Close your eyes and imagine that you’re at your own funeral—a bit morbid I know, but there’s a reason for it. Now think about what you’d like people to say about you. What kind of a life do you want to lead? People die with all kinds of regrets. Don’t be one of them.
1. Caring too much about what other people think
It’s only when you realise how little other people are really thinking of you (in a negative sense) that you realise how much time you spent caring and wasting energy worrying about this.
2. Not accomplishing enough
You don’t have to have won an Oscar, built up a business or run a marathon, but having small personal accomplishments is important.
3. Not telling someone how you truly felt
Even if the “one” doesn’t exist, telling someone how you truly feel will always save you from that gut wrenching”but what if…” feeling that could linger for life if you stay quiet.
4. Not standing up for yourself more
Sometimes, it’s too easy to think that if you go all out to please everyone you’ll be liked more or your partner won’t run off with anyone else. I think age probably teaches us to be nice but not at the expense of our own happiness.
5. Not following your passion in life
It’s so easy to be seduced by a stable salary, a solid routine and a comfortable life, but at what expense?
6. Arguing with your loved ones all the time
Life is short, and you never really know when the last time you speak to someone you love will be. It’s these moments that really stay clear in peoples’ minds.
7. Not growing the children to be who they wanted to be
The realisation that love, compassion and empathy are so much more important than clashes in values or belief systems can hit home hard.
8. Not living more in the moment enough
Watching children grow up makes you realise how short-lived and precious time really is, and as we age, many of us live less and less in the present.
9. Working too much
There’s always a desire to have loosened up a bit more with this one and the realisation that financial success or career accomplishment doesn’t necessarily equal a fulfilled life.
10. Traveling too little
It can be done at any age, with kids or not but many talk themselves out of it for all kinds of reasons such as lack of money, mortgage, children, etc. When there’s a regret, you know it could have been possible at some stage.
11. Listening to everyone else
Making your own decisions and feeling confident in the decisions you make gives us fulfilment and joy from life. Going against your gut only breeds resentment and bitterness.
12. Not taking good care of yourself
Premature health problems or ageing always makes you wonder if you’d eaten healthier, exercised more and been less stressed, would you be where you are today?
13. Not willing to take risks
Everyone has their own idea of what’s risky, but you know when you’re living too much in your comfort zone. In hindsight, some people feel they missed out on a lot of adventure life has to offer.
14. Having little time
Many people say time speeds up as we age. The six weeks of summer holidays we had as kids certainly seemed to last a lifetime. If time speeds up, then it’s even more important to make the most of every moment.
15. Worrying too much
If you’ve ever kept a diary and looked back, you’ll probably wonder why you ever got so worked up over X.
16. Not appreciating enough
The consequences of taking people for granted are always hard to deal with.
17. Spending little time with family
Some people get caught up with work, move to other parts of the world, grow old with grudges against family members only to realise their priorities were in the wrong place.
18. Taking yourself too seriously
Life is just more fun when you can laugh at yourself.
19. Not doing enough for other people
Doing things for others just makes life more meaningful.
20. Feeling sad all the time
The realisation that happiness is a state of mind that you can control sometimes doesn’t occur to people until it’s too late.
Yet you still have time! Here’s A Shocking Truth If You Think You’ve Wasted Your LifeFeatured photo credit: Grief via Shutterstock