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Prepare for Parenthood in 10 Easy Steps

Prepare for Parenthood in 10 Easy Steps

So, you are toying with the thought of having children or you have a child on the way? Congratulations! While this is a magical time in any man’s and woman’s life and you should be joyful, the whole thing might not be as fairy-tale-like as you were led to believe by popular culture. Sugar, rainbows and unicorns are nowhere to be found and you will soon realize how easily you had it when you were just a couple with no progeny.

Surprised baby

    You want to prepare for parenthood? Well, here are a few effective ways of doing this – you are not going to like them, but here they are anyway.

    1. Say goodbye to your friends

    Since you are going to be a parent and a provider at the same time, you are going to have to cut down on some things in your life in order to save time.  Going out and spending time with friends will be the first thing to go. Don’t worry, this will happen rather naturally. You won’t have to restrain yourself from going out; you will be too busy running around doing all kinds of important things like changing dippers and not sleeping. You can keep friends that have kids though. After all, there is strength in numbers!

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    2. Get used to irregular sleeping patterns

    The first year of being a parent will be known as the year of no sleep. The child will demand constant attention and it will not care about the fact that you need your beauty sleep. You can economize on your sleep by dividing the duty with your spouse, but this will not guarantee you a good night’s sleep.

    Baby monitor

      3. Prepare for high stress levels

      Most childhood-s tend to be carefree – it only makes sense that most parenthood-s are stressful times. Kids have a tendency to fall, bleed, get lost, get sick and do all this with magnificent carelessness. You have to think for them and this doesn’t do well by your nerves and anxiety levels.

      4. Prepare your feet for stepping on small objects

      There is no such thing as a tidy toddler. No matter how much effort your put into clearing away the clutter in your home, the kids will always find a way to set traps for you and you should get used to the pain or get that ninja caution going. No move is safe!

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      5. Learn that being stain free isn’t always possible

      If you have a favorite shirt, lock it up somewhere and don’t pull it out until your child is at least 10 if you want to keep it safe. Cleanliness is next to godliness, but even God won’t save you from the stains a kid can pull off.  After all, it is a thin line between food and throwing ammunition to a child.

      6. Say farewell to your privacy

      You thought work didn’t leave you and your spouse with enough time for each other? Think again! A child demands a lot of attention and peace and quiet when it’s sleeping time. They also have a sixth sense to anticipate your intimacy time and interrupt it in new and funny ways, every damn time.

      Mommy daddy and baby

        After a while, it stops being funny. It is a good idea to prepare for this by learning to be fast and effective when it comes to the bedroom pleasures, since you won’t have hours to enjoy yourselves once the baby comes.

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        7. Learn to have constant companionship and one less arm

        Have you ever felt lonely before? Well, you will be craving some alone time after the baby comes, not to mention when it starts walking and following you everywhere. The skill of holding a child’s hand while buying groceries, tidying up your home or whatever else is an art form you will have to master. It’s not that the child will be clingy. They will protest loudly about being forced to follow you wherever you go finishing errands. Your kid would be more than happy to go running around on its own, but you and I know that’s not a very good idea.

        8. Realize that your salary is very small

        How’s your bank account? Steadily growing? Well, growth time is now officially over. Congratulations, you now are officially broke! You need to setup a nursery, buy baby clothes (and buy some more every month since babies tend to grow), get all the necessary baby stuff, start thinking about a college fund (it is never too early) and loads more. You wanted to go on a vacation? Sure, you can do that as soon as your child is off to college!

        9. Realize that your home just got a whole lot smaller

        Baby hands on the carpet

          If you two lovebirds thought that your love shack is just the right size, think again! Children need their own room and, on top of that, they have a tendency to shrink the rooms they spend time in on a daily basis. They work this magic by throwing toys around, spilling things on floors and carpets, toppling over laps, vases and other ornaments. A studio apartment just won’t cut it anymore.

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          10. Get used to watching children’s’ programs

          This won’t take long to get used to, since after a whole day’s work around the child and no sleep, you will not have the mental capacity to deal with anything more complex than a children’s show. You will be thankful for its numbingly anesthetic effects and the fact that it is keeping your kid firmly rooted in one place.

          You scared yet? Well, you should be. Bringing a child into this world isn’t a decision you should take lightly and you should be aware that it comes with a set of difficulties you need to be prepared for. Don’t let this discourage you though. Parenting is deeply set into your genetic code and the instincts will kick in when a child is born. Read up on the subject during pregnancy and plan out your future well to avoid more stress and you should be fine. Once again, congratulations and may you have great moments with your family.

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          Ivan Dimitrijevic

          Ivan is the CEO and founder of a digital marketing company. He has years of experiences in team management, entrepreneurship and productivity.

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          Last Updated on November 5, 2019

          How to Cultivate Continuous Learning to Stay Competitive

          How to Cultivate Continuous Learning to Stay Competitive

          Assuming the public school system didn’t crush your soul, learning is a great activity. It expands your viewpoint. It gives you new knowledge you can use to improve your life. It is important for your personal growth. Even if you discount the worldly benefits, the act of learning can be a source of enjoyment.

          “I have never let my schooling interfere with my education.” — Mark Twain

          But in a busy world, it can often be hard to fit in time to learn anything that isn’t essential. The only things learned are those that need to be. Everything beyond that is considered frivolous. Even those who do appreciate the practice of lifelong learning, can find it difficult to make the effort.

          Here are some tips for installing the habit of continuous learning:

          1. Always Have a Book

          It doesn’t matter if it takes you a year or a week to read a book. Always strive to have a book that you are reading through, and take it with you so you can read it when you have time.

          Just by shaving off a few minutes in-between activities in my day I can read about a book per week. That’s at least fifty each year.

          2. Keep a “To-Learn” List

          We all have to-do lists. These are the tasks we need to accomplish. Try to also have a “to-learn” list. On it you can write ideas for new areas of study.

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          Maybe you would like to take up a new language, learn a skill or read the collective works of Shakespeare. Whatever motivates you, write it down.

          3. Get More Intellectual Friends

          Start spending more time with people who think. Not just people who are smart, but people who actually invest much of their time in learning new skills. Their habits will rub off on you.

          Even better, they will probably share some of their knowledge with you.

          4. Guided Thinking

          Albert Einstein once said,

          “Any man who reads too much and uses his own brain too little falls into lazy habits of thinking.”

          Simply studying the wisdom of others isn’t enough, you have to think through ideas yourself. Spend time journaling, meditating or contemplating over ideas you have learned.

          5. Put it Into Practice

          Skill based learning is useless if it isn’t applied. Reading a book on C++ isn’t the same thing as writing a program. Studying painting isn’t the same as picking up a brush.

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          If your knowledge can be applied, put it into practice.

          In this information age, we’re all exposed to a lot of information, it’s important to re-learn how to learn so as to put the knowledge into practice.

          6. Teach Others

          You learn what you teach. If you have an outlet of communicating ideas to others, you are more likely to solidify that learning.

          Start a blog, mentor someone or even discuss ideas with a friend.

          7. Clean Your Input

          Some forms of learning are easy to digest, but often lack substance.

          I make a point of regularly cleaning out my feed reader for blogs I subscribe to. Great blogs can be a powerful source of new ideas. But every few months, I realize I’m collecting posts from blogs that I am simply skimming.

          Every few months, purify your input to save time and focus on what counts.

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          8. Learn in Groups

          Lifelong learning doesn’t mean condemning yourself to a stack of dusty textbooks. Join organizations that teach skills.

          Workshops and group learning events can make educating yourself a fun, social experience.

          9. Unlearn Assumptions

          You can’t add water to a full cup. I always try to maintain a distance away from any idea. Too many convictions simply mean too few paths for new ideas.

          Actively seek out information that contradicts your worldview.

          Our minds can’t be trusted, but this is what we can do about it to be wiser.

          10. Find Jobs that Encourage Learning

          Pick a career that encourages continual learning. If you are in a job that doesn’t have much intellectual freedom, consider switching to one that does.

          Don’t spend forty hours of your week in a job that doesn’t challenge you.

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          11. Start a Project

          Set out to do something you don’t know how. Forced learning in this way can be fun and challenging.

          If you don’t know anything about computers, try building one. If you consider yourself a horrible artist, try a painting.

          12. Follow Your Intuition

          Lifelong learning is like wandering through the wilderness. You can’t be sure what to expect and there isn’t always an end goal in mind.

          Letting your intuition guide you can make self-education more enjoyable. Most of our lives have been broken down to completely logical decisions, that making choices on a whim has been stamped out.

          13. The Morning Fifteen

          Productive people always wake up early. Use the first fifteen minutes of your morning as a period for education.

          If you find yourself too groggy, you might want to wait a short time. Just don’t put it off later in the day where urgent activities will push it out of the way.

          14. Reap the Rewards

          Learn information you can use. Understanding the basics of programming allows me to handle projects that other people would require outside help. Meeting a situation that makes use of your educational efforts can be a source of pride.

          15. Make Learning a Priority

          Few external forces are going to persuade you to learn. The desire has to come from within. Once you decide you want to make lifelong learning a habit, it is up to you to make it a priority in your life.

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