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8 Habits Everyone Should Take Up In Their 30s To Lead A Fulfilling Life

8 Habits Everyone Should Take Up In Their 30s To Lead A Fulfilling Life

Do you want to improve your quality of life? There are many small steps you can implement on a daily basis to improve the overall quality of your life.

Habits pose great influences on the quality of life and your 30s should be a critical point to take up good habits. After all, the older we are, the more reluctant we are to changes.

From changing your mind-set to making steps to become healthier, check out these eight habits everyone should take up in their 30s to lead a fulfilling life.

1. Start To Laugh At Yourself

Learn to laugh at yourself and the insanity of life around you. Being able to find humor in bad situations shows optimism and strength.

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New research has actually shown that stress can shorten your life, damage your DNA and lower your overall happiness, so learning to laugh at yourself actually has health benefits.

2. Stop Comparing Yourself To Other People

Avoid comparing yourself to the other people in your life; studies from the Health Psychology Review have found out that comparing yourself to others can influence your physical and emotional heath. Your success is not measured by others’, but it is measured by your own happiness.

You may struggle to find peace with yourself if you are always focusing on what others have, and there are no benefits to being so hard on yourself. Instead, spend your time thinking about your own happiness goals and how you will achieve them.

3. Appreciate Your Loved Ones

Many people spend their 20s focused on getting a good education and starting their careers, and for some people their friends and family can become lower priorities. Your 30s can be a great opportunity to work on your current relationships while reconnecting with old friends. There are emotional benefits to being thankful; Harvard Health Publications discovered that being thankful can actually make you happier.

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These are the best people in your life, so support them with their goals, cheer on their successes and comfort them when they fail, and you will see the same support shown to you.

4. Keep A Record Of Your Life

Your life is the most interesting story you will ever live; it is important to document the special moments. From keeping a journal to filling photo albums with pictures, there are many different ways that you can document your life.

The science backs it up, too; A recent study published in Psychotherapy Research found that there are both physical and emotional benefits to writing in a journal. As you get older, these saved memories will make you laugh and smile more and more.

5. Start To Save Money

Saving money is a good habit to start in your 20s, but an essential one to start in your 30s, with millions of Americans having little to no money saved up. It is as simple as spending less than you make – try to get into the habit of living below your financial means.

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As you get older, you want to be able to relax and enjoy yourself, but without savings, this is very difficult. Put aside money for emergencies and a even a new home, as well as your retirement fund to guarantee less financial stress in your later life.

6. Try To Maintain A Healthy Weight

Try to keep your weight at a level you know is good for your body. Try to exercise three times a week and eat healthy, but don’t overdo it; you want to be at a healthy weight that is easy for you to maintain.

Rather than trying to lose a lot of weight, studies show that there are more health benefits to maintaining a healthy weight, such as lower risk of heart problems and blood pressure.

Learn to cook healthy meals that taste delicious, so healthy eating can become a habit rather than a chore.

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7. Learn From Your Errors

You will have made mistakes already in your life, and it is very likely you will make more in your 30s – and that is totally OK. Mistakes are experiences that shape you and help you to grow as a person, but studies show making mistakes (and learning from them) can actually make you smarter.

Try to learn from your mistakes, and try to accept responsibility for them – this will make you wiser and an even better problem solver.

8. Achieve A Big Goal

There are probably vague goals you plan on achieving during your lifetime, from buying a house to getting a degree in Physics, and now is the time to go for it. Many people put off achieving their goals as they feel they have unlimited time, but big goals often take a long time to achieve.

Studies show that writing down your goals can help you to achieve them, so get out a piece of paper and starting writing a financial plan for your goals – how long will it take you to achieve them? How much money will it cost? Can you start right now?

Can you think of any other habits that everyone should take up in their 30s to lead a fulfilling life? Comment your ideas below!

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Published on May 4, 2021

How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

They say we are the average of the five persons we spend the most time with. For a minute, consider the people around you. Are they truly who your “tribe” should be or who you aspire to become in the future? Are they really genuine people who want to see you succeed? Or are they fake people who don’t really want to see you happy?

In this article, I’ll review why it is important to surround yourself with genuine individuals—the ones who care, bring something to our table, and first and foremost, who leave all fakeness behind.

How to Spot Fake People?

When you’ve been working in the helping professions for a while, spotting fake people gets a bit easier. There are some very clear signs that the person you are looking at is hiding something, acting somehow, or simply wanting to get somewhere. Most often, there is a secondary gain—perhaps attention, sympathy, or even a promotion.

Whatever it is, you’re better off working their true agenda and staying the hell away. Here are some things you should look out for to help spot fake people.

1. Full of Themselves

Fake people like to show off. They love looking at themselves in the mirror. They collect photos and videos of every single achievement they had and every part of their body and claim to be the “best at what they do.”

Most of these people are actually not that good in real life. But they act like they are and ensure that they appear better than the next person. The issue for you is that you may find yourself always feeling “beneath” them and irritated at their constant need to be in the spotlight.

2. Murky in Expressing Their Emotions

Have you ever tried having a deep and meaningful conversation with a fake person? It’s almost impossible. It’s because they have limited emotional intelligence and don’t know how they truly feel deep down—and partly because they don’t want to have their true emotions exposed, no matter how normal these might be.

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It’s much harder to say “I’m the best at what I do” while simultaneously sharing “average” emotions with “equal” people.

3. Zero Self-Reflection

To grow, we must accept feedback from others. We must be open to our strengths and to our weaknesses. We must accept that we all come in different shapes and can always improve.

Self-reflection requires us to think, forgive, admit fault, and learn from our mistakes. But to do that, we have to be able to adopt a level of genuineness and depth that fake people don’t routinely have. A fake person generally never apologizes, but when they do, it is often followed with a “but” in the next breath.

4. Unrealistic Perceptions

Fake people most often have an unrealistic perception of the world—things that they want to portray to others (pseudo achievements, materialistic gains, or a made-up sense of happiness) or simply how they genuinely regard life outside themselves.

A lot of fake people hide pain, shame, and other underlying reasons in their behavior. This could explain why they can’t be authentic and/or have difficulties seeing their environment for the way it objectively is (both good and bad).

5. Love Attention

As I mentioned earlier, the biggest sign that something isn’t quite right with someone’s behavior can be established by how much they love attention. Are you being interrupted every time you speak by someone who wants to make sure that the spotlight gets reverted back to them? Is the focus always on them, no matter the topic? If yes, you’re probably dealing with a fake person.

6. People Pleaser

Appreciation feels nice but having everyone like you is even better. While it is completely unrealistic for most people to please everyone all the time, fake people seem to always say yes in pursuit of constant approval.

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Now, this is a problem for two reasons. Firstly, these people are simply saying yes to things for their own satisfaction. Secondly, they often end up changing their minds or retracting their offer for one reason or another (“I would have loved to, but my grandmother suddenly fell ill.”), leaving you in the lurch for the 100th time this year.

7. Sarcasm and Cynicism

Behind the chronic pasted smile, fake people are well known for brewing resentment, jealousy, or anger. This is because, behind the postcard life, they are often unhappy. Sarcasm and cynicism are well known to act as a defense mechanism, sometimes even a diversion—anything so they can remain feeling on top of the world, whether it is through boosting themselves or bringing people down.

8. Crappy friend

Fake people are bad friends. They don’t listen to you, your feelings, and whatever news you might have to share. In fact, you might find yourself migrating away from them when you have exciting or bad news to share, knowing that it will always end up one way—their way. In addition, you might find that they’re not available when you truly need them or worse, cancel plans at the last minute.

It’s not unusual to hear that a fake person talks constantly behind people’s backs. Let’s be honest, if they do it to others, they’re doing it to you too. If your “friend” makes you feel bad constantly, trust me, they’re not achieving their purpose, and they’re simply not a good person to have around.

The sooner you learn to spot these fake people, the sooner you can meet meaningful individuals again.

How to Cope With Fake People Moving Forward?

It is important to remind yourself that you deserve more than what you’re getting. You are worthy, valuable, precious, and just as important as the next person.

There are many ways to manage fake people. Here are some tips on how to deal with them.

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1. Boundaries

Keep your boundaries very clear. As explained in the book Unlock Your Resilience, boundaries are what keep you sane when the world tries to suffocate you. When fake people become emotional vampires, make sure to keep your distances, limit contact, and simply replace them with more valuable interactions.

2. Don’t Take Their Behavior Personally

Sadly, they most likely have behaved this way before they knew you and will continue much longer after you have moved on. It isn’t about you. It is about their inner need to meet a void that you are not responsible for. And in all honesty, unless you are a trained professional, you are unlikely to improve it anyway.

3. Be Upfront and Honest About How You Feel

If your “friend” has been hurtful or engaged in behaviors you struggle with, let them know—nicely, firmly, however you want, but let them know that they are affecting you. If it works, great. If it doesn’t, you’ll feel better and when you’re ready to move on, you’ll know you tried to reach out. Your conscience is clear.

4. Ask for Advice

If you’re unsure about what you’re seeing or feeling, ask for advice. Perhaps a relative, a good friend, or a colleague might have some input as to whether you are overreacting or seeing some genuine concerns.

Now, don’t confuse asking for advice with gossiping behind the fake person’s back because, in the end, you don’t want to stoop down to their level. However, a little reminder as to how to stay on your own wellness track can never hurt.

5. Dig Deeper

Now, this one, I offer with caution. If you are emotionally strong, up to it, guaranteed you won’t get sucked into it, and have the skills to manage, perhaps you could dig into the reasons a fake person is acting the way they do.

Have they suffered recent trauma? Have they been rejected all their lives? Is their self-esteem so low that they must resort to making themselves feel good in any way they can? Sometimes, having an understanding of a person’s behavior can help in processing it.

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6. Practice Self-Care!

Clearly, putting some distance between the fake person and yourself is probably the way to go. However, sometimes, it takes time to get there. In the meantime, make sure to practice self-care, be gentle with yourself, and compensate with lots of positives!

Self-care can be as simple as taking a hot shower after talking to them or declining an invitation when you’re not feeling up to the challenge.

Spotting fake people isn’t too hard. They generally glow with wanna-be vibes. However, most often, there are reasons as to why they are like this. Calling their behavior might be the first step. Providing them with support might be the second. But if these don’t work, it’s time to stay away and surround yourself with the positivity that you deserve.

Final Thoughts

Remember that life is a rollercoaster. It has good moments, tough moments, and moments you wouldn’t change for the world. So, look around and make sure that you take the time to choose the right people to share it all with.

We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with, so take a good look around and choose wisely!

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