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How to Lead a Better Life and Do What You Want

How to Lead a Better Life and Do What You Want

It can be a long lesson if you want to know how to lead a better life and do what you want, but I’ve found a nice short post on Quora by Oliver Emberton who shows us the idea to lead a good life with some interesting graphics:

You can do anything if you stop trying to do everything

    ALL THAT PORN ISN’T HELPING YOU. 

    Productivity porn, that is. How to get more hours from your day. What to-do app to use. What cute quotes to share on Facebook. Waste. Of. Time.

    It’s actually quite simple. The most accomplished people are simply experts at what they choose to do, not how they do it. Spend most of your time on the right things and the rest takes care of itself.

    Let’s break it into three:

    1. Focus on your flairs

    What does it mean to have a flair for something? It means time you invest yields higher returns: 

      Say you’re Tiger Woods, aged 10. Playing golf is a pretty good use of your time, right? Bill Gates probably wasn’t wasting his evenings on the computer.

      Yet equally we all have areas where we struggle – our anti-flair, if you will. It took me 18 months and four attempts to pass my driving test. I hated every squirming, soul-sucking minute, but still – if you throw enough time at something you’ll get results eventually.

      The problem is, too many of us lead lives like those driving lessons: ceaselessly doing something we hate, solely to get through it. You can’t avoid every chore of course, but know that how you spend your time compounds itself, so you’d best be putting most of it where it matters:

        DO NOT FOR A SECOND believe it is enough to ‘work hard’. Hard work is not inherently a good thing. Hard work is a disgusting waste of your life when it’s thrown at the wrong things.

        2. Defy permission

        “But wait! No-one will pay me to follow my dreams!”

        Well of course. The problem here is you’re looking for a convenient, readymade route to prosperity that exists for your particular passion. Most of the time, we call that a “job”.

        Take a hard look at almost anyone who is really successful, and consider: did they apply for an existing position by winning an interview? Or did they bypass the system and start something entirely by themselves?

          If you’re a wannabe musician, you don’t necessarily need to be discovered by a label anymore. You need to be discovered by the public. Yearn to be a writer? Blog or self-publish. An entrepreneur? Build a company in your garage. If you’re good enough at something, there’s a way to make it work by yourself. But don’t expect anyone to tell you what to do or give you permission.

          One caveat: you have to be good enough, and you have to persist. The best way to do that, of course, is to focus relentlessly on your flairs (see #1).

          Good jobs are disappearing in today’s world, but there’s never been so many great ones.

          3. Embrace your sociopathic shield

          Getting something done can be like surviving a meteor storm of distractions. We surrender much of our life to the most vapid crap imaginable, simply because someone else asks us to.

            To survive, you need a shield. A slightly sociopathic one, in fact:

              The default response of your shield to anything that requires time is “no”. Automatic no. The trick is not to think of the new thing being proposed (“ooh – a squirrel”), but to think of the existing priority you’re defending (“oh – my dreams”). And if your brain thinks you can do both, treat that thought with the skepticism of Richard Dawkins being shown some holy toast.

              This isn’t easy, so it’s best to avoid relying on your shield in the first place. Flat out ignore as many potential distractions as possible – at least for long enough for you to focus on meaningful work. Seal yourself in a bubble when you can. If your emails go unanswered – well – tough. The payoff is you get done what matters.

              It demands a certain courage or naivety to accomplish all this, which is probably why so few do. Being young helps. Being hungry helps. Being a bit of an arse helps. One of the great advantages of the young is they’re blissfully ignorant or dismissive of the stupid rules they’re not supposed to break.

              Spend most of your time on the right things. Don’t wait for permission. And get comfortable with declining everything by default.

              It’s harder than posting a cute quote on Facebook, but it works.

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              15 Best Organizing Tips For Office Organization and Getting More Done

              15 Best Organizing Tips For Office Organization and Getting More Done

              You may think that you don’t have time for office organization, but if you really knew how much time that disorganization cost you, you’d reconsider.

              Rearranging and moving piles occasionally doesn’t count. Neither does clearing off your desk, if you swipe the mess into a bin, or a desk drawer.

              A relatively neat and orderly office space clears the way for higher productivity and less wasted time.

              Organizing your office doesn’t have to take days, it can be done a little at a time. In fact, maintaining an organized office is much more effective if you treat it like an on-going project, instead of a massive assault.

              So, if you’re ready to get started, the following organizing tips will help you transform your office into an efficient workspace.

              1. Purge Your Office

              De-clutter, empty, shred, get rid of everything that you don’t need or want. Look around. What haven’t you used in a while?

              Take one area at a time. If it doesn’t work, send it out for repair or toss it. If you haven’t used it in months and can’t think of when you’ll actually need it, out it goes. This goes for furniture, equipment, supplies, etc.

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              Don’t forget about knick-knacks, plants (real or artificial), and decorations – if they’re covered with dust and make your office look shabby, they’re fair game.

              2. Gather and Redistribute

              Gather up every item that isn’t where it belongs and put it where it does.

              3. Establish Work “Zones”

              Decide what type of activity happens in each area of your office. You’ll probably have a main workspace (most likely your desk,) a reference area (filing cabinet, shelves, binders,) and a supply area (closet, shelves or drawers.)

              Place the appropriate equipment and supplies are located in the proper area as much as possible.

              4. Close Proximity

              Position the equipment and supplies that you use most within reach. Things that you rarely use can be stored or put away.

              5. Get a Good Labeler

              Choose a label maker that’s simple to use. Take the time to label shelves, bins, baskets drawers. Not only will it remind you where things go, but it will also help others who may have a need to find, use, or put away anything in your workspace.

              6. Revise Your Filing System

              As we move fully into the digital age, the need to store paper files has decreased.

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              What can your store digitally? Are you duplicating files? You may be able to eliminate some of the files and folders you’ve used in the past. If you’re storing files on your computer, make sure you are doing regular back-ups.

              Here’re some storage ideas for creating a smooth filing system:

              • Create a meeting folder – Put all “items to be discussed” in there along with items that need to be handed off, reports that need to be given, etc. It’ll help you be prepared for meetings and save you stress in the even that a meeting is moved up.
              • Create a WOR folder – So much of our messy papers are things that are on hold until someone else responds or acts. Corral them in a WOR (Waiting on Response) folder. Check it every few days for outstanding actions you may need to follow-up on.
              • Storage boxes – Use inexpensive storage boxes to keep archived files and get them out of your current file space.
              • Magazine boxes – Use magazine boxes or binders to store magazines and catalogs you really want to store. Please make sure you really need them for reference or research, otherwise recycle them, or give away.
              • Reading folder – Designate a file for print articles and documents you want to read that aren’t urgent.
              • Archive files – When a project is complete, put all of the materials together and file them away. Keep your “working folders” for projects in progress.
              • File weekly – Don’t let your filing pile up. Put your papers in a “To File” folder and file everything once a week.

              Learn more tips on organizing your files here: How to Organize Your Files for Better Productivity

              7. Clear off Your Desk

              Remove everything, clean it thoroughly and put back only those items that are essential for daily use.

              If you have difficulty declutter stuff, this Declutter Formula will help you throw away stuff without regretting later.

              8. Organize your Desktop

              Now that you’ve streamlined your desktop, it’s a good idea to organize it.

              Use desktop organizers or containers to organize the items on your desk. Use trays for papers, containers for smaller items.

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              Don’t forget your computer desktop! Make sure the files or images are all in organized folders. I’d recommend you clear your computer desktop everyday before you leave work.

              9. Organize Your Drawers

              Put items used together in the same drawer space, stamps with envelopes, sticky pads with notepads, etc.

              Use drawer organizers for little items – paper clips, tacks, etc. Use a separate drawer for personal items.

              10. Separate Inboxes

              If you work regularly with other people, create a folder, tray, or inbox for each.

              11. Clear Your Piles

              Hopefully with your new organized office, you won’t create piles of paper anymore, but you still have to sort through the old ones.

              Go through the pile (a little at a time if necessary) and put it in the appropriate place or dump it.

              12. Sort Mails

              Don’t just stick mail in a pile to be sorted or rifle through and take out the pieces you need right now. Sort it as soon as you get it – To act, To read, To file, To delegate or hand off. .

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              13. Assign Discard Dates

              You don’t need to keep every piece of paper indefinitely. Mark on files or documents when they can be tossed or shredded.

              Some legal or financial documents must be kept for specified length of time. Make sure you know what those requirements are.

              14. Filter Your Emails

              Some emails are important to read, others are just not that important.

              When you use the filter system to label different types of emails, you know their priority and which to reply first.

              Take a look at these tips to achieve inbox zero: The Ultimate Way to get to Inbox Zero

              15. Straighten Your Desk

              At the end of the day, do a quick straighten, so you have a clean start the next day.

              Bottom Line

              Use one tip or try them all. The amount of effort you put into creating and maintaining an efficient work area will pay off in a big way.

              Instead of spending time looking for things and shuffling piles, you’ll be able to spend your time…well…working and you’ll enjoy being clutter free!

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