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10 Surefire Ways To Build Confidence And Be Successful In Life

10 Surefire Ways To Build Confidence And Be Successful In Life

Fear often holds us back from reaching their dreams. Learning how to overcome that fear is one of the best ways to increase your chances of becoming successful. Learn how to build confidence so you can increase your chances of living a successful life.

1. Identify Clear Goals

Everyone has a different definition of success. It’s important to identify your own personal definition of success in life. Whether your goal is to enrich the lives of others or you want to open a successful business, establish a clear goal of what you’d like to accomplish in order to feel successful.

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2. Gain Advice from Successful People

People who have reached their goals can often offer helpful words of wisdom. Look for people that you admire for their success and learn about them. Read books by successful people, network with successful people, and follow them on social media. Learn as much as you can about how they gained enough confidence to reach their goals.

3. Experiment with New Things

The path to success usually isn’t a straight line. Expect to face obstacles and accept that you may fail several times along the way. The way you recover from failures will speak to your character and your ability to reach your goals. When one thing isn’t working, be willing to try something new until you succeed.

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4. Balance Learning with Doing

You can never learn enough about things that you’re passionate about. However, you need to balance learning with action. Find ways to balance your time between learning more and applying what you’ve learned.

5. Keep a List of Your Accomplishments

Keep a list of the progress you’ve made and the accomplishments you’ve achieved. On days where you aren’t feeling very confident, reviewing your list can help give you the boost you need to keep going.

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6. Identify a Plan for Each Day

Identify one small thing you can do each day to help you work toward your goal. This can help you keep your goal in mind and can remind you why your hard work is important. Creating a plan for each day helps ensure you are spending your time and energy wisely.

7. Review Your Progress Regularly

Sometimes it is hard to identify whether or not you’re on the right track toward reaching your goals. Review your progress at regular interviews so you can ensure that you are staying on the path toward success. If you’re feeling like you’re off track, go back and review steps you can take to get back on track as soon as possible.

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8. Identify Your Overly Negative Thoughts

If you’re plagued by overly negative thoughts, it can certainly sabotage your efforts. Thinking things such as “I’ll never be good enough,” or “I can’t do this anymore,” will only hold you back. Try to recognize your overly negative thoughts before they spiral out of control. Replace them with more productive thoughts to help you stay on track toward reaching your goals.

9. Problem Solve Ways to Overcome Barriers

Be prepared to get creative when problems arise along the way. The more problems you solve, the more confident you’ll become in your ability to reach your goals. View obstacles as challenges that you can overcome and keep an open mind about how you can work through problems that you encounter along your journey to success.

10. Be Willing to Step Outside Your Comfort Zone

People often go to great lengths to avoid feeling anxious. However, anxiety won’t kill you. Instead, when you allow yourself to step outside of your comfort zone and face your anxiety head on, you’re likely to grow as a person. Be willing to step outside your comfort zone to help you get closer to your goals. You’ll feel much more successful when you’ve overcome challenges to reach your goals.

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Last Updated on July 10, 2020

The Power of Ritual: Conquer Procrastination, Time Wasters and Laziness

The Power of Ritual: Conquer Procrastination, Time Wasters and Laziness

Life is wasted in the in-between times. The time between when your alarm first rings and when you finally decide to get out of bed. The time between when you sit at your desk and when productive work begins. The time between making a decision and doing something about it.

Slowly, your day is whittled away from all the unused in-between moments. Eventually, time wasters, laziness, and procrastination get the better of you.

The solution to reclaim these lost middle moments is by creating rituals. Every culture on earth uses rituals to transfer information and encode behaviors that are deemed important. Personal rituals can help you build a better pattern for handling everything from how you wake up to how you work.

Unfortunately, when most people see rituals, they see pointless superstitions. Indeed, many rituals are based on a primitive understanding of the world. But by building personal rituals, you get to encode the behaviors you feel are important and cut out the wasted middle moments.

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Program Your Own Algorithms

Another way of viewing rituals is by seeing them as computer algorithms. An algorithm is a set of instructions that is repeated to get a result.

Some algorithms are highly efficient, sorting or searching millions of pieces of data in a few seconds. Other algorithms are bulky and awkward, taking hours to do the same task.

By forming rituals, you are building algorithms for your behavior. Take the delayed and painful pattern of waking up, debating whether to sleep in for another two minutes, hitting the snooze button, repeat until almost late for work. This could be reprogrammed to get out of bed immediately, without debating your decision.

How to Form a Ritual

I’ve set up personal rituals for myself for handling e-mail, waking up each morning, writing articles, and reading books. Far from making me inflexible, these rituals give me a useful default pattern that works best 99% of the time. Whenever my current ritual won’t work, I’m always free to stop using it.

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Forming a ritual isn’t too difficult, and the same principles for changing habits apply:

  1. Write out your sequence of behavior. I suggest starting with a simple ritual of only 3-4 steps maximum. Wait until you’ve established a ritual before you try to add new steps.
  2. Commit to following your ritual for thirty days. This step will take the idea and condition it into your nervous system as a habit.
  3. Define a clear trigger. When does your ritual start? A ritual to wake up is easy—the sound of your alarm clock will work. As for what triggers you to go to the gym, read a book or answer e-mail—you’ll have to decide.
  4. Tweak the Pattern. Your algorithm probably won’t be perfectly efficient the first time. Making a few tweaks after the first 30-day trial can make your ritual more useful.

Ways to Use a Ritual

Based on the above ideas, here are some ways you could implement your own rituals:

1. Waking Up

Set up a morning ritual for when you wake up and the next few things you do immediately afterward. To combat the grogginess after immediately waking up, my solution is to do a few pushups right after getting out of bed. After that, I sneak in ninety minutes of reading before getting ready for morning classes.

2. Web Usage

How often do you answer e-mail, look at Google Reader, or check Facebook each day? I found by taking all my daily internet needs and compressing them into one, highly-efficient ritual, I was able to cut off 75% of my web time without losing any communication.

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3. Reading

How much time do you get to read books? If your library isn’t as large as you’d like, you might want to consider the rituals you use for reading. Programming a few steps to trigger yourself to read instead of watching television or during a break in your day can chew through dozens of books each year.

4. Friendliness

Rituals can also help with communication. Set up a ritual of starting a conversation when you have opportunities to meet people.

5. Working

One of the hardest barriers when overcoming procrastination is building up a concentrated flow. Building those steps into a ritual can allow you to quickly start working or continue working after an interruption.

6. Going to the gym

If exercising is a struggle, encoding a ritual can remove a lot of the difficulty. Set up a quick ritual for going to exercise right after work or when you wake up.

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7. Exercise

Even within your workouts, you can have rituals. Spacing the time between runs or reps with a certain number of breaths can remove the guesswork. Forming a ritual of doing certain exercises in a particular order can save time.

8. Sleeping

Form a calming ritual in the last 30-60 minutes of your day before you go to bed. This will help slow yourself down and make falling asleep much easier. Especially if you plan to get up full of energy in the morning, it will help if you remove insomnia.

8. Weekly Reviews

The weekly review is a big part of the GTD system. By making a simple ritual checklist for my weekly review, I can get the most out of this exercise in less time. Originally, I did holistic reviews where I wrote my thoughts on the week and progress as a whole. Now, I narrow my focus toward specific plans, ideas, and measurements.

Final Thoughts

We all want to be productive. But time wasters, procrastination, and laziness sometimes get the better of us. If you’re facing such difficulties, don’t be afraid to make use of these rituals to help you conquer them.

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