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8 Habits Everyone Should Take Up In Their 30s To Lead A Fulfilling Life

8 Habits Everyone Should Take Up In Their 30s To Lead A Fulfilling Life

Do you want to improve your quality of life? There are many small steps you can implement on a daily basis to improve the overall quality of your life.

Habits pose great influences on the quality of life and your 30s should be a critical point to take up good habits. After all, the older we are, the more reluctant we are to changes.

From changing your mind-set to making steps to become healthier, check out these eight habits everyone should take up in their 30s to lead a fulfilling life.

1. Start To Laugh At Yourself

Learn to laugh at yourself and the insanity of life around you. Being able to find humor in bad situations shows optimism and strength.

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New research has actually shown that stress can shorten your life, damage your DNA and lower your overall happiness, so learning to laugh at yourself actually has health benefits.

2. Stop Comparing Yourself To Other People

Avoid comparing yourself to the other people in your life; studies from the Health Psychology Review have found out that comparing yourself to others can influence your physical and emotional heath. Your success is not measured by others’, but it is measured by your own happiness.

You may struggle to find peace with yourself if you are always focusing on what others have, and there are no benefits to being so hard on yourself. Instead, spend your time thinking about your own happiness goals and how you will achieve them.

3. Appreciate Your Loved Ones

Many people spend their 20s focused on getting a good education and starting their careers, and for some people their friends and family can become lower priorities. Your 30s can be a great opportunity to work on your current relationships while reconnecting with old friends. There are emotional benefits to being thankful; Harvard Health Publications discovered that being thankful can actually make you happier.

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These are the best people in your life, so support them with their goals, cheer on their successes and comfort them when they fail, and you will see the same support shown to you.

4. Keep A Record Of Your Life

Your life is the most interesting story you will ever live; it is important to document the special moments. From keeping a journal to filling photo albums with pictures, there are many different ways that you can document your life.

The science backs it up, too; A recent study published in Psychotherapy Research found that there are both physical and emotional benefits to writing in a journal. As you get older, these saved memories will make you laugh and smile more and more.

5. Start To Save Money

Saving money is a good habit to start in your 20s, but an essential one to start in your 30s, with millions of Americans having little to no money saved up. It is as simple as spending less than you make – try to get into the habit of living below your financial means.

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As you get older, you want to be able to relax and enjoy yourself, but without savings, this is very difficult. Put aside money for emergencies and a even a new home, as well as your retirement fund to guarantee less financial stress in your later life.

6. Try To Maintain A Healthy Weight

Try to keep your weight at a level you know is good for your body. Try to exercise three times a week and eat healthy, but don’t overdo it; you want to be at a healthy weight that is easy for you to maintain.

Rather than trying to lose a lot of weight, studies show that there are more health benefits to maintaining a healthy weight, such as lower risk of heart problems and blood pressure.

Learn to cook healthy meals that taste delicious, so healthy eating can become a habit rather than a chore.

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7. Learn From Your Errors

You will have made mistakes already in your life, and it is very likely you will make more in your 30s – and that is totally OK. Mistakes are experiences that shape you and help you to grow as a person, but studies show making mistakes (and learning from them) can actually make you smarter.

Try to learn from your mistakes, and try to accept responsibility for them – this will make you wiser and an even better problem solver.

8. Achieve A Big Goal

There are probably vague goals you plan on achieving during your lifetime, from buying a house to getting a degree in Physics, and now is the time to go for it. Many people put off achieving their goals as they feel they have unlimited time, but big goals often take a long time to achieve.

Studies show that writing down your goals can help you to achieve them, so get out a piece of paper and starting writing a financial plan for your goals – how long will it take you to achieve them? How much money will it cost? Can you start right now?

Can you think of any other habits that everyone should take up in their 30s to lead a fulfilling life? Comment your ideas below!

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Last Updated on May 21, 2019

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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