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For Significant Self Improvement, You Need To Say Goodbye To These 10 Thoughts

For Significant Self Improvement, You Need To Say Goodbye To These 10 Thoughts

When you talk to yourself, what do you say? Do you motivate yourself with kind, empowering words like you do when you speak to your loved ones, or are they more negative? Many people attack themselves on a daily basis in their own minds, which can ruin their self-confidence.

Check out 10 thoughts that you need to say goodbye to so that you can focus on self-improvement.

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1. “It’s too late to do anything about it now.”

Whether you are 16 or 60, you can always change and improve. Often inner peace and strength are gained through a lifetime of learning, and these skills can completely change your outlook on life. Remember that you are a work In progress; don’t tell the painter to stop painting before the masterpiece is done!

2. “None of this is my fault, it’s their fault.”

It is very easy to blame others for everything, because you don’t have to do anything yourself. You don’t have to change or improve – so more than anything, you won’t grow. Accept responsibility for your mistakes so that you can improve your life and find happiness.

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3. “If only I was funnier and smarter.”

Not being comfortable with who you are can ruin your self-esteem. Every single person on Earth has flaws – the best method is to embrace your flaws and focus on being true to who you really are. You may you wish you were funnier, but to your friends you may be one of the funniest people that they know.

4. “I wish today was over.”

Sometimes you will do something that feels like a waste of time, but later turns out to be one of the best decisions you ever made. Do not wish your days away – you never know when the next amazing thing will happen, so throw yourself into experiencing and enjoying every day.

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5. “I need their approval.”

Unless you are at work, it is very rare that you actually need anyone’s approval to do anything. Many people throw away their life goals and dreams because it may bother their parents or partner, but this can be a terrible mistake. They may not see your point of view now, but that doesn’t mean that your point of view doesn’t exist.

6. “I want to be comfortable – being uncomfortable is scary.”

Outside of the comfort zone is where great things happen. Say goodbye to this thought by taking risks and putting yourself out there will help you to reach your full potential and to grow as a person.

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7. “I want to avoid all pain.”

It is impossible to live a life without sadness. Humans learn strength through pain and struggle, which allows us to become better versions of ourselves. If you are afraid of emotional pain, remember that it is difficult to enjoy happiness without also experiencing sadness.

8. “My thoughts aren’t that important.”

You will spend much of your life convincing others that your thoughts are important and relevant – if you don’t believe it, how will you convince others? Say what matters to you and let it all out! Say goodbye to this thought by believing in your thoughts, and remembering that they are just as important as everyone else’s.

9. “It is too hard.”

You will experience dizzying highs and crashing lows during yourself. There is nothing that you can do to avoid hard times, but you can choose to not give up and to keep fighting when they do happen. Hold your head high and remember that there is ALWAYS a light at the end of the tunnel – it is just up to you to find that light.

10. “I have lost too much to continue.”

One perspective; I have lose everything and it is awful. Another perspective; now I have nothing, I am truly free to try anything without the chance of losing everything. Life is all about your mind-set; if you choose to be pessimistic and fearful, your choices will be limited. Say goodbye to this thought by choosing to be strong and brave, opening up endless possibilities.  Good luck!

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Last Updated on October 15, 2018

Why Helping Others Actually Helps Yourself

Why Helping Others Actually Helps Yourself

Helping others: it’s a fundamental part of humanity, bonding together and helping a fellow man or woman. In times of tragedy, the stories of those who help others are inspiring, such as helping the nation recover from national disasters and terrorist attacks. Some men and women even devote their lives to helping others, from the police force that protects our cities, to the fire departments who run into burning buildings, to the service men and women who risk their lives for the common good.

“No one has ever become poor by giving.” ― Anne Frank, diary of Anne Frank

But helping others isn’t limited to these grand gestures or times of tribulation. Helping others can be done each and every day. And contrary to what you may have heard, helping others doesn’t always have to be a selfless act. It’s important to understand that helping others can actually help yourself. No matter what the motivation, getting out and helping others is the key. So in that spirit of motivation, here are 5 reasons why helping others actually helps yourself.

1. Quid Pro Quo

When you help someone, they will be more likely to help you. This is the basic, unspoken agreement that fuels nearly every move. I’ll spend my entire day lugging boxes, but you owe me. It’s much easier to find help when someone knows you’d do the same for them. They may not always live up to their end of the bargin, and you may not either. But if you help enough people and do many good deeds, it will be given back when needed.

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2. Karma goes both ways.

All too often, the idea of Karma is described in a negative way. If you do bad, bad will come find you. But it works the other way too. When you are a good person and help people, good things seem to happen. And while you may not believe in an inter-connected universe that rewards good deeds, there is something to be said about how helping others changes your perspective. When you’re helping others, you will often feel better about yourself, increasing the likelihood that your next experience will be a positive one, rather than a negative one.

3. Doing good feels good.

It’s maybe the most cited benefit of doing good: you’ll feel great. Helping others is a great way to feel better about yourself. Seeing a smile or even tears of joy makes it all worth it. It’s as simple as that.

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4. Good publicity is the best publicity.

People notice when you’re doing good. It may not be the reason you help out, but someone is always watching. Even the simplest gesture can make an awesome impression.

When I was in college, I had a class that helped out at a school for a full day. I worked with a small group of high school students who were incredibly interested in writing, and I had a great time. I asked the teacher if I could come back on my own time and work with these students to finish this project we were working on, to which she agreed.

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I went two more times that week, thinking nothing more about it. Fast forward a few weeks: I received a letter in the mail stating I had been chosen as a Presidential Grant Recipient for the summer and received a $2,000 stipend to work with a group of students and professors on a research project over the summer. I was floored, as I hadn’t even applied. I was nominated by that teacher who appreciated the work I did with her students. It wasn’t expected, but helping others ended up opening a door I never would have known was even available.

5. Helping others looks good on a resume or application.

Is your resume looking a little thin? Does your college application need a bit of pizzaz? Volunteering your time and energy to help others makes your resume and applications look as good as it makes you feel. Hiring managers look favorably on volunteer work and many acceptance committees use it to separate similar candidates. So read to some first graders, volunteer at the homeless shelter, and volunteer at your local Boys and Girl Club. Your resume will thank you.

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