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You Think These 10 Things Can Improve Your Life? But They Actually Cannot..

You Think These 10 Things Can Improve Your Life? But They Actually Cannot..

We all want to improve our lives in several ways and dedicate ourselves to certain activities and pursuits that may just lead to that. Though not everything we chase after is for our own good. It is always in our best interests to read between the lines and aim for the facts before making any compromise. Here are 10 things we think can improve our life but which actually cannot.

1. Technology distracts from your real environment

While technology can be beneficial to our work and personal life, it is so easy to become an enthusiast that it could be a distraction to us being happy. Sometimes we do need the space and connections with our immediate environment. Such help us to be more alive and inspired. You should not allow technology to come in between such moments.

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2. Playing the safe zone will keep you stuck

Being cautious and pragmatic can become a constant theme in your life because we are worried about being hurt and victimized. Interestingly, living is about learning as you go. If you keep on playing the safe zone and not taking the shots which you have, you will continue being stuck. Free yourself and take some necessary risks sometimes.

3. Being busy gets in the way of quality time with family and friends

Yes, being busy may be a mark which you reach to try and show everyone that you are serious and hard working. But being busy can be detrimental as there are other elements besides work that make you happy. So stop being busy and spend some time with your friends and family.

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4. Spending too much time on social media leads to addiction

It is great to catch up with old friends and colleagues and sometimes participate in the discussions and gossips. But you should know that this can affect your self-esteem and make you addicted if not properly managed. Rather than spending time on social media, spend such time building personal relationships.

5. Saying Yes to everything that comes your way makes you loose focus

If you want to improve yourself you have to start learning how to say No. It is great to be a part of a lot of activities and relationships. But saying No gives you the time and energy to focus on what it important to you and what truly matters.

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6. Multitasking makes you work less efficiently

Yes, you want to get so much done at once. The problem with multitasking is that it affects your efficiency and output. Multitasking does not help your focus and has a way of stopping you from prioritizing and getting the important things done.

7. Getting less sleep is unhealthy

I have a friend who told me getting less sleep is what he needs to be successful. No one doubts that less sleep gives you more time. But the human mind was designed to recharge and take breaks. Your body needs the needed dose of sleep to function optimally. While you may kick at this idea you should understand what role less sleep plays with your health problems.

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8. Watching TV plays your emotions

You want to watch TV to be entertained and catch up on what is happening globally. However many of these programs or channels are aimed at playing on your emotions. The way around it is to find time to take a break from the TV and find things that will connect your soul rather than your emotions.

9. Trying to be perfect makes you miss the fun

We can’t be perfect. Many people get too serious and work on so much detail they miss the fun of laughing over their mistakes. Don’t let your desires stand in the way of doing what has to be done.

10. Trying to fake being someone you’re not will burn you out

Yes, the fake it until you make it attempt can be hovering you and you want to show the world what they want to see. But such only leaves you empty and burnt out. You have to look inwards and try to be original and realistic as much as possible to face the world.

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Last Updated on February 11, 2021

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

Perceptual Barrier

The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

Attitudinal Barrier

Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

Language Barrier

This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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Emotional Barrier

Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

Cultural Barrier

Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

Gender Barrier

Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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