Granted, every relationship has its ups and downs. Possibly things are not as bad as they seem and things could change – But most times our expectations can be fraught with disappointment and dissatisfaction. For your own mental health, you should always take note of these certain critical signs that your relationship is headed down a rocky path that it may not recover from.
1. You are not getting the love you deserve
Everyone deserves some affection, especially if you are investing your emotional resources into a relationship. If you are not getting loved in return for the love you are offering then you need to look elsewhere.
2. You are not fully tapping into your potential
You never know how much you are worth when you are not appreciated by the other in a relationship. Limiting your reserve of inner energy can be destructive. If your relationship is not pushing you to become a better person then it is time to leave.
3. You are physically abused
If your relationship is hurting you physically just as it is hurting you emotionally then it is time to walk out of it. You don’t have to wait for a change when your body is getting hurt.
4. You have memories that don’t match the present
Truthfully the relationship may have been great in the past but what about now. Every day should always be great in your relationship.
5. You have to change to suit him/her
You can’t be suitable for anybody. The person just has to love you the way you are. If the person you are in a relationship with has something else in mind then you have to break away from them.
6. You are not happy
Happiness is a choice and it is not in tomorrow but in the now. Your relationship should make you happy and not cause you pain.
7. You are stuck
Nothing seems progressive in the relationship. It is more of a journey in circles or in stagnancy. You don’t have to be stuck but experience freedom and happiness in your relationship.
8. You are the one making all the mistakes
Granted no one is flawless. And it is not just about you, your significant other has to take some blame too if certain things are going wrong.
9. You are emotionally abused
Emotional hurt could be more devastating than physical hurt. Although not visible, it does have a strong hold on every one of us. If emotionally you are being abused through wrong actions then it is time to leave the relationship.
10. You are the one making the most investment in the relationship
There should be a balancing act in every relationship. You don’t have to be the one making the most effort to make the relationship perfect.
11. You do not have similar interest or expectations
Values, beliefs and opinions should stem from tolerance and understanding the line that binds both of you. Such strengthens your relationship and keeps it together during the storm.
12. You are no longer friends
People in a relationship should be friends and love each others company. But if both of you are not working together as a team, you really are no longer a team.
13. You think things will change
Both of you think perhaps that if there is more money or there is a child or something literal to show for your relationship things will change. Such expectation could make the heart sick and disappointed.
14. You are constantly being lied to
A relationship should be about honesty and trust. You can’t be constantly deceived or being lied to by your partner.
15. You have grown apart
What was and what made you both emotionally bonded is not just there about. Somewhere along the lines you have lost the spark that ignited fire in your relationship and kept you together and close.
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