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10 Surefire Ways To Build Confidence And Be Successful In Life

10 Surefire Ways To Build Confidence And Be Successful In Life

Fear often holds us back from reaching their dreams. Learning how to overcome that fear is one of the best ways to increase your chances of becoming successful. Learn how to build confidence so you can increase your chances of living a successful life.

1. Identify Clear Goals

Everyone has a different definition of success. It’s important to identify your own personal definition of success in life. Whether your goal is to enrich the lives of others or you want to open a successful business, establish a clear goal of what you’d like to accomplish in order to feel successful.

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2. Gain Advice from Successful People

People who have reached their goals can often offer helpful words of wisdom. Look for people that you admire for their success and learn about them. Read books by successful people, network with successful people, and follow them on social media. Learn as much as you can about how they gained enough confidence to reach their goals.

3. Experiment with New Things

The path to success usually isn’t a straight line. Expect to face obstacles and accept that you may fail several times along the way. The way you recover from failures will speak to your character and your ability to reach your goals. When one thing isn’t working, be willing to try something new until you succeed.

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4. Balance Learning with Doing

You can never learn enough about things that you’re passionate about. However, you need to balance learning with action. Find ways to balance your time between learning more and applying what you’ve learned.

5. Keep a List of Your Accomplishments

Keep a list of the progress you’ve made and the accomplishments you’ve achieved. On days where you aren’t feeling very confident, reviewing your list can help give you the boost you need to keep going.

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6. Identify a Plan for Each Day

Identify one small thing you can do each day to help you work toward your goal. This can help you keep your goal in mind and can remind you why your hard work is important. Creating a plan for each day helps ensure you are spending your time and energy wisely.

7. Review Your Progress Regularly

Sometimes it is hard to identify whether or not you’re on the right track toward reaching your goals. Review your progress at regular interviews so you can ensure that you are staying on the path toward success. If you’re feeling like you’re off track, go back and review steps you can take to get back on track as soon as possible.

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8. Identify Your Overly Negative Thoughts

If you’re plagued by overly negative thoughts, it can certainly sabotage your efforts. Thinking things such as “I’ll never be good enough,” or “I can’t do this anymore,” will only hold you back. Try to recognize your overly negative thoughts before they spiral out of control. Replace them with more productive thoughts to help you stay on track toward reaching your goals.

9. Problem Solve Ways to Overcome Barriers

Be prepared to get creative when problems arise along the way. The more problems you solve, the more confident you’ll become in your ability to reach your goals. View obstacles as challenges that you can overcome and keep an open mind about how you can work through problems that you encounter along your journey to success.

10. Be Willing to Step Outside Your Comfort Zone

People often go to great lengths to avoid feeling anxious. However, anxiety won’t kill you. Instead, when you allow yourself to step outside of your comfort zone and face your anxiety head on, you’re likely to grow as a person. Be willing to step outside your comfort zone to help you get closer to your goals. You’ll feel much more successful when you’ve overcome challenges to reach your goals.

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Last Updated on March 31, 2020

How To Break the Procrastination Cycle

How To Break the Procrastination Cycle

How often do you find yourself procrastinating? Do you wish you could procrastinate less? We all know how debilitating procrastination can make us feel, and it seems to be a challenge we all share. Procrastination is one of the biggest hindrances to moving forward and doing the things that we want to in life.

There are many reasons why you might be procrastinating, and sometimes, it is really difficult to pinpoint why. You might be procrastinating because of something related to the past, present, or future (they are all intertwined), or it could be as simple as biological factors. Whatever the reason, most of us follow a cycle when we procrastinate, from the moment we decide to do something to actually getting it done, or in this case, not getting it done.

The Vicious Procrastination Cycle

For some reason, it helps to understand that we all go through the same thing, even though we often feel like the only person in the world who struggles with this. Do you resonate with the cycle below?

1. Feeling Eager and Energized

This is when you commit to taking a new action or getting something done. You are feeling confident and optimistic that, this time round, you will do it!

2. Apprehension Starts to Come Up

The beginning stages of optimism are starting to fade. There is still time, but you haven’t done anything yet, and you start to feel uneasy. You realize that you actually have to do something to get it done, and that good intentions are not enough.

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3. Still No Action

More time has passed. You still haven’t taken any action and probably have a lot of excuses why. You start to panic a little and wish you had started sooner. Your panic starts to turn into frustration and perhaps even irritability.

4. Flicker of Hope Left

You can still make it; there is a little time left and you ponder how you are going to get it done. The rush you get from leaving your task until the last minute gives you a flicker of hope. There is still time; you can do this!

5. Fading Quickly

Your hope starts to quickly fade as you try desperately to understand why you just can’t do this. You may feel desperate and have thoughts like, “What is wrong with me?” and “Why do I ALWAYS do this?” You feel discouraged, or perhaps angry and resentful at yourself.

6. Vow to Yourself

Once the feeling of anger or disappointment disappears, you most likely swear to yourself that this will never happen again; that this was the last time and next time will be different.

Does this sound like you? Is the next time different? I understand the devastating effect that procrastination has on many lives, and for some, it is a really serious problem. You also have, on the other hand, those who procrastinate but it doesn’t affect them in any way. You know whether it is affecting you or not and whether it undermines your results.

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How to Break the Procrastination Cycle

Unless you break the cycle, you will keep reinforcing it!

To break the cycle, you need to change the sequence of events. Here is my suggestion on how you can effectively break the vicious cycle you are in!

1. Feeling Eager and Energized

This is when you commit to taking a new action or getting something done. You are feeling confident and optimistic that, this time round, you will do it! The first stage is always the same.

2. Plan

Thinking alone will not help; you need to plan your actions. I always put my deadlines one or two days in advance because you know Murphy’s Law! Take into consideration everything that you need to do, how long it will take you, and what you will need to get it done, then plan the individual steps.

3. Resistance

Just because you planned doesn’t mean that this time is guaranteed to be different. You will most likely still feel the resistance so expect this. This stage is key to identifying why you are procrastinating, so when you feel the resistance, try to identify it immediately.

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What is causing you to hesitate in this moment? What do you feel?  Write them down if it helps.

4. Confront Those Feelings

Once you have identified what could possibly be holding you back, for example, fear of failure, lack of motivation, etc. You need to work on lessening the resistance.

Ask yourself, “What do I need to do to move forward? What would make it easier?” If you find that you fear something, overcoming that fear is not something that will happen overnight — keep this in mind.

5. Put Results Before Comfort

You need to keep moving forward and put results before comfort. Take action, even if it is only for 10 minutes. The key is to break the cycle and not reinforce it. You have more control that you think.

6. Repeat

Repeat steps 3-5 until you achieve what you first set out to do.

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Final Thoughts

Change doesn’t happen overnight, and if you have some deeper underlying reasons why you procrastinate, it may take longer to finally break the cycle.

If procrastination is holding you back in life, it is better to deal with it now than to deal with the negative consequences later on. It is not a question of comfort anymore; it is a question of results. What is more important to you?

Learn more about how to stop procrastinating here: What Is Procrastination and How to Stop It (The Complete Guide)

Featured photo credit: Luke Chesser via unsplash.com

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