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15 Things You Can Feel Happy With, Though Many People Think You Shouldn’t

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15 Things You Can Feel Happy With, Though Many People Think You Shouldn’t

People like complicating their lives by believing that they need the most exquisite or expensive things to be happy. Guess what? The best things in life may not be totally free – but they are cheap, personal and simple. What you may term as insignificant may be what contributes to your happiness the most. Here are 15 things that will make you happy regardless of what other people feel about it.

“Happiness in intelligent people is the rarest thing I know.”
― Ernest Hemingway

1. You have solitude

If you can have special moments by yourself and don’t worry about being away from other people, you should be happy. Not everyone can relate with what solitude means, but you can.

2. You own your personal beliefs

You can weave a personal belief passionately and do not have to suppress your own thoughts and feelings because you want acceptance from people.

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3. You live with others

Whether you are sharing an apartment with someone, crashing in different hostels across the country with friends, or still living with your parents, you are happy.

4. You can live with your mistakes

We all make mistakes every now and then. Yes, mistakes are sometimes a result of bad decisions – but if you can make a mistake and still be relevant to the progress of the world and those around you, you should be happy.

5. You can complete a job

There is satisfaction in work well done. If you can accomplish tasks whether little or small, it means you are happy and fulfilled.

6. You moved on after a broken heart

When disappointments hit us, we are meant to be shattered and seem incurable. However our ability to bounce back from such disappointment is another cornerstone of our happiness.

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7. You enjoy being single

Some need a companion to consolidate their happiness, however that is not you. You are contented about your marital status and the freedom it provides.

8. You can have a good night’s sleep

You should be happy when you don’t have any reason to stay all night worrying or clothed with grief. But you can rest and look forward to a beautiful new day.

9. You are appreciative and comfortable with whom you are

You can look at the mirror and be satisfied with who stares back at you. You are not uncomfortable with your reflections or what life has handed out to you.

10. You can fall in love

Falling in love validates that we can be loved and we can love someone back. When you do not hold back from the feeling of love and can spend moments with a special person, then you should be happy.

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11. You can show an act of kindness

You should be happy when you can give your time, energy or money without expecting anything in return. Philanthropy and acts of kindness breeds happiness, and you shouldn’t be concerned with how others feel about it.

12. You are able to define your own kind of success

We all have different definitions of success. When the media tries to haul its images and pictures at us, we are still able to stick to our definition of success and find ourselves not falling short.

13. You have goals and dreams…

You should be happy when you have plans for the future and things you are looking forward to.

14. …and some of your goals and dreams have already come true

Accomplishment can present you with a sense of pride and fulfillment. These elements are essential to making you happy all the time.

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15. You can eat what you like

You don’t have to eat what every other person is eating. You can make your choices based on your taste preferences and health issues. Whatever you are eating is a subject that is left to you and you should be happy about it.

Remember, if your standards are set on your own terms then you won’t have any reason to be unhappy.

Featured photo credit: Hipsters spraying beer over each other on a sunny day via shutterstock.com

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Last Updated on November 18, 2021

10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

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10 Proven Ways to Judge a Person’s Character

We all fall into the trap of judging a person’s character by their appearance. How wrong we are! All too often, the real character of the person only appears when some negative event hits them or you. Then you may see a toxic person emerging from the ruins and it is often a shock.

A truly frightening example is revealed in the book by O’Toole in Bowman called Dangerous Instincts: How Gut Instincts Betray Us. A perfectly respectable, charming, well dressed neighbor was found to have installed a torture chamber in his garage where he was systematically abusing kidnapped women. This is an extreme example, but it does show how we can be totally deceived by a person’s physical appearance, manners and behavior.

So, what can you do? You want to be able to assess personal qualities when you come into contact with colleagues, fresh acquaintances and new friends who might even become lifelong partners. You want to know if they are:

  • honest
  • reliable
  • competent
  • kind and compassionate
  • capable of taking the blame
  • able to persevere
  • modest and humble
  • pacific and can control anger.

The secret is to reserve judgment and take your time. Observe them in certain situations; look at how they react. Listen to them talking, joking, laughing, explaining, complaining, blaming, praising, ranting, and preaching. Only then will you be able to judge their character. This is not foolproof, but if you follow the 10 ways below, you have a pretty good chance of not ending up in an abusive relationship.

1. Is anger a frequent occurrence?

All too often, angry reactions which may seem to be excessive are a sign that there are underlying issues. Do not think that every person who just snaps and throws his/her weight around mentally and physically is just reacting normally. Everyone has an occasional angry outburst when driving or when things go pear-shaped.

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But if this is almost a daily occurrence, then you need to discover why and maybe avoid that person. Too often, anger will escalate to violent and aggressive behavior. You do not want to be near someone who thinks violence can solve personal or global problems.

2. Can you witness acts of kindness?

How often do you see this person being kind and considerate? Do they give money to beggars, donate to charity, do voluntary work or in some simple way show that they are willing to share the planet with about 7 billion other people?

I was shocked when a guest of mine never showed any kindness to the weak and disadvantaged people in our town. She was ostensibly a religious person, but I began to doubt the sincerity of her beliefs.

“The best index to a person’s character is how he treats people who can’t do him any good, and how he treats people who can’t fight back.”

Abigail Van Buren

3. How does this person take the blame?

Maybe you know that s/he is responsible for a screw-up in the office or even in not turning up on time for a date. Look at their reaction. If they start blaming other colleagues or the traffic, well, this is an indication that they are not willing to take responsibility for their mistakes.

4. Don’t use Facebook as an indicator.

You will be relieved to know that graphology (the study of that forgotten skill of handwriting) is no longer considered a reliable test of a person’s character. Neither is Facebook stalking, fortunately. A study showed that Facebook use of foul language, sexual innuendo and gossip were not reliable indicators of a candidate’s character or future performance in the workplace.

5. Read their emails.

Now a much better idea is to read the person’s emails. Studies show that the use of the following can indicate certain personality traits:

  • Too many exclamation points may reveal a sunny disposition
  • Frequent errors may indicate apathy
  • Use of smileys is the only way a person can smile at you
  • Use of the third person may reveal a certain formality
  • Too many question marks can show anger
  • Overuse of capital letters is regarded as shouting. They are a definite no-no in netiquette, yet a surprising number of  people still use them.

6. Watch out for the show offs.

Listen to people as they talk. How often do they mention their achievements, promotions, awards and successes? If this happens a lot, it is a sure indication that this person has an over-inflated view of his/her achievements. They are unlikely to be modest or show humility. What a pity!  Another person to avoid.

7. Look for evidence of perseverance.

A powerful indicator of grit and tenacity is when a person persists and never gives up when they really want to achieve a life goal. Look for evidence of them keeping going in spite of enormous difficulties.

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Great achievements by scientists and inventors all bear the hallmark of perseverance. We only have to think of Einstein, Edison (who failed thousands of times) and Nelson Mandela to get inspiration. The US Department of Education is in no doubt about how grit, tenacity and perseverance will be key success factors for youth in the 21st century.

8. Their empathy score is high.

Listen to how they talk about the less fortunate members of our society such as the poor, immigrants and the disabled. Do you notice that they talk in a compassionate way about these people? The fact that they even mention them is a strong indicator of empathy.

People with zero empathy will never talk about the disadvantaged. They will rarely ask you a question about a difficult time or relationship. They will usually steer the conversation back to themselves. These people have zero empathy and in extreme cases, they are psychopaths who never show any feelings towards their victims.

9. Learn how to be socially interactive.

We are social animals and this is what makes us so uniquely human. If a person is isolated or a loner, this may be a negative indicator of their character. You want to meet a person who knows about trust, honesty and loyalty. The only way to practice these great qualities is to actually interact socially. The great advantage is that you can share problems and celebrate success and joy together.

“One can acquire everything in solitude, except character.”

Stendhal

 10. Avoid toxic people.

These people are trying to control others and often are failing to come to terms with their own failures. Typical behavior and conversations may concern:

  • Envy or jealousy
  • Criticism of partners, colleagues and friends
  • Complaining about their own lack of success
  • Blaming others for their own bad luck or failure
  • Obsession with themselves and their problems

Listen to these people talk and you will quickly discover that you need to avoid them at all costs because their negativity will drag you down. In addition, as much as you would like to help them, you are not qualified to do so.

Now, having looked at some of the best ways to judge a person, what about yourself? How do others see you? Why not take Dr. Phil’s quiz and find out. Can you bear it?

Featured photo credit: Jacek Dylag via unsplash.com

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