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10 Things To Tell Yourself When You Think You Aren’t Good Enough At All

10 Things To Tell Yourself When You Think You Aren’t Good Enough At All

There is so much more to life than whining and beating yourself up about your woes. How will you get the best out of life when you are dampened by defeats and not looking at the brighter side of life? Undoubtedly we cannot be happy and ecstatic all the time. Yet rather than feel sober and broken about anything before let us embrace the high points of what we are good at and what we can achieve. Cherish the things that you have and believe in what great things are ahead of you. Here are ten things you should always remember when you think you are not good enough.

1. The present supersedes the past or the future

People can be drowned in the frustrations of the past and consumed in the futility of the future. But you don’t need to be one of those. Because the present can be the key to possibilities. And how you tap into the present and maximize the use of it can make a lot of difference. Since you are currently in the present why worry about any other thing.

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2. The world is full of endless comparisons

Everyone is comparing him or herself to this or that. Whoever you are comparing yourself to is also comparing him or herself to another person. Rather than being judgmental or envious you should see the world with understanding and compassion. Through such a lens you can see that all imperfect beings are going through different challenges.

3. There is always an opportunity to try something new

If you have not gotten the results you yearn for or you are meeting brick walls here and there, understand that there is the opportunity before you to try something new. Work from a different angle and possibly you will get different results.

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4. You have to love yourself

That is what you need to keep on doing: loving yourself and accepting who you are. There is nothing wrong in trying to improve yourself if you have to, however through that process you have to learn to take charge of yourself and appreciate who you are.

5. You have acquired enough

There is no one who exists who hasn’t acquired something, whether in terms of experiences, relationships or growth. You should not always equate your existence to how much money you have in the bank.

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6. Life is not fair

There are a lot of things that are out of your control. And these things you cannot do anything about. You simply have to accept things the way they are. Because the truth is that people will get sick and die, politicians will lie and relationships will end. Rather than consuming yourself in the agony you should remember that there are also others coping with the same thoughts and trauma, lean on this and you can all cope with it together.

7. There is more right with you than wrong

There are flaws you have. This is true. But beyond those flaws there are amazing qualities that you possess which are worth taking note of and remembering every now and then.

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8. You are unique

You cannot be like every other person. Rather than struggle with the insecurity of trying to be someone else, focus on yourself. You are walking on your own path and you should consider breaking your own borders and becoming the better version of yourself.

9. You have a choice

Nothing is forced upon you. You have a choice. It is either you embrace peace or practice stress. Rather than choosing to be miserable, choose to be peaceful.

10. Failure is not the end, but a learning experience

We all have different perspectives of failure. Some term it as the end and let it break their spirits. But failure offers not only the opportunity to start and try again, failure is a learning experience which can prove useful against future mistakes.

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Last Updated on September 12, 2019

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

Learn how to embrace your me time: What Your Fear of Being Alone Is Really About and How to Get over It

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2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

Take a look at this article and learn to accept your imperfect self: Accept Yourself (Flaws and All): 7 Benefits of Being Vulnerable

7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

Afraid to ask for help? Here’s how to change your outlook to aim high!

Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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