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15 Promises All Couples Should Be Able to Make to Each Other

15 Promises All Couples Should Be Able to Make to Each Other

If you’ve found a person you can truly see yourself growing old with, you’re going to need to make some promises to them. It’s important that you keep these promises throughout your relationship in order to continue building a trustful and loving foundation throughout both of your lifetimes. Among others, the following vows are meant to show just how much you care for your significant other, and how dedicated you are to your relationship.

1. I promise to listen.

Relationships are built around communication, and communication is a two-way street. If you want your voice to be heard, you must also be sure to listen to what your mate has to say. Be open-minded, and try to see things from their perspective. Doing so will open the door to true understanding.

2. I promise to learn.

Relationships are hard work, especially if you’ve never been in a serious one before. There is a lot to learn about how to treat a person you love, how to live with them, and how to grow together. You’ll make mistakes along the way, but as long as you learn from them together, your relationship will continue to flourish.

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3. I promise to let you be you.

Just because you’re in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to change who you are. And neither does your significant other. Don’t try to change them into the person you wish they were. You wouldn’t be in love with them if they were different. Let them continue on their path, and stick by their side at all times.

4. I promise to let you grow.

As each person in a relationship is still an individual, you should both be free to grow as people, too. Don’t hold the person you love back from following their dreams. Know that they want to grow in order to better support you, and have faith that their hard work and long work days will eventually pay off for your family.

5. I promise to live for us.

Remember, you’re now living for a family, not just yourself. You shouldn’t make major decisions without consulting your significant other—but that’s not a bad thing. Discuss your wants, needs, hopes, and dreams together, and build your relationship upon a common ground.

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6. I promise to find time.

No matter how hectic life gets, you should always find time to spend with the one you love. Don’t get complacent in your relationship. Even after a long day of work, you should always want to take your mate out for ice cream or a movie. Don’t let time slip away; it’s the one thing you can never get back.

7. I promise to work as a team.

Mix up the chores. Do the food shopping. Wash both cars. Don’t ever think of a task as “my job” or “my wife’s job,” “men’s work” or “women’s work.” You’re in this together; act like it.

8. I promise to save things for just us.

After a while, some experiences just aren’t the same without your significant other next to you. You’d never watch your favorite TV show without him or her, and they’d never go to your favorite restaurant without you. Some things are special because they’re only meaningful when you’re together.

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9. I promise to care about your interests.

When you love someone, you’ll find yourself having fun at times you thought you’d be bored out of your mind. Buy tickets to a Broadway show, even if you would never go to one without her. Bring him to a football game, even if you don’t even understand the rules. You’ll end up making memories that will last a lifetime.

10. I promise to show you off.

Never get tired of making it clear to the world that you love this person. Hold their hand in public, and introduce them to new friends and coworkers as “my wife” or “my husband” or “my fiancé.” Talk about them constantly, even when you know it’s driving other people nuts. They’re worth it.

11. I promise to keep trying to win you.

Just because you’ve found “the one” doesn’t mean you can’t lose them. Do something every day that surprises them, or makes them feel worthwhile. Bring them flowers, clean the house, surprise them at work- anything at all to keep things fresh. By doing so, you’ll be proving your worth as well.

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12. I promise to never get into a routine.

Like I said: keep things fresh. Add some spice to life. Try to do something new every week. Take a class together, or go for a walk. Do a puzzle or play a game. Don’t get into the habit of coming home, eating dinner, and just watching TV together. Make memories every single day.

13. I promise to always pick up the phone.

Don’t ever let a call from your significant other go to voice mail if you can help it. Sure, they always call on their lunch break or when they get out of work, but you never know if the next call you get will be an emergency. Show them that they’re your number one priority at all times.

14. I promise to love your family as my own.

When you fall in love, you’re not just adding one person to your circle of loved ones. You also add their entire family, and you should want to be a part of their circle, as well. Learn their traditions, and visit them during the holidays. Be an aunt, uncle, big brother or big sister.And be true to them as you would your own flesh and blood.

15. I promise to keep you.

Keep your significant other close. Keep them with you at all times. Keep them on your mind, and in your heart. Keep them from danger, and keep them from falling. Keep them in your life for as long as you both live.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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