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Remind Yourself These 12 Inspirational Quotes If You Had A Bad Day

Remind Yourself These 12 Inspirational Quotes If You Had A Bad Day

Have you ever asked yourself why do you have bad days? I mean, why does it exist? Can’t we just live a joyful life fulfilled with happiness all the time? Life would be pretty simple if we were blushing and jumping from happiness every second of it. Even the heartbeat says things must go up and down all the time, so does the mood.

If you are the type of a person who has cloudy morning moods and ponders about failure from time to time, you hit the right spot. I found 12 inspirational quotes that are life changing, especially when we experience a quarrel with our mood.

“The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.”

Alice Walker

I have this quote pinned to my ceiling. The only time we think we have no power to change anything is when we think we can’t change anything. A bad day is inevitable, but fighting against it is quite feasible. Direct your thoughts positively and you will see the clouds go away.

“The mind is everything. What you think you become.”

Buddha

If we let a bad mood defeat our positive mood, we will experience a bad day. If we choose to fight against a bad mood we have to force positivity in our mind, even through the tiny fractions between the negativity.

“You can never cross the ocean until you have the courage to lose sight of the shore.”

Christopher Columbus

Let’s see the big picture. Christopher Columbus discovered America and created the new world. He changed the world for the better because he chose to fight against his own fears. One bad day couldn’t lead him to abandon the voyage.

“Either you run the day, or the day runs you.”

Jim Rohn

Either we are the windshield or we are the bugs on the windshield, especially on a highway! Having the power to control your day and to be happy is the biggest treasure of all times. Get things together and fight to be the windshield.

“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.”

Anais Nin

The same courage which led Christopher Columbus to the major discoveries was one of his courage extensions. It’s like that, we feel so small when we feed fears, and feel so big when we feed courage. It’s always up to us what side we feed.

“Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you have imagined.”

Henry David Thoreau

Every single individual I have met, has an image of how his or her life is supposed to be. Even though he or she has the picture, he or she never seems to bat an eye and go towards that image. They imagine it and keep feeding the fears that stops them to be painted on the image. Go toward your dreams, even if your friends and family think you are crazy.

“Fall seven times and stand up eight.”

Japanese Proverb

When Thomas Edison was interviewed by a young reporter who boldly asked Mr. Edison if he felt like a failure and if he thought he should give up by now. Perplexed, Edison replied, “Young man, why would I feel like a failure? And why would I ever give up? I now know definitively over 9,000 ways that an electric light bulb will not work. Success is almost in my grasp.” And shortly after that, and over 10,000 attempts, Edison invented the light bulb. If one bad day, or one atrocious thought condemned his mind, we wouldn’t have overhead light. Thanks Mr. Edison!

“Happiness is not something ready-made. It comes from your own actions.”

Dalai Lama

Striving for happiness is the most important quest in our lives. We have to work for happiness. It’s not a choice all along. It’s a battle, usually the one to conquer our fear.

“You can’t fall if you don’t climb. But there’s no joy in living your whole life on the ground.”

Unknown

Even if we don’t know the author of this quote, it’s one hell of a quote. By sitting home and giving up on our happiness, instead of fighting bad days and a bad mood, we will never accomplish anything. It may be safe, but where is the joy in being safe? I call those people “plants.”

“We must believe that we are gifted for something, and that this thing, at whatever cost, must be attained.”

Marie Curie

We have to believe we are the special ones. What made Albert Einstein so special, or what made Steve Jobs so special? Faith made them special, and it made them legends. Going against everybody made them special and proving everybody they were right made them special.

“Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.”

Les Brown

It’s again losing sight of the shore, but in a different version. The joy is on the other side of fear. We all have experienced it, it’s no science. We have to make the “overcoming fears” part a habit. That’s the true happiness and win-win for bad days.

“Every strike brings me closer to the next home run.”
Babe Ruth

We can’t give up after one bad mood change. We have to keep striking until we get a home run. The first step to success is capability to fight against bad mood and bad days.

One bonus story for my lovely readers:

One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people.

He said, “My son, the battle is between two wolves inside us all.”

“One is Evil – It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.

“The other is good – It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.”

The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: “Which wolf wins?”

The old Cherokee simply replied, “The one you feed.”

Featured photo credit: INSPIRATION/Monica Cazares Salomon via flickr.com

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Last Updated on January 24, 2021

How to Say No When You Know You Say Yes Too Often

How to Say No When You Know You Say Yes Too Often

Do you say yes so often that you no longer feel that your own needs are being met? Are you wondering how to say no to people?

For years, I was a serial people pleaser[1]. Known as someone who would step up, I would gladly make time, especially when it came to volunteering for certain causes. I proudly carried this role all through grade school, college, even through law school. For years, I thought saying “no” meant I would disappoint a good friend or someone I respected.

But somewhere along the way, I noticed I wasn’t quite living my life. Instead, I seem to have created a schedule that was a strange combination of meeting the expectations of others, what I thought I should be doing, and some of what I actually wanted to do. The result? I had a packed schedule that left me overwhelmed and unfulfilled.

It took a long while, but I learned the art of saying no. Saying no meant I no longer catered fully to everyone else’s needs and could make more room for what I really wanted to do. Instead of cramming too much in, I chose to pursue what really mattered. When that happened, I became a lot happier.

And guess what? I hardly disappointed anyone.

The Importance of Saying No

When you learn the art of saying no, you begin to look at the world differently. Rather than seeing all of the things you could or should be doing (and aren’t doing), you start to look at how to say yes to what’s important.

In other words, you aren’t just reacting to what life throws at you. You seek the opportunities that move you to where you want to be.

Successful people aren’t afraid to say no. Oprah Winfrey, considered one of the most successful women in the world, confessed that it was much later in life when she learned how to say no. Even after she had become internationally famous, she felt she had to say yes to virtually everything.

Being able to say no also helps you manage your time better.

Warren Buffett views “no” as essential to his success. He said:

“The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.”

When I made “no” a part of my toolbox, I drove more of my own success, focusing on fewer things and doing them well.

How We Are Pressured to Say Yes

It’s no wonder a lot of us find it hard to say no.

From an early age, we are conditioned to say yes. We said yes probably hundreds of times in order to graduate from high school and then get into college. We said yes to find work, to get a promotion, to find love and then yes again to stay in a relationship. We said yes to find and keep friends.

We say yes because we feel good when we help someone, because it can seem like the right thing to do, because we think that is key to success, and because the request might come from someone who is hard to resist.

And that’s not all. The pressure to say yes doesn’t just come from others. We put a lot of pressure on ourselves.

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At work, we say yes because we compare ourselves to others who seem to be doing more than we are. Outside of work, we say yes because we are feeling bad that we aren’t doing enough to spend time with family or friends.

The message, no matter where we turn, is nearly always, “You really could be doing more.” The result? When people ask us for our time, we are heavily conditioned to say yes.

How Do You Say No Without Feeling Guilty?

Deciding to add the word “no” to your toolbox is no small thing. Perhaps you already say no, but not as much as you would like. Maybe you have an instinct that if you were to learn the art of no that you could finally create more time for things you care about.

But let’s be honest, using the word “no” doesn’t come easily for many people.

3 Rules of Thumbs for Saying No

1. You Need to Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

Let’s face it. It is hard to say no. Setting boundaries around your time, especially you haven’t done it much in the past, will feel awkward. Your comfort zone is “yes,” so it’s time to challenge that and step outside that.

If you need help getting out of your comfort zone, check out this article.

2. You Are the Air Traffic Controller of Your Time

When you want to learn how to say no, remember that you are the only one who understands the demands for your time. Think about it: who else knows about all of the demands in your life? No one.

Only you are at the center of all of these requests. You are the only one that understands what time you really have.

3. Saying No Means Saying Yes to Something That Matters

When we decide not to do something, it means we can say yes to something else that we may care more about. You have a unique opportunity to decide how you spend your precious time.

6 Ways to Start Saying No

Incorporating that little word “no” into your life can be transformational. Turning some things down will mean you can open doors to what really matters. Here are some essential tips to learn the art of no:

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1. Check in With Your Obligation Meter

One of the biggest challenges to saying no is a feeling of obligation. Do you feel you have a responsibility to say yes and worry that saying no will reflect poorly on you?

Ask yourself whether you truly have the duty to say yes. Check your assumptions or beliefs about whether you carry the responsibility to say yes. Turn it around and instead ask what duty you owe to yourself.

2. Resist the Fear of Missing out (FOMO)

Do you have a fear of missing out (FOMO)? FOMO can follow us around in so many ways. At work, we volunteer our time because we fear we won’t move ahead. In our personal lives, we agree to join the crowd because of FOMO, even while we ourselves aren’t enjoying the fun.

Check in with yourself. Are you saying yes because of FOMO or because you really want to say yes? More often than not, running after fear doesn’t make us feel better[2].

3. Check Your Assumptions About What It Means to Say No

Do you dread the reaction you will get if you say no? Often, we say yes because we worry about how others will respond or because of the consequences. We may be afraid to disappoint others or think we will lose their respect. We often forget how much we are disappointing ourselves along the way.

Keep in mind that saying no can be exactly what is needed to send the right message that you have limited time. In the tips below, you will see how to communicate your no in a gentle and loving way.

You might disappoint someone initially, but drawing a boundary can bring you the freedom you need so that you can give freely of yourself when you truly want to. And it will often help others have more respect for you and your boundaries, not less.

4. When the Request Comes in, Sit on It

Sometimes, when we are in the moment, we instinctively agree. The request might make sense at first. Or we typically have said yes to this request in the past.

Give yourself a little time to reflect on whether you really have the time or can do the task properly. You may decide the best option is to say no. There is no harm in giving yourself the time to decide.

5. Communicate Your “No” with Transparency and Kindness

When you are ready to tell someone no, communicate your decision clearly. The message can be open and honest[3] to ensure the recipient that your reasons have to do with your limited time.

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    Resist the temptation not to respond or communicate all. But do not feel obligated to provide a lengthy account about why you are saying no.

    Clear communication with a short explanation is all that is needed. I have found it useful to tell people that I have many demands and need to be careful with how I allocate my time. I will sometimes say I really appreciate that they came to me and for them to check in again if the opportunity arises another time.

    6. Consider How to Use a Modified No

    If you are under pressure to say yes but want to say no, you may want to consider downgrading a “yes” to a “yes but…” as this will give you an opportunity to condition your agreement to what works best for you.

    Sometimes, the condition can be to do the task, but not in the time frame that was originally requested. Or perhaps you can do part of what has been asked.

    Final Thoughts

    Beginning right now, you can change how you respond to requests for your time. When the request comes in, take yourself off autopilot where you might normally say yes.

    Use the request as a way to draw a healthy boundary around your time. Pay particular attention to when you place certain demands on yourself.

    Try it now. Say no to a friend who continues to take advantage of your goodwill. Or, draw the line with a workaholic colleague and tell them you will complete the project, but not by working all weekend. You’ll find yourself much happier.

    More Tips on How to Say No

    Featured photo credit: Chris Ainsworth via unsplash.com

    Reference

    [1] Science of People: 11 Expert Tips to Stop Being a People Pleaser and Start Doing You
    [2] Anxiety and Depression Association of America: Tips to Get Over Your FOMO, or Fear of Missing Out
    [3] Cooks Hill Counseling: 9 Healthy Ways to Say “No”

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