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The Secret Lifehack to Reach Your Dreams

The Secret Lifehack to Reach Your Dreams

    Who among us hasn’t thought the following:

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    “If only I had money, I would realize (this huge dream).”

    Money can stop us from doing what we love because we feel we don’t have the financial freedom to do it. It can also be the reason why we are working at jobs we don’t enjoy, to be making a pile of money as if it could solve all our problems. Our society puts so much emphasis on economic capital that we can feel, if we don’t make much of an income, that we are left behind. But it doesn’t have to be this way when we know the rules of the game.

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    Do you know other types of capital can be a lifehack to a dream life? Pierre Bourdieu, a French sociologist, explored that social capital, for example a social group you adhere to, and cultural capital, like the education or intellect you have, can be traded for economic capital. Having them can lead you to have the same advantages as having money and help you to make your dreams a reality.

    The capital types are transposable. That’s the reason why Paris Hilton is able to use her standing, acquired with money capital, for social and cultural capital, to be famous and an actress; or why doctors can use their cultural capital to get a high bracket of income.

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    How do you acquire enough capital to reach dreams that you feel aren’t attainable without it? Below are some ways to use shortcuts in the game and make your way to your dreams.

    Secret Lifehack to Reach Your Dreams

      How to Reach Your Dreams

      Get capital to do what you love with:

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      • Education. One of the best known ways to get cultural capital is to get a college degree. But to differentiate yourself, you could aim for a Ph.D., because it brings prestige and recognition in our society.
      • Experiences. What can separate you from other candidates for a dream job is how efficient you are in this position. Having worked for many similar positions, even if you were on a voluntary basis or you started a company that didn’t work out, can make you stand out. Get more opportunities to work in your niche.
      • Acquaintances. Sure enough, people you know can help you advance. But another way is to get together with similar people and jumpstart your career together. If you want to be a freelancer, you could start a freelance company with colleagues, and gain importance together.
      • Norm fitting. Fitting with the stereotypes of your dream life is getting you more chances to realize it. It’s playing the rules of the game. As much as I dislike some of those rules, it’s true; it can be to dress as you’re supposed to, for example, women who wear make up have more chances of a higher pay check. Also observe how those who succeed in your domain act, and adopt the same habits.
      • Opting out. This is my favorite one: start your own game. One of the ways to do your own thing is to hang out with similar people, who are conscious about the main game and decided it’s not for them, and start your own. Even if you’re still a sub-part of the main game, at least for now, you can play by your own rules and live your own small utopia. You could for example start an ecovillage, live minimally, or explore living without money.

      Whatever the game you decide to play, find out what your dreams really are (are they yours or society induced?), remember who you are, play fair, and share this lifehack, to do what you love and for more happiness in our society.

      (Photo credit: Baby Reaching for Bubble via Shutterstock)

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      The Power of Ritual: Conquer Procrastination, Time Wasters and Laziness

      The Power of Ritual: Conquer Procrastination, Time Wasters and Laziness

      Life is wasted in the in-between times. The time between when your alarm first rings and when you finally decide to get out of bed. The time between when you sit at your desk and when productive work begins. The time between making a decision and doing something about it.

      Slowly, your day is whittled away from all the unused in-between moments. Eventually, time wasters, laziness, and procrastination get the better of you.

      The solution to reclaim these lost middle moments is by creating rituals. Every culture on earth uses rituals to transfer information and encode behaviors that are deemed important. Personal rituals can help you build a better pattern for handling everything from how you wake up to how you work.

      Unfortunately, when most people see rituals, they see pointless superstitions. Indeed, many rituals are based on a primitive understanding of the world. But by building personal rituals, you get to encode the behaviors you feel are important and cut out the wasted middle moments.

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      Program Your Own Algorithms

      Another way of viewing rituals is by seeing them as computer algorithms. An algorithm is a set of instructions that is repeated to get a result.

      Some algorithms are highly efficient, sorting or searching millions of pieces of data in a few seconds. Other algorithms are bulky and awkward, taking hours to do the same task.

      By forming rituals, you are building algorithms for your behavior. Take the delayed and painful pattern of waking up, debating whether to sleep in for another two minutes, hitting the snooze button, repeat until almost late for work. This could be reprogrammed to get out of bed immediately, without debating your decision.

      How to Form a Ritual

      I’ve set up personal rituals for myself for handling e-mail, waking up each morning, writing articles, and reading books. Far from making me inflexible, these rituals give me a useful default pattern that works best 99% of the time. Whenever my current ritual won’t work, I’m always free to stop using it.

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      Forming a ritual isn’t too difficult, and the same principles for changing habits apply:

      1. Write out your sequence of behavior. I suggest starting with a simple ritual of only 3-4 steps maximum. Wait until you’ve established a ritual before you try to add new steps.
      2. Commit to following your ritual for thirty days. This step will take the idea and condition it into your nervous system as a habit.
      3. Define a clear trigger. When does your ritual start? A ritual to wake up is easy—the sound of your alarm clock will work. As for what triggers you to go to the gym, read a book or answer e-mail—you’ll have to decide.
      4. Tweak the Pattern. Your algorithm probably won’t be perfectly efficient the first time. Making a few tweaks after the first 30-day trial can make your ritual more useful.

      Ways to Use a Ritual

      Based on the above ideas, here are some ways you could implement your own rituals:

      1. Waking Up

      Set up a morning ritual for when you wake up and the next few things you do immediately afterward. To combat the grogginess after immediately waking up, my solution is to do a few pushups right after getting out of bed. After that, I sneak in ninety minutes of reading before getting ready for morning classes.

      2. Web Usage

      How often do you answer e-mail, look at Google Reader, or check Facebook each day? I found by taking all my daily internet needs and compressing them into one, highly-efficient ritual, I was able to cut off 75% of my web time without losing any communication.

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      3. Reading

      How much time do you get to read books? If your library isn’t as large as you’d like, you might want to consider the rituals you use for reading. Programming a few steps to trigger yourself to read instead of watching television or during a break in your day can chew through dozens of books each year.

      4. Friendliness

      Rituals can also help with communication. Set up a ritual of starting a conversation when you have opportunities to meet people.

      5. Working

      One of the hardest barriers when overcoming procrastination is building up a concentrated flow. Building those steps into a ritual can allow you to quickly start working or continue working after an interruption.

      6. Going to the gym

      If exercising is a struggle, encoding a ritual can remove a lot of the difficulty. Set up a quick ritual for going to exercise right after work or when you wake up.

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      7. Exercise

      Even within your workouts, you can have rituals. Spacing the time between runs or reps with a certain number of breaths can remove the guesswork. Forming a ritual of doing certain exercises in a particular order can save time.

      8. Sleeping

      Form a calming ritual in the last 30-60 minutes of your day before you go to bed. This will help slow yourself down and make falling asleep much easier. Especially if you plan to get up full of energy in the morning, it will help if you remove insomnia.

      8. Weekly Reviews

      The weekly review is a big part of the GTD system. By making a simple ritual checklist for my weekly review, I can get the most out of this exercise in less time. Originally, I did holistic reviews where I wrote my thoughts on the week and progress as a whole. Now, I narrow my focus toward specific plans, ideas, and measurements.

      Final Thoughts

      We all want to be productive. But time wasters, procrastination, and laziness sometimes get the better of us. If you’re facing such difficulties, don’t be afraid to make use of these rituals to help you conquer them.

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