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8 Habits Everyone Should Take Up In Their 30s To Lead A Fulfilling Life

8 Habits Everyone Should Take Up In Their 30s To Lead A Fulfilling Life

Do you want to improve your quality of life? There are many small steps you can implement on a daily basis to improve the overall quality of your life.

Habits pose great influences on the quality of life and your 30s should be a critical point to take up good habits. After all, the older we are, the more reluctant we are to changes.

From changing your mind-set to making steps to become healthier, check out these eight habits everyone should take up in their 30s to lead a fulfilling life.

1. Start To Laugh At Yourself

Learn to laugh at yourself and the insanity of life around you. Being able to find humor in bad situations shows optimism and strength.

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New research has actually shown that stress can shorten your life, damage your DNA and lower your overall happiness, so learning to laugh at yourself actually has health benefits.

2. Stop Comparing Yourself To Other People

Avoid comparing yourself to the other people in your life; studies from the Health Psychology Review have found out that comparing yourself to others can influence your physical and emotional heath. Your success is not measured by others’, but it is measured by your own happiness.

You may struggle to find peace with yourself if you are always focusing on what others have, and there are no benefits to being so hard on yourself. Instead, spend your time thinking about your own happiness goals and how you will achieve them.

3. Appreciate Your Loved Ones

Many people spend their 20s focused on getting a good education and starting their careers, and for some people their friends and family can become lower priorities. Your 30s can be a great opportunity to work on your current relationships while reconnecting with old friends. There are emotional benefits to being thankful; Harvard Health Publications discovered that being thankful can actually make you happier.

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These are the best people in your life, so support them with their goals, cheer on their successes and comfort them when they fail, and you will see the same support shown to you.

4. Keep A Record Of Your Life

Your life is the most interesting story you will ever live; it is important to document the special moments. From keeping a journal to filling photo albums with pictures, there are many different ways that you can document your life.

The science backs it up, too; A recent study published in Psychotherapy Research found that there are both physical and emotional benefits to writing in a journal. As you get older, these saved memories will make you laugh and smile more and more.

5. Start To Save Money

Saving money is a good habit to start in your 20s, but an essential one to start in your 30s, with millions of Americans having little to no money saved up. It is as simple as spending less than you make – try to get into the habit of living below your financial means.

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As you get older, you want to be able to relax and enjoy yourself, but without savings, this is very difficult. Put aside money for emergencies and a even a new home, as well as your retirement fund to guarantee less financial stress in your later life.

6. Try To Maintain A Healthy Weight

Try to keep your weight at a level you know is good for your body. Try to exercise three times a week and eat healthy, but don’t overdo it; you want to be at a healthy weight that is easy for you to maintain.

Rather than trying to lose a lot of weight, studies show that there are more health benefits to maintaining a healthy weight, such as lower risk of heart problems and blood pressure.

Learn to cook healthy meals that taste delicious, so healthy eating can become a habit rather than a chore.

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7. Learn From Your Errors

You will have made mistakes already in your life, and it is very likely you will make more in your 30s – and that is totally OK. Mistakes are experiences that shape you and help you to grow as a person, but studies show making mistakes (and learning from them) can actually make you smarter.

Try to learn from your mistakes, and try to accept responsibility for them – this will make you wiser and an even better problem solver.

8. Achieve A Big Goal

There are probably vague goals you plan on achieving during your lifetime, from buying a house to getting a degree in Physics, and now is the time to go for it. Many people put off achieving their goals as they feel they have unlimited time, but big goals often take a long time to achieve.

Studies show that writing down your goals can help you to achieve them, so get out a piece of paper and starting writing a financial plan for your goals – how long will it take you to achieve them? How much money will it cost? Can you start right now?

Can you think of any other habits that everyone should take up in their 30s to lead a fulfilling life? Comment your ideas below!

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Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

Perceptual Barrier

The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

Attitudinal Barrier

Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

Language Barrier

This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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Emotional Barrier

Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

Cultural Barrier

Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

Gender Barrier

Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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