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How To Be A Powerful Leader That Everyone Looks Up To

How To Be A Powerful Leader That Everyone Looks Up To
  • The shocking truth: everyone can be a powerful leader.
  • You might think you can’t, but you’re wrong–dead wrong.
  • Understand that the world needs leaders

    • We are made to rule the world around us.
    • When we were babies, we did that effortlessly. All we needed to do was cry. We got fed, we got changed and we got anything we wanted if we cried enough. We were ruling the world.
    • But we were taught to stop doing that. Because in the grown-up world, crying is not enough. Worse, it can be perceived as being weak.
    • So we stopped crying. We started begging. And if that didn’t work, we just stopped asking. Maybe now, we think we shouldn’t be asking for what we want and just be happy with what people give us. Congratulations! We’re now grown-ups (and we’re also sheep-like). We’re all looking for purpose and people who can show us that purpose.
    • Then come the leaders. Notice how they live their visions and vibrate with passion. We want to follow them, and we want to be them. They give us meaning.

    Step up to the challenge and decide to be a leader

    • Being a leader seems to be dangerous.
    • The russian proverb says:
    • The tallest blade of grass is first one to be cut by the scythe.
    • So why stick your neck out?
    • Because the world needs leaders. Not leaders by default. People who have decided to be leaders, people who shape the world and create purpose for other people.
    • Don’t be a consumer. Don’t be selfish. Decide right now to be a leader.
    • You are not a blade of grass. You are a human being. You won’t be killed for standing out.
    • Au contraire, people will look up to you.

    Create a purpose

    • You need to think BIG. People will follow your vision if it is BIG enough.
    • Do you want to follow somebody who just wants to add a stop sign in the neighborhood or do you want to follow someone who wants to make the neighborhood the safest place on earth?
    • Start by thinking TOO BIG, and inspire people to follow your purpose. Maybe it’ll be just BIG in the end.

    Vibrate with passion

    • Live your purpose. Be a leader who communicates with passion. Let it shine through your actions, and people will become drawn to you.
    • Some people will laugh at you. Some will tell you what you’re trying to do is not possible.
    • Let them talk. Your passion is BIGGER than that.
    • Your message will get to those who want to make a difference. They were waiting for you.

    Be transparent

    • Don’t have a hidden agenda. Don’t say you want X when you want Y. When the people you try to influence realize that you have other undisclosed interests, you will lose their trust. Trust takes a lot of time to build, and it is very difficult to repair. It is exactly like a mirror–once broken, there’s not much you can do.

    Make decisions, and make them fast

    • Don’t be a coward shying away from taking difficult decisions. Life is complicated and there are always major drawbacks to any major decisions. You’ll never have everyone agree with you, and you’ll never have all the information to be absolutely sure.
    • Even though real leaders listen to everyone’s opinion, real leaders decide fast and quickly act on them.
    • Powerful leaders are not the one deciding whether they want sugar or salt in their coffee; they’re the ones risking their life savings to create an amazing startup that will change the world.

    Apologize and learn from your mistakes

    • You will make mistakes. That’s for sure. But what’s important is how you deal with it and how you move on.
    • If you’ve let someone down, then apologize sincerely and take FULL responsibility. It’s easy to blame it on somebody or something else (like the bad economy for example), but it takes a real leader to say, “I screwed up, but I’ll make this right”.

    Let your acts speak for themselves

    • Don’t brag. It just doesn’t look good. You will notice that people who brag about their education or their long-past achievements are insecure about their current situation.
    • If you act like a real leader, then people will know it and spread the word for you.

    Remember you’re nobody without the others

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    Losers say, “We screwed up,” and “I succeeded.”

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    Powerful leaders say “I screwed up,” and “We succeeded.”

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    You have a whole team behind you. If you have success to share, share it to your team, and share it as a team.

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    Do you think you can be a leader?

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Last Updated on December 13, 2019

7 Steps For Making a New Year’s Resolution and Keeping It

7 Steps For Making a New Year’s Resolution and Keeping It

Are you keen to reinvent yourself this year? Or at least use the new year as a long overdue excuse to get rid of bad habits or pick up new ones?

Yes, it’s that time of year again. The time of year when we feel as if we have to turn over a new leaf. The time when we misguidedly imagine that the arrival of a new year will magically provide the catalyst, motivation and persistence we need to reinvent ourselves.

Traditionally, New Year’s Day is styled as the ideal time to kick start a new phase in your life and the time when you must make your all important new year’s resolution. Unfortunately, the beginning of the year is also one of the worst times to make a major change in your habits because it’s often a relatively stressful time, right in the middle of the party and vacation season.

Don’t set yourself up for failure this year by vowing to make huge changes that will be hard to keep. Instead follow these seven steps for successfully making a new year’s resolution you can stick to for good.

1. Just Pick One Thing

If you want to change your life or your lifestyle don’t try to change the whole thing at once. It won’t work. Instead pick one area of your life to change to begin with.

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Make it something concrete so you know exactly what change you’re planning to make. If you’re successful with the first change you can go ahead and make another change after a month or so. By making small changes one after the other, you still have the chance to be a whole new you at the end of the year and it’s a much more realistic way of doing it.

Don’t pick a New Year’s resolution that’s bound to fail either, like running a marathon if you’re 40lbs overweight and get out of breath walking upstairs. If that’s the case resolve to walk every day. When you’ve got that habit down pat you can graduate to running in short bursts, constant running by March or April and a marathon at the end of the year. What’s the one habit you most want to change?

2. Plan Ahead

To ensure success you need to research the change you’re making and plan ahead so you have the resources available when you need them. Here are a few things you should do to prepare and get all the systems in place ready to make your change.

Read up on it – Go to the library and get books on the subject. Whether it’s quitting smoking, taking up running or yoga or becoming vegan there are books to help you prepare for it. Or use the Internet. If you do enough research you should even be looking forward to making the change.

Plan for success – Get everything ready so things will run smoothly. If you’re taking up running make sure you have the trainers, clothes, hat, glasses, ipod loaded with energetic sounds at the ready. Then there can be no excuses.

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3. Anticipate Problems

There will be problems so make a list of what they’ll be. If you think about it, you’ll be able to anticipate problems at certain times of the day, with specific people or in special situations. Once you’ve identified the times that will probably be hard work out ways to cope with them when they inevitably crop up.

4. Pick a Start Date

You don’t have to make these changes on New Year’s Day. That’s the conventional wisdom, but if you truly want to make changes then pick a day when you know you’ll be well-rested, enthusiastic and surrounded by positive people. I’ll be waiting until my kids go back to school in February.

Sometimes picking a date doesn’t work. It’s better to wait until your whole mind and body are fully ready to take on the challenge. You’ll know when it is when the time comes.

5. Go for It

On the big day go for it 100%. Make a commitment and write it down on a card. You just need one short phrase you can carry in your wallet. Or keep it in your car, by your bed and on your bathroom mirror too for an extra dose of positive reinforcement.

Your commitment card will say something like:

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  • I enjoy a clean, smoke-free life.
  • I stay calm and in control even under times of stress.
  • I’m committed to learning how to run my own business.
  • I meditate daily.

6. Accept Failure

If you do fail and sneak a cigarette, miss a walk or shout at the kids one morning don’t hate yourself for it. Make a note of the triggers that caused this set back and vow to learn a lesson from them.

If you know that alcohol makes you crave cigarettes and oversleep the next day cut back on it. If you know the morning rush before school makes you shout then get up earlier or prepare things the night before to make it easier on you.

Perseverance is the key to success. Try again, keep trying and you will succeed.

7. Plan Rewards

Small rewards are great encouragement to keep you going during the hardest first days. After that you can probably reward yourself once a week with a magazine, a long-distance call to a supportive friend, a siesta, a trip to the movies or whatever makes you tick.

Later you can change the rewards to monthly and then at the end of the year you can pick an anniversary reward. Something that you’ll look forward to. You deserve it and you’ll have earned it.

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Whatever your plans and goals are for this year, I’d do wish you luck with them but remember, it’s your life and you make your own luck.

Decide what you want to do this year, plan how to get it and go for it. I’ll definitely be cheering you on.

Are you planning to make a New Year’s resolution? What is it and is it something you’ve tried to do before or something new? Why not pick one from this list: 50 New Year’s Resolution Ideas And How To Achieve Each Of Them

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