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5 Reasons to Build Trust with Everyone

5 Reasons to Build Trust with Everyone


    By nature, we trust people.

    I believe most of us assume the best in those we meet. That’s not always the case, but often it is. The most important part of this trusting thing is that others need to know they can trust us.

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    In this post I’m going to give you several reasons why gaining trust with people is essential for relationships, growth, and (really) life all the way around.

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    Hopefully, this will help guide us into a discussion as to why trust is so important today.

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    5 Reasons to Build Trust

    1. Character. The core of who you are depends on what you do with your life. That means that we need to have set morals and ethics that we never stray from. We all make mistakes, that’s part of life, but those mistakes should rarely, if ever, be morally or ethically out of practice for us.You’ve likely heard the phrase “it’s a test of character” or something along those lines. People should know what choice you make based on who you are a person. To the extent that you do not make one that’s in line with your character, prepare to lose trust.
    2. Career. We have to face the simple fact that our personalities affect our careers these days. In the past, we could leave work, go crazy, and no one would know unless you told them. With social media, that simply is not true. Sooner or later, you will be ousted not only as mayor of Starbucks, but as a fraud of who you thought you were.Your career path will reflect that of your choices.It think back to Tiger Woods’ fiasco a few years back. His entire life was affected due to the fact that he lost trust with so many people. Some will give it back over time, others not. His career was affected and he didn’t play well for a very long time. Losing trust is a real shot to all of us and often times we don’t realize the people we affect until it’s too late.
    3. Future. This goes right along with career, but your future is highly important. This includes your family, job and online presence. The simple fact is that if you’re online, you’ve got a presence and people are making judgements about you. Don’t neglect your morals or you will suffer consequences in your future.
    4. Ministry. For those of us that are spiritual, this is huge. I say spiritual because the term religious doesn’t really describe the internals feelings of a person and who they are.It simply describes their outer actions.If people don’t trust you as a person to whom they can come to in a time of need or who they can look up to during a difficult situation, your ministry to them will be affected.There are people I know that, even though I don’t believe the same way they do, I still respect them and trust them because I know where their heart is.
    5. Self-worth.For some reason people tend to think less of themselves than they should. I can’t speak to this as to why because I was raised to think highly of myself and believe in the things I can do.Of course, I understand as I grow older that those things really come from God, for me. I can only hold myself up because He holds me up. And people respect that regardless of whether they believe the same as me or not.Self-worth is important to show others that you care about yourself enough to take care of yourself for your family and friends. Those people that don’t want to learn, grow or thrive, lose trust with those of us that do. We know we can never truly rely on them when important things come along.Think highly of yourself, if for no other reason, because God made you, and He doesn’t make mistakes.

    Trust is huge in our society. Social media is probably the one key thing that has brought that out more over the past few years than anything else. We are living in a time where we can no longer hide ourselves. Accountability is around every corner and it can be a very good thing.

    What are some other reasons to build trust with people? Are there any specific instances in your life where being trustworthy has helped you or someone else? 

    (Photo credit: Trust Word Made by Letter Pieces via Shutterstock)

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    Last Updated on February 11, 2021

    Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

    Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

    How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

    Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

    The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

    Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

    Perceptual Barrier

    The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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    The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

    The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

    Attitudinal Barrier

    Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

    The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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    The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

    Language Barrier

    This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

    The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

    The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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    Emotional Barrier

    Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

    The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

    The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

    Cultural Barrier

    Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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    The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

    The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

    Gender Barrier

    Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

    The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

    The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

    And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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