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These 27 Old Couples Will Remind You What Love Is All About

These 27 Old Couples Will Remind You What Love Is All About

As far as I’m concerned, there are few things as adorable as sweet old couples. Think about it: how many times have you cracked a smile at a pair of cute old-timers holding hands in the street? If you’re anything like me, seeing love thrive for so long and endure the test of time is not only heart-warming, it’s inspirational. It makes me want to work that much harder on my own relationship so that one day my other half and I can one day too rock matching canes! Sweet old couples remind us that if you try hard enough, anything is possible—even epic love stories spanning generations. With that said, here are 27 lessons about love that we can learn from possibly the greatest relationship gurus out there!

1. Don’t forget the small touches

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    While grand, sweeping gestures are lovely every once in a while, it’s the little, frequent ones that will make your partner feel loved on a daily basis. A kiss hello or goodbye, a cup of tea while your other half is working to show them you care, a quick shoulder rub in front of the television, a single rose if you’re feeling particularly romantic, or simply offering to take the rubbish out for once. You may find these things insignificant, but the small things really do nurture relationships in time.

    2. “Love is not a matter of counting the years, But making the years count.” (Michelle Amand)

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      3. Couples who laugh together stay together!

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        Sharing a giggle with the one you love has to be one of the most invigorating and bond-strengthening things ever, am I right? If you can’t quite get the laughs going on your own, why not pop a funny film on the television or watch a silly video on YouTube together? You’ll not only feel happier, but also closer to your partner.

        4. Get physical

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          No, I don’t mean that (although that’s fantastic, too!)—but physical contact with your lover is crucial to keeping that feeling of intimacy going over the years. It doesn’t have to be massively awkward public displays of affection (no-one wants to be that couple, surely?) but a kiss on the forehead, a comforting stroke on the back of the neck, a massage or even holding hands will help you feel more connected to your partner. Give it a try!

          5. Listen to each other

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            This may seem like Relationship 101, but it’s incredibly easy to fall off the bandwagon, even with the basics! Being available to listen to your partner when she or he is having a bad day, being there to share their personal victories or hearing them out in an argument instead of ignoring them and getting your say no matter what are simple steps you can take to help your couple thrive over time. Having said that…

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            6. “You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.” (Sam Keen)

            These 27 Sweet Old Couples Give Heart-Warming Reminders About Love

              7. Communicate, communicate, communicate!

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                No matter how close you are with your other half, most of the time, they won’t be able to magically sense when you’re upset unless you get your feelings out in the open. Don’t be afraid to let it all out and communicate with your partner: keeping your thoughts bottled up is a surefire way to build up resentment over the years, while sharing them will lead to a closer relationship.

                8. Celebrate the good times together…

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                  While this doesn’t have to involve jumping on beds together (although, why the heck not?!), there’s something to be said for sharing happy moments with your sweetheart! Bonding over something that brings you joy is exhilarating and will make you feel closer than ever. With that said…

                  9. …And support each other through the bad

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                    When things go south, be there for each other. Just like sharing the good times will make you feel closer to one another, supporting each other through rough patches will make you feel like a team.

                    10. “Love is to love someone for who they are, who they were, and who they will be.” (Chris Moore)

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                      11. Remember where you started

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                        If you’re feeling a bit blah about your relationship (don’t beat yourself up, it happens!), cast your mind back to where it all began for you two! Think of happy moments and experiences you’ve shared, and remember why you fell in love in the first place. In fact, why not take this trip down memory lane with your other half? If you have photos (and a glass of wine), even better!

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                        12. Love isn’t always easy (but it’s oh-so worth it)

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                          These sweet old couples have been through thick and thin together; they’ve weathered their share of arguments. It can’t always have been easy, but then, neither life nor love are! Sticking together even through the rough patches is a test of character and of the strength of your love: if you can make it through the storm, there’s nothing that’ll get in your way!

                          13. Celebrate your love

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                            You might not be into Valentine’s Day—no matter! Find little, cute ways to celebrate your relationship. It can be a card on that most romantic of days, it can be breakfast in bed in memory of the day you first met, or a glass of champagne together in the spot you shared your first kiss. It all comes down to showing each other how much you value your love!

                            14. “Love is what you’ve been through with somebody.” (James Thurber)

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                              15. Date

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                                If there’s one thing I’ve learned over the years and that these cute oldies will agree with, is the importance of dating. Even if you’ve been together for years and years, keeping a date night ritual once a week or twice a month is a lovely way to keep the romance going in your relationship! Try picking a different restaurant every month or so, go for long walks together or simply spending some quality time together, far from the madding crowd.

                                16. Remember that love is a long-lasting friendship

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                                  Sure, your other half is your love interest, but they’re also (or should be!) one of your closest friends. Be silly together! Be open with each other and support each other like friends would. Have fun together. Being friends as well as lovers will add another layer to your relationship. Nurture that—it’s invaluable.

                                  17. Try something new together

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                                  Sweet Old Couples

                                    Instead of settling down in front of the television for the nth night in the row, why not try something new and different together? It’s a brilliant way of bringing some spice to your relationship!

                                    18. “Love is not who you can see yourself with. It is who you can’t see yourself without.” (Anonymous)

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                                      19. Sorry goes a long way

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                                        Sometimes, it feels like the hardest thing to say, but man, can that simple word work wonders! Try just saying “I’m sorry” next time you’re in a fight, even if you’re not necessarily in the wrong. What’s more important—being right or moving on from the problem?

                                        20. Start a tradition

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                                          Whether it’s a picnic every Sunday afternoon, pancakes at the diner every Saturday or a trip to the theatre every third Wednesday of the month, start a fun tradition together! Don’t underestimate the value of having something to look forward to on a regular basis with your loved one: not only will it give you an excuse to spend time together (as if you needed it!), it’ll also become “your thing” and you’ll be one of those couples. (You know you want to.)

                                          21. Love yourself, too

                                          Sweet Old Couples

                                            While showering your other half with love and affection is super important, don’t forget to show yourself some TLC, too! By loving yourself, you become able to love others more. It’s magic!

                                            22. “For love is immortality.” (Emily Dickinson)

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                                              23. Surprise each other!

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                                              Sweet Old Couples

                                                While having date nights and traditions is great (obviously, given that I just told you so!), there’s much to be said for spontaneity and surprising your partner every once in a while to bring a little spark back into the relationship! Unless your other half absolutely hates surprises, don’t hold back. Do something out of the ordinary every once in a while: swing by your sweetheart’s office at lunch for an impromptu bite together, have a bunch of roses delivered on a whim (a girl can only dream)… These surprises don’t necessarily have to be huge; even the smallest change to a routine can be delightful!

                                                24. Fight right

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                                                  There will be times when it’ll be tempting to lash out at your partner, using unkind words to hurt. Although satisfying in the heat of the moment, fighting unfairly—with harsh words and accusations—doesn’t help the situation. When you hit a snag in your relationship, try to keep your calm; listen to what your other half has to say and tell them how you feel, too. Communicate. Compromise. Try as best you can to not tear each other apart, because the more you do, the harder it’ll be to come back from.

                                                  25. Go on adventures together!

                                                  Sweet Old Couples

                                                    Much like trying something new together or starting a tradition will help cement your relationship and give it staying power, leaving your respective comfort zones and going on adventures together will keep that passion going! (While you’re at it, totally do what this couple’s doing and share a bike. Or a tandem! Or any other equally cute means of transportation!)

                                                    26. Choose kindness

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                                                      Choose to forgive rather than begrudge. Choose to lend a helping hand rather than be cold out of anger. Be a shoulder to cry on, rather than the accusatory finger. Choose to embrace, rather than shun. Relationships take work, and forgiveness, and compromise. Choose kindness.

                                                      27. Remember: it gets better with age!

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                                                        Last Updated on October 17, 2019

                                                        How to Spend More Quality Time with Your Partner

                                                        How to Spend More Quality Time with Your Partner

                                                        You see your partner every single day. They are the first person you talk to in the morning and the last person you kiss goodnight.

                                                        But does seeing each other day in and day out equal a healthy relationship? Not necessarily.

                                                        Spending quality time with your partner is the best way to ensure your relationship stays healthy and strong. This means going above and beyond sitting together while you watch Netflix or going out for the occasional dinner. You deserve more from your relationship – and so does your spouse!

                                                        What does quality time mean? It means spending time with your spouse without interruption. It’s a chance for you to come together and talk. Communication will build emotional intimacy and trust.

                                                        Quality time is also about expressing love in a physical way. Not sex, necessarily (but that’s great, too!) but through hand-holding, cuddling, caressing, and tickling. Studies show that these displays of affection will boost partner satisfaction.[1]

                                                        So how do you spend quality time with your partner? Here are 13 relationship tips on making the most out of your time with your partner.

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                                                        1. Recognize the Signs

                                                        If you want a healthy relationship, you have to learn how to recognize the signs that you need to spend more quality time together.

                                                        Some telltale signs include:

                                                        • You’re always on your phones.
                                                        • You value friendships or hobbies over quality time with your spouse.
                                                        • You aren’t together during important events.
                                                        • You are arguing more often or lack connection.
                                                        • You don’t make plans or date nights.
                                                        • You’re not happy.

                                                        If you are experiencing any of these relationship symptoms, know that quality time together can reverse the negative effects of the signs above.

                                                        2. Try New Things Together

                                                        Have you ever wanted to learn how to play an instrument or speak another language? How about skydive or ballroom dance?

                                                        Instead of viewing these as solo hobbies and interests, why not involve your partner?

                                                        Trying new activities together builds healthy relationships because it encourages spouses to rely on one another for emotional and physical support.

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                                                        Shared hobbies also promote marital friendship, and the Journal of Happiness Studies found that marital satisfaction was twice as high for couples who viewed each other as best friends.[2]

                                                        3. Schedule in Tech-Free Time

                                                        Your phone is a great way to listen to music, watch videos, and keep up-to-date with friends and family. But is your phone good for your relationship?

                                                        Many couples phone snub, or ‘phub’, one another. Studies show that phubbing can lower relationship satisfaction and increase one’s chances of depression.[3]

                                                        Reduce those chances by removing distractions when spending quality time together and showing your partner they have your full attention.

                                                        4. Hit the Gym as a Couple

                                                        One way you can spend more time together as a couple is by becoming workout partners. Studies show that couples are more likely to stay with their exercise routine if they work out together.[4] Couples also work out harder than they would solo. One study found that 95 percent of couples who work out together maintained weight loss compares to the 66 percent of singles who did.[5]

                                                        Join a gym, do at-home couples’ workouts, try couples yoga, hit the hiking trails, or get your bikes out. No matter which way you choose to exercise, these healthy activities can promote a healthy relationship.

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                                                        5. Cook Meals Together

                                                        Pop open a bottle of wine or put some romantic music on while you get busy – in the kitchen, of course!

                                                        One of the best relationship tips for spending quality time together when you both have busy schedules is to cook meals together.[6]

                                                        Spice things up and try and prepare a four-course meal or a fancy French dish together. Not only is this a fun way to spend your time together, but it also promotes teamwork.

                                                        If all goes well, you’ll have a romantic date night meal at home that you prepared with your four hands. And if the food didn’t turn out the way you’d hoped, you are guaranteed to have a laugh and create new memories together.

                                                        6. Have a Regular Date Night

                                                        Couples experience a greater sense of happiness and less stress when they are spending quality time together.[7] One of the biggest relationship tips for a healthy partnership is to include a date night in your weekly routine.

                                                        The National Marriage Project found that having a weekly date night can make your relationship seem more exciting and helps prevent relationship boredom.[8] It also lowers the probability of divorce, improves your sex life, and increases healthy communication.

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                                                        Some great ideas for what to do on your date night include:

                                                        • Have a movie marathon – Gather up your favorite flicks and cuddle up on the couch.
                                                        • Play games together – Cards, board games, video games, and other creative outlets are a fun way to spend quality time together.
                                                        • Recreate your first date – Go back to that restaurant and order the same meal you did when you first got together. You can spice up your evening by pretending you’re strangers meeting for the first time and see how sexy the night gets.
                                                        • Plan a weekend getaway – There’s nothing better than traveling with the one you love.
                                                        • Dinner and a movie – A classic!
                                                        • Try a new restaurant – Make it your mission to rate and try all of the Mexican restaurants/Irish pubs/Italian trattorias in your area.
                                                        • Have a long sex session – Intimacy promotes the release of the oxytocin hormone which is responsible for a myriad of great feelings.[9]

                                                        Here’re even more date night ideas for your reference: 50 Unique and Really Fun Date Ideas for Couples

                                                        Final Thoughts

                                                        The benefits of spending quality time together are endless. Here are just some of the ways it can contribute to a healthy relationship:

                                                        • Improves emotional and physical intimacy
                                                        • Lowers divorce rates
                                                        • Improves communication
                                                        • Reduces marital boredom
                                                        • Bonds couples closer
                                                        • Improves friendship
                                                        • Boosts health
                                                        • Reduces stress

                                                        These are all excellent reasons to start making date night a regular part of your week.

                                                        It’s easy to have a healthy relationship when you set aside dedicated time to share with your spouse. Try new things together, make your spouse your workout buddy, and look for innovative ways to be close and connected.

                                                        These relationship tips will bring great benefits to your marriage.

                                                        Featured photo credit: Allen Taylor via unsplash.com

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