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How To Be A Powerful Leader That Everyone Looks Up To

How To Be A Powerful Leader That Everyone Looks Up To
  • The shocking truth: everyone can be a powerful leader.
  • You might think you can’t, but you’re wrong–dead wrong.
  • Understand that the world needs leaders

    • We are made to rule the world around us.
    • When we were babies, we did that effortlessly. All we needed to do was cry. We got fed, we got changed and we got anything we wanted if we cried enough. We were ruling the world.
    • But we were taught to stop doing that. Because in the grown-up world, crying is not enough. Worse, it can be perceived as being weak.
    • So we stopped crying. We started begging. And if that didn’t work, we just stopped asking. Maybe now, we think we shouldn’t be asking for what we want and just be happy with what people give us. Congratulations! We’re now grown-ups (and we’re also sheep-like). We’re all looking for purpose and people who can show us that purpose.
    • Then come the leaders. Notice how they live their visions and vibrate with passion. We want to follow them, and we want to be them. They give us meaning.

    Step up to the challenge and decide to be a leader

    • Being a leader seems to be dangerous.
    • The russian proverb says:
    • The tallest blade of grass is first one to be cut by the scythe.
    • So why stick your neck out?
    • Because the world needs leaders. Not leaders by default. People who have decided to be leaders, people who shape the world and create purpose for other people.
    • Don’t be a consumer. Don’t be selfish. Decide right now to be a leader.
    • You are not a blade of grass. You are a human being. You won’t be killed for standing out.
    • Au contraire, people will look up to you.

    Create a purpose

    • You need to think BIG. People will follow your vision if it is BIG enough.
    • Do you want to follow somebody who just wants to add a stop sign in the neighborhood or do you want to follow someone who wants to make the neighborhood the safest place on earth?
    • Start by thinking TOO BIG, and inspire people to follow your purpose. Maybe it’ll be just BIG in the end.

    Vibrate with passion

    • Live your purpose. Be a leader who communicates with passion. Let it shine through your actions, and people will become drawn to you.
    • Some people will laugh at you. Some will tell you what you’re trying to do is not possible.
    • Let them talk. Your passion is BIGGER than that.
    • Your message will get to those who want to make a difference. They were waiting for you.

    Be transparent

    • Don’t have a hidden agenda. Don’t say you want X when you want Y. When the people you try to influence realize that you have other undisclosed interests, you will lose their trust. Trust takes a lot of time to build, and it is very difficult to repair. It is exactly like a mirror–once broken, there’s not much you can do.

    Make decisions, and make them fast

    • Don’t be a coward shying away from taking difficult decisions. Life is complicated and there are always major drawbacks to any major decisions. You’ll never have everyone agree with you, and you’ll never have all the information to be absolutely sure.
    • Even though real leaders listen to everyone’s opinion, real leaders decide fast and quickly act on them.
    • Powerful leaders are not the one deciding whether they want sugar or salt in their coffee; they’re the ones risking their life savings to create an amazing startup that will change the world.

    Apologize and learn from your mistakes

    • You will make mistakes. That’s for sure. But what’s important is how you deal with it and how you move on.
    • If you’ve let someone down, then apologize sincerely and take FULL responsibility. It’s easy to blame it on somebody or something else (like the bad economy for example), but it takes a real leader to say, “I screwed up, but I’ll make this right”.

    Let your acts speak for themselves

    • Don’t brag. It just doesn’t look good. You will notice that people who brag about their education or their long-past achievements are insecure about their current situation.
    • If you act like a real leader, then people will know it and spread the word for you.

    Remember you’re nobody without the others

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    Losers say, “We screwed up,” and “I succeeded.”

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    Powerful leaders say “I screwed up,” and “We succeeded.”

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    You have a whole team behind you. If you have success to share, share it to your team, and share it as a team.

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    Do you think you can be a leader?

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Last Updated on March 31, 2020

How To Break the Procrastination Cycle

How To Break the Procrastination Cycle

How often do you find yourself procrastinating? Do you wish you could procrastinate less? We all know how debilitating procrastination can make us feel, and it seems to be a challenge we all share. Procrastination is one of the biggest hindrances to moving forward and doing the things that we want to in life.

There are many reasons why you might be procrastinating, and sometimes, it is really difficult to pinpoint why. You might be procrastinating because of something related to the past, present, or future (they are all intertwined), or it could be as simple as biological factors. Whatever the reason, most of us follow a cycle when we procrastinate, from the moment we decide to do something to actually getting it done, or in this case, not getting it done.

The Vicious Procrastination Cycle

For some reason, it helps to understand that we all go through the same thing, even though we often feel like the only person in the world who struggles with this. Do you resonate with the cycle below?

1. Feeling Eager and Energized

This is when you commit to taking a new action or getting something done. You are feeling confident and optimistic that, this time round, you will do it!

2. Apprehension Starts to Come Up

The beginning stages of optimism are starting to fade. There is still time, but you haven’t done anything yet, and you start to feel uneasy. You realize that you actually have to do something to get it done, and that good intentions are not enough.

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3. Still No Action

More time has passed. You still haven’t taken any action and probably have a lot of excuses why. You start to panic a little and wish you had started sooner. Your panic starts to turn into frustration and perhaps even irritability.

4. Flicker of Hope Left

You can still make it; there is a little time left and you ponder how you are going to get it done. The rush you get from leaving your task until the last minute gives you a flicker of hope. There is still time; you can do this!

5. Fading Quickly

Your hope starts to quickly fade as you try desperately to understand why you just can’t do this. You may feel desperate and have thoughts like, “What is wrong with me?” and “Why do I ALWAYS do this?” You feel discouraged, or perhaps angry and resentful at yourself.

6. Vow to Yourself

Once the feeling of anger or disappointment disappears, you most likely swear to yourself that this will never happen again; that this was the last time and next time will be different.

Does this sound like you? Is the next time different? I understand the devastating effect that procrastination has on many lives, and for some, it is a really serious problem. You also have, on the other hand, those who procrastinate but it doesn’t affect them in any way. You know whether it is affecting you or not and whether it undermines your results.

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How to Break the Procrastination Cycle

Unless you break the cycle, you will keep reinforcing it!

To break the cycle, you need to change the sequence of events. Here is my suggestion on how you can effectively break the vicious cycle you are in!

1. Feeling Eager and Energized

This is when you commit to taking a new action or getting something done. You are feeling confident and optimistic that, this time round, you will do it! The first stage is always the same.

2. Plan

Thinking alone will not help; you need to plan your actions. I always put my deadlines one or two days in advance because you know Murphy’s Law! Take into consideration everything that you need to do, how long it will take you, and what you will need to get it done, then plan the individual steps.

3. Resistance

Just because you planned doesn’t mean that this time is guaranteed to be different. You will most likely still feel the resistance so expect this. This stage is key to identifying why you are procrastinating, so when you feel the resistance, try to identify it immediately.

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What is causing you to hesitate in this moment? What do you feel?  Write them down if it helps.

4. Confront Those Feelings

Once you have identified what could possibly be holding you back, for example, fear of failure, lack of motivation, etc. You need to work on lessening the resistance.

Ask yourself, “What do I need to do to move forward? What would make it easier?” If you find that you fear something, overcoming that fear is not something that will happen overnight — keep this in mind.

5. Put Results Before Comfort

You need to keep moving forward and put results before comfort. Take action, even if it is only for 10 minutes. The key is to break the cycle and not reinforce it. You have more control that you think.

6. Repeat

Repeat steps 3-5 until you achieve what you first set out to do.

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Final Thoughts

Change doesn’t happen overnight, and if you have some deeper underlying reasons why you procrastinate, it may take longer to finally break the cycle.

If procrastination is holding you back in life, it is better to deal with it now than to deal with the negative consequences later on. It is not a question of comfort anymore; it is a question of results. What is more important to you?

Learn more about how to stop procrastinating here: What Is Procrastination and How to Stop It (The Complete Guide)

Featured photo credit: Luke Chesser via unsplash.com

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