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8 Things To Know Before Dating A Person With A High IQ

8 Things To Know Before Dating A Person With A High IQ

Having a high IQ could be a tool at achieving so many great things if it is channeled in the right direction. Getting into a relationship with someone with a high IQ could mean that you see things from a different light than you are used to. Knowing that it is not simply about what you are going to get from such relationship, but what you have to understand about it, could determine the success of your relationship.

1. They learn quickly

Many people with a high IQ are successful. Their level of intelligence pushes them to do better than others. Although a healthy IQ doesn’t guarantee success, it sure does provide the cognitive ability to be adaptable and quick learners.

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2. They have a more critical perspective of life

They see the failings of the world better than other people. While you and I can just deal with it, adapt and move on, they remained bothered about the human condition and other people’s idiocy. They do not see why the world is behind when it needs is smarter people in the right places doing the right thing. They treat the issues facing the world with more criticism.

3. They are more selective in their thinking

According to a study, it was discovered that people with high IQ are more selective when they perceive objects in motion. This means that when looking a whole object they tend to ignore the larger and less relevant parts of it. They can break things down easier and focus on lesser and smaller parts of a picture. In a world of many distractions this skill plays a key role in the intelligence of people with high IQ.

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4. They have high expectations of themselves

People with a high IQ are not only critical of the world around them, they also expect they can be better than others. They feel their intelligence is enough ground to see them succeed and prove a point to the world. This was revealed in a study of 1,500 pupils with an IQ above 140. They do live under more pressure to excel than others.

5. They are more prone to anxiety

According to a study, it was discovered that people with a high IQ are more prone to anxiety and worrying about what their lives will be like. This may not be such a bad thing, as they are better able to anticipate and prepare for threats. They are also better at learning from their past mistakes.

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6. They can’t see their own flaws

According to a journal, people with a high IQ may be somewhat bias when it comes to realizing and picking out their own flaws. While it is somewhat easier for them to pick out the flaws of others and their environment, they are less able to see their own flaws.

7. They are selective

They can be selective in their associations as they expect more out of any social interaction they commit themselves to. They think many others who they interact with many be able to relate with them on their level. It is true, the smart want to be with other smart people. Still, thinking highly of themselves may make them more prone to rebel and chart new paths for themselves.

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8. They expect more from a relationship

People with a high IQ do not get into a relationship for the mere fun of it. They expect something substantive out of any relationship they get into. They can be confident but not cocky about it, because what they really want is to find someone they can enjoy spending their time with. While you may be after getting into a relationship by selling ourselves and trying to gain the attention of the opposite sex, they believe they have something the opposite sex should be interested in.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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