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10 Things You Should Never Sacrifice For A Relationship

10 Things You Should Never Sacrifice For A Relationship

Are you in a relationship? Good relationships help you to grow as a person and find mutual happiness, but sometimes relationships can sour and negatively affect both partners.

Check out the 10 things you should never sacrifice in your relationship.

1. Your Happiness

Your partner should bring happiness and joy to your life, rather than dragging you down and making you feel sad. If your partner makes you feel down about yourself or your life, then you are no longer in a healthy relationship. Your partner won’t always be in a great mood, but if they are intentionally hurting you, you need to let them go. They need to work on themselves before they can have a healthy relationship.

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2. Your Fun

Do you laugh with your partner and try new things together? While it is normal to have disagreements, your relationship should mostly be happy and fun. It is important to enjoy your life with your partner and your friends, and your partner should understand and respect that.

3. Your Freedom

In a healthy relationship, you should be able to go out and enjoy yourself without your partner getting annoyed or worried. Possessive behavior is normally an indicator of insecurity, and insecurity is their personal problem that you cannot fix. A healthy and stable relationship involves partners spending time together and time alone.

4. Your Inner Peace

It is important to retain your inner peace for your own happiness. If your partner makes you feel anxious, angry, or nervous, you may find yourself feeling depressed or withdrawn. If you are regularly fighting with your partner, it’s time to ask yourself why — is there an on-going issue in the relationship? Can you make each other happy? Can the problem be solved?

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5. Your Experiences

Life is exciting. Throughout your life, you will have brilliant experiences that will make you wiser, happier, and more at peace with yourself. If your partner is unwilling to try new things, and holds you back from trying them, you may struggle to stay happy. An emotionally stable partner will encourage you to experience new things and to have fun.

6. Your Personality

Your personality is who you are, and the right person will love your personality above all. In a happy relationship, neither partner would want to change each other’s personalities because they love each other for who they are.

Of course, compromise is normal and healthy, but don’t be with someone who tries to change your personality – it could mean they don’t love you for you.

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7. Your Other Relationships

At the beginning of a relationship, many people go through a honeymoon period — a time of excitement, infatuation, and a desire to be around each other all the time. However, if you’ve been together for a few months and you still rarely see your friends or family, this could indicate possessive behavior. It is important to have lots of healthy relationships in your life, and being too dependent on your partner is often unhealthy.

8. Your Feelings

A big part of a healthy relationship is respect: both partners should truly listen to each other and try to understand their partner’s feelings and opinions without judgement. If you feel like your partner doesn’t consider your feelings, ask yourself these questions: do I consider my partner’s feelings? Why don’t they consider mine? Can we change this?

9. Your Dreams

A good relationship is a partnership — both people support each other every step of the way. It is normal to have different dreams, but you should still be cheering each other along. Love is wanting someone to experience joy and happiness. What you want out of life is often a big part of who you are, and it is important that your relationship supports your dreams.

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10. Your Beliefs

Your beliefs are important to you, and no one in your life should try to change your religion or beliefs. While your partner doesn’t have to believe in the same things as you, they should respect your values.

What else you should never sacrifice in a relationship? Comment with your ideas below!

Featured photo credit: Grace and Steve / Nathan O’Nions via flickr.com

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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