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15 Signs You Should Leave The Relationship Though You’ve Persuaded Yourself It Would Get Better

15 Signs You Should Leave The Relationship Though You’ve Persuaded Yourself It Would Get Better

Granted, every relationship has its ups and downs. Possibly things are not as bad as they seem and things could change – But most times our expectations can be fraught with disappointment and dissatisfaction. For your own mental health, you should always take note of these certain critical signs that your relationship is headed down a rocky path that it may not recover from.

1. You are not getting the love you deserve

Everyone deserves some affection, especially if you are investing your emotional resources into a relationship. If you are not getting loved in return for the love you are offering then you need to look elsewhere.

2. You are not fully tapping into your potential

You never know how much you are worth when you are not appreciated by the other in a relationship. Limiting your reserve of inner energy can be destructive. If your relationship is not pushing you to become a better person then it is time to leave.

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3. You are physically abused

If your relationship is hurting you physically just as it is hurting you emotionally then it is time to walk out of it. You don’t have to wait for a change when your body is getting hurt.

4. You have memories that don’t match the present

Truthfully the relationship may have been great in the past but what about now. Every day should always be great in your relationship.

5. You have to change to suit him/her

You can’t be suitable for anybody. The person just has to love you the way you are. If the person you are in a relationship with has something else in mind then you have to break away from them.

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6. You are not happy

Happiness is a choice and it is not in tomorrow but in the now. Your relationship should make you happy and not cause you pain.

7. You are stuck

Nothing seems progressive in the relationship. It is more of a journey in circles or in stagnancy. You don’t have to be stuck but experience freedom and happiness in your relationship.

8. You are the one making all the mistakes

Granted no one is flawless. And it is not just about you, your significant other has to take some blame too if certain things are going wrong.

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9. You are emotionally abused

Emotional hurt could be more devastating than physical hurt. Although not visible, it does have a strong hold on every one of us. If emotionally you are being abused through wrong actions then it is time to leave the relationship.

10. You are the one making the most investment in the relationship

There should be a balancing act in every relationship. You don’t have to be the one making the most effort to make the relationship perfect.

11. You do not have similar interest or expectations

Values, beliefs and opinions should stem from tolerance and understanding the line that binds both of you. Such strengthens your relationship and keeps it together during the storm.

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12. You are no longer friends

People in a relationship should be friends and love each others company. But if both of you are not working together as a team, you really are no longer a team.

13. You think things will change

Both of you think perhaps that if there is more money or there is a child or something literal to show for your relationship things will change. Such expectation could make the heart sick and disappointed.

14. You are constantly being lied to

A relationship should be about honesty and trust. You can’t be constantly deceived or being lied to by your partner.

15. You have grown apart

What was and what made you both emotionally bonded is not just there about. Somewhere along the lines you have lost the spark that ignited fire in your relationship and kept you together and close.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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