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5 Confucius Quotes To Guide Your Life

5 Confucius Quotes To Guide Your Life

Confucius was an important influential teacher and philosopher of the Spring and Autumn period of Chinese history.
Confucius works emphasized not only the significance of intellectual development and belief, but also how to lead a moral, happy, and peaceful life.

This practical approach is one of the reasons why his quotes and teachings widely resonate with the people of the modern world.
You may well have come across Confucius words in inspirational books, pictures, and motivational quotes shared on the internet.

Let’s take a look at some of Confucius’ most famous quotes and how they can help us today – right here, right now. When we read inspirational quotes it can be quite easy to simply flick through thirty or forty and feel briefly inspired, only to then move onto the next thing. Here, we are going to look in detail and reflect on five so they can resonate, move us, and help us gain experience in our life.

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1) “Remember, no matter where you go, there you are.”

Our stress and anxiety arise because we spend much of the time thinking about what could happen in the future or what has happened in the past. This makes it very challenging to appreciate the present moment. Our life is passing us by so quickly, so in this fast-paced world we multitask to keep up. Mindfulness practice helps to draw us into the present moment to appreciate where we are. This quote perfectly leads us to the present moment. Listening to the sounds around us, experiencing being in our body, and observing our breathing can help us to discover, that here we truly are.

If we are truly present in each moment we can extract the greatest meaning from our life.

2) “Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.”

Is life as complicated as we feel it is? It is, when we have a myriad of conflicting thoughts flying through our mind, with health, financial, and relationship worries troubling us. To have a simple life it may seem as though we need to leave or abandon our complications. However, if we recognize that the complications in are life are arising from our mind, then we are empowered to lead a simple life by changing our mind. In particular, by doing one thing at a time. When we eat, we eat; when we walk, we walk; when we talk, we talk; and when we listen, we listen.

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Pacifying the multitasking approach to the activities in our life can start to bring simplicity to our existence.

3) “Silence is a true friend who never betrays.”

Learning to cultivate silence in our mind is one of the most important skills that we can learn. There are many different types of silence. When our mind is silent and peaceful then we can be content in any situation. It’s easy to blame a situation for the way that we are feeling; however, it’s our mind that is responsible for our experience. If we can cultivate a peaceful mind then we can continually feel good and positive within. If we know how to silence the mind then we have a very strong ally. Sometimes our friends don’t help when things are challenging, simply because they don’t have the wisdom to know what to say or how to say it. Whereas, if we know how to cultivate a silent mind then this can keep us strong during life’s difficulties.

4) “It is not the failure of others to appreciate your abilities that should trouble you, but rather your failure to appreciate theirs.”

Of course, it can be disappointing if we feel under appreciated by others or criticized. It can even bring our confidence levels down.
One approach is to follow this advice from Confucius. Instead of focusing on what others should be thinking about us, we change our view and start to focus on how we think about them. We should take time each day to appreciate how others are helping and assisting us in our life. If we are feeling adventurous, we can even appreciate those who challenge us in someway.

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Instead, we need to adopt the thinking of ‘this person is helping me to practice patience and grow as an individual.’

5) “The journey with a 1000 miles begins with one step.”

This is one of Confucius most well-known quotes and has almost become so used it has nearly lost its meaning. However, it’s so well known for a reason. For example, I teach Meditation and one element of the training that I am continuously emphasizing is to simply make a start. Rather than feeling that we can only can start practicing when we have a free thirty minutes each day to train, we can think instead, “Today I will do a short practice, even if it’s just for a few minutes.”

Make that first step. Begin the process and start to establish the habit. If we keep making those short steps, then gradually overtime we start to make progress. This approach can be applied to any form of learning – just make that first step!

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So, a big thank you to Confucius for offering his inspirational words to our world, which are still just as relevant, being used and appreciated several thousand years later!

Featured photo credit: https://www.flickr.com/photos/jiazi/ via flickr.com

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10 Powerful Ways to Influence People Positively

10 Powerful Ways to Influence People Positively

Most discussions on positively influencing others eventually touch on Dale Carnegie’s seminal work, How to Win Friends and Influence People. Written more than 83 years ago, the book touches on a core component of human interaction, building strong relationships. It is no wonder why.

Everything that we do hinges on our ability to connect with others and formulate deep relationships. You cannot sell a house, buy a house, advance in most careers, sell a product, pitch a story, teach a course, etc. without building healthy relationships. Managers get the best results from their teams, not through brute force, but to careful appeals to their sensibilities, occasional withdrawals from the reservoir of respect they’ve built. Using these tactics, they can influence others to excellence, to productivity, and to success.

Carnegie’s book is great. Of course, there are other resources too. Most of us have someone in our lives who positively influences us. The truth is positively influencing people is about centering the humanity of others. Chances are, you know someone who is really good at making others feel like stars. They can get you to do things that the average person cannot. Where the requests of others sound like fingernails on a chalkboard, the request from this special person sounds like music to your ears. You’re delighted to not only listen but also to oblige.

So how to influence people in a positive way? Read on for tips.

1. Be Authentic

To influence people in a positive way, be authentic. Rather than being a carbon copy of someone else’s version of authenticity, uncover what it is that makes you unique.

Discover your unique take on an issue and then live up to and honor that. Once of the reasons social media influencers are so powerful is that they have carved out a niche for themselves or taken a common issue and approached it from a novel or uncommon way. People instinctually appreciate people whose public persona matches their private values.

Contradictions bother us because we crave stability. When someone professes to be one way, but lives contrary to that profession, it signals that they are confused or untrustworthy and thereby, inauthentic. Neither of these combinations bode well for positively influencing others.

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2. Listen

Growing up, my father would tell me to listen to what others said. He told me if I listened carefully, I would know all I needed to know about a person’s character, desires and needs.

To positively influence others, you must listen to what is spoken and what is left unsaid. Therein lies the explanation for what people need in order to feel validated, supported and seen. If a person feels they are invisible, and unseen by their superiors, they are less likely to be positively influenced by that person.

Listening meets a person’s primary need of validation and acceptance.

Take a look at this guide on how to be a better listener: How to Practice Active Listening (A Step-By-Step Guide)

3. Become an Expert

Most people are predisposed to listen to, if not respect, authority. If you want to positively influence others, become an authority in the area in which you seek to lead others. Research and read everything you can about the given topic, and then look for opportunities to put your education into practice.

You can argue over opinions. You cannot argue, or it is unwise to argue, over facts and experts come with facts.

4. Lead with Story

From years of working in the public relations space, I know that personal narratives, testimonials and impact stories are incredibly powerful. But I never cease to be amazed with how effective a well-timed and told story can be.

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If you want to influence people, learn to tell stories. Your stories should be related to the issue or concept you are discussing. They should be an analogy or metaphor that explains your topic in ordinary terms and in vivid detail. To learn more about how to tell powerful stories, and the ethics of storytelling, take a look at this article: How To Tell An Interesting Story In 4 Simple Steps

5. Lead by Example

It is incredibly inspiring to watch passionate, talented people at work or play. One of the reasons a person who is not an athlete can be in awe of athletic prowess is because human nature appreciates the extraordinary. When we watch the Olympics, Olympic trials, gymnastic competitions, ice skating, and other competitive sports, we can recognize the effort of people who day in and day out give their all. C

ase in point: Simone Biles. The gymnast extraordinaire won her 6TH all-around title at the U.S. Gymnastics Championships after doing a triple double. She was the first woman to do so. Watching her gave me chills. Even non-gymnasts and non-competitive athletes can appreciate the talent required to pull off such a remarkable feat.

We celebrate remarkable accomplishments and believe that their example is proof that we too can accomplish something great, even if it isn’t qualifying for the Olympics. To influence people in a positive way, we must lead by example, lead with intention and execute with excellence.

6. Catch People Doing Good

A powerful way to influence people in a positive way is to catch people doing good. Instead of looking for problems, look for successes. Look for often overlooked, but critically important things that your peers, subordinates and managers do that make the work more effective and more enjoyable.

Once you catch people doing good, name and notice their contributions.

7. Be Effusive with Praise

It did not take me long to notice a remarkable trait of a former boss. He not only began and ended meetings with praise, but he peppered praise throughout the entire meeting. He found a way to celebrate the unique attributes and skills of his team members. He was able to quickly and accurately assess what people were doing well and then let them and their colleagues know.

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Meetings were not just an occasion to go through a “To Do” list, they were opportunities to celebrate accomplishments, no matter how small they are.

8. Be Kind Rather Than Right

I am going to level with you; this one is tough. It is easy to get caught up in a cycle of proving oneself. For people who lack confidence, or people who prioritize the opinions of others, being right is important. The validation that comes with being perceived as “right” feeds one’s ego. But in the quest to be “right,” we can hurt other people. Once we’ve hurt someone by being unkind, it is much harder to get them to listen to what we’re trying to influence them to do.

The antidote to influencing others via bullying is to prioritize kindness above rightness. You can be kind and still stand firm in your position. For instance, many people think that they need others to validate their experience. If a person does not see the situation you experienced in the way you see it, you get upset. But your experience is your experience.

If you and your friends go out to eat and you get food poisoning, you do not need your friends to agree that the food served at the restaurant was problematic for you. Your own experience of getting food poisoning is all the validation you need. Therefore, taking time to be right is essentially wasted and, if you were unkind in seeking validation for your food-poison experience, now you’ve really lost points.

9. Understand a Person’s Logical, Emotional and Cooperative Needs

The Center for Creative Leadership has argued that the best way to influence others is to appeal to their logical, emotional and cooperative needs. Their logical need is their rational and educational need. Their emotional need is the information that touches them in a deeply personal manner. The cooperative need is understanding the level of cooperation various individuals need and then appropriately offering it.

The trick with this system is to understand that different people need different things. For some people, a strong emotional appeal will outweigh logical explanations. For others, having an opportunity to collaborate will override emotional connection.

If you know your audience, you will know what they need in order to be positively influenced. If you have limited information about the people whom you are attempting to influence, you will be ineffective.

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10. Understand Your Lane

If you want to positively influence others, operate from your sphere of influence. Operate from your place of expertise. Leave everything else to others. Gone are the days when being a jack of all trades is celebrated.

Most people appreciate brands that understand their target audience and then deliver on what that audience wants. When you focus on what you are uniquely gifted and qualified to do, and then offer that gift to the people who need it, you are likely more effective. This effectiveness is attractive.

You cannot positively influence others if you are more preoccupied by what others do well versus what you do well.

Final Thoughts

Influencing people is about centering your humanity. If you want to influence others positively, focus on the way you communicate and improve the relationship with yourself first.

It’s hard to influence others if you’re still trying to figure out how to communicate with yourself.

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