“Happiness is not something ready-made. It comes from your own actions.” Dalai Lama XIV
Well, that’s good news. If you find your days are gloomy and you are always frowning, you can make changes to get back your joy. Now, take the time to look into your life. As a woman, are you always trying to juggle too many things like an octopus? Or are you expecting too much from a relationship? If you wish to bring back that smile, check out this list and recognize the five don’ts of joy. Follow them and you’ll be on your way to happiness!
1. Don’t be too busy
“Each person deserves a day away in which no problems are confronted, no solutions searched for. Each of us needs to withdraw from the cares which will not withdraw from us.” Maya Angelou
Although responsibilities are inevitable, stress is optional. Let no tension crash your happiness. It’s all about give and take. If you use up a lot of time, energy and effort on your tasks, don’t forget to refuel yourself. Detach yourself from everything and bask in your carefree “me time.” Revitalize!
2. Don’t care about the jokers
“Why should we worry about what others think of us, do we have more confidence in their opinions than we do our own?” Brigham Young
Some people will put all kinds of unpleasant tags on you. Let them. You need to ask yourself whether you agree with what they’ve said. I’d bet you don’t. You don’t need their approval or admiration. Only allow bright and beautiful things in your life. These weak, pitiful jokers don’t deserve your attention. Ignore them.Advertising
3. Don’t be stingy
“Put coconut oil in your hair, exercise, take hot showers, massage lotion into your skin, eat food that makes you feel good, stretch, lay around in bed, and listen music that makes you feel happy. Just do you.” Unknown
You work hard, and you strive to be the very best version of yourself all the time. But, remember to be generous in pampering yourself. Spend time or money to enjoy something you like. Nope… I’m not asking you to buy a 10 carat diamond ring right away. It doesn’t have to be something big. Every little pleasure and thing you do to care for yourself can make your soul delightful.
4. Don’t be too dependent
“Date yourself. Take yourself out to eat. Don’t share your popcorn at the movies with anyone. Stroll around an art museum alone. Fall in love with canvases. Fall in love with yourself.” Unknown
Don’t put your happiness into other people’s hands. You can’t always wait for him to give you flowers, gifts and most importantly… love. Learn to be with yourself. Yes, you, alone. Be respectful to yourself. Listen to your heart and wishes and fulfill them yourself. You don’t rely solely on others; you give yourself joy.
5. Don’t belittle yourself
“I am so beautiful, sometimes people weep when they see me. And it has nothing to do with what I look like really, it is just that I gave myself the power to say that I am beautiful, and if I could do that, maybe there is hope for them too. And the great divide between the beautiful and the ugly will cease to be. Because we are all what we choose.” Margaret Cho
No one is obliged to meet the media’s standard of beauty. Comparison will only tear up your confidence and happiness. Now just look into the mirror and ask, “So what if I’m not slim? So what if I’m not perfect?” The truth is, no one is perfect. Love the way you are. And remember, you don’t need to be pretty to be happy; you need to be happy to be pretty.Advertising
There you are! Those are the five dont’s you should keep in mind to be a happy woman. Do you have other tips for joy? Tell us in the comments.
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Last Updated on May 15, 2019
How to Tap Into the Power of Positivity
As it appears, the human mind is not capable of not thinking, at least on the subconscious level. Our mind is always occupied by thoughts, whether we want to or not, and they influence our every action.
“Happiness cannot come from without, it comes from within.” – Helen Keller
When we are still children, our thoughts seem to be purely positive. Have you ever been around a 4-year old who doesn’t like a painting he or she drew? I haven’t. Instead, I see glee, exciting and pride in children’s eyes. But as the years go by, we clutter our mind with doubts, fears and self-deprecating thoughts.
Just imagine then how much we limit ourselves in every aspect of our lives if we give negative thoughts too much power! We’ll never go after that job we’ve always wanted because our nay-saying thoughts make us doubt our abilities. We’ll never ask that person we like out on a date because we always think we’re not good enough.
We’ll never risk quitting our job in order to pursue the life and the work of our dreams because we can’t get over our mental barrier that insists we’re too weak, too unimportant and too dumb. We’ll never lose those pounds that risk our health because we believe we’re not capable of pushing our limits. We’ll never be able to fully see our inner potential because we simply don’t dare to question the voices in our head.
But enough is enough! It’s time to stop these limiting beliefs and come to a place of sanity, love and excitement about life, work and ourselves.
So…how exactly are we to achieve that?
It’s not as hard as it may seem; you just have to practice, practice, practice. Here are a few ideas on how you can get started.
1. Learn to substitute every negative thought with a positive one.
Every time a negative thought crawls into your mind, replace it with a positive thought. It’s just like someone writes a phrase you don’t like on a blackboard and then you get up, erase it and write something much more to your liking.
2. See the positive side of every situation, even when you are surrounded by pure negativity.
This one is a bit harder to put into practice, which does not mean it’s impossible.
You can find positivity in everything by mentally holding on to something positive, whether this be family, friends, your faith, nature, someone’s sparkling eyes or whatever other glimmer of beauty. If you seek it, you will find it.
3. At least once a day, take a moment and think of 5 things you are grateful for.
This will lighten your mood and give you some perspective of what is really important in life and how many blessings surround you already.
4. Change the mental images you allow to enter your mind.
How you see yourself and your surroundings make a huge difference to your thinking. It is like watching a DVD that saddens and frustrates you, completely pulling you down. Eject that old DVD, throw it away and insert a new, better, more hopeful one instead.
So, instead of dwelling on dark, negative thoughts, consciously build and focus on positive, light and colorful images, thoughts and situations in your mind a few times a day.
If you are persistent and keep on working on yourself, your mind will automatically reject its negative thoughts and welcome the positive ones.
And remember: You are (or will become) what you think you are. This is reason enough to be proactive about whatever is going on in your head.
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