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You Think These 10 Things Can Improve Your Life? But They Actually Cannot..

You Think These 10 Things Can Improve Your Life? But They Actually Cannot..

We all want to improve our lives in several ways and dedicate ourselves to certain activities and pursuits that may just lead to that. Though not everything we chase after is for our own good. It is always in our best interests to read between the lines and aim for the facts before making any compromise. Here are 10 things we think can improve our life but which actually cannot.

1. Technology distracts from your real environment

While technology can be beneficial to our work and personal life, it is so easy to become an enthusiast that it could be a distraction to us being happy. Sometimes we do need the space and connections with our immediate environment. Such help us to be more alive and inspired. You should not allow technology to come in between such moments.

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2. Playing the safe zone will keep you stuck

Being cautious and pragmatic can become a constant theme in your life because we are worried about being hurt and victimized. Interestingly, living is about learning as you go. If you keep on playing the safe zone and not taking the shots which you have, you will continue being stuck. Free yourself and take some necessary risks sometimes.

3. Being busy gets in the way of quality time with family and friends

Yes, being busy may be a mark which you reach to try and show everyone that you are serious and hard working. But being busy can be detrimental as there are other elements besides work that make you happy. So stop being busy and spend some time with your friends and family.

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4. Spending too much time on social media leads to addiction

It is great to catch up with old friends and colleagues and sometimes participate in the discussions and gossips. But you should know that this can affect your self-esteem and make you addicted if not properly managed. Rather than spending time on social media, spend such time building personal relationships.

5. Saying Yes to everything that comes your way makes you loose focus

If you want to improve yourself you have to start learning how to say No. It is great to be a part of a lot of activities and relationships. But saying No gives you the time and energy to focus on what it important to you and what truly matters.

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6. Multitasking makes you work less efficiently

Yes, you want to get so much done at once. The problem with multitasking is that it affects your efficiency and output. Multitasking does not help your focus and has a way of stopping you from prioritizing and getting the important things done.

7. Getting less sleep is unhealthy

I have a friend who told me getting less sleep is what he needs to be successful. No one doubts that less sleep gives you more time. But the human mind was designed to recharge and take breaks. Your body needs the needed dose of sleep to function optimally. While you may kick at this idea you should understand what role less sleep plays with your health problems.

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8. Watching TV plays your emotions

You want to watch TV to be entertained and catch up on what is happening globally. However many of these programs or channels are aimed at playing on your emotions. The way around it is to find time to take a break from the TV and find things that will connect your soul rather than your emotions.

9. Trying to be perfect makes you miss the fun

We can’t be perfect. Many people get too serious and work on so much detail they miss the fun of laughing over their mistakes. Don’t let your desires stand in the way of doing what has to be done.

10. Trying to fake being someone you’re not will burn you out

Yes, the fake it until you make it attempt can be hovering you and you want to show the world what they want to see. But such only leaves you empty and burnt out. You have to look inwards and try to be original and realistic as much as possible to face the world.

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Last Updated on October 22, 2019

How to Get “I Can’t Do It” Out of Your Vocabulary

How to Get “I Can’t Do It” Out of Your Vocabulary

When someone says, “I can’t do it” . . . I say to myself, “What do you mean you can’t do it?” Maybe you don’t want to do it, but saying you “can’t” do it is a completely different story.

With the right mindset, positive attitude, and a clear vision of what you want to accomplish, the only thing that is holding you back is yourself.

Can’t is a terrible word and it has to be taken out of your vocabulary.

By saying you can’t do something, you’re already doubting yourself, submitting to defeat, and you’re making that barrier around your life tighter.

So today, right now, we are going to remove this word for good.

From now on there is nothing we can’t do.

“Attitude is Tattoo”

Your attitude is everything; it’s your reason, your why and how, your facial expression, emotions, body language, and potentially the end result. How you approach an opportunity, and the result of it, is solely based on you — not your boss or your co-worker or friend.

If you enter a business meeting with a sour attitude, that negative energy can spread like wildfire. People can also feel it — maybe even taste it. This is not an impression you want to leave.

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Now imagine you enter a business meeting with a positive attitude, that whatever happens in here is going to be your result, in your control, not someone else’s. Of course, we can’t always win, but even if the outcome is negative, your attitude and perception can turn it into a positive. The question is: can you do it?

Of course you can, because there is nothing in this world you can’t do.

It’s much better to be known for your positive attitude — your poise, your energy, the reason why things go so well because you are able to maintain such character. A negative attitude is easy. It’s easy to complain, it’s easy to be mad, and it’s even easier to do nothing to change it.

When I say your “attitude is tattoo”, it sounds permanent. Tattoos can be removed, but that’s not the point. Your attitude is like a tattoo because you wear it. People can see it and sometimes, they will judge you on it. If you maintain a negative attitude, then it is permanent until you change it.

Change your attitude and I guarantee the results change as well.

Believe You Can Do It

Do you know why most people say “can’t” and doubt themselves before trying anything?

It’s our lack of self-confidence and fear on many different levels. The one thing we have to purge from ourselves is fear — fear of bad results, fear of change, fear of denial, fear of loss, the fear that makes us worry and lose sleep. Worrying is the same as going outside with an umbrella, waiting for rain to hit it. Stop worrying and move on.

Confidence is fragile: It builds up slowly, but can shatter like glass. Project your confidence and energy into believing in yourself. This is a very important and groundbreaking step — one that is usually the hardest to take. Start telling yourself you can do something, anything, and you will do it the best to your ability. Remove doubt, remove fear, and stick with positive energy.

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Embrace Failure

Do not fear failure. Do not run away from it. Face it, learn from it, grow, and take action. Just remember: You will never know success if you have never failed.

Your confidence will bolster after embracing these facts. You will be immune to demoralizing results, and instead you will find ways to fix it, improve upon it, and make it better than before. You will learn to never say “can’t,” and will realize how many more opportunities you can create by removing that one word.

Don’t let one simple and ugly word plague your confidence. You’re better and stronger than that.

Start Making the Change

But to actually start the process of change is very challenging.

Why is that?

Fear? Time? Don’t know how — or where — to start?

It’s hard because what we’re doing is unlearning what we know. We are used to doing things a certain way, and chances are we’ve been doing them for years.

So here are some ways that I avoid using the word “can’t”, and actually take the steps to put forth the change that I wish to see. I hope you can incorporate these methods into your life.

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Write down What You Want to Change

Write it on post-its, notecards, whatever makes you comfortable — something you will always see. I usually write mine on post-its and put them all over the wall behind my monitor so I always see them.

Tell a Friend and Talk About It

Discussing your goals, what you want to change, is very effective when you say it out loud and tell another person other than yourself. It’s almost like saying, hey, I bet I can do it — watch me.

When you fulfill that goal and tell your friend, it feels rewarding and will motivate you to do it again in a different aspect. Who knows? Maybe your friend adopts the same mindset as you.

Stop Yourself from Saying the Forbidden Word

Sometimes,I can’t control myself in public when I’m with friends, so I have to be careful with the words I use so I don’t embarrass or insult anyone.

Treat the word “can’t” as the worst word you can possibly use. Stop yourself from saying it, mid-sentence if you must, and turn your whole perspective around — you can do it, you will do it, and nothing is impossible!

Repetition, Repetition, Repetition

You think this change will be overnight? No way. This is a practice. Something you’re going to be doing for the rest of your life from now until forever.

As I said earlier, you are unlearning what you know. You know how easy it is to say you can’t do something, so by unlearning this easy practice, you’re self-disciplining yourself to live without boundaries.

Practice this everyday, a little at a time, and before you know it, the word can’t will not be part of your language.

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Do Anything That Can Relieve Your Uncertainty

When I catch myself saying I can’t do something or I don’t know something, looking up information on that action or subject, doing research, educating yourself, relieves that uncertainty.

Sometimes, we think we can’t do something because the whole idea of it seems too large. We skip the small steps in our head and only focus on the end.

Before you say you can’t do something, rewind and slow down a little bit. Focus on what the first step is, then the next. Take it a step at a time, and before you know it you will have done something you previously thought you couldn’t do.

Final Thoughts

You know what you must do. The first step is right now. Once you begin this habit, and really start noticing some change, you’ll realize the door to opportunity is everywhere.

The funny thing is: Those doors have always been there. The evil word that we no longer use put a veil over our eyes because that’s how powerful that word is.

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