on this project will help.

What were you thinking when you thought of doing this? Retrace your thoughts back to that moment. Recall why you are doing this. Then reconnect with your muse.

10. Find some competition.

Nothing quite like healthy competition to spur us forward. If you are out of ideas, then check up on what people are doing in your space.

Colleagues at work, competitors in the industry, competitors’ products and websites, networking conventions.. you get the drill.

11. Go exercise.

Since you are not making headway at work, might as well spend the time shaping yourself up.

Sometimes we work so much that we neglect our health and fitness. Go jog, swim, cycle, whichever exercise you prefer.

As you improve your physical health, your mental health will improve, too. The different facets of ourselves are all interlinked.

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Here’re 15 Tips to Restart the Exercise Habit (and How to Keep It).

12. Take a good break.

Ruts are usually signs that you have been working too long and too hard. It’s time to get a break.

Beyond the quick tips above, arrange for a 1-day or 2-days of break from your work. Don’t check your (work) emails or do anything work-related. Relax and do your favorite activities. You will return to your work recharged and ready to start.

Contrary to popular belief, the world will not end from taking a break from your work. In fact, you will be much more ready to make an impact after proper rest. My best ideas and inspiration always hit me whenever I’m away from my work.

Take a look at this to learn the importance of rest: The Importance of Scheduling Downtime

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