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10 Signs You’re Neurotic (And Why It’s Not A Problem)

10 Signs You’re Neurotic (And Why It’s Not A Problem)

1. They’re hyper aware

Being neurotic means you’re constantly aware of everything around you. You pick up on people’s body language and voice inflections, and analyze every word that comes out of their mouth. Because of this, you’re not surprised by ulterior motives or when a person’s true colors show. Ironically, being hyper-aware of everything and everyone around you helps you keep your cool when things go sour.

2. They’re overly self-conscious

Because you’re constantly worried about yourself, you’re more likely to take care of yourself. The student who is scared of failing will spend extra time in the library, leading them to be even more prepared for an exam than they need to be. The person who’s scared of dying of a heart attack in his forties will certainly eat healthier and exercise more often than someone who doesn’t worry about his demise.

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3. They’re self-aware

Neurotic people know they’re neurotic. In fact, they flaunt it at times, saying things like “I know I’m being crazy, but…” While it may be hard to break a neurotic thought or habit, many people go throughout their day with paranoid thoughts running through their head without even realizing it. At least neurotic people are able to recognize it and rationalize it. They might not be able to get past knowing “It’s all in my head,” but at least they can acknowledge it.

4. They’re pessimistically realistic

Neurotic people tend to err on the side of pessimism when it comes to anything in the real world. But this is because they know that good things don’t just “happen,” and that Murphy’s Law exists because there is a better chance of something going wrong along the way than everything going exactly according to plan. The good part about this pessimism is that when things do go right, it’s like Christmas Day for a neurotic individual. Even something as simple as the guy at Dunkin’ Donuts getting your order right and then hitting every green light on the way home from work will be enough to cheer you up. It really is the little things in life that make a difference.

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5. They have a high IQ

A study at SUNY Downstate Medical Centre of 42 individuals showed that those who suffered from anxiety also had a higher IQ on average. The report showed that “high intelligence and worry are linked with brain activity measured by the depletion of the nutrient choline in the white matter of the brain.” High levels of anxiety lead to a mind that is constantly working in some way, which, naturally, leads to higher levels of intelligence. Those that worry too much are actually exercising their brain!

6. They care for others

Neurotic people don’t just worry about themselves, either. They worry and look after their friends, family, and loved ones constantly. They’re always trying to help people through difficult situations and solve other people’s problems. This parental aspect of neurotic people gives them comfort, as it does to those around them as well.

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7. They have high energy levels

Not only are neurotic people always thinking, but they’re always ready for action. They have trouble sitting still, because their mind is always racing. But they also never seem to run out of steam, because they know they could be doing something to better their lives at any given moment.

8. They’re highly productive

Since they can’t sit still, neurotic people might as well be productive. They have many hobbies, and are never content with resting on their laurels. They see every moment as another chance to succeed and do better in life. Because of this attitude, neurotic people often find themselves leaps and bounds ahead of everyone else around them as far as productivity and talent is concerned.

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9. They’re idealistic

Even though most neurotic people are pessimistic, they also work hard to improve their surroundings as well. They understand how good things could be, and will do anything to get there. It’s ironic, but their pessimism drives them to optimize their situation. And while others are thinking things are fine, the neurotic person will constantly be working to make them even better.

10. They avoid bad situations

Obviously, being a worrywart isn’t always a bad thing. Neurotic people avoid dangerous situations. While other people might be tempted to claim “YOLO” as if that’s an excuse to do something stupid, anxious people will be the ones saying “Yeah, you only live once, so don’t mess it up.” Sure, they might never experience the thrill of skydiving, but they’ll almost certainly live a long, healthy life.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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