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15 Signs You Should Leave The Relationship Though You’ve Persuaded Yourself It Would Get Better

15 Signs You Should Leave The Relationship Though You’ve Persuaded Yourself It Would Get Better

Granted, every relationship has its ups and downs. Possibly things are not as bad as they seem and things could change – But most times our expectations can be fraught with disappointment and dissatisfaction. For your own mental health, you should always take note of these certain critical signs that your relationship is headed down a rocky path that it may not recover from.

1. You are not getting the love you deserve

Everyone deserves some affection, especially if you are investing your emotional resources into a relationship. If you are not getting loved in return for the love you are offering then you need to look elsewhere.

2. You are not fully tapping into your potential

You never know how much you are worth when you are not appreciated by the other in a relationship. Limiting your reserve of inner energy can be destructive. If your relationship is not pushing you to become a better person then it is time to leave.

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3. You are physically abused

If your relationship is hurting you physically just as it is hurting you emotionally then it is time to walk out of it. You don’t have to wait for a change when your body is getting hurt.

4. You have memories that don’t match the present

Truthfully the relationship may have been great in the past but what about now. Every day should always be great in your relationship.

5. You have to change to suit him/her

You can’t be suitable for anybody. The person just has to love you the way you are. If the person you are in a relationship with has something else in mind then you have to break away from them.

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6. You are not happy

Happiness is a choice and it is not in tomorrow but in the now. Your relationship should make you happy and not cause you pain.

7. You are stuck

Nothing seems progressive in the relationship. It is more of a journey in circles or in stagnancy. You don’t have to be stuck but experience freedom and happiness in your relationship.

8. You are the one making all the mistakes

Granted no one is flawless. And it is not just about you, your significant other has to take some blame too if certain things are going wrong.

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9. You are emotionally abused

Emotional hurt could be more devastating than physical hurt. Although not visible, it does have a strong hold on every one of us. If emotionally you are being abused through wrong actions then it is time to leave the relationship.

10. You are the one making the most investment in the relationship

There should be a balancing act in every relationship. You don’t have to be the one making the most effort to make the relationship perfect.

11. You do not have similar interest or expectations

Values, beliefs and opinions should stem from tolerance and understanding the line that binds both of you. Such strengthens your relationship and keeps it together during the storm.

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12. You are no longer friends

People in a relationship should be friends and love each others company. But if both of you are not working together as a team, you really are no longer a team.

13. You think things will change

Both of you think perhaps that if there is more money or there is a child or something literal to show for your relationship things will change. Such expectation could make the heart sick and disappointed.

14. You are constantly being lied to

A relationship should be about honesty and trust. You can’t be constantly deceived or being lied to by your partner.

15. You have grown apart

What was and what made you both emotionally bonded is not just there about. Somewhere along the lines you have lost the spark that ignited fire in your relationship and kept you together and close.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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