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Finally, How to Manage Stress at the Office

Finally, How to Manage Stress at the Office

Recently, while having dinner with one of my good friends, we got on the topic of work and how completely stressed out she is at the moment. I left the corporate world a while ago, but the stress I felt then is still very vivid and I could instantly relate to what she was saying. She was tired of leaving the office feeling frazzled, stressed, frustrated and in need of release almost every day. How often do you feel anxious, irritable, or depressed about work? The amount of individuals who feel this way regularly is actually alarming to me.

Think about your work environment, how is it? Do you have really loud noise constantly and poor communication? Do you feel pressure to work at optimum levels all the time? Do you have too much work and have too little time? These are the most common sources of stress in the office. Do you know how to manage it? I know when I was at school, I didn’t take the subject How to Manage Stress Effectively 101­: we are not taught skills to manage our worries, but it is a part of everyday life now.

It is normal to experience a certain level of stress in the office, but when it starts to undermine your productivity and results, you are juggling between success and failure in both that area and your health. Managing stress is not about ignoring it or shutting yourself away so you don’t have to think about it. Look out for the common signs of stress, I remember when I started my business and I thought I was managing my burdens really well, until I developed bruxism, I didn’t even know it existed!

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There are many strategies for dealing with stress –  Here are two of my effective strategies for managing stress

1. You must be bigger than the situatio.n and change your perspective.

I want you to think about the last time that you were stressed—what was your immediate response to the stressful situation? Think about it; did your response help the situation or did you make it worse?  In other words, you are a big contributor to the situation and the outcome, so you might actually be guilty for worsening the situation, harsh? Perhaps, but true.

You need to be bigger than your problem, not scared, fearful and stressed—problems are just things to handle, not the end of the world. Next, put the situation into perspective; I’m sure you have heard that it’s not what happens that matters most, but how you deal with what happens, and the same goes for stress. How you deal with pressure is important, as stress is often simply a question of perspective.

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The way you think leads to your feelings, and that dictates your actions. If you are feeling stressed, change your thoughts and your feelings will follow. It is important to manage your emotions because when you are overwhelmed, you can’t think straight anyway, which leads to rushed decisions and mistakes. Remember, what you focus on expands.

2. Get organized, because chaos contributes to your stress.

The second biggest contributor to stress is lack of time, or feeling that way. There are many factors that influence how much time you feel you have in a day. We all have 24 hours, but some of us feel like we have only half of that, while others accomplish everything they set out to effortlessly. If you only implement the ideas listed below, I know it will be enough for you to start to noticeably feel less stressed and overwhelmed on a daily basis and experience more enjoyment at work.

If you are not planning your days, prioritizing what you need to do and breaking your tasks into small steps, you are setting yourself up for stress. The first problem is that most individuals don’t actually have a system that is effective for them, and even fewer individuals stick to the system. If you are not planning your time, you are planning to be stressed.

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Remember, when you plan your schedule, include time for unforeseen crises every day, otherwise you will find it stressful that you are unable to follow your schedule. Delegate whenever you can—even the most menial tasks—so that you are able to focus on getting the more serious responsibilities dealt with. Identify your time thieves: what are you doing that is sucking up your time and leaving you stressed? I know over 100 time thieves, and most individuals deal with around 80 of them.

Time-management and stress are directly related. How many people do you know arrive late at work completely stressed and already exhausted every day? I am sure if that person simply woke up 15 minutes earlier, their morning would sing a completely different tune. It is very simple: if you are not managing your time, you are not managing your life as effectively as you could.

Continuous stress does not need to be a common story in your life—or does it? You choose!
If you want to master anything in life, whether is it your time management, stress, relationships, success, whatever it is, you first need to master your mindset behind it; that is your secret weapon.

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Stop looking around you for easy ways to eliminate stress and start looking within yourself. How confidently and honestly can you say that you manage your stress effectively at the office?

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Last Updated on July 16, 2019

7 Powerful Habits To Win In Office Politics

7 Powerful Habits To Win In Office Politics

Office politics – a taboo word for some people. It’s a pervasive thing at the workplace.

In its simplest form, workplace politics is simply about the differences between people at work; differences in opinions, conflicts of interests are often manifested as office politics. It all goes down to human communications and relationships.

There is no need to be afraid of office politics. Top performers are those who have mastered the art of winning in office politics. Below are 7 good habits to help you win at the workplace:

1. Be Aware You Have a Choice

The most common reactions to politics at work are either fight or flight. It’s normal human reaction for survival in the wild, back in the prehistoric days when we were still hunter-gatherers.

Sure, the office is a modern jungle, but it takes more than just instinctive reactions to win in office politics. Instinctive fight reactions will only cause more resistance to whatever you are trying to achieve; while instinctive flight reactions only label you as a pushover that people can easily take for granted. Neither options are appealing for healthy career growth.

Winning requires you to consciously choose your reactions to the situation. Recognize that no matter how bad the circumstances, you have a choice in choosing how you feel and react. So how do you choose? This bring us to the next point…

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2. Know What You Are Trying to Achieve

When conflicts happen, it’s very easy to be sucked into tunnel-vision and focus on immediate differences. That’s a self-defeating approach. Chances are, you’ll only invite more resistance by focusing on differences in people’s positions or opinions.

The way to mitigate this without looking like you’re fighting to emerge as a winner in this conflict is to focus on the business objectives. In the light of what’s best for the business, discuss the pros and cons of each option. Eventually, everyone wants the business to be successful; if the business don’t win, then nobody in the organization wins.

It’s much easier for one to eat the humble pie and back off when they realize the chosen approach is best for the business.

By learning to steer the discussion in this direction, you will learn to disengage from petty differences and position yourself as someone who is interested in getting things done. Your boss will also come to appreciate you as someone who is mature, strategic and can be entrusted with bigger responsibilities.

3. Focus on Your Circle of Influence

At work, there are often issues which we have very little control over. It’s not uncommon to find corporate policies, client demands or boss mandates which affects your personal interests.

Gossiping and complaining are common responses to these events that we cannot control. But think about it, other than that short term emotional outlet, what tangible results do gossiping really accomplish? In most instances, none.

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Instead of feeling victimized and angry about the situation, focus on the things that you can do to influence the situation — your circle of influence. This is a very empowering technique to overcome the feeling of helplessness. It removes the victimized feeling and also allows others to see you as someone who knows how to operate within given constraints.

You may not be able to change or decide on the eventual outcome but, you can walk away knowing that you have done the best within the given circumstances.

Constraints are all around in the workplace; with this approach, your boss will also come to appreciate you as someone who is understanding and positive.

4. Don’t Take Sides

In office politics, it is possible to find yourself stuck in between two power figures who are at odds with each other. You find yourself being thrown around while they try to outwit each other and defend their own position; all at the expense of you getting the job done. You can’t get them to agree on a common decision for a project, and neither of them want to take ownership of issues; they’re too afraid they’ll get stabbed in the back for any mishaps.

In cases like this, focus on the business objectives and don’t take side with either of them – even if you like one better than the other. Place them on a common communication platform and ensure open communications among all parties, so that no one can claim “I didn’t say that”.

By not taking sides, you’ll help to direct conflict resolution in an objective manner. You’ll also build trust with both parties. That’ll help to keep the engagements constructive and focus on business objectives.

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5. Don’t Get Personal

In office politics, you’ll get angry with people. It happens. There will be times when you feel the urge to give that person a piece of your mind and teach him a lesson. Don’t.

People tend to remember moments when they were humiliated or insulted. Even if you win this argument and get to feel really good about it for now, you’ll pay the price later when you need help from this person. What goes around comes around, especially at the workplace.

To win in the office, you’ll want to build a network of allies which you can tap into. The last thing you want during a crisis or an opportunity is to have someone screw you up because they harbor ill-intentions towards you – all because you’d enjoyed a brief moment of emotional outburst at their expense.

Another reason to hold back your temper is your career advancement. Increasingly, organizations are using 360 degree reviews to promote someone. Even if you are a star performer, your boss will have to fight a political uphill battle if other managers or peers see you as someone who is difficult to work with. The last thing you’ll want is to make it difficult for your boss to champion you for a promotion.

6. Seek to Understand, Before Being Understood

The reason people feel unjustified is because they felt misunderstood. Instinctively, we are more interested in getting the others to understand us than to understand them first. Top people managers and business leaders have learned to suppress this urge.

Surprisingly, seeking to understand is a very disarming technique. Once the other party feels that you understand where he/she is coming from, they will feel less defensive and be open to understand you in return. This sets the stage for open communications to arrive at a solution that both parties can accept.

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Trying to arrive at a solution without first having this understanding is very difficult – there’s little trust and too much second-guessing.

7. Think Win-Win

As mentioned upfront, political conflicts happen because of conflicting interests. Perhaps due to our schooling, we are taught that to win, someone else needs to lose. Conversely, we are afraid to let someone else win, because it implies losing for us.

In business and work, that doesn’t have to be the case.

Learn to think in terms of “how can we both win out of this situation?” This requires that you first understand the other party’s perspective and what’s in it for him.

Next, understand what’s in it for you. Strive to seek out a resolution that is acceptable and beneficial to both parties. Doing this will ensure that everyone truly commit to the agreed resolution and will not pay only lip-service to it.

People simply don’t like to lose. You may get away with win-lose tactics once or twice but very soon, you’ll find yourself without allies in the workplace.

Thinking win-win is an enduring strategy that builds allies and help you win in the long term.

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