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Scientists Find People Who Are Closer To Their Grandparents Are Happier In Life

Scientists Find People Who Are Closer To Their Grandparents Are Happier In Life

A remarkable American study at Bringham Young University finds that grandparents are very important with respect to the role they play in their grandchildren’s lives. The report makes it clear that they play a key role in the happiness of their grandchildren. Author Jeremy Yorgasun, assistant professor in The School of Family Life, says:

“The emotional relationship between grandparents and their grandchildren can significantly affect the children’s academic, psychological, and social development.

Grandparents matter above and beyond parents, they are an important resource.”

A total of 408 fifth grade children were asked a variety of questions about their relationships with their grandparents. These questions were designed to measure how close they were to each other, among other things. The children were asked questions on a number of topics; for example, their likelihood to seek advice or support from their grandparent. To create a comparison, the questions were followed up a year later.

“We wanted to see how grandparents matter to children, so we asked a number of questions related to emotional closeness to grandparents.”

– Yorgason

The study found that when grandparents are more involved in their grandkids lives, the kids tend to be more social, and also more engaged in school activities. They were more likely to develop pro-social skills, which is vitally important for their social development. Things like showing compassion for others was noted as evident among this group.

According to the study, income is not a factor in these close bonds between grandparent and grandkid. Not only that, but it is also of little consequence whether or not the family is a one-parent or two-parent family.

It did find; however, that grandparents who live with their grandchildren are not quite as close to them as those who don’t live with their grandkids. This is probably because the grandparent who resides with the children plays a role in discipline, while the others don’t. Grandparents who are non-resident are also more likely to promote positive development than those who live with their grandkids.

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“Grandkids can find secure allies in grandparents – grandparents are like the national guard, if there is a problem they come in and help out.”

– Yorgason

The Importance of Grandparents

Today, the importance of grandparents couldn’t be more true, with increasing numbers of busy working families and single parent families. Grandparents who get involved in these circumstances fill a major void in the lives of their grandkids.

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Anthropologist Margaret Mead said that connections between the generations are “essential for the mental health and stability of a nation.”

The love between grandparents and their grandkids is a special love – one you can’t get any other place. This love is unconditional. There is no providing, and no discipline to worry about. There is just time to enjoy each other and have fun. Many kids will opt to go to their elder relatives for the holidays since it’s so much fun.

Why it’s Important to Form this Bond

  • Children get a sense of who they are. They know their roots and they get a fuller perspective on life.
  • Children develop higher self-esteem, as well as better social and emotional skills.
  • Children feel special. It’s not really spoiling, as they don’t expect this treatment from everyone.
  • Children learn new skills and hobbies from their grandparents.
  • Children have someone to talk to and confide in.
  • Children get all of the attention they need.

Conclusion

This study has also brought us to a deeper understanding of the benefits for grandparents. While children benefit enormously from this relationship, grandparents also get the opportunity to form close bonds with their special grandkids. Furthermore, they have the chance to leave behind a legacy through their grandkids. Best of all, grandparents are lucky enough to feel cherished and loved in their final years.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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