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15 Signs You Should Leave The Relationship Though You’ve Persuaded Yourself It Would Get Better

15 Signs You Should Leave The Relationship Though You’ve Persuaded Yourself It Would Get Better

Granted, every relationship has its ups and downs. Possibly things are not as bad as they seem and things could change – But most times our expectations can be fraught with disappointment and dissatisfaction. For your own mental health, you should always take note of these certain critical signs that your relationship is headed down a rocky path that it may not recover from.

1. You are not getting the love you deserve

Everyone deserves some affection, especially if you are investing your emotional resources into a relationship. If you are not getting loved in return for the love you are offering then you need to look elsewhere.

2. You are not fully tapping into your potential

You never know how much you are worth when you are not appreciated by the other in a relationship. Limiting your reserve of inner energy can be destructive. If your relationship is not pushing you to become a better person then it is time to leave.

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3. You are physically abused

If your relationship is hurting you physically just as it is hurting you emotionally then it is time to walk out of it. You don’t have to wait for a change when your body is getting hurt.

4. You have memories that don’t match the present

Truthfully the relationship may have been great in the past but what about now. Every day should always be great in your relationship.

5. You have to change to suit him/her

You can’t be suitable for anybody. The person just has to love you the way you are. If the person you are in a relationship with has something else in mind then you have to break away from them.

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6. You are not happy

Happiness is a choice and it is not in tomorrow but in the now. Your relationship should make you happy and not cause you pain.

7. You are stuck

Nothing seems progressive in the relationship. It is more of a journey in circles or in stagnancy. You don’t have to be stuck but experience freedom and happiness in your relationship.

8. You are the one making all the mistakes

Granted no one is flawless. And it is not just about you, your significant other has to take some blame too if certain things are going wrong.

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9. You are emotionally abused

Emotional hurt could be more devastating than physical hurt. Although not visible, it does have a strong hold on every one of us. If emotionally you are being abused through wrong actions then it is time to leave the relationship.

10. You are the one making the most investment in the relationship

There should be a balancing act in every relationship. You don’t have to be the one making the most effort to make the relationship perfect.

11. You do not have similar interest or expectations

Values, beliefs and opinions should stem from tolerance and understanding the line that binds both of you. Such strengthens your relationship and keeps it together during the storm.

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12. You are no longer friends

People in a relationship should be friends and love each others company. But if both of you are not working together as a team, you really are no longer a team.

13. You think things will change

Both of you think perhaps that if there is more money or there is a child or something literal to show for your relationship things will change. Such expectation could make the heart sick and disappointed.

14. You are constantly being lied to

A relationship should be about honesty and trust. You can’t be constantly deceived or being lied to by your partner.

15. You have grown apart

What was and what made you both emotionally bonded is not just there about. Somewhere along the lines you have lost the spark that ignited fire in your relationship and kept you together and close.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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