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7 Invaluable Lessons You Can Learn From Single Moms

7 Invaluable Lessons You Can Learn From Single Moms

Single moms have to learn on the job.
The knowledge of what it takes to be a successful single mother doesn’t just arrive in your mind immediately. Rather it takes a willingness to adapt to what is before you. The way single mothers approach life offers lessons for every one of us.

They are independent

Single moms do not expect any handouts from anyone and they do well to give their family the kind of lifestyle and resources that they need. It’s about working hard and sometimes fighting through the storm, to make sure they are able to provide what their family needs. In working hard for everything she has, a single mom is able to inspire her kids to be independent and understand that a major determinant for success is not waiting for anyone to help you out, but going all out to get what you want for yourself.

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They don’t complain

Of course, through the process of making home a satisfying place for her kids to be, there will be tough times. But throughout these tough times single moms don’t complain or start allocating blame for this problem, or that problem. They simply work harder and try to solve their problems, rather than whine or make the situation out to be worse than it actually is.

They stretch themselves

It is tough being a single mother, a provider for the home, and learning new skills can be a frequent occurrence. Single moms don’t settle; sometimes this means they go back to school, participate in a seminar, or challenge themselves with a new form of training. Single moms stretch themselves emotionally and physically to give their children the best. In doing so, they demonstrate a major lesson in life, which is to never settle for being average and to always push yourself towards excellence- no matter what odds you are up against.

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They learn to forgive

Life doesn’t simply hand out rewards to you. You have to earn it. Also, in doing so, you must maintain the right attitude. Although most single mums have gone through pain or a loss, they do not let this rule their world. They let go and move on. They never let adversity harden their spirit. They are positive and want to make the best out of their situation. In life you shouldn’t hold on to a grudge or become bitter about everything around you, rather focus on contributing to the world positively.

They are not wasteful

Being a single mom means that you have to appreciate everything you have and sometimes you have to manage your resources appropriately. It takes creativity to manage money because you understand that some days will be bright and others will be stormy. Some days will be colorful and others colorless. It takes initiative and judiciousness to get through dark periods with stability and resilience. Hence, even when they are experiencing fruitful times, single moms know the importance of planning and preparing for the rainy days ahead. Single moms learn to maximize what they have, instead of focusing on what they lack.

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They learn to be happy

At the end of the day, it isn’t having it all that makes you happy. There is joy to be found in the simple things, like watching your kids grow, seeing them graduate- or finding out that they’ll be starting their own family. It is not about having it all, but being appreciative for what you do have.

They know they are complete, regardless of the situation

You don’t have to look for someone to complete you. Single moms are complete and even if they don’t have a romantic partner to appreciate them, they know there’s no point in breaking a sweat about it. They pursue their dreams. They fight through the storm and focus on their own strength, becoming more confident and sure of themselves in the process.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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