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Which 5 People Have You Chosen To Spend Time With? It Can Predict Your Future

Which 5 People Have You Chosen To Spend Time With? It Can Predict Your Future

Multiple researchers, self-help experts and business leaders have come to the same conclusion: your network determines who you are and the scope of your success. This shouldn’t come as an awful surprise to most people: after all, we are who we are thanks to our experiences, and what would those experiences be without the important people in our lives?

In this article, we’ll explain these concepts for your benefit, and, more importantly, teach you what you need to know and how to apply it to your life for your success. You’re the average of the five people closest to you, and that can predict your future.

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The Research

The quote that this article directly references comes from Jim Rohn. Rohn wasn’t a scientist or anything- he was an entreprenuer. He built his fortune with AbundaVit and Nutri-Bio, both diret-selling companies. Building his fortune gave him the experience he needed to become an author and motivational speaker, who wrote multiple books on self-improvement.

Despite this, a number of studies back up his statement. Research indicates that people’s economic opportunities are largely based on where they live. This extends to and includes the people you know.

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Meanwhile, the Chicago Journal of Consumer Research states that the experts in any given field prefer negative feedback than positive feedback— this is because negative feedback encourages these people to improve to get past it, while positive feedback doesn’t encourage this response and instead encourages complacency.

So, are you surrounded by people who challenge you to be better than what you are or by those who praise you for standing in place?

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How It Predicts The Future

You see, the people surrounding you predict your future because they directly determine your opportunities and your standards for yourself. If you’re surrounded by people who aren’t successful in their lives, you aren’t going to have the networking necessary to connect with people who can bring out your truest potential.

Meanwhile, if you’re also surrounded by people who hold you to low standards, you won’t get the kick you need to keep improving in your life. Your goal as a person should be to constantly improve and constantly push yourself to better heights, not to stand in place like a statue and let the world flow around you.

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Applying This Information To Your Life

Finally, let’s start talking about how you can actually apply this information to your life. If you’re looking to succeed in a certain field, your goal should be to surround yourself with people who have succeeded or are succeeding in those fields.

For instance, if you plan on getting ahead in the world of technology, it’d be a good idea to have friends in high places— friends who work at places like Google or Amazon. Friends who can critique your work and help you get ahead once you’re ready.

Of course, not every friend you have can be working for a massive tech company. But of the five people you spend the most time with, they should all meet the following requirements:

  • Holds you to a higher standard than you hold yourself.
  • Is ready and willing to constructively criticize your work.
  • Empowers themselves in their own lives and looks to empower you as well.

As long as your closest connection hits all three of those bullet points, you’re in a good place. Now, you can tackle your future and start making it your own.

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Christopher Harper

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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