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8 Things We Can Learn From Grateful People To Become Happier In Life

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8 Things We Can Learn From Grateful People To Become Happier In Life

We’ve all heard about the benefits of being grateful. Just to name a few, people who consistently practice gratitude: have better mental and physical health, have greater levels of self-esteem, demonstrate greater levels of imagination and creativity, and sleep better at night. A lot of times, people make the practice of being grateful too complex.

People who consistently practice gratitude keep it simple and make it something they can do each and every day. The following is a list of common thought practices used by grateful people, which you can use to guide you on your journey to greater inner gratitude.

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1. Grateful People Appreciate the Small Stuff.

There is no rule that you can only be grateful for big things. Grateful people don’t wait for monumental life-changing events to happen to start practicing gratitude. Big events rarely happen, while great things are happening around us all the time. Grateful people are appreciative of life’s small daily gems.

2. Grateful People Wake Up on the Right Side of the Bed.

We’ve all woken up in a bad mood or “on the wrong side of the bed.” This is a sure way to limit gratitude in life. Grateful people make a conscious effort every morning to start the day off right. After all, your first hour of the day sets the tone for the rest of the day. Grateful people wake up on the right side of the bed by finding what’s right with the world and affirming that to themselves.

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3. Grateful People Appreciate and Recognize Their Life as a Gift.

One of the greatest gifts we have in the world is our life and the opportunity to make it whatever we want. Grateful people recognize life as a gift and consistently remind themselves how lucky they are to be alive and have the ability to pursue their dreams. They have fun and appreciate each moment.

4. Grateful People Appreciate and Forgive Themselves.

Life isn’t always easy and there are a lot of opportunities to belittle ourselves and focus on our mistakes. Grateful people know who they are and value their strengths. They also understand that there is no such thing as perfection and easily forgive themselves if they make a mistake.

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5. Grateful People End Each Day on a High Note.

Grateful people practice finding and focusing on something positive that happened to them that day. This can occur at the end of a work day or before bed. This practice of positive focus creates appreciation for the current day and excitement for the next day. It rewards positive action and also reinforces the practice of positive thoughts.

6. Grateful People Acknowledge the Positive Things Surrounding Them.

Grateful people take time to breathe and appreciate what’s around them. They are grateful for the things others may take for granted and have mastered the habit of positive recognition. This can range from something as simple as appreciating where they live to the great friends they have around them.

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7. Grateful People Find the Positive Within Challenges and Struggles.

Grateful people know there is always a silver lining to every challenge. They know there is always something that can be learned or gained from adversity. They take challenging situations and find a way to be positive and grateful for the opportunity it gave them to grow.

8. Grateful People Look at Setbacks as Temporary.

People who often experience controversy or challenge view it as a global event that is here to stay. People who are grateful are realistic that life comes with challenges and accept challenges as temporary setbacks that will pass. This allows them to quickly move on to focusing on other things more deserving of their attention.

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Last Updated on November 18, 2021

10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

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10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

We all fall into the trap of judging a person’s character by their appearance. How wrong we are! All too often, the real character of the person only appears when some negative event hits them or you. Then you may see a toxic person emerging from the ruins and it is often a shock.

A truly frightening example is revealed in the book by O’Toole in Bowman called Dangerous Instincts: How Gut Instincts Betray Us. A perfectly respectable, charming, well dressed neighbor was found to have installed a torture chamber in his garage where he was systematically abusing kidnapped women. This is an extreme example, but it does show how we can be totally deceived by a person’s physical appearance, manners and behavior.

So, what can you do? You want to be able to assess personal qualities when you come into contact with colleagues, fresh acquaintances and new friends who might even become lifelong partners. You want to know if they are:

  • honest
  • reliable
  • competent
  • kind and compassionate
  • capable of taking the blame
  • able to persevere
  • modest and humble
  • pacific and can control anger.

The secret is to reserve judgment and take your time. Observe them in certain situations; look at how they react. Listen to them talking, joking, laughing, explaining, complaining, blaming, praising, ranting, and preaching. Only then will you be able to judge their character. This is not foolproof, but if you follow the 10 ways below, you have a pretty good chance of not ending up in an abusive relationship.

1. Is anger a frequent occurrence?

All too often, angry reactions which may seem to be excessive are a sign that there are underlying issues. Do not think that every person who just snaps and throws his/her weight around mentally and physically is just reacting normally. Everyone has an occasional angry outburst when driving or when things go pear-shaped.

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But if this is almost a daily occurrence, then you need to discover why and maybe avoid that person. Too often, anger will escalate to violent and aggressive behavior. You do not want to be near someone who thinks violence can solve personal or global problems.

2. Can you witness acts of kindness?

How often do you see this person being kind and considerate? Do they give money to beggars, donate to charity, do voluntary work or in some simple way show that they are willing to share the planet with about 7 billion other people?

I was shocked when a guest of mine never showed any kindness to the weak and disadvantaged people in our town. She was ostensibly a religious person, but I began to doubt the sincerity of her beliefs.

“The best index to a person’s character is how he treats people who can’t do him any good, and how he treats people who can’t fight back.”

Abigail Van Buren

3. How does this person take the blame?

Maybe you know that s/he is responsible for a screw-up in the office or even in not turning up on time for a date. Look at their reaction. If they start blaming other colleagues or the traffic, well, this is an indication that they are not willing to take responsibility for their mistakes.

4. Don’t use Facebook as an indicator.

You will be relieved to know that graphology (the study of that forgotten skill of handwriting) is no longer considered a reliable test of a person’s character. Neither is Facebook stalking, fortunately. A study showed that Facebook use of foul language, sexual innuendo and gossip were not reliable indicators of a candidate’s character or future performance in the workplace.

5. Read their emails.

Now a much better idea is to read the person’s emails. Studies show that the use of the following can indicate certain personality traits:

  • Too many exclamation points may reveal a sunny disposition
  • Frequent errors may indicate apathy
  • Use of smileys is the only way a person can smile at you
  • Use of the third person may reveal a certain formality
  • Too many question marks can show anger
  • Overuse of capital letters is regarded as shouting. They are a definite no-no in netiquette, yet a surprising number of  people still use them.

6. Watch out for the show offs.

Listen to people as they talk. How often do they mention their achievements, promotions, awards and successes? If this happens a lot, it is a sure indication that this person has an over-inflated view of his/her achievements. They are unlikely to be modest or show humility. What a pity!  Another person to avoid.

7. Look for evidence of perseverance.

A powerful indicator of grit and tenacity is when a person persists and never gives up when they really want to achieve a life goal. Look for evidence of them keeping going in spite of enormous difficulties.

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Great achievements by scientists and inventors all bear the hallmark of perseverance. We only have to think of Einstein, Edison (who failed thousands of times) and Nelson Mandela to get inspiration. The US Department of Education is in no doubt about how grit, tenacity and perseverance will be key success factors for youth in the 21st century.

8. Their empathy score is high.

Listen to how they talk about the less fortunate members of our society such as the poor, immigrants and the disabled. Do you notice that they talk in a compassionate way about these people? The fact that they even mention them is a strong indicator of empathy.

People with zero empathy will never talk about the disadvantaged. They will rarely ask you a question about a difficult time or relationship. They will usually steer the conversation back to themselves. These people have zero empathy and in extreme cases, they are psychopaths who never show any feelings towards their victims.

9. Learn how to be socially interactive.

We are social animals and this is what makes us so uniquely human. If a person is isolated or a loner, this may be a negative indicator of their character. You want to meet a person who knows about trust, honesty and loyalty. The only way to practice these great qualities is to actually interact socially. The great advantage is that you can share problems and celebrate success and joy together.

“One can acquire everything in solitude, except character.”

Stendhal

 10. Avoid toxic people.

These people are trying to control others and often are failing to come to terms with their own failures. Typical behavior and conversations may concern:

  • Envy or jealousy
  • Criticism of partners, colleagues and friends
  • Complaining about their own lack of success
  • Blaming others for their own bad luck or failure
  • Obsession with themselves and their problems

Listen to these people talk and you will quickly discover that you need to avoid them at all costs because their negativity will drag you down. In addition, as much as you would like to help them, you are not qualified to do so.

Now, having looked at some of the best ways to judge a person, what about yourself? How do others see you? Why not take Dr. Phil’s quiz and find out. Can you bear it?

Featured photo credit: Jacek Dylag via unsplash.com

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