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Finally, How to Manage Stress at the Office

Finally, How to Manage Stress at the Office

Recently, while having dinner with one of my good friends, we got on the topic of work and how completely stressed out she is at the moment. I left the corporate world a while ago, but the stress I felt then is still very vivid and I could instantly relate to what she was saying. She was tired of leaving the office feeling frazzled, stressed, frustrated and in need of release almost every day. How often do you feel anxious, irritable, or depressed about work? The amount of individuals who feel this way regularly is actually alarming to me.

Think about your work environment, how is it? Do you have really loud noise constantly and poor communication? Do you feel pressure to work at optimum levels all the time? Do you have too much work and have too little time? These are the most common sources of stress in the office. Do you know how to manage it? I know when I was at school, I didn’t take the subject How to Manage Stress Effectively 101­: we are not taught skills to manage our worries, but it is a part of everyday life now.

It is normal to experience a certain level of stress in the office, but when it starts to undermine your productivity and results, you are juggling between success and failure in both that area and your health. Managing stress is not about ignoring it or shutting yourself away so you don’t have to think about it. Look out for the common signs of stress, I remember when I started my business and I thought I was managing my burdens really well, until I developed bruxism, I didn’t even know it existed!

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There are many strategies for dealing with stress –  Here are two of my effective strategies for managing stress

1. You must be bigger than the situatio.n and change your perspective.

I want you to think about the last time that you were stressed—what was your immediate response to the stressful situation? Think about it; did your response help the situation or did you make it worse?  In other words, you are a big contributor to the situation and the outcome, so you might actually be guilty for worsening the situation, harsh? Perhaps, but true.

You need to be bigger than your problem, not scared, fearful and stressed—problems are just things to handle, not the end of the world. Next, put the situation into perspective; I’m sure you have heard that it’s not what happens that matters most, but how you deal with what happens, and the same goes for stress. How you deal with pressure is important, as stress is often simply a question of perspective.

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The way you think leads to your feelings, and that dictates your actions. If you are feeling stressed, change your thoughts and your feelings will follow. It is important to manage your emotions because when you are overwhelmed, you can’t think straight anyway, which leads to rushed decisions and mistakes. Remember, what you focus on expands.

2. Get organized, because chaos contributes to your stress.

The second biggest contributor to stress is lack of time, or feeling that way. There are many factors that influence how much time you feel you have in a day. We all have 24 hours, but some of us feel like we have only half of that, while others accomplish everything they set out to effortlessly. If you only implement the ideas listed below, I know it will be enough for you to start to noticeably feel less stressed and overwhelmed on a daily basis and experience more enjoyment at work.

If you are not planning your days, prioritizing what you need to do and breaking your tasks into small steps, you are setting yourself up for stress. The first problem is that most individuals don’t actually have a system that is effective for them, and even fewer individuals stick to the system. If you are not planning your time, you are planning to be stressed.

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Remember, when you plan your schedule, include time for unforeseen crises every day, otherwise you will find it stressful that you are unable to follow your schedule. Delegate whenever you can—even the most menial tasks—so that you are able to focus on getting the more serious responsibilities dealt with. Identify your time thieves: what are you doing that is sucking up your time and leaving you stressed? I know over 100 time thieves, and most individuals deal with around 80 of them.

Time-management and stress are directly related. How many people do you know arrive late at work completely stressed and already exhausted every day? I am sure if that person simply woke up 15 minutes earlier, their morning would sing a completely different tune. It is very simple: if you are not managing your time, you are not managing your life as effectively as you could.

Continuous stress does not need to be a common story in your life—or does it? You choose!
If you want to master anything in life, whether is it your time management, stress, relationships, success, whatever it is, you first need to master your mindset behind it; that is your secret weapon.

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Stop looking around you for easy ways to eliminate stress and start looking within yourself. How confidently and honestly can you say that you manage your stress effectively at the office?

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Last Updated on March 29, 2021

5 Types of Horrible Bosses and How to Beat Them All

5 Types of Horrible Bosses and How to Beat Them All

When I left university I took a job immediately, I had been lucky as I had spent a year earning almost nothing as an intern so I was offered a role. On my first day I found that I had not been allocated a desk, there was no one to greet me so I was left for some hours ignored. I happened to snipe about this to another employee at the coffee machine two things happened. The first was that the person I had complained to was my new manager’s wife, and the second was, in his own words, ‘that he would come down on me like a ton of bricks if I crossed him…’

What a great start to a job! I had moved to a new city, and had been at work for less than a morning when I had my first run in with the first style of bad manager. I didn’t stay long enough to find out what Mr Agressive would do next. Bad managers are a major issue. Research from Approved Index shows that more than four in ten employees (42%) state that they have previously quit a job because of a bad manager.

The Dream Type Of Manager

My best manager was a total opposite. A man who had been the head of the UK tax system and was working his retirement running a company I was a very junior and green employee for. I made a stupid mistake, one which cost a lot of time and money and I felt I was going to be sacked without doubt.

I was nervous, beating myself up about what I had done, what would happen. At the end of the day I was called to his office, he had made me wait and I had spent that day talking to other employees, trying to understand where I had gone wrong. It had been a simple mistyped line of code which sent a massive print job out totally wrong. I learn how I should have done it and I fretted.

My boss asked me to step into his office, he asked me to sit down. “Do you know what you did?” I babbled, yes, I had been stupid, I had not double-checked or asked for advice when I was doing something I had not really understood. It was totally my fault. He paused. “Will you do that again?” Of course I told him I would not, I would always double check, ask for help and not try to be so clever when I was not!

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“Okay…”

That was it. I paused and asked, should I clear my desk. He smiled. “You have learnt a valuable lesson, I can be sure that you will never make a mistake like that again. Why would I want to get rid of an employee who knows that?”

I stayed with that company for many years, the way I was treated was a real object lesson in good management. Sadly, far too many poor managers exist out there.

The Complete Catalogue of Bad Managers

The Bully

My first boss fitted into the classic bully class. This is so often the ‘old school’ management by power style. I encountered this style again in the retail sector where one manager felt the only way to get the best from staff was to bawl and yell.

However, like so many bullies you will often find that this can be someone who either knows no better or is under stress and they are themselves running scared of the situation they have found themselves in.

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The Invisible Boss

This can either present itself as management from afar (usually the golf course or ‘important meetings) or just a boss who is too busy being important to deal with their staff.

It can feel refreshing as you will often have almost total freedom with your manager taking little or no interest in your activities, however you will soon find that you also lack the support that a good manager will provide. Without direction you may feel you are doing well just to find that you are not delivering against expectations you were not told about and suddenly it is all your fault.

The Micro Manager

The frustration of having a manager who feels the need to be involved in everything you do. The polar opposite to the Invisible Boss you will feel that there is no trust in your work as they will want to meddle in everything you do.

Dealing with the micro-manager can be difficult. Often their management style comes from their own insecurity. You can try confronting them, tell them that you can do your job however in many cases this will not succeed and can in fact make things worse.

The Over Promoted Boss

The Over promoted boss categorises someone who has no idea. They have found themselves in a management position through service, family or some corporate mystery. They are people who are not only highly unqualified to be managers they will generally be unable to do even your job.

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You can find yourself persistently frustrated by the situation you are in, however it can seem impossible to get out without handing over your resignation.

The Credit Stealer

The credit stealer is the boss who will never publically acknowledge the work you do. You will put in the extra hours working on a project and you know that, in the ‘big meeting’ it will be your credit stealing boss who will take all of the credit!

Again it is demoralising, you see all of the credit for your labour being stolen and this can often lead to good employees looking for new careers.

3 Essential Ways to Work (Cope) with Bad Managers

Whatever type of bad boss you have there are certain things that you can do to ensure that you get the recognition and protection you require to not only remain sane but to also build your career.

1. Keep evidence

Whether it is incidents with the bully or examples of projects you have completed with the credit stealer you will always be well served to keep notes and supporting evidence for projects you are working on.

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Buy your own notebook and ensure that you are always making notes, it becomes a habit and a very useful one as you have a constant reminder as well as somewhere to explore ideas.

Importantly, if you do have to go to HR or stand-up for yourself you will have clear records! Also, don’t always trust that corporate servers or emails will always be available or not tampered with. Keep your own content.

2. Hold regular meetings

Ensure that you make time for regular meetings with your boss. This is especially useful for the over-promoted or the invisible boss to allow you to ‘manage upwards’. Take charge where you can to set your objectives and use these meetings to set clear objectives and document the status of your work.

3. Stand your ground, but be ready to jump…

Remember that you don’t have to put up with poor management. If you have issues you should face them with your boss, maybe they do not know that they are coming across in a bad way.

However, be ready to recognise if the situation is not going to change. If that is the case, keep your head down and get working on polishing your CV! If it isn’t working, there will be something better out there for you!

Good luck!

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