“Happiness is not something ready-made. It comes from your own actions.” Dalai Lama XIV

Well, that’s good news. If you find your days are gloomy and you are always frowning, you can make changes to get back your joy. Now, take the time to look into your life. As a woman, are you always trying to juggle too many things like an octopus? Or are you expecting too much from a relationship? If you wish to bring back that smile, check out this list and recognize the five don’ts of joy. Follow them and you’ll be on your way to happiness!

1. Don’t be too busy

“Each person deserves a day away in which no problems are confronted, no solutions searched for. Each of us needs to withdraw from the cares which will not withdraw from us.” Maya Angelou

Although responsibilities are inevitable, stress is optional. Let no tension crash your happiness. It’s all about give and take. If you use up a lot of time, energy and effort on your tasks, don’t forget to refuel yourself. Detach yourself from everything and bask in your carefree “me time.” Revitalize!

2. Don’t care about the jokers

“Why should we worry about what others think of us, do we have more confidence in their opinions than we do our own?” Brigham Young

Some people will put all kinds of unpleasant tags on you. Let them. You need to ask yourself whether you agree with what they’ve said. I’d bet you don’t. You don’t need their approval or admiration. Only allow bright and beautiful things in your life. These weak, pitiful jokers don’t deserve your attention. Ignore them.

3. Don’t be stingy

“Put coconut oil in your hair, exercise, take hot showers, massage lotion into your skin, eat food that makes you feel good, stretch, lay around in bed, and listen music that makes you feel happy. Just do you.” Unknown

You work hard, and you strive to be the very best version of yourself all the time. But, remember to be generous in pampering yourself. Spend time or money to enjoy something you like. Nope… I’m not asking you to buy a 10 carat diamond ring right away. It doesn’t have to be something big. Every little pleasure and thing you do to care for yourself can make your soul delightful.

4. Don’t be too dependent

“Date yourself. Take yourself out to eat. Don’t share your popcorn at the movies with anyone. Stroll around an art museum alone. Fall in love with canvases. Fall in love with yourself.” Unknown

Don’t put your happiness into other people’s hands. You can’t always wait for him to give you flowers, gifts and most importantly… love. Learn to be with yourself. Yes, you, alone. Be respectful to yourself. Listen to your heart and wishes and fulfill them yourself. You don’t rely solely on others; you give yourself joy.

5. Don’t belittle yourself

“I am so beautiful, sometimes people weep when they see me. And it has nothing to do with what I look like really, it is just that I gave myself the power to say that I am beautiful, and if I could do that, maybe there is hope for them too. And the great divide between the beautiful and the ugly will cease to be. Because we are all what we choose.” Margaret Cho

No one is obliged to meet the media’s standard of beauty. Comparison will only tear up your confidence and happiness. Now just look into the mirror and ask, “So what if I’m not slim? So what if I’m not perfect?” The truth is, no one is perfect. Love the way you are. And remember, you don’t need to be pretty to be happy; you need to be happy to be pretty.

There you are! Those are the five dont’s you should keep in mind to be a happy woman. Do you have other tips for joy? Tell us in the comments.

Want more tips about happiness? 10 Simple Habits to Help You Become Happier

Featured photo credit: Beautiful smile by Worldizen via flic.kr

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