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These 27 Old Couples Will Remind You What Love Is All About

These 27 Old Couples Will Remind You What Love Is All About

As far as I’m concerned, there are few things as adorable as sweet old couples. Think about it: how many times have you cracked a smile at a pair of cute old-timers holding hands in the street? If you’re anything like me, seeing love thrive for so long and endure the test of time is not only heart-warming, it’s inspirational. It makes me want to work that much harder on my own relationship so that one day my other half and I can one day too rock matching canes! Sweet old couples remind us that if you try hard enough, anything is possible—even epic love stories spanning generations. With that said, here are 27 lessons about love that we can learn from possibly the greatest relationship gurus out there!

1. Don’t forget the small touches

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    While grand, sweeping gestures are lovely every once in a while, it’s the little, frequent ones that will make your partner feel loved on a daily basis. A kiss hello or goodbye, a cup of tea while your other half is working to show them you care, a quick shoulder rub in front of the television, a single rose if you’re feeling particularly romantic, or simply offering to take the rubbish out for once. You may find these things insignificant, but the small things really do nurture relationships in time.

    2. “Love is not a matter of counting the years, But making the years count.” (Michelle Amand)

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      3. Couples who laugh together stay together!

      Sweet Old Couples

        Sharing a giggle with the one you love has to be one of the most invigorating and bond-strengthening things ever, am I right? If you can’t quite get the laughs going on your own, why not pop a funny film on the television or watch a silly video on YouTube together? You’ll not only feel happier, but also closer to your partner.

        4. Get physical

        Sweet Old Couples

          No, I don’t mean that (although that’s fantastic, too!)—but physical contact with your lover is crucial to keeping that feeling of intimacy going over the years. It doesn’t have to be massively awkward public displays of affection (no-one wants to be that couple, surely?) but a kiss on the forehead, a comforting stroke on the back of the neck, a massage or even holding hands will help you feel more connected to your partner. Give it a try!

          5. Listen to each other

          Sweet Old Couples

            This may seem like Relationship 101, but it’s incredibly easy to fall off the bandwagon, even with the basics! Being available to listen to your partner when she or he is having a bad day, being there to share their personal victories or hearing them out in an argument instead of ignoring them and getting your say no matter what are simple steps you can take to help your couple thrive over time. Having said that…

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            6. “You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly.” (Sam Keen)

            These 27 Sweet Old Couples Give Heart-Warming Reminders About Love

              7. Communicate, communicate, communicate!

              Sweet Old Couples

                No matter how close you are with your other half, most of the time, they won’t be able to magically sense when you’re upset unless you get your feelings out in the open. Don’t be afraid to let it all out and communicate with your partner: keeping your thoughts bottled up is a surefire way to build up resentment over the years, while sharing them will lead to a closer relationship.

                8. Celebrate the good times together…

                Sweet Old Couples

                  While this doesn’t have to involve jumping on beds together (although, why the heck not?!), there’s something to be said for sharing happy moments with your sweetheart! Bonding over something that brings you joy is exhilarating and will make you feel closer than ever. With that said…

                  9. …And support each other through the bad

                  Sweet Old Couples

                    When things go south, be there for each other. Just like sharing the good times will make you feel closer to one another, supporting each other through rough patches will make you feel like a team.

                    10. “Love is to love someone for who they are, who they were, and who they will be.” (Chris Moore)

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                      11. Remember where you started

                      Sweet Old Couples

                        If you’re feeling a bit blah about your relationship (don’t beat yourself up, it happens!), cast your mind back to where it all began for you two! Think of happy moments and experiences you’ve shared, and remember why you fell in love in the first place. In fact, why not take this trip down memory lane with your other half? If you have photos (and a glass of wine), even better!

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                        12. Love isn’t always easy (but it’s oh-so worth it)

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                          These sweet old couples have been through thick and thin together; they’ve weathered their share of arguments. It can’t always have been easy, but then, neither life nor love are! Sticking together even through the rough patches is a test of character and of the strength of your love: if you can make it through the storm, there’s nothing that’ll get in your way!

                          13. Celebrate your love

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                            You might not be into Valentine’s Day—no matter! Find little, cute ways to celebrate your relationship. It can be a card on that most romantic of days, it can be breakfast in bed in memory of the day you first met, or a glass of champagne together in the spot you shared your first kiss. It all comes down to showing each other how much you value your love!

                            14. “Love is what you’ve been through with somebody.” (James Thurber)

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                              15. Date

                              Sweet Old Couples

                                If there’s one thing I’ve learned over the years and that these cute oldies will agree with, is the importance of dating. Even if you’ve been together for years and years, keeping a date night ritual once a week or twice a month is a lovely way to keep the romance going in your relationship! Try picking a different restaurant every month or so, go for long walks together or simply spending some quality time together, far from the madding crowd.

                                16. Remember that love is a long-lasting friendship

                                Sweet Old Couples

                                  Sure, your other half is your love interest, but they’re also (or should be!) one of your closest friends. Be silly together! Be open with each other and support each other like friends would. Have fun together. Being friends as well as lovers will add another layer to your relationship. Nurture that—it’s invaluable.

                                  17. Try something new together

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                                  Sweet Old Couples

                                    Instead of settling down in front of the television for the nth night in the row, why not try something new and different together? It’s a brilliant way of bringing some spice to your relationship!

                                    18. “Love is not who you can see yourself with. It is who you can’t see yourself without.” (Anonymous)

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                                      19. Sorry goes a long way

                                      Sweet Old Couples

                                        Sometimes, it feels like the hardest thing to say, but man, can that simple word work wonders! Try just saying “I’m sorry” next time you’re in a fight, even if you’re not necessarily in the wrong. What’s more important—being right or moving on from the problem?

                                        20. Start a tradition

                                        Sweet Old Couples

                                          Whether it’s a picnic every Sunday afternoon, pancakes at the diner every Saturday or a trip to the theatre every third Wednesday of the month, start a fun tradition together! Don’t underestimate the value of having something to look forward to on a regular basis with your loved one: not only will it give you an excuse to spend time together (as if you needed it!), it’ll also become “your thing” and you’ll be one of those couples. (You know you want to.)

                                          21. Love yourself, too

                                          Sweet Old Couples

                                            While showering your other half with love and affection is super important, don’t forget to show yourself some TLC, too! By loving yourself, you become able to love others more. It’s magic!

                                            22. “For love is immortality.” (Emily Dickinson)

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                                              23. Surprise each other!

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                                              Sweet Old Couples

                                                While having date nights and traditions is great (obviously, given that I just told you so!), there’s much to be said for spontaneity and surprising your partner every once in a while to bring a little spark back into the relationship! Unless your other half absolutely hates surprises, don’t hold back. Do something out of the ordinary every once in a while: swing by your sweetheart’s office at lunch for an impromptu bite together, have a bunch of roses delivered on a whim (a girl can only dream)… These surprises don’t necessarily have to be huge; even the smallest change to a routine can be delightful!

                                                24. Fight right

                                                Sweet Old Couples

                                                  There will be times when it’ll be tempting to lash out at your partner, using unkind words to hurt. Although satisfying in the heat of the moment, fighting unfairly—with harsh words and accusations—doesn’t help the situation. When you hit a snag in your relationship, try to keep your calm; listen to what your other half has to say and tell them how you feel, too. Communicate. Compromise. Try as best you can to not tear each other apart, because the more you do, the harder it’ll be to come back from.

                                                  25. Go on adventures together!

                                                  Sweet Old Couples

                                                    Much like trying something new together or starting a tradition will help cement your relationship and give it staying power, leaving your respective comfort zones and going on adventures together will keep that passion going! (While you’re at it, totally do what this couple’s doing and share a bike. Or a tandem! Or any other equally cute means of transportation!)

                                                    26. Choose kindness

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                                                      Choose to forgive rather than begrudge. Choose to lend a helping hand rather than be cold out of anger. Be a shoulder to cry on, rather than the accusatory finger. Choose to embrace, rather than shun. Relationships take work, and forgiveness, and compromise. Choose kindness.

                                                      27. Remember: it gets better with age!

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                                                        Last Updated on April 23, 2019

                                                        13 Ways Happy People Think and Feel Differently

                                                        13 Ways Happy People Think and Feel Differently

                                                        Let me begin by being 100% frank with you – everyone is capable of happiness.

                                                        Happiness is first a choice but it also takes persistence to maintain. Happiness is our birth right and my mission is to help as many people as I can live their happiest life.

                                                        My mission is to spread the message that everyone deserves happiness.

                                                        To live a happy life; however, you must do the work, gain the necessary knowledge, and increase your awareness.

                                                        You must fully embody this state and begin to think and feel happiness on every level of your being.

                                                        Often times, excuses present themselves and our mind gives us the reasons why we can’t be happy:

                                                        “I am too busy right now to focus on happiness”

                                                        “I will be happy when I finish school, when I have the money, when I am in the right relationship, when I have kids, when my children are older….”

                                                        “I would have had a happy life if this traumatic event had never happened”

                                                        “I don’t deserve happiness”

                                                        EVERYONE deserves happiness. The reason that you are here right now is because you have a purpose and you are on the earth to enjoy your journey.

                                                        Think BIGGER than your excuses. Push FARTHER than your complaints.

                                                        Don’t be pulled away from greatness. Get uncomfortable. At least these are what happy and successful people do on a daily basis.

                                                        This article highlights the top 13 tips and tricks of how happy people think and feel.

                                                        If you would like to begin embodying this life-changing state, then… Here are the 13 ways Happy People Think and Feel Differently:

                                                        1. Happy People Put Happiness First

                                                        Happy people have made the decision that their end goal is happiness.

                                                        Every situation, event, bad day ultimately ends with happiness.

                                                        To them, happiness is equivalent to sleep and water – it is a necessity to their life. To live an unhappy life is to have never lived at all.

                                                        The happy person asks,

                                                        “What would be the point of living if every day and moment were filled with negativity?”

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                                                        “Why would I deplete my energy on negativity when I expend less to be positive?”

                                                        They make happy-based decisions which means in EVERY MOMENT they choose happiness.

                                                        If their circumstances can’t change then they instead change their perspective, they look for the silver lining in the negative.

                                                        Happy people don’t let negativity steal their moments away – a positive mindset always prevails.

                                                        If you ask a happy person how their day was, they will always answer your question with a highlight or a lesson learned.

                                                        2. Happy People Embrace Pain

                                                        I know what you are thinking –

                                                        “No one is ALWAYS happy”

                                                        or …

                                                        “Even happy people get in bad moods”

                                                        and …

                                                        These statements are absolutely accurate.

                                                        Happy people aren’t always happy and they DO get into bad moods. They get overwhelmed, they feel defeated, and their feelings get hurt.

                                                        Happy people aren’t invincible and they feel pain just like everyone else. The only difference between happy people and people who let negativity run their lives is that…

                                                        Happy people quickly acknowledge their pain and they make a decision to find a way to transform their pain into something greater. They also use these 13 simple ways to shake off the sadness.

                                                        Happy people admit the negativity they feel and they do what it takes to get back into their natural state: happiness.

                                                        When your end goal is happiness, then you will find a way to achieve it no matter how much strength you have to muster.

                                                        3. Happy People Have a Happy Self-Image

                                                        We all have an image in our minds that we subconsciously live up to.

                                                        The reason that change is so hard is because our subconscious mind is programmed to live by how we define ourselves.

                                                        How are you currently defining yourself?

                                                        For happy people, they see themselves with a smile, positive outlook, and/or a bounce in their step. When an event or situation arises that brings in a negative emotion, they quickly change their state to resemble their natural self-image.

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                                                        When happy people are in a bad mood, it feels unusual to them because feeling negative isn’t aligned with how they see themselves.

                                                        When they feel upset, they acknowledge the negativity and look for a solution to bring their emotions to the level of how they perceive themselves.

                                                        Look at how you define yourself today – your mind and body are always trying to live up to the definition it is taught to believe.

                                                        Your body’s job is to keep you in a “normal” state because this is where it feels most comfortable.

                                                        If your self-image is happy, then your mind and body will naturally be brought back to where it feels at home. Your actions will be a clue to how you define yourself.

                                                        4. Happy People Have a Strong Support System

                                                        The happiest people know that it takes a village and they lean on others for support.

                                                        Happy people feel comfortable reaching out for help when they feel that their resistances are overpowering them. They quickly sense their negativity and they tell somebody.

                                                        Happy people ask for assistance when they can’t figure out a problem. Seeking help takes strength and it never gets in the way of their self-worth. Happy people appreciate the wisdom that their support system provides.

                                                        They have strong connections with the people who are close to them. They never trudge through tough times alone because jeopardizing their happiness for too long would be detrimental to their well-being.

                                                        5. Happy People Safeguard Their Minds from Negative Triggers

                                                        Warding off negativity is almost impossible when we live in a society that lives by what went wrong and feeds off of what could go wrong. News travels instantaneously so it would be unrealistic to shut this out of your life completely.

                                                        However, one strategy that happy people use to safeguard their minds is regulating their environment.

                                                        We have a lot of control on how we allow our environments to affect us. We can control our social media feed, the television shows and movies we watch, the books that we read, the people that we spend our time with, and the places that we hang out.

                                                        If happiness is your end goal, then take a good look at what is bringing you down. What triggers your unhappiness? See if there is anything in your environment that can be changed……

                                                        What we listen to, read, and who we hang out with influence our mind, what we think about, what we worry about, our reactions, and behaviors.

                                                        Happy people know what triggers a feeling of negativity and it feels out of alignment for them so they do what it takes to avoid it.

                                                        They might regulate their social media news feed to reflect the information that brings them positive energy. They might regulate the people that they spend their time with. It is important to hang out with like-minded people.

                                                        What are you triggers? How can you avoid the negativity in your environment?

                                                        These are ways that happy people regulate their environment and safeguard their minds.

                                                        6. Happy People Know When to Say “No”

                                                        Happy people know when to sit one out and say “no.” They do this to protect their happiness and well-being.

                                                        Life gets overwhelming – a lot of people need our attention and the to do list can seem never ending.

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                                                        Happy people give themselves permission to take the day off and they feel comfortable with saying “no” when their stress levels begin to climb. They understand that those around them aren’t benefiting from someone who is frazzled, overwhelmed, and tired.

                                                        A happy person identifies their negative emotion and then they quickly treat it to bring themselves back to their “normal” state, so that they can be at their best for not only themselves but for those around them, too.

                                                        A simple “no” can ultimately mean many more “yes’s” in the future because happiness has a long battery life. You can take a look at Leo Babauta’s article The Gentle Art of Saying No and learn to say no.

                                                        7. Happy People Are Good Evaluators

                                                        Happy people can quickly sense when something is off with themselves or others. They are very intuitive to happiness levels. When someone isn’t quite right, they are the first ones to notice.

                                                        Being able to evaluate happiness means that you can identify when negativity is lingering around for too long.

                                                        We all have bad days; however, the happy person evaluates often and quickly intervenes.

                                                        In other words, happy people frequently evaluate their state and immediately change when their pessimism is overshadowing their joy.

                                                        8. Happy People Bring Other People Up

                                                        What goes on inside of us is mirrored into our physical world.

                                                        What we think about literally consumes our life and is displayed in our work, relationships, and attitude.

                                                        Happy people naturally feel good inside and about themselves so they treat others the way that they treat themselves. It never feels forced to give a compliment or to help out a stranger.

                                                        When we are truly happy with ourselves, everyone around us has a better experience. Happy people are kind to themselves and because of this, it feels natural to them to want to make others’ happy, too.

                                                        9. Happy People Go After Their Dreams

                                                        Happy people are always following the joyful path. They make happy-based decisions and because of this, they always end up where they want to be.

                                                        It’s absolutely impossible to be happy by following an undesirable path, which is quite opposite for unhappy people.

                                                        Most people journey through life on a path they think they are “supposed” to be own. Warning signs (negativity) are often ignored because they truly believe that these feelings are a normal part of life.

                                                        Negativity is NOT normal.

                                                        The happiest people investigate the negativity in their life and quickly analyze the results. This process allows them to get back on the joyful path which ends in a desirable outcome.

                                                        Follow your happiness and your dreams will come true (If that isn’t motivation then I don’t know what is!)

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                                                        10. Happy People Never Sweat the Small Stuff

                                                        The only expectation that the happy person has is that they remain in a joyful state.

                                                        They rarely have expectations for the events and people in their lives because they know that this is a sure way to get let down.

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                                                        The happiest people take life as it comes – you could say that they roll with the punches. When you don’t have expectations, thenyoue can just sit back and watch how beautifully life unfolds.

                                                        Happy people understand that bad things are inevitable, they are a part of life – The car will break, the kids will make mistakes, people will be late, and dinner will burn.

                                                        If it’s not anything seriously affecting their lives, then they don’t give their energy to it.

                                                        11. Happy People Rarely Have to Prove That They Are Right

                                                        Happy people remember that it’s more important to live up to what they believe. When you live your life aligned with your belief system, then there is no need to explain or prove yourself to others.

                                                        Differences in opinions are inevitable, but the happiest of people know it’s wasted energy to defend their position.

                                                        It is more effective to simply show people, through actions, how you think, feel, and what you believe.

                                                        Energy is saved, arguments are diminished, and credibility/respect are gained when we live by what we believe.

                                                        12. Happy People Smile (Even When They Don’t Want To)

                                                        Smiling is one of the healthiest things we can do; and happy people use this simple trick quite often.

                                                        It has been proven that smiling has the ability to boost your immune system, decrease stress levels, and can even make you look younger. The benefits of smiling have even been backed up by science.[1]

                                                        Better yet, smiling is contagious. When you engage in a quick smile, you are likely to brighten someone else’s day along with your own. It is no wonder why happy people smile often!

                                                        13. Happy People Live Life in the Present Moment.

                                                        When we are genuinely happy, we are living for the moment.

                                                        Happy people let go of the past, enjoy the present, and look forward to the future. They take the moments for what they are worth – they only invest their energy in what feels right to them.

                                                        Everyone is capable of living a happy-centered life. You deserve a life that you desire – your dream life. All you have to start doing is make happy-based decisions TODAY.

                                                        In every moment, decide on what makes you happy – decide on what gets you excited. Stop doing what you don’t love, don’t listen to the people that you dislike.

                                                        If you are engaging in something that isn’t bringing you joy, then quit doing it. Listen to your heart, stop ignoring the warning signs (negativity) because they are there for a reason.

                                                        I have observed, studied, and interviewed some of the happiest and most successful people along with some of the most miserable and self-loathing.

                                                        It starts with one decision – happiness.

                                                        The happiest, most successful people choose happiness with EACH and EVERY decision. And you can start doing this today.

                                                        Featured photo credit: Autumn Goodman via unsplash.com

                                                        Reference

                                                        [1] Harvard Business Review: The Science Behind the Smile

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