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The Secret Lifehack to Reach Your Dreams

The Secret Lifehack to Reach Your Dreams

    Who among us hasn’t thought the following:

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    “If only I had money, I would realize (this huge dream).”

    Money can stop us from doing what we love because we feel we don’t have the financial freedom to do it. It can also be the reason why we are working at jobs we don’t enjoy, to be making a pile of money as if it could solve all our problems. Our society puts so much emphasis on economic capital that we can feel, if we don’t make much of an income, that we are left behind. But it doesn’t have to be this way when we know the rules of the game.

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    Do you know other types of capital can be a lifehack to a dream life? Pierre Bourdieu, a French sociologist, explored that social capital, for example a social group you adhere to, and cultural capital, like the education or intellect you have, can be traded for economic capital. Having them can lead you to have the same advantages as having money and help you to make your dreams a reality.

    The capital types are transposable. That’s the reason why Paris Hilton is able to use her standing, acquired with money capital, for social and cultural capital, to be famous and an actress; or why doctors can use their cultural capital to get a high bracket of income.

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    How do you acquire enough capital to reach dreams that you feel aren’t attainable without it? Below are some ways to use shortcuts in the game and make your way to your dreams.

    Secret Lifehack to Reach Your Dreams

      How to Reach Your Dreams

      Get capital to do what you love with:

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      • Education. One of the best known ways to get cultural capital is to get a college degree. But to differentiate yourself, you could aim for a Ph.D., because it brings prestige and recognition in our society.
      • Experiences. What can separate you from other candidates for a dream job is how efficient you are in this position. Having worked for many similar positions, even if you were on a voluntary basis or you started a company that didn’t work out, can make you stand out. Get more opportunities to work in your niche.
      • Acquaintances. Sure enough, people you know can help you advance. But another way is to get together with similar people and jumpstart your career together. If you want to be a freelancer, you could start a freelance company with colleagues, and gain importance together.
      • Norm fitting. Fitting with the stereotypes of your dream life is getting you more chances to realize it. It’s playing the rules of the game. As much as I dislike some of those rules, it’s true; it can be to dress as you’re supposed to, for example, women who wear make up have more chances of a higher pay check. Also observe how those who succeed in your domain act, and adopt the same habits.
      • Opting out. This is my favorite one: start your own game. One of the ways to do your own thing is to hang out with similar people, who are conscious about the main game and decided it’s not for them, and start your own. Even if you’re still a sub-part of the main game, at least for now, you can play by your own rules and live your own small utopia. You could for example start an ecovillage, live minimally, or explore living without money.

      Whatever the game you decide to play, find out what your dreams really are (are they yours or society induced?), remember who you are, play fair, and share this lifehack, to do what you love and for more happiness in our society.

      (Photo credit: Baby Reaching for Bubble via Shutterstock)

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      Published on June 19, 2019

      Your Beliefs About Success May Be Holding You Back

      Your Beliefs About Success May Be Holding You Back
      Pause for a moment and think about how you would describe success.

      If your description is dominated by money or status, then your image of success is faulty.

      For example, there are countless people who have these assets but don’t feel successful. Some of these people have enormous amounts of disposable income, but work so many hours during the day that they have no life beyond their work.

      Would you regard these people as successful?

      At first glance, I likely wouldn’t.

      And, then there are the endless celebrities who go from fame to failure (think bankruptcy, addictions and worse).

      Are they successful?

      Probably not.

      In truth, success is about happiness and fulfillment in life.

      But, there is more than one definition of success. Just look at the above example of the person who worked too hard to spend their money. If they’re happy with their life, then we shouldn’t criticize their version of success.

      So how about you? Do you have a clear definition of what success looks like for you?

      If you don’t, you’ll be constantly chasing someone else’s idea of success, and could find yourself totally unfulfilled and miserable.

      The good news is that over the next few minutes, I’m going to give you the tools you need to build a crystal clear picture of YOUR SUCCESS.

      Positive Thinking

      With the right attitude, anything can seem possible.

      For instance, if you’re fed up with your job, but do nothing to change it, then you’ll likely be stuck there for years to come. But, if you see the job as a stepping stone to something bigger and better, then not only will you enjoy your work more, but you’ll have something positive to aim towards (e.g., a promotion or new job).

      The example above demonstrates a little-known factor of success… suffering!

      Yes, suffering may be a negative thing that most people go out of their way to avoid; but successful people use suffering as a springboard to big achievements. Mindset really does separate the losers from the winners.

      Another thing you can do, is to gradually build up your positivity and confidence by tracking your progress towards your goals. And, each time you accomplish something – however small – be sure to celebrate it!

      This is a great way to propel you towards success.

      The Purpose of a Purpose

      What is your purpose in life?

      These are questions I suggest you spend some time thinking about. To help you find the answers, consider the following:

      If you just seek a career, all you will find is a career.

      But, if you seek a purpose, you’ll find something much more than a career – you’ll find your calling. And when you’ve found this, and you begin following it, you’ll be firmly in the middle of the happiness, satisfaction and success zone.

      This is backed by science, with research showing that people who have a purpose and meaning in life have an increase in:[1]
      • Overall well-being
      • Mental and physical health
      • Resiliency
      • Self-esteem

      But, don’t mistake seeking happiness and success as your purpose. These things are a natural result of following your purpose – but shouldn’t be your focal point.

      Austrian Neurologist and Holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl said it well:

      “It is the very pursuit of happiness, that thwarts happiness.”

      What about YOUR purpose?

      If you’re struggling to identify it, look for the things in your life that you’re good at, enthuse you, and provide a benefit to the world.

      Becoming a Better You

      Are your beliefs holding you back?

      If yes, here are three things you can do RIGHT NOW to break out of your mind trap:

      1. Boost Your Confidence: you can do this by overcoming challenges that come your way. For example, if you have a fear of public speaking, face this challenge head-on by agreeing to do regular presentations for your company, or by joining a public speaking organization like Toastmasters International. Speak in public often enough, and your fear of it will plunge like a river going over a waterfall.
      2. Develop Healthy Habits: I’m talking about positive habits that will serve you day in, day out. Habits such as lifelong learning, eating well, and waking up early. When these things are automatic for you, you’ll reap incredible benefits from them. Take eating well, for example. You’ll feel better. You’ll look better. And you’ll have way more energy to make things happen in your life.
      3. Invoke the Magic of Goal Setting: Without goals, you’ll drift through life like a plastic bottle in the sea. But with goals, you’ll be like a 100m sprinter running towards the finishing line. Goals really are powerful tools. They’ll direct your focus and energy, and will allow you to track your progress in life. I recommend the SMART goal-setting method (find out about this here).

      And, always remember… don’t compare yourself to others; only compare yourself to who you were yesterday.

      Each step you take forward is making you a better version of you.

      Success Is Self-Love

      I encourage you to take the tips I’ve shared in this article and put them into action in your life. Ideally, starting right now!

      Firstly, transform your mindset by facing up to challenges and overcoming them. Then spend time to discover your purpose. And, once you’ve found it – start following it.

      Becoming a better version of you will take some time, but will be worth the wait. Not only will you reach into untapped potential in your life, but you’ll also develop respect and love for yourself along the way.

      So don’t let your beliefs hold you back anymore. BREAK FREE from them and start enjoying a happy, healthy and successful life.

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