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Use This Little Known Tool to Lose Weight Starting Now

Use This Little Known Tool to Lose Weight Starting Now

Being unhappy with our weight is not uncommon. Perhaps you have gained some weight and want to lose it so that you can fit back into your favorite jeans? Maybe you want to lose some weight so that you can look good on an important future event (your sister’s wedding, graduation ceremony, or just simply to look good on a date).

Or perhaps you want to lose weight to improve your overall health?

Well, it’s easy to say that you want to lose some weight, but the reality is, if weight loss was that simple, then most people would not be overweight.

So why do so many people fail to lose weight then? There are four main reasons:

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They lack a clear goal.

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    Most people said: “Wow, just realized that it’s pretty hard to fit into this jeans anymore. Well, guess I need to lose some weight, I will start to exercise and eat better, starting next Monday,” which is not specific enough. Rather than saying that, you should set a clear goal with a time frame, such as: “I plan to lose 10 pounds in a month.” As the saying goes, if you fail to plan, then you are really planning to fail.

    They didn’t measure and monitor progress.

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      How many times have you set weight loss as a New Year Resolution? Maybe you have set a good goal that is measurable and within a certain time frame (10 pounds in a month), however most people fail to monitor and measure their progress. They don’t weigh themselves regularly, and hence they don’t even know whether they hit their goal or not. In the end, they just give up.

      They are relying on willpower and memory.

      Perhaps you plan to weigh in every week, but we humans often have limited willpower. We also have many other things that we need to remember, so it’s very normal for us to forget stuff. In the end, you might forget to weigh yourself and it results in not updating their progress.

      They don’t reward themselves enough.

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        Weight loss can be a pretty long journey, and it is a better idea to reward yourself on every milestone that you have achieved. The reward will motivate you.

        So how do you avoid those problems? It’s very simple, you can use this little known tool to:

        • Set a clear goal (how many pounds to lose and by when). A clear goal is specific, measurable, actionable, relevant, and time-bound.
        • Measure progress by crossing off the numbers and checking the date.
        • Paste this tool in the place that you frequent, so you don’t have to rely on memory
        • Set a small reward for every milestone that you have achieved.
        • Additional benefit from using this tool is social support. Since you will be posting this tool in your home (or whatever place that you frequent), other people (be it your family, or your roommate) will know about your weight loss plan. They will help you keep yourself accountable in maintaining a healthy lifestyle so that you are successful in losing the weight.

        So what is this tool you’ve been talking about? Show it to me!

        Well the tool is actually just a simple poster. However many people loved this poster (it has been shared over 5,000 times in Pinterest alone). Here is what the poster looks like:

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          Yes – this simple poster can actually help you lose weight. It’s very much like a vision board and its boldness and brightness doesn’t allow you to forget or pass over your goals.

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          Last Updated on July 10, 2020

          How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

          How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

          We all have them—those hurtful, frustrating, offensive, manipulative people in our lives. No matter how hard we try to surround ourselves with positive and kind people, there will always be those who will disrespect, insult, berate, and misuse you if we allow them to.

          We may, for a variety of reasons, not be able to avoid them, but we can determine how we interact with them and how we allow them to interact with us.

          So, how to take control of your life and stop being pushed around?

          Learning to set clear firm boundaries with the people in our lives at work and in our personal lives is the best way to protect ourselves from the negative effects of this kind of behavior.

          What Boundaries Are (And What They’re Not)

          Boundaries are limits

          —they are not threats or ultimatums. Boundaries inform or teach. They are not a form of punishment.

          Boundaries are firm lines—determined by you—which cannot be crossed by those around you. They are guidelines for how you will allow others to treat you and what kind of behaviors you will expect.

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          Healthy personal boundaries help protect you from physical or emotional pain. You may also need to set firm boundaries at work to ensure you and your time are not disrespected. Don’t allow others to take advantage of your kindness and generosity.

          Clear boundaries communicate to others that you demand respect and consideration—that you are willing to stand up for yourself and that you will not be a doormat for anyone. They are a “no trespassing” sign that makes it very clear when a line has been crossed and that there will be consequences for doing so.

          Boundaries are not set with the intention of changing other people. They may change how people interact with you, but they are more about enforcing your needs than attempting to change the general behavior and attitude of others.

          How to Establish Boundaries and Take Control of Your Life

          Here are some ways that you can establish boundaries and take control of your life.

          1. Self-Awareness Comes First

          Before you can establish boundaries with others, you first need to understand what your needs are.

          You are entitled to respect. You have the right to protect yourself from inappropriate or offensive behavior. Setting boundaries is a way of honoring your needs.

          To set appropriate boundaries, you need to be clear about what healthy behaviors look like—what healthy relationships look like.

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          You first have to become more aware of your feelings and honest with yourself about your expectations and what you feel is appropriate behavior:

          • Where do you need to establish better boundaries?
          • When do you feel disrespected?
          • When do you feel violated, frustrated, or angered by the behavior of others?
          • In what situations do you feel you are being mistreated or taken advantage of?
          • When do you want to be alone?
          • How much space do you need?

          You need to honor your own needs and boundaries before you can expect others to honor them. This allows you to take control of your life.

          2. Clear Communication Is Essential

          Inform others clearly and directly what your expectations are. It is essential to have clear communication if you want others to respect your boundaries. Explain in an honest and respectful tone what you find offensive or unacceptable.

          Many people simply aren’t aware that they are behaving inappropriately. They may never have been taught proper manners or consideration for others.

          3. Be Specific but Don’t Blame

          Taking a blaming or punishing attitude automatically puts people on the defensive. People will not listen when they feel attacked. It’s part of human nature.

          That said, you do not need to overexplain or defend yourself. Boundaries are not open to compromise.

          Sample language:

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          • “You may not…yell or raise your voice to me…”
          • “I need…to be treated with respect…”
          • “It’s not okay when…you take things from my desk without asking…”
          • “I won’t…do your work…cover for you anymore…”
          • “It’s not acceptable when…you ridicule or insult me…”
          • “I am uncomfortable when…you use offensive language”
          • “I will no longer be able to…lend you money…”

          Being able to communicate these without sounding accusatory is essential if you want others to respect your boundaries so you can take control of your life.

          4. Consequences Are Often Necessary

          Determine what the appropriate consequences will be when boundaries are crossed. If it’s appropriate, be clear about those consequences upfront when communicating those boundaries to others.

          Follow through. People won’t respect your boundaries if you don’t enforce them.

          Standing our ground and forcing consequences doesn’t come easily to us. We want to be nice. We want people to like us, but we shouldn’t have to trade our self-respect to gain friends or to achieve success.

          We may be tempted to let minor disrespect slide to avoid conflict, but as the familiar saying goes, “if you give people an inch, they’ll take a mile.”

          It’s much easier to address offensive or inappropriate behavior now than to wait until that behavior has gotten completely out of hand.

          It’s also important to remember that positive reinforcement is even more powerful than negative consequences. When people do alter the way they treat you, acknowledge it. Let people know that you notice and appreciate their efforts.

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          Final Thoughts

          Respect is always a valid reason for setting a boundary. Don’t defend yourself or your needs. Boundaries are often necessary to protect your time, your space, and your feelings. And these are essential if you want to take control of your life.

          Start with the easiest boundaries first. Setting boundaries is a skill that needs to be practiced. Enlist support from others if necessary. Inform people immediately when they have crossed the line.

          Don’t wait. Communicate politely and directly. Be clear about the consequences and follow them through.

          The better you become at setting your own boundaries, the better you become at recognizing and respecting the boundaries of others.

          Remember that establishing boundaries is your right. You are entitled to respect. You can’t control how other people behave, but you do have control over the way you allow people to treat you.

          Learning to set boundaries is not always easy, but with time, it will become more comfortable. You may eventually find that boundaries become automatic and you no longer need to consciously set them.

          They will simply become a natural extension of your self-respect.

          Featured photo credit: Thomas Kelley via unsplash.com

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