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How to Stop Letting Your Money Control You

How to Stop Letting Your Money Control You

    Money is a mystery to many people and when I got out of college I was no exception. I knew I made a decent wage and I could afford to live but I never seemed to have any extra at the end of the month. When a large, unexpected expense would arise, I was sent running to my parents…or to my credit card. I had no control of my money; it was controlling me.

    To control your money, you have to ask yourself a simple question: Where is my money going? Once you begin to understand where the money goes, it’s easy to track and manage it.

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    Where is my money going?

    The first step is to figure out where your money is going. All of your money goes to one of two places: fixed expenses or variable expenses. Your fixed expenses are going to be things like rent, utilities, student loans, insurance and car payments. These expenses are the same amount every month and ongoing.

    Variable expenses are everything else like groceries, restaurants, clothing and entertainment. All of these things can be planned and controlled.

    One of the best things you can do to control your money is to create a Bills Calendar. Since I use Google Calendar, I made a new calendar called “Bills” and added all of the fixed expenses for the month. (Don’t forget any yearly expenses like Amazon Prime or XBOX Live, for example.)

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    How do I control my money?

    Now that you know where your money is going, you can control your money with a budget. Yes — budget is a scary word. It was for me too.

    Start with looking over your bank statement and listing all of your expenses for a month. Similarly, if you use Mint, this becomes even easier. Make a note of the categories you’re spending money and how much you’re spending each month. It’s good to look back at least 3 months, but the longer you look back the better idea you’ll have of what you’re really spending each month.

    Next, find one of the many budget templates available online and fill it out. You won’t use every category, so just you what applies to you.

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    The biggest misconception I had about budgeting was that once I set it up, I had to live by it to the cent. A budget is a living document. It is meant to be updated and corrected until it is a true representation of what you’re spending. I review my budget every other month and make corrections as needed.

    Automate your money

    When you’re living paycheck to paycheck, the idea of Billpay is scary because you never know if you’ll have the money for the payment when it’s due. Now that you control your money, Billpay can save you money and stress.

    Many bill payees (such as auto insurance and student loans) will give a small discount if you sign up for their auto payment system. In addition, if you know your fixed expenses are taken care of, you will never pay another late fee again.

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    Now that your bills are under control it’s time to pay yourself. When you’re 21, the idea of retirement is a lifetime away. You don’t see a need for savings or a 401k or anything your parents worry about. But it’s never too early to start saving.

    Pay yourself

    I look at my savings account as paying myself. Sure, I get a paycheck from my job, and I “give” a lot of it away. But I need to keep some of that money for my “future self”. I need to have money for car repairs, medical bills, or even a new computer or vacation.

    I cannot emphasize how much less stressed you’ll feel when you start paying yourself and helping out your “future self”. Take a percentage of your paycheck and put it into savings automatically. You can set up a recurring transfer with your bank to move money into savings every paycheck, or you can set it up through direct deposit with your employer if you use a different bank with a higher-interest savings account.

    (Photo credit: A Calculator and Statistics via Shutterstock)

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    Last Updated on June 25, 2019

    5 Books You Must Read if You Want to Be a Millionaire in Your 20’s

    5 Books You Must Read if You Want to Be a Millionaire in Your 20’s

    Millionaires and billionaires read more than you think. In fact, the likes of Warren Buffet are said to read 1.000 pages a day. As the old saying goes “There’s no smoke without fire”; so, start off with these 5 incredible books!

    1. The 48 Laws of Power

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      “If you are unsure of a course of action, do not attempt it. Your doubts and hesitations will infect your execution. Timidity is dangerous: Better to enter with boldness. Any mistakes you commit through audacity are easily corrected with more audacity. Everyone admires the bold; no one honors the timid.”

      On your journey to becoming a millionaire in your 20’s, there will be many people trying to manipulate you into doing what they want. This international bestseller by Robert Greene is the widely read by those in the entertainment industry because of its dog-eat-dog environment. This book is a must-read for anybody who wants to claim power and keep it. it’s a fun read that tells the story of some of the most powerful people in history.

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      An example of a law of power is: Always say less than necessary.

      • When trying to impress, the more you say the more common you look and less in control.
      • Be vague.
      • Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less.

      2. Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion

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        “Often we don’t realize that our attitude toward something has been influenced by the number of times we have been exposed to it in the past.”

        This book explains the core strategies people use to influence others using real world examples. Robert Cialdini’s book goes over human quirks like the need to be consistent, and how you can use that in your marketing strategy to make more money. “People’s ability to understand the factors that affect their behaviour is surprisingly poor,” Cialdini says, “which leads to people making poor decisions without realising why.”

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        Cialdini includes real world examples of why people join cults, buy certain jewellery, or give to charity.

        3. Blue Ocean Strategy

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          “Value innovation is the cornerstone of blue ocean strategy. We call it value innovation because instead of focusing on beating the competition, you focus on making the competition irrelevant by creating a leap in value for buyers and your company, thereby opening up new and uncontested market space. Value innovation places equal emphasis on value.”

          This book argues that leading companies don’t succeed by battling competitors in “Red Oceans”, but by creating “Blue Oceans” where they have uncontested market space to grow. It goes over case studies like “Cirque Du Soleil” who created a blue ocean by creating a circus platform that didn’t include animals or more than one act on at once but instead, decided to focus on talented performers and music who created a mystical storyline.

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          4. The Fountainhead

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            “A man’s spirit is himself. That entity which is his consciousness. To think, to feel, to judge, to act are functions of the ego.”

            The Fountainhead takes place in the United States, mostly in New York City, during the 1920s and 1930s. Billionaire Mark Cuban named his yacht “Fountainhead” after this book. This classic novel is about the struggles of an innovative architect named Howard Roark and his effort to achieve success on his own terms. Many entrepreneurs are inspired by this book because it depicts how you should be uncompromising when it comes to your vision and your goals. If you follow this way of life, you develop the ability to change the world and creating something unique.

            5. The Compound Effect

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              “Do you know how the casinos make so much money in Vegas? Because they track every table, every winner, every hour. Why do Olympic trainers get paid top dollar? Because they track every workout, every calorie, and every micronutrient for their athletes. All winners are trackers.”

              This book is by Darren Hardy the CEO of Success Magazine, he goes over how it’s the small, seemingly insignificant choices that compound to create success or failure over time. No one has a plan to be broke and fat but that’s what happens when you don’t have a plan and go along the path of least resistance. Hardy argues that you cannot improve something until you measure it and to always take 100 percent responsibility for everything that happens to you.

              So, those are five books you must read if you want to give it a try to become a millionaire in your 20’s. What are the best books you have ever read? Leave a comment and share these life-changing books with your friends to help them become successful like you.

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