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These 27 Old Couples Will Remind You What Love Is All About

These 27 Old Couples Will Remind You What Love Is All About

As far as I’m concerned, there are few things as adorable as sweet old couples. Think about it: how many times have you cracked a smile at a pair of cute old-timers holding hands in the street? If you’re anything like me, seeing love thrive for so long and endure the test of time is not only heart-warming, it’s inspirational. It makes me want to work that much harder on my own relationship so that one day my other half and I can one day too rock matching canes! Sweet old couples remind us that if you try hard enough, anything is possible—even epic love stories spanning generations. With that said, here are 27 lessons about love that we can learn from possibly the greatest relationship gurus out there!

1. Don’t forget the small touches

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    While grand, sweeping gestures are lovely every once in a while, it’s the little, frequent ones that will make your partner feel loved on a daily basis. A kiss hello or goodbye, a cup of tea while your other half is working to show them you care, a quick shoulder rub in front of the television, a single rose if you’re feeling particularly romantic, or simply offering to take the rubbish out for once. You may find these things insignificant, but the small things really do nurture relationships in time.

    2. “Love is not a matter of counting the years, But making the years count.” (Michelle Amand)

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      3. Couples who laugh together stay together!

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        Sharing a giggle with the one you love has to be one of the most invigorating and bond-strengthening things ever, am I right? If you can’t quite get the laughs going on your own, why not pop a funny film on the television or watch a silly video on YouTube together? You’ll not only feel happier, but also closer to your partner.

        4. Get physical

        Sweet Old Couples

          No, I don’t mean that (although that’s fantastic, too!)—but physical contact with your lover is crucial to keeping that feeling of intimacy going over the years. It doesn’t have to be massively awkward public displays of affection (no-one wants to be that couple, surely?) but a kiss on the forehead, a comforting stroke on the back of the neck, a massage or even holding hands will help you feel more connected to your partner. Give it a try!

          5. Listen to each other

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            This may seem like Relationship 101, but it’s incredibly easy to fall off the bandwagon, even with the basics! Being available to listen to your partner when she or he is having a bad day, being there to share their personal victories or hearing them out in an argument instead of ignoring them and getting your say no matter what are simple steps you can take to help your couple thrive over time. Having said that…

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            6. “You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.” (Sam Keen)

            These 27 Sweet Old Couples Give Heart-Warming Reminders About Love

              7. Communicate, communicate, communicate!

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                No matter how close you are with your other half, most of the time, they won’t be able to magically sense when you’re upset unless you get your feelings out in the open. Don’t be afraid to let it all out and communicate with your partner: keeping your thoughts bottled up is a surefire way to build up resentment over the years, while sharing them will lead to a closer relationship.

                8. Celebrate the good times together…

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                  While this doesn’t have to involve jumping on beds together (although, why the heck not?!), there’s something to be said for sharing happy moments with your sweetheart! Bonding over something that brings you joy is exhilarating and will make you feel closer than ever. With that said…

                  9. …And support each other through the bad

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                    When things go south, be there for each other. Just like sharing the good times will make you feel closer to one another, supporting each other through rough patches will make you feel like a team.

                    10. “Love is to love someone for who they are, who they were, and who they will be.” (Chris Moore)

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                      11. Remember where you started

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                        If you’re feeling a bit blah about your relationship (don’t beat yourself up, it happens!), cast your mind back to where it all began for you two! Think of happy moments and experiences you’ve shared, and remember why you fell in love in the first place. In fact, why not take this trip down memory lane with your other half? If you have photos (and a glass of wine), even better!

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                        12. Love isn’t always easy (but it’s oh-so worth it)

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                          These sweet old couples have been through thick and thin together; they’ve weathered their share of arguments. It can’t always have been easy, but then, neither life nor love are! Sticking together even through the rough patches is a test of character and of the strength of your love: if you can make it through the storm, there’s nothing that’ll get in your way!

                          13. Celebrate your love

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                            You might not be into Valentine’s Day—no matter! Find little, cute ways to celebrate your relationship. It can be a card on that most romantic of days, it can be breakfast in bed in memory of the day you first met, or a glass of champagne together in the spot you shared your first kiss. It all comes down to showing each other how much you value your love!

                            14. “Love is what you’ve been through with somebody.” (James Thurber)

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                              15. Date

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                                If there’s one thing I’ve learned over the years and that these cute oldies will agree with, is the importance of dating. Even if you’ve been together for years and years, keeping a date night ritual once a week or twice a month is a lovely way to keep the romance going in your relationship! Try picking a different restaurant every month or so, go for long walks together or simply spending some quality time together, far from the madding crowd.

                                16. Remember that love is a long-lasting friendship

                                Sweet Old Couples

                                  Sure, your other half is your love interest, but they’re also (or should be!) one of your closest friends. Be silly together! Be open with each other and support each other like friends would. Have fun together. Being friends as well as lovers will add another layer to your relationship. Nurture that—it’s invaluable.

                                  17. Try something new together

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                                  Sweet Old Couples

                                    Instead of settling down in front of the television for the nth night in the row, why not try something new and different together? It’s a brilliant way of bringing some spice to your relationship!

                                    18. “Love is not who you can see yourself with. It is who you can’t see yourself without.” (Anonymous)

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                                      19. Sorry goes a long way

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                                        Sometimes, it feels like the hardest thing to say, but man, can that simple word work wonders! Try just saying “I’m sorry” next time you’re in a fight, even if you’re not necessarily in the wrong. What’s more important—being right or moving on from the problem?

                                        20. Start a tradition

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                                          Whether it’s a picnic every Sunday afternoon, pancakes at the diner every Saturday or a trip to the theatre every third Wednesday of the month, start a fun tradition together! Don’t underestimate the value of having something to look forward to on a regular basis with your loved one: not only will it give you an excuse to spend time together (as if you needed it!), it’ll also become “your thing” and you’ll be one of those couples. (You know you want to.)

                                          21. Love yourself, too

                                          Sweet Old Couples

                                            While showering your other half with love and affection is super important, don’t forget to show yourself some TLC, too! By loving yourself, you become able to love others more. It’s magic!

                                            22. “For love is immortality.” (Emily Dickinson)

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                                              23. Surprise each other!

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                                              Sweet Old Couples

                                                While having date nights and traditions is great (obviously, given that I just told you so!), there’s much to be said for spontaneity and surprising your partner every once in a while to bring a little spark back into the relationship! Unless your other half absolutely hates surprises, don’t hold back. Do something out of the ordinary every once in a while: swing by your sweetheart’s office at lunch for an impromptu bite together, have a bunch of roses delivered on a whim (a girl can only dream)… These surprises don’t necessarily have to be huge; even the smallest change to a routine can be delightful!

                                                24. Fight right

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                                                  There will be times when it’ll be tempting to lash out at your partner, using unkind words to hurt. Although satisfying in the heat of the moment, fighting unfairly—with harsh words and accusations—doesn’t help the situation. When you hit a snag in your relationship, try to keep your calm; listen to what your other half has to say and tell them how you feel, too. Communicate. Compromise. Try as best you can to not tear each other apart, because the more you do, the harder it’ll be to come back from.

                                                  25. Go on adventures together!

                                                  Sweet Old Couples

                                                    Much like trying something new together or starting a tradition will help cement your relationship and give it staying power, leaving your respective comfort zones and going on adventures together will keep that passion going! (While you’re at it, totally do what this couple’s doing and share a bike. Or a tandem! Or any other equally cute means of transportation!)

                                                    26. Choose kindness

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                                                      Choose to forgive rather than begrudge. Choose to lend a helping hand rather than be cold out of anger. Be a shoulder to cry on, rather than the accusatory finger. Choose to embrace, rather than shun. Relationships take work, and forgiveness, and compromise. Choose kindness.

                                                      27. Remember: it gets better with age!

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                                                        Last Updated on June 18, 2019

                                                        40 Ways to Achieve Peace Of Mind and Inner Calm

                                                        40 Ways to Achieve Peace Of Mind and Inner Calm

                                                        Do you have racing thoughts and find yourself constantly worrying? An anxious mind is truly distressing.

                                                        The good news is, there’re simple things you can do to calm your thought.

                                                        If you want to achieve peace of mind and inner calm, try these 40 simple powerful ways:

                                                        1. Listen to Music

                                                        Studies have found that relaxing music can help kids with ADHD to be calmer and focus. But it doesn’t matter what genre of music you want to listen to, as long as you enjoy it and it makes you feel relaxed.

                                                        Music is food for the soul and an instant way to gain peace of mind.

                                                        2. Deep Breathing

                                                        When you focus on your breathing, your mind’s attention is drawn to the life-enhancing process of drawing in air and exhaling.

                                                        Take five long, deep breaths and focus on your lungs and diaphragm as you do this. This is a quick and easy way to instantly feel calm.

                                                        Here’re also 5 Breathing Exercises for Anxiety (Simple and Calm Anxiety Quickly).

                                                        3. Go for a Walk

                                                        Getting out in the fresh air can do you a world of good and promote peace of mind. Take a break and get the blood pumping – especially when the sun is shining.

                                                        4. Enjoy Nature

                                                        Too much concrete is never a good thing. Spending time in nature can actually make you feel younger, happier. Here’s why.

                                                        Spend time away from the city. Listen to the birds singing and enjoy the peace and tranquility.

                                                        5. Play with a Pet

                                                        Having a pet to play with is a great way to de-stress. Touch is a powerful sense and can ease tension and promote peace of mind.

                                                        6. Declutter

                                                        Have regular clear-outs. Clutter can add to feelings of tension and a clean, clear home allows a clearer, more peaceful mind.

                                                        Take a look at this article and learn How to Declutter Your Mind to Sharpen Your Brain and Fall Asleep Faster.

                                                        7. Acceptance

                                                        Acceptance is crucial for peace of mind. Accepting that there are few guarantees in the world and learning to tolerate uncertainty is a huge leap in the peace-of-mind stakes. Differentiate between what you can and cannot control.

                                                        8. Mindfulness

                                                        When we are mindful, we are fully present in the moment and acutely aware of our five senses: touch, taste, sight, hearing and smell.

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                                                        Engage your senses. This leaves less time for your mind to worry and think about “what ifs.”

                                                        Here you can learn about The Power of Mindfulness.

                                                        9. Self Love

                                                        The more we like ourselves, the greater our peace of mind. We accept ourselves more and feel at ease in the world, no matter what situation we find ourselves in. We experience less insecurity and as a result, our inner peace is heightened.

                                                        Start trying these 30 Ways To Practice Self-Love And Be Good To Yourself.

                                                        10. Be True to You

                                                        This is another vital component of peace of mind. When we practice congruency, we behave similarly to the way we feel and think. When the way we see ourselves and the way the world sees us is the same, we are practicing congruency.

                                                        Problems arise when we see ourselves one way (for example, as a loving mother) but behave in ways that are at odds with how we would like to see ourselves (for example, neglect our children because we are too busy). Finding ways to keep our inner ideals and the way we behave similar is one of the keys to peace of mind.

                                                        Find out How to Be True to Yourself and Live the Life You Want.

                                                        11. Sense of Humor

                                                        Laugh a lot. The world is instantly a better place when you can see the funny side of life. Laughter is a great antidote for stress and releases hormones that help us relax.

                                                        12. Love Unconditionally

                                                        When you don’t expect anything back, it makes it easier to love without fear. When we love with conditions attached, our unmet expectations can create inner turmoil and feelings of resentment. Insecurities destroy peace of mind.

                                                        13. Go for Regular Health Checks

                                                        It pays to keep checks on your health and look after yourself. Letting ourselves go can indicate a lack of self-respect, and this in turn will affect the way we see the world and the way others interact with us. Be kind to yourself and make the most of what you have.

                                                        14. Take Stock

                                                        Every now and then, it’s a good idea to check whether you’re happy with the quality of your life. Do you like your job? Your relationship? Are you on the right track? Make adjustments if necessary to restore peace of mind.

                                                        15. Have Goals

                                                        This ties in with number 14. Goals keep us going in the right direction and give us a sense of purpose. Make your goals SMART: How to Set SMART Goal to Make Lasting Changes in Life

                                                        16. Don’t Take Yourself Too Seriously

                                                        This relates to number 11. Learn to be more flexible in your approach to life. The more rigid our thinking is, the easier it is to experience situations that contradict our rigid ideas.

                                                        17. Live in the Moment

                                                        Instead of worrying about the past or panicking about the future, really enjoy the NOW. It’s all we have — this moment in time.

                                                        When we live in the present, the concerns of the past and future can’t worry us.

                                                        Here’re some tips on How to Live in the Moment and Stop Worrying About the Past or Future.

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                                                        18. Worry Less

                                                        We apparently have somewhere between 30,000 – 75,000 thoughts per day, of which 80% are random “nonsense.”

                                                        Learn to “shelve” worrying by reminding yourself that most of your worries are unproductive and remove any chance of peace of mind.

                                                        Some advice for you who worry often: How to Worry Less: 90% of What You Fear Won’t Happen

                                                        19. Be Assertive

                                                        You have as much right to be here and to have an opinion as anyone else. When we become passive or submissive, we do ourselves a disservice.

                                                        Being assertive isn’t about your needs ahead of others (aggressive) or their needs ahead of yours (passive). Rather, it is about compromise —  a “win-win” situation.

                                                        Learn How to Be Assertive and Stand up for Yourself the Smart Way.

                                                        20. Speak Your Mind

                                                        Don’t be afraid to say what you’re thinking. This goes hand in hand with being assertive.

                                                        Ask for what you want in life. If you don’t ask, you don’t get.

                                                        21. Enjoy “Me-Time”

                                                        Time out is important. A little bit of selfish time to treat yourself or do exactly as you please sets you up for taking on the constant demands of life. Balance in life is crucial.

                                                        22. Frolic

                                                        The free online dictionary describes the word “frolic” as:

                                                        “To behave playfully and uninhibitedly; romp.”

                                                        All work and no play will stress anyone out. Make time for things you enjoy. Try to inject fun into situations that aren’t particularly enjoyable. Approach life with a playful attitude. When did you last let the child in you come out to play?

                                                        23. Let It Go

                                                        There are some things that you just cannot change, no matter how hard you try. Know when to cut your losses and detach (Just like Elsa does!)

                                                        When you start to let go of your past, these 10 things will happen.

                                                        24. Resist Guilt

                                                        Guilt is a negative emotion that removes peace of mind. Although it can motivate us (in the wrong way), it is still a toxic emotion.

                                                        Challenge the reasons for your guilt to make sure you aren’t placing unnecessary pressure on yourself.

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                                                        25. Adopt an Attitude of Gratitude

                                                        Focusing on all the things in our lives that we are grateful for promotes peace of mind and reminds us that there are always positives. Sometimes we just have to nudge our awareness.

                                                        Try these 40 Simple Ways To Practice Gratitude.

                                                        26. See Failure as a Learning Curve

                                                        Failure has such negative connotations, but actually, everyone fails. How can you improve or learn anything if you never fail?

                                                        A healthy attitude towards failure encourages bravery. It’s not you that is the failure, instead it is what you tried that failed. There is a big difference.

                                                        27. Connect with Others

                                                        One of the true joys of life is sharing life with others and knowing that others “get” you. We feel less alone and feeling understood allows a fantastic sense of well-being.

                                                        28. Test Your Limits

                                                        You’ll never know your true potential if you always stay in your comfort zone. As the old saying goes, it is better to look back and regret what you did than regret all those things you wish you’d tried.

                                                        Learn to step out of your comfort zone: 10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Overcome Your Fear

                                                        29. Find Positive Outlets for Negative Emotions

                                                        Sports, online forums, like-minded people, hobbies…whatever takes your fancy. Suppressing negative emotions can lead to ill health. Release tension and frustration in a pro social way and feel a whole lot happier.

                                                        30. Slow Down

                                                        Why does everything need to be accomplished today? Often, we place unrealistic pressure on ourselves when there is no need to.

                                                        Challenge your impatience, be mindful and enjoy life in the moment.

                                                        31. Challenge Your “Shoulds” and “Musts”

                                                        Self-induced pressure never leads to inner tranquility or peace of mind. Replace “should” with “could” and live life more on your own terms.

                                                        32. Be Kind

                                                        It’s free and it makes a difference. When we show kindness, it gives us an inner boost, too.

                                                        You can try these 29 Ways to Carry Out Random Acts of Kindness Every Day.

                                                        33. Don’t Compare

                                                        The more we compare, the more we lose ourselves.

                                                        Forget what everyone else is doing or saying. What do YOU want? We all have our own paths to follow, and we are all learning and going through life at our unique pace.

                                                        Focus on your own journey and lose the stress of comparing yourself to what you think is going on in the lives of others. This is a surefire way to eliminate peace of mind.

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                                                        34. Affirmations

                                                        Talk to yourself positively by using affirmations. A good example of one that encourages peace of mind is: “No matter what comes my way, I will find a way to get through it.”

                                                        Believe in yourself and remind yourself regularly that you will be okay.

                                                        Need some more inspirations to affirm yourself? Here’re 10 Positive Affirmations for Success that will Change your Life.

                                                        35. Save a Little Money as Often as You Can

                                                        Putting money aside is always a good idea. If you can afford to save money regularly, do it. Start up a regular debit each month, and you won’t even realize it’s gone.

                                                        36. Less Is More

                                                        Money buys choice, but it doesn’t buy us the happiness we crave. Be content with the simpler things in life — that’s where the real long-lasting joy and peace of mind comes from.

                                                        37. Perspective

                                                        Always  keep your eye on the bigger picture. Will you feel this way next week, or a year from now? Will your current experience of life seem as important?

                                                        More often than not, you will be just fine. Foster peace of mind by maintaining perspective in life.

                                                        38. Monitor Your Thoughts

                                                        Our thoughts can make or break our quality of life. Make sure to choose thinking that works for you.

                                                        Talk to yourself as you would a best friend. Self-loathing serves no purpose and will undoubtedly extract joy from your life.

                                                        39. Stand up for What You Believe In

                                                        Whether it’s protecting animals or helping those less fortunate than yourself, follow your heart and your passion. Fight the urge to fit in and do what’s expected.

                                                        When you change yourself to suit others, you give away your peace of mind.

                                                        40. Get Enough Sleep

                                                        When we’re tired and grumpy, nothing goes smoothly. Get eight hours of sleep per night and regenerate your body.

                                                        Final Thoughts

                                                        The most important ways to achieve peace of mind involve being true to yourself, accepting that life is uncertain and watching your thinking. Many of us mentally “torture” ourselves daily with the things we tell ourselves.

                                                        Trust your thoughts less, pay less attention to the negative ones and focus on what you are thankful for in life, and you’ll be well on your way to inner peace of mind.

                                                        Featured photo credit: sean Kong via unsplash.com

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