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Scientists Find People Who Are Closer To Their Grandparents Are Happier In Life

Scientists Find People Who Are Closer To Their Grandparents Are Happier In Life

A remarkable American study at Bringham Young University finds that grandparents are very important with respect to the role they play in their grandchildren’s lives. The report makes it clear that they play a key role in the happiness of their grandchildren. Author Jeremy Yorgasun, assistant professor in The School of Family Life, says:

“The emotional relationship between grandparents and their grandchildren can significantly affect the children’s academic, psychological, and social development.

Grandparents matter above and beyond parents, they are an important resource.”

A total of 408 fifth grade children were asked a variety of questions about their relationships with their grandparents. These questions were designed to measure how close they were to each other, among other things. The children were asked questions on a number of topics; for example, their likelihood to seek advice or support from their grandparent. To create a comparison, the questions were followed up a year later.

“We wanted to see how grandparents matter to children, so we asked a number of questions related to emotional closeness to grandparents.”

– Yorgason

The study found that when grandparents are more involved in their grandkids lives, the kids tend to be more social, and also more engaged in school activities. They were more likely to develop pro-social skills, which is vitally important for their social development. Things like showing compassion for others was noted as evident among this group.

According to the study, income is not a factor in these close bonds between grandparent and grandkid. Not only that, but it is also of little consequence whether or not the family is a one-parent or two-parent family.

It did find; however, that grandparents who live with their grandchildren are not quite as close to them as those who don’t live with their grandkids. This is probably because the grandparent who resides with the children plays a role in discipline, while the others don’t. Grandparents who are non-resident are also more likely to promote positive development than those who live with their grandkids.

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“Grandkids can find secure allies in grandparents – grandparents are like the national guard, if there is a problem they come in and help out.”

– Yorgason

The Importance of Grandparents

Today, the importance of grandparents couldn’t be more true, with increasing numbers of busy working families and single parent families. Grandparents who get involved in these circumstances fill a major void in the lives of their grandkids.

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Anthropologist Margaret Mead said that connections between the generations are “essential for the mental health and stability of a nation.”

The love between grandparents and their grandkids is a special love – one you can’t get any other place. This love is unconditional. There is no providing, and no discipline to worry about. There is just time to enjoy each other and have fun. Many kids will opt to go to their elder relatives for the holidays since it’s so much fun.

Why it’s Important to Form this Bond

  • Children get a sense of who they are. They know their roots and they get a fuller perspective on life.
  • Children develop higher self-esteem, as well as better social and emotional skills.
  • Children feel special. It’s not really spoiling, as they don’t expect this treatment from everyone.
  • Children learn new skills and hobbies from their grandparents.
  • Children have someone to talk to and confide in.
  • Children get all of the attention they need.

Conclusion

This study has also brought us to a deeper understanding of the benefits for grandparents. While children benefit enormously from this relationship, grandparents also get the opportunity to form close bonds with their special grandkids. Furthermore, they have the chance to leave behind a legacy through their grandkids. Best of all, grandparents are lucky enough to feel cherished and loved in their final years.

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Last Updated on February 18, 2019

Why It’s Never Too Late To Redefine Yourself

Why It’s Never Too Late To Redefine Yourself

The ability to reinvent and redefine yourself is a bold, daring and purposeful choice. It doesn’t just happen. You have to make a conscious, intentional choice and then follow through.

If the thought of forging a new path, changing habits, thought patterns and your inner circle of friends scares you – you’re not alone. Change can be a very scary thing. It takes courage, fortitude and a bit of faith to decide to shed your old self and don a new persona. However, it is one of the most critical processes one must repeatedly endure in the pursuit of destiny. Change unlocks new levels of potential.

The Need for Change

Everyday when we wake up, we make a decision. We decide to follow our routine or we decide to go off script and shake things up a bit. For those who are creatures of habit, routine is comfortable, easy and produces very little stress. The problem with this is, after a while you stop growing.

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We all reinvent ourselves at some point in our lives. It is absolutely necessary to achieve certain levels of success.

Reflect back on who you were as a teenager and then who you were at 25. Those are two very different people. Most of us are completely different. Your thought patterns changed, your appearance, job, level of education and even your friends– changed. We like to refer to this as “growing up” or maturing and consider it to be one of life’s natural progressions. However the changes you made were purposeful and deliberate.

This process must be a lifelong and continuous cycle. You are never too old to refresh yourself.

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    Signs It’s Time to Redefine

    “Just as established products and brands need updating to stay alive and vibrant, you periodically need to refresh or reinvent yourself.”– Mireille Guiliano

    So how do you know when it’s time for a system upgrade? There are signs along the way that alert you that it is time for an overhaul. The first sign is the feeling of being stuck. If you feel like you are in a rut, you’re bored with life or you need some newness and excitement, a self reinvention may be in order. Re-evaluate your life vision and your goals. Is that vision still valid and are your goals consistent with your vision and–are they achievable? If you are off course, it’s time for a change. If you are not moving forward and making progress, it’s time for a change.

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    In life, there’s no such thing as neutrality–you’re either moving forward or you are moving backward. Time constantly moves forward and if you are standing still, you are actually losing ground. No matter your age or stage in life– there is always room for improvement.

    “You’re never too old to set another goal or dream a new dream.” ~C. S. Lewis

    The second sign that you are due for a change is the occurrence of major life events in which change is forced upon you. Getting married, starting a new job, being promoted, ending a relationship, becoming a parenting or relocating are all prime opportunities to completely overhaul your life.

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    When these major shifts occur in your life–you have to shift with them. You can’t have a single mentality and have a successful marriage. You can’t remain selfish and irresponsible, and raise a healthy, well-adjusted child. You can’t be promoted to a supervisory position and keep the same subordinate attitude. Each level of success requires something different from you.

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      Consider, for a moment, Arnold Schwarzenegger. People may have different opinions about his character and some of his life choices, but he is a master at reinventing himself. He achieved the ultimate success as a professional body builder by earning the title “Mr. Universe” three times. He then earned a tremendous amount of fame and fortune in the entertainment industry making action/adventure films. And in his latest role, he served two terms as the Governor of California. He succeeded as a professional body builder, a film star and a politician. Each role required massive amounts of change, commitment, strength and hard work.

      And if Arnold can do it…so can you!

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