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8 Actions You Should Take If You Don’t Want To Ruin Your 30s

8 Actions You Should Take If You Don’t Want To Ruin Your 30s

Do you want your 30s to be the same as your 20s? Your 20s are a great time to find yourself while taking risks and making great memories. However, most people want something more comfortable for their 30s. They want to have careers, stability, comfort, and maybe even a family.

Don’t let your 20s pass you by – check out 8 actions you should take now to make sure that your 30s are comfortable and stress-free.

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1. Advance your education

Many people in their 20s make the mistake of thinking that having a degree from a good university is enough to land a great job. However, this often isn’t the case and many students struggle to find work when they graduate. Consider joining clubs and taking online courses to create more options for your future.

2. Find your purpose

Many graduates are unsure about what they want to do for the rest of their lives, so they pick a safe career and hope that they will enjoy it enough to stick it out for life. However, lots of people regret this safe decision in their 30s when they have more bills and responsibilities.

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You have fewer responsibilities in your 20s, so it is the perfect time to take a risk and find a career that you really love. It may take you years, but when you find something you truly love, you will reap the rewards up until you retire.

3. Work on your personal relationships

After you finish your education, many friends will slip away as you focus on your career and new responsibilities. For your own emotional happiness, do not let this happen to all of your friends or you may feel lonely in your 30s. Some friendships can bring you joy for a whole lifetime, so make sure to stay in touch with people who mean a lot to you.

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4. Start saving for your 30s

Working full-time for the first time ever results in many people in their 20s developing expensive spending habits. Now is the time to kick that habit so that you can focus on saving for your future. As you get older, you will want more security so that you can buy your own home and car. If you struggle to save, think about your retirement – do you want it to be a time to relax, or a time to scrimp and save?

5. Spend time with your parents and your family

As you grow older, so do your parents and family. Don’t regret not spending enough time with them once they are gone. Instead, speak to them as often as you can while they are still here. Taking your loved ones for granted can result in guilt and despair – and no-one needs that stress in their life.

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6. Don’t look for a soul mate

Many young people follow the fantasy of having a soul mate, and they spend their 20s looking for a life partner instead of working on their careers and finances. This can slow down your career and make your future less bright. Instead of looking for your life partner, enjoy yourself and remember that you can’t speed up love – it happens when it happens.

7. Have fun

Your 20s may be over, but your happiness isn’t! See your friends, go on trips with your loved ones, laugh, and remember that the money that you earn has no value if you are unhappy. Your life is precious; enjoy it always.

8. Start being healthy

Getting into good routines while you are young will help them to stick for life. Be healthy in as many ways as you can be by exercising and eating healthily. You only get one body – treat it right and it will reward you until you are old!

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Amy is a writer who blogs about relationships and lifestyle advice.

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Last Updated on December 3, 2019

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

There are so many lessons I wish I had learned while I was young enough to appreciate and apply them. The thing with wisdom, and often with life lessons in general, is that they’re learned in retrospect, long after we needed them. The good news is that other people can benefit from our experiences and the lessons we’ve learned.

Here’re 10 important life lessons you should learn early on:

1. Money Will Never Solve Your Real Problems

Money is a tool; a commodity that buys you necessities and some nice “wants,” but it is not the panacea to your problems.

There are a great many people who are living on very little, yet have wonderfully full and happy lives… and there are sadly a great many people are living on quite a lot, yet have terribly miserable lives.

Money can buy a nice home, a great car, fabulous shoes, even a bit of security and some creature comforts, but it cannot fix a broken relationship, or cure loneliness, and the “happiness” it brings is only fleeting and not the kind that really and truly matters. Happiness is not for sale. If you’re expecting the “stuff” you can buy to “make it better,” you will never be happy.

2. Pace Yourself

Often when we’re young, just beginning our adult journey we feel as though we have to do everything at once. We need to decide everything, plan out our lives, experience everything, get to the top, find true love, figure out our life’s purpose, and do it all at the same time.

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Slow down—don’t rush into things. Let your life unfold. Wait a bit to see where it takes you, and take time to weigh your options. Enjoy every bite of food, take time to look around you, let the other person finish their side of the conversation. Allow yourself time to think, to mull a bit.

Taking action is critical. Working towards your goals and making plans for the future is commendable and often very useful, but rushing full-speed ahead towards anything is a one-way ticket to burnout and a good way to miss your life as it passes you by.

3. You Can’t Please Everyone

“I don’t know the secret to success, but the secret to failure is trying to please everyone” – Bill Cosby.

You don’t need everyone to agree with you or even like you. It’s human nature to want to belong, to be liked, respected and valued, but not at the expense of your integrity and happiness. Other people cannot give you the validation you seek. That has to come from inside.

Speak up, stick to your guns, assert yourself when you need to, demand respect, stay true to your values.

4. Your Health Is Your Most Valuable Asset

Health is an invaluable treasure—always appreciate, nurture, and protect it. Good health is often wasted on the young before they have a chance to appreciate it for what it’s worth.

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We tend to take our good health for granted, because it’s just there. We don’t have to worry about it, so we don’t really pay attention to it… until we have to.

Heart disease, bone density, stroke, many cancers—the list of many largely preventable diseases is long, so take care of your health now, or you’ll regret it later on.

5. You Don’t Always Get What You Want

“Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.” – John Lennon

No matter how carefully you plan and how hard you work, sometimes things just don’t work out the way you want them to… and that’s okay.

We have all of these expectations; predetermined visions of what our “ideal” life will look like, but all too often, that’s not the reality of the life we end up with. Sometimes our dreams fail and sometimes we just change our minds mid-course. Sometimes we have to flop to find the right course and sometimes we just have to try a few things before we find the right direction.

6. It’s Not All About You

You are not the epicenter of the universe. It’s very difficult to view the world from a perspective outside of your own, since we are always so focused on what’s happening in our own lives. What do I have to do today? What will this mean for me, for my career, for my life? What do I want?

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It’s normal to be intensely aware of everything that’s going on in your own life, but you need to pay as much attention to what’s happening around you, and how things affect other people in the world as you do to your own life. It helps to keep things in perspective.

7. There’s No Shame in Not Knowing

No one has it all figured out. Nobody has all the answers. There’s no shame in saying “I don’t know.” Pretending to be perfect doesn’t make you perfect. It just makes you neurotic to keep up the pretense of manufactured perfection.

We have this idea that there is some kind of stigma or shame in admitting our limitations or uncertainly, but we can’t possibly know everything. We all make mistakes and mess up occasionally. We learn as we go, that’s life.

Besides—nobody likes a know-it-all. A little vulnerability makes you human and oh so much more relatable.

8. Love Is More Than a Feeling; It’s a Choice

That burst of initial exhilaration, pulse quickening love and passion does not last long. But that doesn’t mean long-lasting love is not possible.

Love is not just a feeling; it’s a choice that you make every day. We have to choose to let annoyances pass, to forgive, to be kind, to respect, to support, to be faithful.

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Relationships take work. Sometimes it’s easy and sometimes it’s incredibly hard. It is up to us to choose how we want to act, think and speak in a relationship.

9. Perspective Is a Beautiful Thing

Typically, when we’re worried or upset, it’s because we’ve lost perspective. Everything that is happening in our lives seems so big, so important, so do or die, but in the grand picture, this single hiccup often means next to nothing.

The fight we’re having, the job we didn’t get, the real or imagined slight, the unexpected need to shift course, the thing we wanted, but didn’t get. Most of it won’t matter 20, 30, 40 years from now. It’s hard to see long term when all you know is short term, but unless it’s life-threatening, let it go, and move on.

10. Don’t Take Anything for Granted

We often don’t appreciate what we have until it’s gone: that includes your health, your family and friends, your job, the money you have or think you will have tomorrow.

When you’re young, it seems that your parents will always be there, but they won’t. You think you have plenty of time to get back in touch with your old friends or spend time with new ones, but you don’t. You have the money to spend, or you think you’ll have it next month, but you might not.

Nothing in your life is not guaranteed to be there tomorrow, including those you love.

This is a hard life lesson to learn, but it may be the most important of all: Life can change in an instant. Make sure you appreciate what you have, while you still have it.

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