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How to Deal with Getting Fired

How to Deal with Getting Fired

Getting fired sucks. Not only does rejection sting in any form, but you’ll find yourself in a position where you’re facing a pile of paperwork, no income, and the stress of finding a new job while struggling to keep a roof over your head, food in your stomach, and all your bills current. When you have children or other dependents, things get even harder.

I’m a bank whistleblower, and although I quit my job at the bank, my boss had corporate security call the police to label me a terrorist. I was blacklisted and only barely escaped being incarcerated for speaking out. It affected me more than any other job loss in my life. So, where do you go from that point?

Assess Your Financial Situation

Coping with the reality of being fired is necessary to move on with your life. Just like any other loss, you have to face the different stages of grief, and you had better do it quick because the economy is terrible and you need to focus on staying afloat. The first thing you need to do is get your finances straight. You need to consider:

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1. Unemployment. What was the reason you were fired? Do you qualify for unemployment? Even if you believe you don’t, apply anyway.

2. Food Stamps/Health Care/Financial Assistance. When you lose your job, you also lose your benefits. Your health insurance plan converts to an expensive COBRA plan, and starting this year, you can be fined for not carrying insurance. Apply for state benefits – the application will cover food stamps, health insurance, and financial assistance. Figure out what state benefits you’ve earned.

3. Retirement. If you have a 401k, IRA, or other retirement plan with your old company, call your provider to find out what benefits you’ve had vested. If you don’t have enough in your 401k, you’ll receive a check for the balance, and you can withdraw from it no matter what the balance is. The tax penalties for early withdrawals are stiff, however, so be sure to take this into account.

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4. Savings and Bills. Figure out exactly how much money you have and how much your bills are. You’ll need enough to cover at least three months of expenses. If you don’t have enough, it’s time to start cutting expenses.

Reduce Your Outgoings

Deciding which expenses to cut can be confusing. The first thing to cut is cable, which is the most expensive non-essential bill in most people’s lives. When I lost my job after blowing the whistle on the banks, I cut everything down to rent, electricity, water, and an Internet connection. Nothing else was necessary. I started cooking more to save money, and I learned how little I actually needed to make it through the day happy.

You don’t realize how many bills you actually have. There are recurring payments and wasted opportunities all over your life. Many people are paying for extra premium levels of cable, Hulu, Amazon Prime, Xbox Live, iTunes purchases, cell phone insurance, store warranties, and all sorts of non-essentials that you never use or could easily work around.

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The hardest part about losing your job is the lifestyle change. You have to admit to yourself that you can no longer afford the luxuries you once spent on. You won’t see movies on opening night, eating out is a terrible idea, and you’re better off learning to make your own repairs than paying someone else to do them. It’s not impossible though.

Rally Your Supporters

It’s important to be honest with other people as well. Talk to friends and family about losing your job – they’ll provide emotional support and may even provide financial support. No man is an island, and you’ll need a strong support system to work through your issues. At the very least, they’ll know you can’t afford to spend money, so you’ll avoid a lot of future awkwardness explaining why you can’t afford to hang out with them. When they do invite you to something that costs money or requires you to bring something, they’ll usually let you slide on it as well. Just be careful not to abuse that love – nobody likes a mooch.

If you got fired, there’s nothing you can do about it except pick up the pieces and move forward. Take a little bit of time to yourself to scream and cry it out, and then put on a happy face and get back in the fight.

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Featured photo credit: Mike Joseph via flickr.com

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Last Updated on March 29, 2021

5 Types of Horrible Bosses and How to Beat Them All

5 Types of Horrible Bosses and How to Beat Them All

When I left university I took a job immediately, I had been lucky as I had spent a year earning almost nothing as an intern so I was offered a role. On my first day I found that I had not been allocated a desk, there was no one to greet me so I was left for some hours ignored. I happened to snipe about this to another employee at the coffee machine two things happened. The first was that the person I had complained to was my new manager’s wife, and the second was, in his own words, ‘that he would come down on me like a ton of bricks if I crossed him…’

What a great start to a job! I had moved to a new city, and had been at work for less than a morning when I had my first run in with the first style of bad manager. I didn’t stay long enough to find out what Mr Agressive would do next. Bad managers are a major issue. Research from Approved Index shows that more than four in ten employees (42%) state that they have previously quit a job because of a bad manager.

The Dream Type Of Manager

My best manager was a total opposite. A man who had been the head of the UK tax system and was working his retirement running a company I was a very junior and green employee for. I made a stupid mistake, one which cost a lot of time and money and I felt I was going to be sacked without doubt.

I was nervous, beating myself up about what I had done, what would happen. At the end of the day I was called to his office, he had made me wait and I had spent that day talking to other employees, trying to understand where I had gone wrong. It had been a simple mistyped line of code which sent a massive print job out totally wrong. I learn how I should have done it and I fretted.

My boss asked me to step into his office, he asked me to sit down. “Do you know what you did?” I babbled, yes, I had been stupid, I had not double-checked or asked for advice when I was doing something I had not really understood. It was totally my fault. He paused. “Will you do that again?” Of course I told him I would not, I would always double check, ask for help and not try to be so clever when I was not!

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“Okay…”

That was it. I paused and asked, should I clear my desk. He smiled. “You have learnt a valuable lesson, I can be sure that you will never make a mistake like that again. Why would I want to get rid of an employee who knows that?”

I stayed with that company for many years, the way I was treated was a real object lesson in good management. Sadly, far too many poor managers exist out there.

The Complete Catalogue of Bad Managers

The Bully

My first boss fitted into the classic bully class. This is so often the ‘old school’ management by power style. I encountered this style again in the retail sector where one manager felt the only way to get the best from staff was to bawl and yell.

However, like so many bullies you will often find that this can be someone who either knows no better or is under stress and they are themselves running scared of the situation they have found themselves in.

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The Invisible Boss

This can either present itself as management from afar (usually the golf course or ‘important meetings) or just a boss who is too busy being important to deal with their staff.

It can feel refreshing as you will often have almost total freedom with your manager taking little or no interest in your activities, however you will soon find that you also lack the support that a good manager will provide. Without direction you may feel you are doing well just to find that you are not delivering against expectations you were not told about and suddenly it is all your fault.

The Micro Manager

The frustration of having a manager who feels the need to be involved in everything you do. The polar opposite to the Invisible Boss you will feel that there is no trust in your work as they will want to meddle in everything you do.

Dealing with the micro-manager can be difficult. Often their management style comes from their own insecurity. You can try confronting them, tell them that you can do your job however in many cases this will not succeed and can in fact make things worse.

The Over Promoted Boss

The Over promoted boss categorises someone who has no idea. They have found themselves in a management position through service, family or some corporate mystery. They are people who are not only highly unqualified to be managers they will generally be unable to do even your job.

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You can find yourself persistently frustrated by the situation you are in, however it can seem impossible to get out without handing over your resignation.

The Credit Stealer

The credit stealer is the boss who will never publically acknowledge the work you do. You will put in the extra hours working on a project and you know that, in the ‘big meeting’ it will be your credit stealing boss who will take all of the credit!

Again it is demoralising, you see all of the credit for your labour being stolen and this can often lead to good employees looking for new careers.

3 Essential Ways to Work (Cope) with Bad Managers

Whatever type of bad boss you have there are certain things that you can do to ensure that you get the recognition and protection you require to not only remain sane but to also build your career.

1. Keep evidence

Whether it is incidents with the bully or examples of projects you have completed with the credit stealer you will always be well served to keep notes and supporting evidence for projects you are working on.

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Buy your own notebook and ensure that you are always making notes, it becomes a habit and a very useful one as you have a constant reminder as well as somewhere to explore ideas.

Importantly, if you do have to go to HR or stand-up for yourself you will have clear records! Also, don’t always trust that corporate servers or emails will always be available or not tampered with. Keep your own content.

2. Hold regular meetings

Ensure that you make time for regular meetings with your boss. This is especially useful for the over-promoted or the invisible boss to allow you to ‘manage upwards’. Take charge where you can to set your objectives and use these meetings to set clear objectives and document the status of your work.

3. Stand your ground, but be ready to jump…

Remember that you don’t have to put up with poor management. If you have issues you should face them with your boss, maybe they do not know that they are coming across in a bad way.

However, be ready to recognise if the situation is not going to change. If that is the case, keep your head down and get working on polishing your CV! If it isn’t working, there will be something better out there for you!

Good luck!

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