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40+ Quotes To Read When Everything Appears To Be Going Wrong In Your Life

40+ Quotes To Read When Everything Appears To Be Going Wrong In Your Life

There are sunny days and there are rainy days, and there may be times in your life when you can’t see the end to the downpour. Don’t despair, you are not alone. Don’t let yourself sink into the mud. Pull on some boots, grab your raincoat and choose to dance in the rain. Change your perspective on the situation, find your faith, embrace the rain, or look for the rainbow in the clouds. Here are 40+ inspirational quotes to motivate you through those darker days when everything appears to be going wrong in your life.

1. Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no less enthusiasm

    2. If you look the right way, you can see the whole world is a garden

    If you look the right way, you can see the whole world is a garden.

      3. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself

        4. Things do not change, we change

        Things do not change, we change.

          5. You may not control all of the events that happen to you…

          Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway.

            6. I have not failed, I’ve just found 10,000 ways that don’t work

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            I have not failed, I have just found 10,000 ways that don't work.

              7. Let your hopes, not your hurts shape your future

              Let your hopes, not your hurts shape your future.

                8. Attitude is the difference between an ordeal and an adventure

                Attitude is the difference between an ordeal and an adventure

                  9. What I like best is new starts

                  What I like best is new starts.

                    10. This too shall pass

                      11. One happiness scatters a thousand sorrows

                      One happiness scatters a thousand sorrows.

                        12. This world is but a canvas to our imagination

                          13. You are never too old to set another goal or dream another dream

                            14. Broken crayons still color

                            Broken crayons still color

                              15. The best way to cheer yourself up is to try and cheer somebody else up

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                              The best way to cheer yourself up is to try and cheer somebody else up

                                16. Courage is being scared to death, but saddling up anyway

                                Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway.

                                  17. The only thing permanent in this life is that everything is temporary

                                  The only thing permanent in this life is that everything is temporary.

                                    18. Nothing is impossible

                                      19. It isn’t what you have or who you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy, it is what you think about.

                                      It isn't what you have or who you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy, it is what you think about.

                                        20. A goal is not always meant to be reached

                                          21. Still round the corner there may wait, a new road or secret gate.

                                          Still round the corner there may wait, a new road or secret gate.

                                             22. Don’t feel sorry for yourself if you have chosen the wrong road. Turn around.

                                              23. I avoid looking back, I prefer good memories to regrets

                                              I avoid looking back. I prefer good memories to regret.

                                                24. Follow your bliss

                                                Follow your bliss and the universe will open up doors where there were only walls

                                                  25. Good things happen in your life when you surround yourself with positive people

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                                                  Good things happen in your life when you surround yourself with positive people.

                                                    26. Faith is taking the first step, even if you don’t see the whole staircase

                                                    Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase.

                                                      27. It is the law of life if you are kind to someone, you feel happy

                                                      It is the law of life that if you are kind to someone, you feel happy.

                                                        28. Once you choose hope, anything is possible.

                                                        Once you choose hope, anything is possible.

                                                          29. Every exit is an entry somewhere else

                                                          Every exit is an entry somewhere else.

                                                            30. Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again

                                                            Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.- Henry Ford

                                                              31. Problems are not stop signs, they are guidelines.

                                                              Problems are not stop signs, they are guidelines.

                                                                32. Do not stop thinking of life as an adventure

                                                                Do not stop thinking as life as an adventure.

                                                                  33. A problem is your chance to do your best.

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                                                                  A problem is your chance to do your best.

                                                                    34. Success is not final; failure is not fatal

                                                                    Success is not final, failure is not fatal; It is the courage to continue that counts.

                                                                      35. Think of all the beauty still left around you and be happy.

                                                                      Think of all the beauty still left around you and be happy.

                                                                         36. You will never find a rainbow if you are looking down

                                                                        You will never find a rainbow if you are looking down.

                                                                          37. Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow.

                                                                          Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow.

                                                                             38. I can’t always change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails

                                                                            I can't always change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination.

                                                                              39. The glory is not in never failing, but in rising every time you fall

                                                                              The glory is not in never failing, but in rising every time you fall.

                                                                                40. Be thankful for everything that happens in your life; It’s all an experience

                                                                                Be thankful for everything that happens in your life; it is all an experience.

                                                                                  41. The first step is you have to say you can

                                                                                  The first step is you have to say that you can

                                                                                    42. It is not in the stars to hold our destiny, but in ourselves

                                                                                    It is not in the stars to hold our destiny, but in ourselves.

                                                                                      43. Only in the darkness can you see the stars.

                                                                                      Only in the darkness can you see the stars.

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                                                                                        How to Say No When You Say Yes Too Often

                                                                                        How to Say No When You Say Yes Too Often

                                                                                        Do you say yes so often that you realize you aren’t really happy about this, wondering how to say no to people?

                                                                                        For years, I was a serial people pleaser. Known as someone who would step up, I would gladly make time especially when it came to volunteering for certain causes. I proudly carried this role all through grade school, college, even through law school. For years, I thought saying “no” meant I would disappoint a good friend or someone I respected.

                                                                                        But somewhere along the way, I noticed I wasn’t quite living my life. Instead, I seem to have created a schedule that was a strange combination of meeting the expectations of others, what I thought I should be doing, and some of what I actually wanted to do. The result? I had a packed schedule that left me overwhelmed and unfulfilled.

                                                                                        It took a long while but I learned the art of saying no. Saying ‘no’ meant I no longer catered fully to everyone else’s needs and could make more room for what I really wanted to do. Instead of cramming too much in, I chose to pursue what really mattered. I started to manage my time more around my own needs and interests. When that happened, I became a lot happier. And guess what? I hardly disappointed anyone.

                                                                                        The Importance of Saying No

                                                                                        When you learn the art of saying ‘no,’ you begin to look at the world differently. Rather than seeing all of the things you could or should be doing (and aren’t doing), you start to look at how to say yes to what’s important.

                                                                                        In other words, you aren’t just reacting to what life throws at you. You seek the opportunities that move you to where you want to be.

                                                                                        Successful people aren’t afraid to say no. Oprah Winfrey considered one of the most successful women in the world confessed that it was much later in life when she learned how to say no. Even after she had become internationally famous, she felt she had to say yes to virtually everything. It was only when she realized that after years of struggling with saying no, I finally got to this question: “What do I want?”

                                                                                        Being able to say no also helps you manage your time better.

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                                                                                        Warren Buffett views no as essential to his success. He said,

                                                                                        “The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.”

                                                                                        When I made ‘no’ a part of my toolbox, I drove more of my own success focusing on fewer things and doing them well.

                                                                                        How We Are Pressured to Say Yes

                                                                                        It’s no wonder a lot of us find it hard to say ‘no.’

                                                                                        From an early age, we are conditioned to say ‘yes.’ We said yes probably hundreds of time in order to graduate from high school and then get into college. We said yes to find work. We said yes get a promotion. We said yes to find love and then yes again to stay in a relationship. We said yes to find and keep friends.

                                                                                        We say yes because it feels better to help someone. We say yes because it can seem like the right thing to do. We say yes because we think that is key to success. And we say yes because the request might come from someone who is hard to resist like the boss.

                                                                                        And that’s not all. The pressure to say yes doesn’t just come from others. We put a lot of pressure on ourselves. At work, we say yes because we compare ourselves to others who seem to be doing more than we are. Outside of work, we say yes because we feel guilty we aren’t doing enough to spend time with family or friends.

                                                                                        The message no matter where we turn is nearly always, “You really could be doing more.” The result? When people ask us for our time, we are heavily conditioned to say yes.

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                                                                                        How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty

                                                                                        Deciding to add the word ‘no’ to your toolbox is no small thing. Perhaps you already say ‘no’ but not as much as you would like. Maybe you have an instinct that if you were to learn the art of ‘no’ that you could finally create more time for things you care about. But let’s be honest, using the word ‘no’ doesn’t come easily for many people.

                                                                                        The 3 Rules of Thumbs for Saying No

                                                                                        1. You Need to Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

                                                                                        Let’s face it. It is hard to say no. Setting boundaries around your time especially you haven’t done it much in the past will feel awkward.

                                                                                        2. You Are the Air Traffic Controller of Your Time

                                                                                        Remember that you are the only one who understands the demands for your time. Think about it, who else knows about all of the demands on your time? No one. Only you are at the center of all of these requests. are the only one that understands what time you really have.

                                                                                        3. Saying ‘No’ Means Saying ‘Yes’ to Something That Matters

                                                                                        When we decide not to do something, it means we can say yes to something else. You have a unique opportunity to decide how you spend your precious time.

                                                                                        6 Ways to Start Saying No

                                                                                        Incorporating that little word ‘no’ into your life can be transformational. Turning some things down will mean you can open doors to what really matters. Here are some essential tips to learn the art of no:

                                                                                        1. Check in With Your Obligation Meter

                                                                                        One of the biggest challenges to saying ‘no’ is a feeling of obligation. Do you feel you have a responsibility to say yes and worry that saying no reflect poorly on you?

                                                                                        Ask yourself whether you truly have the duty to say yes. Check your assumptions or beliefs about whether you carry the responsibility to say yes. Turn it around and instead ask what duty you owe to yourself.

                                                                                        2. Resist the Fear of Missing out (FOMO)

                                                                                        Do you have a fear of missing out (FOMO)? FOMO can follow us around in so many ways. At work, we volunteer our time because we fear we won’t move ahead. In our personal lives, we agree to join the crowd because FOMO even while we ourselves aren’t enjoying the fun.

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                                                                                        Check in with yourself. Are you saying yes because of FOMO or because you really want to say yes? More often than not, running after fear doesn’t make us feel better.

                                                                                        3. Check Your Assumptions About What It Means to Say ‘No’

                                                                                        Do you dread the reaction you will get if you say no? Often, we say ‘yes’ because we worry about how others will respond or the consequences of saying no or because of the consequences. We may be afraid to disappoint others or think we will lose respect from others. We often forget how much we are disappointing ourselves along the way.

                                                                                        Keep in mind that saying ‘no’ can be exactly what is needed to send the right message that you have limited time. In the tips below, you will see how to communicate your no in a gentle and loving way. You might disappoint someone initially but drawing a boundary can bring you the freedom you need so that you can give freely of yourself when you truly want to.

                                                                                        4. When the Request Comes In, Sit on It

                                                                                        Sometimes, when we are in the moment, we instinctively agree. The request might make sense at first. Or we typically have said yes to this request in the past.

                                                                                        Give yourself a little time to reflect on whether you really have the time, or can do the task properly. You may decide the best option is to say ‘no.’ There is no harm in giving yourself the time to decide.

                                                                                        5. Communicate Your ‘No’ with Transparency and Kindness

                                                                                        When you are ready to tell someone no, communicate your decision clearly. The message can be open and honest to ensure the recipient that your reasons have to do with your limited time.

                                                                                        Resist the temptation not to respond or communicate all. But do not feel obligated to provide a lengthy account about why you are saying no.

                                                                                        A clear communication with a short explanation is all that is needed. I have found it useful to tell people that I have many demands and need to be careful with how I allocate my time. I will sometimes say I really appreciate that they came to me and for them to check in again if the opportunity arises another time.

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                                                                                        6. Consider How to Use a Modified ‘No’

                                                                                        If you are under pressure to say yes but want to say no, you may want to consider downgrading a “yes” to a “yes but…” giving you an opportunity to condition your agreement to what works best for you.

                                                                                        Sometimes, the condition can be to do the task but not in the time frame that was originally requested. Or perhaps you can do part of what has been asked.

                                                                                        Final Thoughts

                                                                                        Beginning right now, you can change how you respond to requests for your time. When the request comes in, take yourself off autopilot where you might normally say yes.

                                                                                        Use the request as a fresh request to draw a healthy boundary around your time. Pay particular attention to when you place certain demands on yourself. If you are the one placing the demand on yourself, try to evaluate the demand as if it were coming from somewhere else.

                                                                                        Try it now. Say no to a friend who continues to take advantage of your goodwill. Or, draw the line with a workaholic colleague and tell them you will complete the project but not by working all weekend. Or, tell someone in your family you can’t loan them money again because they never paid you back the last time. You’ll find yourself much happier.

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