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10 Little Things To Do Today Instead Of Tomorrow To Really Make A Change

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10 Little Things To Do Today Instead Of Tomorrow To Really Make A Change

Do you want to change and improve your life? There’s good news. You don’t have to completely change your life to do it. With a few quick changes you can immediately change your life, making it happier and more productive.

It may be tempting to put off starting until tomorrow, but that could result in you never starting. Take control of your life and change today!

Check out these 10 little things that you can do today instead of tomorrow to make real changes in your life.

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1. List your goals for the next five years

Sit down with some paper and write down everything that you want to achieve in the next year. Then get a second piece of paper and write down your long-term goals for the next five years. You are much more likely to accomplish your goals if you write them down and make them real. This also means you can track your progress.

2. Swap an old habit for a new and better habit

Most people have a few bad habits that they would like to ditch. Instead of just giving up your bad habit, it can be useful to introduce a new and better habit that you do every day. For instance, you may give up drinking coffee and instead aim to drink more water. Your progress with your new habit may help you totally avoid the old habit.

3. Start to exercise

There are many different benefits of exercising. Physical activity not only improves your body confidence and overall mood, it also lowers your chances of heart disease and relieves stress. If you think the idea of starting an exercise routine is intimidating, start off by doing 10 minutes of exercise in your home every day.

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4. Start going to sleep earlier

It can be very tempting to stay up super late on your nights off; however, there are lots of benefits to a regular sleeping pattern. One bonus is you will fall asleep quicker and your quality of sleep with be better.

5. Start to single-task

Although many people rave about the benefits of multitasking, science says that people actually get less done when they multitask. Instead, start to focus on one task at a time, and stay with the task until it is complete.

6. Start a new friendship

As we get older, we often lose many of our close friends. Most people wish that they had more friends in their life, so use today as an opportunity to make a new friend. Simply start by smiling at strangers and starting conversations with your co-workers and people on your commute.

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7. Start a new hobby

Hobbies are a great way to find a passion and have fun. From keeping a journal, to gardening, to starting a dance class, there are lots of different hobbies that you could consider.

8. Start a daily routine

Having a daily routine can transform your life for the better. Set a routine for your work days, and a different routine for your time off. Having a routine means you are more likely to have a productive day, and it will make sure you keep the habit for years to come.

9. Start to stand up for yourself

Being a pushover is tough; you can feel taken advantage of, pushed around, and used. Sticking up for yourself will give you a new and happier lease of life. Start by saying “no” to other people without feeling guilty or mean.

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10. Start a journal

There are lots of benefits to starting a journal. You can express your inner feelings and secrets, and later you will have a personalized document covering your life that you can read whenever you want. You can even show it to your children.

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Last Updated on November 18, 2021

10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

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10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

We all fall into the trap of judging a person’s character by their appearance. How wrong we are! All too often, the real character of the person only appears when some negative event hits them or you. Then you may see a toxic person emerging from the ruins and it is often a shock.

A truly frightening example is revealed in the book by O’Toole in Bowman called Dangerous Instincts: How Gut Instincts Betray Us. A perfectly respectable, charming, well dressed neighbor was found to have installed a torture chamber in his garage where he was systematically abusing kidnapped women. This is an extreme example, but it does show how we can be totally deceived by a person’s physical appearance, manners and behavior.

So, what can you do? You want to be able to assess personal qualities when you come into contact with colleagues, fresh acquaintances and new friends who might even become lifelong partners. You want to know if they are:

  • honest
  • reliable
  • competent
  • kind and compassionate
  • capable of taking the blame
  • able to persevere
  • modest and humble
  • pacific and can control anger.

The secret is to reserve judgment and take your time. Observe them in certain situations; look at how they react. Listen to them talking, joking, laughing, explaining, complaining, blaming, praising, ranting, and preaching. Only then will you be able to judge their character. This is not foolproof, but if you follow the 10 ways below, you have a pretty good chance of not ending up in an abusive relationship.

1. Is anger a frequent occurrence?

All too often, angry reactions which may seem to be excessive are a sign that there are underlying issues. Do not think that every person who just snaps and throws his/her weight around mentally and physically is just reacting normally. Everyone has an occasional angry outburst when driving or when things go pear-shaped.

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But if this is almost a daily occurrence, then you need to discover why and maybe avoid that person. Too often, anger will escalate to violent and aggressive behavior. You do not want to be near someone who thinks violence can solve personal or global problems.

2. Can you witness acts of kindness?

How often do you see this person being kind and considerate? Do they give money to beggars, donate to charity, do voluntary work or in some simple way show that they are willing to share the planet with about 7 billion other people?

I was shocked when a guest of mine never showed any kindness to the weak and disadvantaged people in our town. She was ostensibly a religious person, but I began to doubt the sincerity of her beliefs.

“The best index to a person’s character is how he treats people who can’t do him any good, and how he treats people who can’t fight back.”

Abigail Van Buren

3. How does this person take the blame?

Maybe you know that s/he is responsible for a screw-up in the office or even in not turning up on time for a date. Look at their reaction. If they start blaming other colleagues or the traffic, well, this is an indication that they are not willing to take responsibility for their mistakes.

4. Don’t use Facebook as an indicator.

You will be relieved to know that graphology (the study of that forgotten skill of handwriting) is no longer considered a reliable test of a person’s character. Neither is Facebook stalking, fortunately. A study showed that Facebook use of foul language, sexual innuendo and gossip were not reliable indicators of a candidate’s character or future performance in the workplace.

5. Read their emails.

Now a much better idea is to read the person’s emails. Studies show that the use of the following can indicate certain personality traits:

  • Too many exclamation points may reveal a sunny disposition
  • Frequent errors may indicate apathy
  • Use of smileys is the only way a person can smile at you
  • Use of the third person may reveal a certain formality
  • Too many question marks can show anger
  • Overuse of capital letters is regarded as shouting. They are a definite no-no in netiquette, yet a surprising number of  people still use them.

6. Watch out for the show offs.

Listen to people as they talk. How often do they mention their achievements, promotions, awards and successes? If this happens a lot, it is a sure indication that this person has an over-inflated view of his/her achievements. They are unlikely to be modest or show humility. What a pity!  Another person to avoid.

7. Look for evidence of perseverance.

A powerful indicator of grit and tenacity is when a person persists and never gives up when they really want to achieve a life goal. Look for evidence of them keeping going in spite of enormous difficulties.

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Great achievements by scientists and inventors all bear the hallmark of perseverance. We only have to think of Einstein, Edison (who failed thousands of times) and Nelson Mandela to get inspiration. The US Department of Education is in no doubt about how grit, tenacity and perseverance will be key success factors for youth in the 21st century.

8. Their empathy score is high.

Listen to how they talk about the less fortunate members of our society such as the poor, immigrants and the disabled. Do you notice that they talk in a compassionate way about these people? The fact that they even mention them is a strong indicator of empathy.

People with zero empathy will never talk about the disadvantaged. They will rarely ask you a question about a difficult time or relationship. They will usually steer the conversation back to themselves. These people have zero empathy and in extreme cases, they are psychopaths who never show any feelings towards their victims.

9. Learn how to be socially interactive.

We are social animals and this is what makes us so uniquely human. If a person is isolated or a loner, this may be a negative indicator of their character. You want to meet a person who knows about trust, honesty and loyalty. The only way to practice these great qualities is to actually interact socially. The great advantage is that you can share problems and celebrate success and joy together.

“One can acquire everything in solitude, except character.”

Stendhal

 10. Avoid toxic people.

These people are trying to control others and often are failing to come to terms with their own failures. Typical behavior and conversations may concern:

  • Envy or jealousy
  • Criticism of partners, colleagues and friends
  • Complaining about their own lack of success
  • Blaming others for their own bad luck or failure
  • Obsession with themselves and their problems

Listen to these people talk and you will quickly discover that you need to avoid them at all costs because their negativity will drag you down. In addition, as much as you would like to help them, you are not qualified to do so.

Now, having looked at some of the best ways to judge a person, what about yourself? How do others see you? Why not take Dr. Phil’s quiz and find out. Can you bear it?

Featured photo credit: Jacek Dylag via unsplash.com

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