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These 27 Old Couples Will Remind You What Love Is All About

These 27 Old Couples Will Remind You What Love Is All About

As far as I’m concerned, there are few things as adorable as sweet old couples. Think about it: how many times have you cracked a smile at a pair of cute old-timers holding hands in the street? If you’re anything like me, seeing love thrive for so long and endure the test of time is not only heart-warming, it’s inspirational. It makes me want to work that much harder on my own relationship so that one day my other half and I can one day too rock matching canes! Sweet old couples remind us that if you try hard enough, anything is possible—even epic love stories spanning generations. With that said, here are 27 lessons about love that we can learn from possibly the greatest relationship gurus out there!

1. Don’t forget the small touches

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    While grand, sweeping gestures are lovely every once in a while, it’s the little, frequent ones that will make your partner feel loved on a daily basis. A kiss hello or goodbye, a cup of tea while your other half is working to show them you care, a quick shoulder rub in front of the television, a single rose if you’re feeling particularly romantic, or simply offering to take the rubbish out for once. You may find these things insignificant, but the small things really do nurture relationships in time.

    2. “Love is not a matter of counting the years, But making the years count.” (Michelle Amand)

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      3. Couples who laugh together stay together!

      Sweet Old Couples

        Sharing a giggle with the one you love has to be one of the most invigorating and bond-strengthening things ever, am I right? If you can’t quite get the laughs going on your own, why not pop a funny film on the television or watch a silly video on YouTube together? You’ll not only feel happier, but also closer to your partner.

        4. Get physical

        Sweet Old Couples

          No, I don’t mean that (although that’s fantastic, too!)—but physical contact with your lover is crucial to keeping that feeling of intimacy going over the years. It doesn’t have to be massively awkward public displays of affection (no-one wants to be that couple, surely?) but a kiss on the forehead, a comforting stroke on the back of the neck, a massage or even holding hands will help you feel more connected to your partner. Give it a try!

          5. Listen to each other

          Sweet Old Couples

            This may seem like Relationship 101, but it’s incredibly easy to fall off the bandwagon, even with the basics! Being available to listen to your partner when she or he is having a bad day, being there to share their personal victories or hearing them out in an argument instead of ignoring them and getting your say no matter what are simple steps you can take to help your couple thrive over time. Having said that…

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            6. “You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.” (Sam Keen)

            These 27 Sweet Old Couples Give Heart-Warming Reminders About Love

              7. Communicate, communicate, communicate!

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                No matter how close you are with your other half, most of the time, they won’t be able to magically sense when you’re upset unless you get your feelings out in the open. Don’t be afraid to let it all out and communicate with your partner: keeping your thoughts bottled up is a surefire way to build up resentment over the years, while sharing them will lead to a closer relationship.

                8. Celebrate the good times together…

                Sweet Old Couples

                  While this doesn’t have to involve jumping on beds together (although, why the heck not?!), there’s something to be said for sharing happy moments with your sweetheart! Bonding over something that brings you joy is exhilarating and will make you feel closer than ever. With that said…

                  9. …And support each other through the bad

                  Sweet Old Couples

                    When things go south, be there for each other. Just like sharing the good times will make you feel closer to one another, supporting each other through rough patches will make you feel like a team.

                    10. “Love is to love someone for who they are, who they were, and who they will be.” (Chris Moore)

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                      11. Remember where you started

                      Sweet Old Couples

                        If you’re feeling a bit blah about your relationship (don’t beat yourself up, it happens!), cast your mind back to where it all began for you two! Think of happy moments and experiences you’ve shared, and remember why you fell in love in the first place. In fact, why not take this trip down memory lane with your other half? If you have photos (and a glass of wine), even better!

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                        12. Love isn’t always easy (but it’s oh-so worth it)

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                          These sweet old couples have been through thick and thin together; they’ve weathered their share of arguments. It can’t always have been easy, but then, neither life nor love are! Sticking together even through the rough patches is a test of character and of the strength of your love: if you can make it through the storm, there’s nothing that’ll get in your way!

                          13. Celebrate your love

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                            You might not be into Valentine’s Day—no matter! Find little, cute ways to celebrate your relationship. It can be a card on that most romantic of days, it can be breakfast in bed in memory of the day you first met, or a glass of champagne together in the spot you shared your first kiss. It all comes down to showing each other how much you value your love!

                            14. “Love is what you’ve been through with somebody.” (James Thurber)

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                              15. Date

                              Sweet Old Couples

                                If there’s one thing I’ve learned over the years and that these cute oldies will agree with, is the importance of dating. Even if you’ve been together for years and years, keeping a date night ritual once a week or twice a month is a lovely way to keep the romance going in your relationship! Try picking a different restaurant every month or so, go for long walks together or simply spending some quality time together, far from the madding crowd.

                                16. Remember that love is a long-lasting friendship

                                Sweet Old Couples

                                  Sure, your other half is your love interest, but they’re also (or should be!) one of your closest friends. Be silly together! Be open with each other and support each other like friends would. Have fun together. Being friends as well as lovers will add another layer to your relationship. Nurture that—it’s invaluable.

                                  17. Try something new together

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                                  Sweet Old Couples

                                    Instead of settling down in front of the television for the nth night in the row, why not try something new and different together? It’s a brilliant way of bringing some spice to your relationship!

                                    18. “Love is not who you can see yourself with. It is who you can’t see yourself without.” (Anonymous)

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                                      19. Sorry goes a long way

                                      Sweet Old Couples

                                        Sometimes, it feels like the hardest thing to say, but man, can that simple word work wonders! Try just saying “I’m sorry” next time you’re in a fight, even if you’re not necessarily in the wrong. What’s more important—being right or moving on from the problem?

                                        20. Start a tradition

                                        Sweet Old Couples

                                          Whether it’s a picnic every Sunday afternoon, pancakes at the diner every Saturday or a trip to the theatre every third Wednesday of the month, start a fun tradition together! Don’t underestimate the value of having something to look forward to on a regular basis with your loved one: not only will it give you an excuse to spend time together (as if you needed it!), it’ll also become “your thing” and you’ll be one of those couples. (You know you want to.)

                                          21. Love yourself, too

                                          Sweet Old Couples

                                            While showering your other half with love and affection is super important, don’t forget to show yourself some TLC, too! By loving yourself, you become able to love others more. It’s magic!

                                            22. “For love is immortality.” (Emily Dickinson)

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                                              23. Surprise each other!

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                                              Sweet Old Couples

                                                While having date nights and traditions is great (obviously, given that I just told you so!), there’s much to be said for spontaneity and surprising your partner every once in a while to bring a little spark back into the relationship! Unless your other half absolutely hates surprises, don’t hold back. Do something out of the ordinary every once in a while: swing by your sweetheart’s office at lunch for an impromptu bite together, have a bunch of roses delivered on a whim (a girl can only dream)… These surprises don’t necessarily have to be huge; even the smallest change to a routine can be delightful!

                                                24. Fight right

                                                Sweet Old Couples

                                                  There will be times when it’ll be tempting to lash out at your partner, using unkind words to hurt. Although satisfying in the heat of the moment, fighting unfairly—with harsh words and accusations—doesn’t help the situation. When you hit a snag in your relationship, try to keep your calm; listen to what your other half has to say and tell them how you feel, too. Communicate. Compromise. Try as best you can to not tear each other apart, because the more you do, the harder it’ll be to come back from.

                                                  25. Go on adventures together!

                                                  Sweet Old Couples

                                                    Much like trying something new together or starting a tradition will help cement your relationship and give it staying power, leaving your respective comfort zones and going on adventures together will keep that passion going! (While you’re at it, totally do what this couple’s doing and share a bike. Or a tandem! Or any other equally cute means of transportation!)

                                                    26. Choose kindness

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                                                      Choose to forgive rather than begrudge. Choose to lend a helping hand rather than be cold out of anger. Be a shoulder to cry on, rather than the accusatory finger. Choose to embrace, rather than shun. Relationships take work, and forgiveness, and compromise. Choose kindness.

                                                      27. Remember: it gets better with age!

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                                                        How to Master Effective Communication Skills at Work and Home

                                                        How to Master Effective Communication Skills at Work and Home

                                                        Possessing effective communication skills is a powerful tool to have. Effective communication skills are essential to success in many aspects and areas of your life. There are a lot of jobs that require you to be a good communicator.

                                                        Strong communication skills help you enjoy better relationships with friends and family. Being an effective communicator will give you advantages in more ways than you can imagine.

                                                        Conversely, being poor at communicating will negatively impact your life.

                                                        Let’s take a look at how to master effective communication skills at work and home.

                                                        What is Effective Communication?

                                                        Probably a good place to start is to paint a picture of what clear communication is.

                                                        Effective communication is defined as verbal speech or other communication methods to get your point across. Sounds pretty simple, right? It does but there’s more to it than that.

                                                        It’s really about how all of us interact and communicate in every aspect of our lives. It’s the ability to say something at the right time; to be able to get multiple people on the same page in a group decision. It’s how that one friend of yours who plans most of the activities is able to get everyone to the same place at the same time.

                                                        Non-verbal communication is key to being effective as well. It’s the ability to have your body language say the right thing so the person you’re speaking to knows your listening.

                                                        Effective communicators don’t react to situations with high emotion. It means not having to say something all the time in every situation. You are even being an effective communicator when you show up to pick your daughter up from the mall when you say you will. You are communicating to her that she can rely on you.

                                                        Are You a Poor Communicator?

                                                        Before we get too deep into how to be a master communicator, let’s take a look at your communication skills.

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                                                        If you find yourself agreeing with a lot of these, you might want to sharpen your communication skills.

                                                        • You’re constantly interrupting – Hey, I know, we all want to be listened to. We all want to get our point across. Most importantly, we want to be understood. If you find yourself interrupting all the time you aren’t listening enough.
                                                        • Doing too much – Many of us are master multi-taskers. It’s not good if you are communicating with someone. When you try to do too much while speaking with someone, you aren’t paying attention to what they are saying. Lack of focus is bad.
                                                        • Rambling – I know of several people I work with who do this constantly. I honestly dread having to speak to them. The worst part is even though a lot of words are coming out of their mouths, they really aren’t saying anything. I’m more confused after they answer my question.
                                                        • Not being direct – Nothing wrong with emails or reports. However, if you can convey the same information quickly and directly to someone, it is much more effective. Why write a 2 paragraph email when you can pick up the phone and say the same information in 2 sentences?
                                                        • Always talking about yourself – Everybody likes to relate things to their own experiences. It draws us together and helps us create a feeling of sharing and community. If you are always coloring someone else’s conversation with a similar situation in your life, people will think you are making everything about you. Don’t be that person!
                                                        • Using a lot of qualifiers – Qualifiers are fine for the most part. When you use them as a crutch most of the time when you speak, it’s not helping your communication. Sometimes, we do this to makes things seem “softer”. Saying things like “I don’t want you to take this the wrong way but…” or “I know what you’re thinking but…” over and over doesn’t help you communicate.
                                                        • Your ears don’t work – If you don’t listen well, you can’t answer someone correctly. In order to be an effective communicator, you have to understand what someone else is saying to you. If you don’t listen with purpose you will only have part of the picture.
                                                        • Bad body language – The importance of body language is well documented. If you don’t look at someone when they are speaking, it appears that you don’t really care what’s being said. This makes people feel like you don’t care what they are saying and it’s not important to you. Other bad body language examples include always crossing your arms and not looking someone in the eyes.

                                                        What Effective Communication Can Do For You

                                                        Let’s take a look at how being able to effectively communicate can help you at work and in your personal relationships.

                                                        Work

                                                        • Better client relationships – You certainly want a great communicator to be handling your client relationships. Strong communicators represent both the client and your company is the best manner.
                                                        • Higher employee engagement – Pretty critical if you are a leader or a manager of people. An engaging and interactive communicator in a leadership position is wonderful for employees.
                                                        • Getting better buy in from others – This is great whether you are a manager or individual contributor. Strong communicators tend to get people moving and working towards a common goal.
                                                        • Helps mitigate conflict – Good communicators are able to help resolve conflicts quicker and easier. This helps smooth things over and keeps projects and initiatives moving forward.
                                                        • Builds trust – You want to be able to trust who you work for and with. Effective communicators are good at establishing and building trust between people and groups.
                                                        • Solves problems – Problems are solved by people with the ability to communicate clearly between groups and people. Those without good communication skills many times add to the confusion of a problem because they are unable to articulate their thoughts and ideas.

                                                        Personal relationships

                                                        • Creates closeness – A good communicator is able to help foster a feeling of closeness with his or her partner.
                                                        • Makes conflict okay – It’s actually better to fight with your partner from time to time instead of never fighting. We all have differences of opinion and points of view. When we don’t express these and bury it inside by not communicating, it just comes out later in a more negative form.
                                                        • Provides support – It’s nice to know that someone cares about you and supports you. A strong communicator will ask how you’re doing and be a good sounding board for what you’re going through.
                                                        • Expressing feelings – People who are not effective communicators tend to be not very good at expressing how they feel. This makes it tough to share your feelings with you partner.
                                                        • Get the loving you want – In order to get the physical, mental, and emotional love you want and need, you have to be able to communicate clearly and appropriately with your spouse or partner. This is done through effective communication.
                                                        • Eliminate mistrust, doubt, faithlessness, and insecurities – Many times these seeds are sown due to a lack of communication. If your partner rarely tells you where he or she is going, you will tend to start coming up with your own ideas. Often these aren’t true but how would you know if you aren’t told?

                                                        Can You Improve Your Communication Skills?

                                                        The short answer is yes, of course you can improve your communication skills.

                                                        Improving or changing anything in your life takes some work and effort but it can be done. You have to keep in mind your starting point and your goal.

                                                        If you are not a very good communicator now and you want to be able to give a motivating speech to a large graduating class, you’d better get working.

                                                        On the other hand, if you get along fairly well in general but want to be able to improve your relationship with your boss or spouse by being able to master effective communication, you may just need some guidance and practice.

                                                        Either way, if you want to master effective communication skills at both work and home, it will take a little work and effort. Doing so will benefit you in many ways.

                                                        How to Master Effective Communication Skills

                                                        In general mastering effective communication skills will help you at both work and home. Let’s look at how to improve verbal, written, and body language communication skills. These will help you create better relationships everywhere you go!

                                                        1. Learn how to listen

                                                        Speaking is only half of the communication equation. Sharpen your listening skills so you are able to process what the other person is saying. You can then respond it a well-informed manner.

                                                        Check out these active listening guidelines to be a better listener.

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                                                        2. Make eye contact

                                                        Having regular eye contact with someone while you are having a conversation shows you care what they are saying. When you are looking at the floor or out the window it gives the impression that you aren’t paying attention.

                                                        Take a look at this advice on how to make engaging eye contact.

                                                        3. Ask questions

                                                        When you ask someone questions, you are able to clarify what they are saying to ensure you get the whole picture. If you don’t understand it fully, ask questions.

                                                        Do you know that it takes some skills to ask questions too? Here’s how to be good at asking questions.

                                                        4. Watch body language

                                                        Watch both yours and the other persons.

                                                        We all know if you have a conversation with your arms crossed the entire time, it gives off a bad vibe. Have open, engaging body language when speaking with someone.

                                                        On the flip side, if you see someone’s eyes glazing over while speaking to you, it’s probably a good idea to wrap it up.

                                                        Take a look at these top 20 body language indicators to learn more.

                                                        5. Speak confidently

                                                        Sometimes this is easier said than done. If you communicate in an open, direct, and clear manner, it subtly shows people that you are confident in what you are saying.

                                                        It doesn’t mean you always have to be right but delivering your thoughts with confidence helps your case.

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                                                        These tips will help you speak more confidently.

                                                        6. Keep it simple

                                                        You don’t always have to be succinct in your communication. There is a lot of value in being able to tell a great story.

                                                        That being said, there are many instances where keeping it simple is very helpful. This is especially true at work in both verbal conversations as well as written like emails.

                                                        7. Know your audience

                                                        You should have a certain style when communicating with your boss. Another style of communication is better with your spouse and probably others with your kids or friends.

                                                        Know your audience to help you communicate the most effectively.

                                                        8. Be empathetic and understanding

                                                        There is a massive amount of power in being empathetic. And I mean that in a very positive way.

                                                        Showing that you are empathetic and understanding to another person goes a long way to creating a great bond with that person. We all want to be understood. It’s that simple.

                                                        Think it’s a challenge for you? These 5 tips for empathetic listening will help you.

                                                        9. Pause before reacting

                                                        There have been a number of times when I’ve read an email that just came in and had an instant reaction to reading it. And I don’t mean a positive reaction. My less effective ways of dealing and communicating has been to send a scathing email back.

                                                        When I’ve communicated more appropriately, I’ve waited a while before I responded. This is true in verbal situations as well.

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                                                        10. Over communicate

                                                        You’d think if you tell someone something that should be the end of it, right? Done deal. Not so fast.

                                                        I’m not recommending you tell someone the same thing 10 times in a row. With as many distractions as we all have these days, it’s generally a good idea to follow up on something you’ve communicated a few times if it’s important.

                                                        Conclusion

                                                        Having effective communication skills at both work and home will help you immensely.

                                                        At work, it helps you in your career in many ways.

                                                        Communicating well with your boss leads to a solid, symbiotic working relationship. You’re able to clearly articulate what you need to do your job well. You can share your vision and strategy with your boss and others. Good communicators are needed in management roles and leading others. Fostering an environment of effective communication leads to a great work environment.

                                                        At home, having effective communication skills will help you achieve the type of relationship you want with your spouse.

                                                        You are able to speak freely and openly about your feelings. You can share your wants and needs in a manner that your spouse understands. Your spouse will feel understood and supported by you which is a wonderful feeling to have. And being able to have a disagreement and work through it due to strong communication skills is amazing.

                                                        Look at how you can master effective communication skills at work and home to help create more satisfying relationships in all phases of your life.

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