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10 Changes You Should Make Before Becoming A Parent

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10 Changes You Should Make Before Becoming A Parent

You are already a parent before you become a parent. Being a parent comes with an attitude, a presence, an evolution and a becoming. No matter how some may try to ignore the state of parenthood for what it is, you can’t simply live the same way when you were single when you become a parent. That is if you want to be a great parent for your kids. And since your kids will deserve the best from you, here are some changes you have to make if you want to become a parent.

1. You have to become more tolerant

Tolerance means knowing that when your child wants something they deserve you have to be flexible enough to meet with their desires. Sometimes what your child will want may not be something you can or you would want to give but you simply have to tolerate their nuances and give it to them.

2. You have to be more organized

Being single or not having a child yet may mean you have a lot of free time to do what appeals to you, but when a child comes to the stage, you just have to be better organized with your time. What best time to prepare for the job than now.

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3. You have to be more productive

Fatherhood or motherhood is a full time job. Every other thing comes in between. And when you have so much hovering you over you, you really need to learn how to make the most of everything you do, from setting the right example to providing for your kids financial needs and more.

4. You have to be supportive

Being a parent could be a challenge. Especially if it is something you are new to. Try and learn how to be supportive. Your significant other will need this when you are tending for the baby. And even if it is just you, you have to be supportive of any other person that will be willing to provide assistance to your raising a baby.

5. You have to be appreciative

There are challenges with being a parent. And sometimes it is so easy to ignore the gift and start looking at the obstacles. Now that you are not yet a parent, try and focus on appreciating the gifts of responsibility and engagement you have.

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6. You have to be relationally connected

To be a better and a more successful parent depends on how connected you are to your spouse or friends. Being able to be connected with others means you can benefit from these connections and infuse them in the relationship with you and your child/children.

7. You have to be able to manage your emotions

If you are having issues with anger, anxiety or depression it is important you start working on these things before you have kids. Your ability to be able to regulate your emotions determines how less needy you are on others or how your emotions are triggered by other people.

8. You have to be responsible

Responsibility means taking charge. When you become a parent you will have to take charge of your financial, spiritual, emotional, physical and moral growth. It is important for you to be more responsible for these things before you become a parent.

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9. You have to take care of your health

You are the vehicle to your child’s success in life. You have to make sure your health whether spiritual, mental, emotional or physical is in the right shape. You do not want to constantly offer your kids resentment, anger and criticism.

10. You have to be consistent

You have to show stability. Stability and adaptability may correlate but what stability offers you is a direction, purpose and an assurance. To be a parent you have to be willing to do things consistently and stay in line with doing these things to make your kids happy.

 

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Last Updated on January 5, 2022

How to Help Your Child to Get Better Grades

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How to Help Your Child to Get Better Grades

Children are most likely to say that they want to just lounge around or rest for a while after spending hours listening to lecture after lecture from their teachers. There is nothing wrong with this if they had a rough day.

What’s disturbing, is if they deliberately stay away from schoolwork or procrastinate when it comes to reviewing for their tests or completing an important science project.

When it seems that it is becoming a habit for your child to put off school work, it’s time for you to step in and help your child develop good study habits to get better grades. It is important for you to emphasize to your child the importance of setting priorities early in life. Don’t wait for them to flunk their tests, or worse, fail in their subjects before you talk to them about it.

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You can help your children hurdle their tests with these 7 tips:

1. Help them set targets

Ask your child what they want to achieve for that particular school year. Tell them to set a specific goal or target. If they say, “I want to get better grades,” tell them to be more specific. It will be better if they say they want to get a GPA of 2.5 or higher. Having a definite target will make it easier for them to undertake a series of actions to achieve their goals, instead of just “shooting for the moon.”

2. Preparation is key

At the start of the school year, teachers provide an outline of a subject’s scope along with a reading list and other course requirements. Make sure that your child has all the materials they need for these course requirements. Having these materials on hand will make sure that your child will have no reason to procrastinate and give them the opportunity to study in advance.

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3. Teach them to mark important dates

You may opt to give them a small notebook where they can jot down important dates or a planner that has dates where they can list their schedule. Ask them to show this to you so you can give them “gentle reminders” to block off the whole week before the dates of an exam. During this week, advise your child to not schedule any social activity so they can concentrate on studying.

4. Schedule regular study time

Encourage your child to set aside at least two hours every day to go through their lessons. This will help them remember the lectures for the day and understand the concepts they were taught. They should be encouraged to spend more time on subjects or concepts that they do not understand.

5. Get help

Some kids find it hard to digest or absorb mathematical or scientific concepts. Ask your child if they are having difficulties with their subjects and if they would like to seek the help of a tutor. There is nothing wrong in asking for the assistance of a tutor who can explain complex subjects.

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6. Schedule some “downtime”

Your child needs to relax from time to time. During his break, you can consider bringing your child to the nearest mall or grocery store and get them a treat. You may play board games with them during their downtime. The idea is to take his mind off studying for a limited period of time.

7. Reward your child

If your child achieves their goals for the school year, you may give them a reward such as buying them the gadget they have always wanted or allowing them to vacation wherever they want. By doing this, you are telling your child that hard work does pay off.

Conclusion

You need to take the time to monitor your child’s performance in school. Your guidance is essential to helping your child realize the need to prioritize their school activities. As a parent, your ultimate goal is to expose your child to habits that will lay down the groundwork for their future success.

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