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7 Invaluable Lessons You Can Learn From Single Moms

7 Invaluable Lessons You Can Learn From Single Moms

Single moms have to learn on the job.
The knowledge of what it takes to be a successful single mother doesn’t just arrive in your mind immediately. Rather it takes a willingness to adapt to what is before you. The way single mothers approach life offers lessons for every one of us.

They are independent

Single moms do not expect any handouts from anyone and they do well to give their family the kind of lifestyle and resources that they need. It’s about working hard and sometimes fighting through the storm, to make sure they are able to provide what their family needs. In working hard for everything she has, a single mom is able to inspire her kids to be independent and understand that a major determinant for success is not waiting for anyone to help you out, but going all out to get what you want for yourself.

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They don’t complain

Of course, through the process of making home a satisfying place for her kids to be, there will be tough times. But throughout these tough times single moms don’t complain or start allocating blame for this problem, or that problem. They simply work harder and try to solve their problems, rather than whine or make the situation out to be worse than it actually is.

They stretch themselves

It is tough being a single mother, a provider for the home, and learning new skills can be a frequent occurrence. Single moms don’t settle; sometimes this means they go back to school, participate in a seminar, or challenge themselves with a new form of training. Single moms stretch themselves emotionally and physically to give their children the best. In doing so, they demonstrate a major lesson in life, which is to never settle for being average and to always push yourself towards excellence- no matter what odds you are up against.

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They learn to forgive

Life doesn’t simply hand out rewards to you. You have to earn it. Also, in doing so, you must maintain the right attitude. Although most single mums have gone through pain or a loss, they do not let this rule their world. They let go and move on. They never let adversity harden their spirit. They are positive and want to make the best out of their situation. In life you shouldn’t hold on to a grudge or become bitter about everything around you, rather focus on contributing to the world positively.

They are not wasteful

Being a single mom means that you have to appreciate everything you have and sometimes you have to manage your resources appropriately. It takes creativity to manage money because you understand that some days will be bright and others will be stormy. Some days will be colorful and others colorless. It takes initiative and judiciousness to get through dark periods with stability and resilience. Hence, even when they are experiencing fruitful times, single moms know the importance of planning and preparing for the rainy days ahead. Single moms learn to maximize what they have, instead of focusing on what they lack.

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They learn to be happy

At the end of the day, it isn’t having it all that makes you happy. There is joy to be found in the simple things, like watching your kids grow, seeing them graduate- or finding out that they’ll be starting their own family. It is not about having it all, but being appreciative for what you do have.

They know they are complete, regardless of the situation

You don’t have to look for someone to complete you. Single moms are complete and even if they don’t have a romantic partner to appreciate them, they know there’s no point in breaking a sweat about it. They pursue their dreams. They fight through the storm and focus on their own strength, becoming more confident and sure of themselves in the process.

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Last Updated on July 3, 2020

30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

In today’s world, true peace must come from within us and our own actions. Here are 30 small things you can do on a regular basis to increase your overall sense of harmony, peace, and well-being:

1. Don’t go to every fight you’re invited to

Particularly when you’re around those who thrive on chaos, be willing to decline the invitation to join in on the drama.

2. Focus on your breath

Throughout the day, stop to take a few deep breaths. Keep stress at bay with techniques such as “square breathing.” Breathe in for four counts, hold for four counts, then out for four counts, and hold again for four counts. Repeat this cycle four times.

3. Get organized and purge old items

A cluttered space often creates a cluttered spirit. Take the time to get rid of anything you haven’t used in a year and invest in organizational systems that help you sustain a level of neatness.

4. Stop yourself from being judgmental

Whenever you are tempted to have an opinion about someone else’s life, check your intentions. Judging others creates and promotes negative energy.

5. Say ‘thank you’ early and often

Start and end each day with an attitude of gratitude. Look for opportunities in your daily routine and interactions to express appreciation.

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6. Smile more

Even if you have to “fake it until you make it,” there are many scientific benefits of smiling and laughing. Also, pay attention to your facial expression when you are doing neutral activities such as driving and walking. Turn that frown upside down!

7. Don’t worry about the future

As difficult as this sounds, there is a direct connection between staying in the present and living a more peaceful life. You cannot control the future. As the old proverb goes, “Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it won’t get you anywhere.” Practice gently bringing your thoughts back to the present.

8. Eat real food

The closer the food is to the state from which it came from the earth, the better you will feel in eating it. Choose foods that grew from a plant over food that was made in a plant.

9. Choose being happy over being right

Too often, we sacrifice inner peace in order to make a point. It’s rarely worth it.

10. Keep technology out of the bedroom

Many studies, such as one conducted by Brigham and Women’s Hospital, have connected blue light of electronic devices before bed to adverse sleep and overall health. To make matters worse, many people report that they cannot resist checking email and social media when their cell phone is in reach of their bed, regardless of the time.

11. Make use of filtering features on social media

You may not want to “unfriend” someone completely, however you can choose whether you want to follow their posts and/or the sources of information that they share.

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12. Get comfortable with silence

When you picture someone who is the ultimate state of peace, typically they aren’t talking.

13. Listen to understand, not to respond

So often in conversations, we use our ears to give us cues about when it is our turn to say what we want to say. Practice active listening, ask questions, process, then speak.

14. Put your troubles in a bubble

Whenever you start to feel anxious, visualize the situation being wrapped in a bubble and then picture that sphere floating away.

15. Speak more slowly

Often a lack of peace manifests itself in fast or clipped speech. Take a breath, slow down, and let your thoughtful consideration drive your words.

16. Don’t procrastinate

Nothing adds stress to our lives like waiting until the last minute.

17. Buy a coloring book

Mandala coloring books for adults are becoming more popular because of their connection to creating inner peace.

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18. Prioritize yourself

You are the only person who you are guaranteed to live with 24 hours a day for the rest of your life.

19. Forgive others

Holding a grudge is hurting you exponentially more than anyone else. Let it go.

20. Check your expectations

Presumption often leads to drama. Remember the old saying, “Expectations are premeditated resentments.”

21. Engage in active play

Let your inner child come out and have some fun. Jump, dance, play, and pretend!

22. Stop criticizing yourself

The world is a hard enough place with more than enough critics. Your life is not served well by being one of them.

23. Focus your energy and attention on what you want

Thoughts, words, and actions all create energy. Energy attracts like energy. Put out what you want to get back.

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24. Assign yourself “complaint free” days.

Make a conscious decision not to complain about anything for a whole day. It might be harder than you think and the awareness will stick with you.

25. Surround yourself with people you truly enjoy being in the company of

Personalities tend to be contagious, and not everyone’s is worth catching. Be judicious in your choices.

26. Manage your money

Financial concerns rank top on the list of what causes people stress. Take the time each month to do a budget, calculate what you actually spend and sanity check that against the money you have coming in.

27. Stop trying to control everything

Not only is your inner control freak sabotaging your sense of peace, it is also likely getting in the way of external relationships as well.

28. Practice affirmations

Repeat positive phrases that depict the life and qualities you want to attract. It may not come naturally to you, but it works.

29. Get up before sunrise

Personally witnessing the dawn brings a unique sense of awe and appreciation for life.

30. Be yourself

Nothing creates more inner discord than trying to be something other than who we really are. Authenticity breeds happiness.

Featured photo credit: man watching sunrise via stokpic.com

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