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8 Actions You Should Take If You Don’t Want To Ruin Your 30s

8 Actions You Should Take If You Don’t Want To Ruin Your 30s

Do you want your 30s to be the same as your 20s? Your 20s are a great time to find yourself while taking risks and making great memories. However, most people want something more comfortable for their 30s. They want to have careers, stability, comfort, and maybe even a family.

Don’t let your 20s pass you by – check out 8 actions you should take now to make sure that your 30s are comfortable and stress-free.

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1. Advance your education

Many people in their 20s make the mistake of thinking that having a degree from a good university is enough to land a great job. However, this often isn’t the case and many students struggle to find work when they graduate. Consider joining clubs and taking online courses to create more options for your future.

2. Find your purpose

Many graduates are unsure about what they want to do for the rest of their lives, so they pick a safe career and hope that they will enjoy it enough to stick it out for life. However, lots of people regret this safe decision in their 30s when they have more bills and responsibilities.

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You have fewer responsibilities in your 20s, so it is the perfect time to take a risk and find a career that you really love. It may take you years, but when you find something you truly love, you will reap the rewards up until you retire.

3. Work on your personal relationships

After you finish your education, many friends will slip away as you focus on your career and new responsibilities. For your own emotional happiness, do not let this happen to all of your friends or you may feel lonely in your 30s. Some friendships can bring you joy for a whole lifetime, so make sure to stay in touch with people who mean a lot to you.

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4. Start saving for your 30s

Working full-time for the first time ever results in many people in their 20s developing expensive spending habits. Now is the time to kick that habit so that you can focus on saving for your future. As you get older, you will want more security so that you can buy your own home and car. If you struggle to save, think about your retirement – do you want it to be a time to relax, or a time to scrimp and save?

5. Spend time with your parents and your family

As you grow older, so do your parents and family. Don’t regret not spending enough time with them once they are gone. Instead, speak to them as often as you can while they are still here. Taking your loved ones for granted can result in guilt and despair – and no-one needs that stress in their life.

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6. Don’t look for a soul mate

Many young people follow the fantasy of having a soul mate, and they spend their 20s looking for a life partner instead of working on their careers and finances. This can slow down your career and make your future less bright. Instead of looking for your life partner, enjoy yourself and remember that you can’t speed up love – it happens when it happens.

7. Have fun

Your 20s may be over, but your happiness isn’t! See your friends, go on trips with your loved ones, laugh, and remember that the money that you earn has no value if you are unhappy. Your life is precious; enjoy it always.

8. Start being healthy

Getting into good routines while you are young will help them to stick for life. Be healthy in as many ways as you can be by exercising and eating healthily. You only get one body – treat it right and it will reward you until you are old!

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Amy is a writer who blogs about relationships and lifestyle advice.

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Last Updated on June 19, 2019

6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances

6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances

I’ve stood on the edge of my own personal cliffs many times. Each time I jumped, something different happened. There were risks that started off great, but eventually faded. There were risks that left me falling until I hit the ground. There were risks that started slow, but built into massive successes.

Every risk is different, but every risk is the same. You need to have some fundamentals ready before you jump, but not too many.

It wouldn’t be a risk if you knew everything that was about to happen, would it? Here’re 6 ways to be a successful risk taker.

1. Understand That Failure Is Going to Happen a Lot

It’s part of life. Everything we do has failure attached to it. All successful people have stories of massive failure attached to them. Thinking that your risk is going to be pain free and run as smooth as silk is insane.

Expect some pain and failure. Actually, expect a lot of it. Expect the sleepless nights with crazy thoughts of insecurity that leave you trembling under the covers. It’s going to happen, no matter how positive you are about the risk you are about to take.

When failure hits, the only options are to keep going or quit. If you expect falling into a meadow of flowers and frolicking unicorns, then you’re going to immediately quit once you realize that getting to that meadow requires you to go through a rock filled cave filled with hungry bats.

2. Trust the Muse

Writing a story isn’t a big risk. It’s really just a risk on my time. So when I start writing a story, I’m scared it will be time wasted. Of course, it never really is. Even if the story doesn’t turn out fabulous, I still practiced.

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When I’ve taken risks in my life, the successful ones always seemed to happen when I followed the muse. Steven Pressfield describes the muse,

“The Muse demands depth. Shallow does not work for her. If we’re seeking her help, we can’t stay in the kiddie end. When we work, we have to go hard and go deep.”

The muse is a goddess who wants our attention and wants us to work on our passion.

If you’re taking a risk in anything, it’s assumed that there is some passion built up behind that risk. That passion, deep inside you, is the muse. Trust it, focus on it, listen to it.

The most successful articles and stories I write are the ones I’ve focused all my attention on. There were no interruptions during their creative development. I didn’t check my phone or go watch my Twitter feed. I was fully engaged in my work.

Trust the muse, focus your attention on your risk, let the ideas and path develop themselves, and leave the distractions at the side of the road.

3. Remember to Be Authentic

Taking a risk and then turning into something you’re not, is only going to lead to disaster. Whether you are risking a new relationship or new opportunity, you must be yourself throughout the entire process.

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How many times have you acted like you loved something just because the men or woman you just started going out with loved it?

For example, I’m not an office worker. I have an incredibly hard time working in a confined timeline (ie. 9-5). That’s why I write. I can do it whenever the mood strikes, I don’t have somebody breathing down my neck, telling me that I’m five minutes late, or missed a comma somewhere. I don’t have to walk on eggshells wondering if what I’m writing will get me fired or make me lose a promotion. I can just be myself, period.

One girlfriend didn’t understand that. She believed solely in the 9-5 motto, specifically something in human resources because that was a very stable job. I was scared for my future, but I stuck with the relationship because of my own insecurities and acted like I would do it to make her happy.

Here’s a tip: NEVER take away from your happiness to make somebody else satisfied (note I didn’t say happy).

Making somebody else happy will make you happy. Doing something to satisfy somebody is murder on your soul.

4. Don’t Take Any Risks While You’re Not Clearheaded

I’d been considering the risk for a couple weeks. It all sounded good. I was 22 and I could be rich in a couple of years. That’s what they were selling me, anyways.

One night, while at a house party with some friends, I found myself at a computer. A couple of my friends were standing nearby and asked me what I was doing. I told them I was considering starting my own business and it was only going to cost me $1,500.

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Of course, when a bunch of drunk people are surrounded by more drunk people, things get enthusiastic. It sounded like the best business venture in the world to everybody, including me. So I signed up and gave them my credit card number.

A few painful months and close to $4,000 dollars lost later, I quit the business. I was young and fell into the pyramid scheme trap. It was an expensive drunk decision.

Drinking heavily and making decisions has a proven track record of failure. So when you have something important to decide, don’t let your emotions take over your brain.

5. Fully Understand What You’re Risking

It was the start of my baseball comeback. I got a tryout with a professional scout and killed it. After the tryout, he talked to my girlfriend and myself, making sure we understood I would be gone for up to 6 months at a time. That strain on the relationship could be tough.

We understood. I left to play ball, chose to stay in the city I played in, and a year later we broke up. Not because of baseball, see point 3 above. Taking big risks can have massive impacts on everything in your life from relationships to money. Know what you’re risking before you take the risk.

If you believe the risk will be worth it or you have the support you need from your family, then go ahead and make the leap.

You can get more guidance on how to take calculated risks from this article: How to Take Calculated Risk to Achieve More and Become Successful

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6. Remember This Is Your One Shot Only

As far as we know officially, this is our one shot at life, so why not take some risks?

The top thing people are saddened by on their deathbeds are these regrets. They wish they did more, asked that girl in the coffee shop out, spoke out when they should have, or did what they were passionate about.

Don’t regret. Learn and experience. Live. Take the risks you believe in. Be yourself and make the world a better place.

Now go ahead, take that risk and be successful at it!

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