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Why Your Silly Bucket List is Holding You Back

Why Your Silly Bucket List is Holding You Back

Have you ever heard someone say, “That’s going on my bucket list.” Usually these words are uttered after someone hears or thinks of some incredibly awesome experience they’d like to have.

But if we think about the words “bucket list” what comes to mind?

It makes me think of someone who has their best years behind them, and is trying to capture a little bit more life before their time on this planet is gone. They’re probably still having fun, but they can’t help but think they wish they had done all of these things while they were younger and able to enjoy them more.

It makes me think of someone who has no sense of urgency or accomplishment. They’re trying to achieve these things “before they die.”

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It’s no secret that we are best motivated to accomplish things when we have a deadline. What kind of deadline is before we die?

That, and I don’t know about you, but I’d rather not have some of the best experiences of my life when I’m not able to enjoy them and when I’m worried about how much money I have left to live on.

I’m one of those people who has a vision that there’s always a better way to do things, and there’s definitely a better way to do the bucket list.

So that’s why I recommend a different way to think about the bucket list.

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  • A way that allows you to enjoy the most awesome experiences of your life thoroughly
  • A way that pushes you to excel while you’re young
  • A way that will allow you to lead a lifetime of achievement
  • And a way that won’t leave you wondering if you can complete everything you want to do while you’re still alive

Enter, the “Life List”

A life list is a bucket list, turned on its ugly head.

You strive to complete it before a certain point in your life, such as before the age of 30, 35, or 40 or maybe in the next three years – not before you die. You can set your own goal.

This completely changes your mindset about the accomplishments within. Instead of putting these amazing experience off until you’re old and decrepit, you go after them full throttle now.

You push yourself to the level of success that is required for you to make enough money to carry out these dreams.

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And when you’re done, you do it all over again, and you do it even better than you did before. You continue to improve yourself and your life, and when you finally do come to the end of your rope, you’ve lived an amazing life full of amazing experiences. You have no regrets, and you have a lifetime of achievement to look back on.

You accomplished all of this because you didn’t wait until you were about to die to have the most amazing experiences of your life.

You made a life list, you went after it, and you lived the life of your dreams.

Go, Create Your Life List

If you already have a bucket list, take that “before you die” deadline and change it to the next three years, the next five years, or some feasible period of time that isn’t before you die.

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If you don’t, sit down and create one.  (Ed: We’re building Listible to help you create lists) Figure out all of those things you want to do before you die. Think big. Push yourself. Envision a life of success that will allow you to get there.

Now push yourself to figure out how you’re going to make it all happen.

And live the life of your dreams.

Your thoughts: Do you still think each of us should have a bucket list?

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5 Simple Ways to Relieve Stress Effectively

5 Simple Ways to Relieve Stress Effectively

Everyone experiences mental stress at one time or another. Maybe you’re starting a new career, job, or business, or you feel incredibly overwhelmed between work, parenting, and your love life (or a lack of it). It could even be that you simply feel that you have way too much to do and not enough time to do it,  plus, on top of everything, nothing seems to be going the way it should!

Yup, we all experience mental stress from time-to-time, and that’s okay as long as you have the tools, techniques and knowledge that allow you to fully relieve it once it comes.

Here are 5 tips for relieving mental stress when it comes so you can function at your best while feeling good (and doing well) in work, love, or life:

1. Get Rationally Optimistic

Mental stress starts with your perception of your experiences. For instance, most people get stressed out when they perceive their reality as “being wrong” in some way. Essentially, they have a set idea of how things “should be” at any given moment, and when reality ends up being different (not even necessarily bad), they get stressed.

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This process is simply a result of perception and can be easily “fixed” by recognizing that although life might not always be going as YOU think it should, it’s still going as it should—for your own benefit.

In fact, once you fully recognize that everything in your life ultimately happens for your own growth, progress, and development—so you can achieve your goals and dreams—your perception works in your favor. You soon process and respond to your experience of life differently, for your advantage. That’s the essence of becoming “rationally optimistic.”

The result: no more mental stress.

2. Unplug

Just like you might need to unplug your computer when it starts acting all crazy, you should also “unplug” your mind.

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How on earth do you unplug your mind? Simple: just meditate.

It isn’t nearly difficult or complicated as some people think, so, if you don’t already meditate, give it a try. Whether you meditate for 5 minutes, 30 minutes, or 2 hours, this is a surefire way to reduce mental stress.

Meditation has been scientifically proven to relax your body (resulting in less mental stress), while also reducing anxiety and high blood pressure.

3. Easy on the Caffeine

Yes, we know, we know—everyone loves a nice java buzz, and that’s okay, but there’s a fine line between a small caffeine pick-me-up and a racing heart and mind that throws you into a frenzy of mental stress.

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Try giving up caffeine for a while and see how you feel. And, if that’s completely out of the question for you, at least try to minimize it. You might find that lots of your mental stress mysteriously “disappears” as your caffeine intake goes down.

4. Attack Mental Stress Via the Back Door

That’s right: your body and mind are part of the whole being, and are constantly influencing and affecting each other. If you’re experiencing a lot of mental stress, try to reduce it by calming your body down—a calm body equals a calmer mind.

How do you calm your body down and reduce physical stress? A  great way to reduce physical stress (thereby reducing mental stress) is to take natural supplements that are proven to reduce stress and anxiety while lifting your mood. Three good ones to look into are kava-kava, St John’s wort, and rhodiola rosea:

  • Kava-kava is a natural plant known to have mild sedative properties, and you should be able to find it at your natural health food store or vitamin store. It’s available in capsules or liquid extract form.
  • St John’s wort is a natural flower used to treat depression. Again, it’s found at your local health store in capsules or liquid. Because it uplifts mood (enabling you to see the brighter side of all experiences) it helps relieve mental stress as well.
  • Rhodiola rosea is a natural plant shown to reduce stress and uplift mood, and Russian athletes have been using it forever. Like the other two supplements mentioned, rhodiola rosea can be found at your natural health store in capsule or liquid form.

While these supplements are all natural and can be very helpful for most people, always check with your health care provider first as they can cause side-effects depending on your current health situation etc.

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5. Good Old-Fashioned Exercise

This tip has been around forever because it works. Nothing relieves mental stress like running, kickboxing—you name it. Anything super-physical will wipe out most of your mental stresses once the exercise endorphins (happy chemicals) are released into your brain.

The result: mental stress will be gone!

So, if you’re feeling overwhelmed or just plain stressed, try using some of the above tips. You can even print this out or save it to refer to regularly.

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