Advertising
Advertising

10 Things Calm People Do that Make Them More Likely to Be Successful

10 Things Calm People Do that Make Them More Likely to Be Successful

Keeping a cool head is a critical part of being successful. When you get frazzled or dismayed, it can be incredibly difficult to make good choices. Whether you are already rocking the calm vibes or you are looking to get some chill tips, here are ten things that calm folks do that contribute to their success:

1. They Live Right Here, Right Now

When you lose sight of the present, you can get really stressed. There are a lot of things you’ve got to do tomorrow, next week, next year. Calm people know that focusing too much on the future does not lead to success. Sure, we should all have a sense of direction, but that can quickly get out of hand. Remember the now, increase your enjoyment, and find success in the task before you.

Advertising

2. They Expect Some Craziness

While calm people may not generate or encourage craziness, lots of other variables can lead to some level of chaos. Calm people know that this is natural and there is no use in denying the existence of crazy. Instead, it is better to realize that sometimes things won’t go as planned and that is okay. Things will continue to work out, despite a little messiness here and there.

3. They Develop and Follow Through on Routines

While some people see routines as boring, calm people know it can really be a soothing experience. Whether we want to admit it or not, human beings thrive on routine. When we know what is going to happen next and follow through, we can train our minds to stay calm. Certainly everything can not be boiled down into a routine, but calm people know that developing and sticking to one or two routines can give them some mental space and ultimately contribute to their success.

Advertising

4. They Spend Time Taking Care of Themselves

One reason calm people can stay cool in difficult situations is because they have spent time taking care of themselves. Consciously dedicating some time and energy every day to doing things you love can seriously increase your sense of peace. While it may be inconvenient to schedule time to watch a movie or do your favorite craft, calm people know it is an investment worth making.

5. They Know How to Turn Off the Phone

Our phones can be a great source of entertainment, but they can also cause a lot of stress. It is incredibly difficult to find some mental space away from your problems if your email is always stealing a few moments here and there. Calm people protect their down time. This sometimes requires turning off the cell phone, but this is a sacrifice calm people are willing to make.

Advertising

6. They Enjoy a Good Walk

While driving can be an efficient way to travel, it doesn’t really connect you to your environment. However, going for a walk allows you to smell, feel, and breath the outside air. You have to dedicate less mental energy to walking which gives you more time to think and process the day’s events. Calm people know that a good walk can provide mental freedom and an opportunity to step out of the chaos of everyday life.

7. They Know When and How to Set Up Boundaries

You can’t be calm if everybody is demanding things from you all the time. Calm people know that setting up boundaries is absolutely necessary, even if it may seem a little mean at times. If you don’t protect your time, you will be unable to accomplish any of your tasks effectively.

Advertising

8. They Find Contentment in Today

Sure we’ve all got big dreams, but just because you hope things will be different tomorrow doesn’t mean today isn’t pretty darn great. Calm people look for and find things to be grateful for about today. Consciously identifying good things throughout your day increases your sense of happiness and peace.

9. They Creatively Exercise Regularly

Calm people have learned how to manage their emotions effectively. Numerous studies have shown that exercising can increase your sense of happiness and peace. By varying the exercise routine and trying different types of exercise, calm people stay engaged in their exercise plan and use their workouts to channel a lot of their distracting emotions.

10. They Volunteer

Being calm is a symptom of feeling content. One way to find contentment, is to help others. Volunteering increases your sense of purpose and provides genuine meaningful relationships with others. The meaning and perspective provided by volunteering is an incredible asset to those seeking to become successful.

Featured photo credit: suc via pixabay.com

More by this author

8 Best Ways to Organize Your Apps 10 Questions To Ask Before Marriage 7 Things Only Backpackers Would Understand The 15 Most Underrated Colleges In America Science Reveals That Quick Thinkers Are More Charismatic

Trending in Communication

1 7 Ways To Deal With Negative People 2 How to Talk to Strangers Without Feeling Awkward 3 What Are Interpersonal Skills? Master Them for Better Relationships 4 How To Stop Negative Thoughts from Killing Your Confidence 5 This 4-Year Old Girl’s Explanation On the Problem with New Year’s Resolutions Is Everything You Need

Read Next

Advertising
Advertising
Advertising

Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

Advertising

In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

Advertising

But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

Advertising

5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

Advertising

You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

Read Next