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10 Things To Tell Yourself When You Think You Aren’t Good Enough At All

10 Things To Tell Yourself When You Think You Aren’t Good Enough At All

There is so much more to life than whining and beating yourself up about your woes. How will you get the best out of life when you are dampened by defeats and not looking at the brighter side of life? Undoubtedly we cannot be happy and ecstatic all the time. Yet rather than feel sober and broken about anything before let us embrace the high points of what we are good at and what we can achieve. Cherish the things that you have and believe in what great things are ahead of you. Here are ten things you should always remember when you think you are not good enough.

1. The present supersedes the past or the future

People can be drowned in the frustrations of the past and consumed in the futility of the future. But you don’t need to be one of those. Because the present can be the key to possibilities. And how you tap into the present and maximize the use of it can make a lot of difference. Since you are currently in the present why worry about any other thing.

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2. The world is full of endless comparisons

Everyone is comparing him or herself to this or that. Whoever you are comparing yourself to is also comparing him or herself to another person. Rather than being judgmental or envious you should see the world with understanding and compassion. Through such a lens you can see that all imperfect beings are going through different challenges.

3. There is always an opportunity to try something new

If you have not gotten the results you yearn for or you are meeting brick walls here and there, understand that there is the opportunity before you to try something new. Work from a different angle and possibly you will get different results.

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4. You have to love yourself

That is what you need to keep on doing: loving yourself and accepting who you are. There is nothing wrong in trying to improve yourself if you have to, however through that process you have to learn to take charge of yourself and appreciate who you are.

5. You have acquired enough

There is no one who exists who hasn’t acquired something, whether in terms of experiences, relationships or growth. You should not always equate your existence to how much money you have in the bank.

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6. Life is not fair

There are a lot of things that are out of your control. And these things you cannot do anything about. You simply have to accept things the way they are. Because the truth is that people will get sick and die, politicians will lie and relationships will end. Rather than consuming yourself in the agony you should remember that there are also others coping with the same thoughts and trauma, lean on this and you can all cope with it together.

7. There is more right with you than wrong

There are flaws you have. This is true. But beyond those flaws there are amazing qualities that you possess which are worth taking note of and remembering every now and then.

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8. You are unique

You cannot be like every other person. Rather than struggle with the insecurity of trying to be someone else, focus on yourself. You are walking on your own path and you should consider breaking your own borders and becoming the better version of yourself.

9. You have a choice

Nothing is forced upon you. You have a choice. It is either you embrace peace or practice stress. Rather than choosing to be miserable, choose to be peaceful.

10. Failure is not the end, but a learning experience

We all have different perspectives of failure. Some term it as the end and let it break their spirits. But failure offers not only the opportunity to start and try again, failure is a learning experience which can prove useful against future mistakes.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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