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15 Signs You Should Leave The Relationship Though You’ve Persuaded Yourself It Would Get Better

15 Signs You Should Leave The Relationship Though You’ve Persuaded Yourself It Would Get Better

Granted, every relationship has its ups and downs. Possibly things are not as bad as they seem and things could change – But most times our expectations can be fraught with disappointment and dissatisfaction. For your own mental health, you should always take note of these certain critical signs that your relationship is headed down a rocky path that it may not recover from.

1. You are not getting the love you deserve

Everyone deserves some affection, especially if you are investing your emotional resources into a relationship. If you are not getting loved in return for the love you are offering then you need to look elsewhere.

2. You are not fully tapping into your potential

You never know how much you are worth when you are not appreciated by the other in a relationship. Limiting your reserve of inner energy can be destructive. If your relationship is not pushing you to become a better person then it is time to leave.

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3. You are physically abused

If your relationship is hurting you physically just as it is hurting you emotionally then it is time to walk out of it. You don’t have to wait for a change when your body is getting hurt.

4. You have memories that don’t match the present

Truthfully the relationship may have been great in the past but what about now. Every day should always be great in your relationship.

5. You have to change to suit him/her

You can’t be suitable for anybody. The person just has to love you the way you are. If the person you are in a relationship with has something else in mind then you have to break away from them.

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6. You are not happy

Happiness is a choice and it is not in tomorrow but in the now. Your relationship should make you happy and not cause you pain.

7. You are stuck

Nothing seems progressive in the relationship. It is more of a journey in circles or in stagnancy. You don’t have to be stuck but experience freedom and happiness in your relationship.

8. You are the one making all the mistakes

Granted no one is flawless. And it is not just about you, your significant other has to take some blame too if certain things are going wrong.

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9. You are emotionally abused

Emotional hurt could be more devastating than physical hurt. Although not visible, it does have a strong hold on every one of us. If emotionally you are being abused through wrong actions then it is time to leave the relationship.

10. You are the one making the most investment in the relationship

There should be a balancing act in every relationship. You don’t have to be the one making the most effort to make the relationship perfect.

11. You do not have similar interest or expectations

Values, beliefs and opinions should stem from tolerance and understanding the line that binds both of you. Such strengthens your relationship and keeps it together during the storm.

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12. You are no longer friends

People in a relationship should be friends and love each others company. But if both of you are not working together as a team, you really are no longer a team.

13. You think things will change

Both of you think perhaps that if there is more money or there is a child or something literal to show for your relationship things will change. Such expectation could make the heart sick and disappointed.

14. You are constantly being lied to

A relationship should be about honesty and trust. You can’t be constantly deceived or being lied to by your partner.

15. You have grown apart

What was and what made you both emotionally bonded is not just there about. Somewhere along the lines you have lost the spark that ignited fire in your relationship and kept you together and close.

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Last Updated on September 12, 2019

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

Learn how to embrace your me time: What Your Fear of Being Alone Is Really About and How to Get over It

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2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

Take a look at this article and learn to accept your imperfect self: Accept Yourself (Flaws and All): 7 Benefits of Being Vulnerable

7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

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Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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