Self-confidence can be defined as a belief in one’s abilities and maintaining a sense of competence. On the other hand, low self-confidence can be defined as a lack of faith in one’s abilities and competence. Self-confidence can fuel success, while low self-esteem can impede it. To avoid falling into patterns of low self-esteem, consult the following warning signs.
1. You check your phone while alone in social situations.
You find yourself unable to sit still during social situations with little or no friends. Instead, you find yourself desperately checking your phone to appear more socially connected. Tip: try exercising an affirmation such as “I am loved.”
2. You back down during a disagreement to appease another person.
You find yourself backing down in conversation often; you negotiate your views so as to avoid conflict. You would rather avoid experiencing rocky waters than express yourself honestly. Tip: try an affirmation such as “my opinion matters” or “I live authentically.”
3. You are unable to leave the house without make-up or primping.
You gain a false sense of self-esteem from wearing make-up or primping. Instead of feeling self-esteem from within, you feel a need to primp in order to feel good about yourself. Tip: try a daily “I am beautiful” affirmation.
4. You take constructive criticism too personally.
You tear up in the bathroom after a coworker gives you constructive criticism about your job performance; you wind up yelling at friends when they criticize your choice in a date. Instead of taking criticism objectively, you react emotionally. Tip: try counting to 3 before responding to criticism.
5. You are afraid to contribute your opinion in conversation.
You find yourself second guessing what you want to say before you say it, instead of diving into conversation without a thought. You may find yourself stuttering and engaging in negative self-talk. Tip: focus on your breath when you begin to second guess yourself to avoid over-thinking.
6. You are indecisive in the midst of simple decisions.
You change your mind after coming to a simple decision, such as what activity to do with a friend or what food to eat. Then once you come to another decision, you change your mind over and over. Tip: vocalize the affirmation “I am assertive and in control of my life.”
7. You cannot handle genuine compliments.
You reflect when someone pays you a genuine compliment, instead of graciously accepting the compliment. Tip: practice the affirmation “I am worthy of love” or “I have many good qualities.”
8. You give up too soon.
You give up on your goals and dreams before you have hardly started. You lack confidence in your success, so you give up all together. Tip: practice the affirmation “I am a success seeker, not a failure avoider.”
9. You compare yourself with others.
You pay extra attention to those you deem more successful than you, and let your own self-worth take a plummet as a result. Instead of focusing on your journey and your journey only, you constantly look at everyone else’s. Tip: declare the affirmation “I am more than enough.”
10. You slouch.
You display a low body stance: you do not stand tall, but instead let your body slouch downwards, sending the message that you are not proud of yourself. Tip: take a few minutes each day to focus on your body posture.
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