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Sensual traveling: How to Fully Indulge in a New Place

Sensual traveling: How to Fully Indulge in a New Place

Holidays are something we long for, save tons of money for, and prepare for long in advance. We’ve always been told that, in order to get the most out of our travels, we need to read up on the culture and places to visit so that we really know where to go.

Maybe you prepare your holidays by making a schedule of which museum you want to see when, where you want to eat, and what night activities you will squeeze in. Or maybe you join a guided tour and stop by the top-ranked places of the country you are visiting, typically one after another in a rather tight time-schedule. Just take your snapshots and keep going!

I want to invite you to do the total opposite. Just go out and get lost. Leave your brain at home; follow your senses. Most of us knowledge-workers are already quite out of touch with our bodies, and if at a time of rest and relaxation such as our holidays, we still can’t let go of our intellect and throw in our body and soul, we are missing out on the fun.

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You can’t plan for that gorgeous afternoon in Italy where you just linger on the square of a small town, bask in the sun, sip an espresso that sets you on fire, and just watch the people pass by.

I want to give you a scandalous, sensual invitation: Don’t prepare for your holidays. Just walk out of your hotel and surrender to your senses. Just wander around. Sit on a bench in the shade if you feel like it. If you pass by a restaurant that smells good, go and try it out. Take the metro and get off at a random stop. Indulge, for indulgence is the oil that smooths your senses.

Let’s break it down into our five wonderful, glorious senses and see how you can really feel the place where you are traveling to.

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1. Sight

What brings you most joy when you travel to, say, France: taking the ubiquitous snapshot of you pushing against the Eiffel tower or taking in the lovely sight of people carrying baguettes from the bakery. Take the road less traveled and explore the countryside. Find that place where all is quiet and you can see soft fields until the horizon. Watch the ocean and the waves coming and going. Or watch people, vibrant, colorful people that are making their way home in that exotic place they belong to.

2. Hearing

Take those earbuds out of your ears, switch off your volume, and listen to your holiday place. Is it a hustle-bustle, busy city in which people shout at each other in their foreign language? If you pay full attention, can you make sense of what they say? Can you learn a new language by feeling it?

What is the local music of the place that you are exploring? Can you walk into a pub at night and hear a local band play? Can you maybe even join a jam session in the street or on the beach? You don’t need to be able to play an instrument; as long as you can clap your hands, you can make music!

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3. Touch

Get back to the roots, get back to mother nature, and simply reach out your hands to feel the earth, the trees, the fabrics, the grains, and everything you can lay your hands on. If you are traveling with a partner, take the time to hold him/her close and feel that spark of love when you touch him/her before pointing at a beautiful sight in the distance.

Experience a local tradition: go to a local massage parlor, swim in the lake or river, and try out the bathing/sauna culture (if there is any) where you are going.

4. Taste

It’s not a bad habit to eat your way through a country. Try out whatever smells good to you, and buy random food from street vendors. Pay attention to the locals – where do they seem to hang out for dinner, what are they buying from the grocery store? Traveling to a far place to find yourself landing into the local Subway or McDonald’s is just sad. Use the opportunity to discover the specialties of the region. If possible, go tasting wine/beer/liquor and learn about the local brewing history.

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5. Smell

Follow your nose while you wander around a foreign city, and don’t be afraid to see what your gut tells you about these smells. Take deep breaths and pay true attention to what smells and information linger in the air. Can you distinguish the local spices? Can you smell the sea, even though you might be 20 minutes away from the beach?

Eat slowly and take enough time to admire your lovely exotic new foods, to smell them, and to be grateful for having this experience. Bring your senses together into your travel experience and truly have the location you are visiting sink into every single pore of your body.

If you ask me, sensual is the new slow travel. Enjoy!

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Eva Lantsoght

Eva is a university professor and a professional structural engineer. She writes about achieving excellence and success in life on Lifehack.

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Last Updated on January 3, 2020

The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

Are you waiting for life events to turn out the way you want so that you can feel more positive about your life? Do you find yourself having pre-conditions to your sense of well-being, thinking that certain things must happen for you to be happier? Do you think there is no way that your life stresses can make you anything other than “stressed out” and that other people just don’t understand?  If your answer is “yes” to any of these questions, you might find yourself lingering in the land of negativity for too long!

The following are some tips to keep positive no matter what comes your way. This post will help you stop looking for what psychologists call “positivity” in all the wrong places!  Here are the ten essential habits of positive people.

1. Positive people don’t confuse quitting with letting go.

Instead of hanging on to ideas, beliefs, and even people that are no longer healthy for them, they trust their judgement to let go of negative forces in their lives.  Especially in terms of relationships, they subscribe to The Relationship Prayer which goes:

 I will grant myself the ability to trust the healthy people in my life … 

To set limits with, or let go of, the negative ones … 

And to have the wisdom to know the DIFFERENCE!

 2.  Positive people don’t just have a good day – they make a good day.

Waiting, hoping and wishing seldom have a place in the vocabulary of positive individuals. Rather, they use strong words that are pro-active and not reactive. Passivity leads to a lack of involvement, while positive people get very involved in constructing their lives. They work to make changes to feel better in tough times rather than wish their feelings away.

3. For the positive person, the past stays in the past.

Good and bad memories alike stay where they belong – in the past where they happened. They don’t spend much time pining for the good ol’ days because they are too busy making new memories now. The negative pulls from the past are used not for self-flagellation or unproductive regret, but rather productive regret where they use lessons learned as stepping stones towards a better future.

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4. Show me a positive person and I can show you a grateful person.

The most positive people are the most grateful people.  They do not focus on the potholes of their lives.  They focus on the pot of gold that awaits them every day, with new smells, sights, feelings and experiences.  They see life as a treasure chest full of wonder.

5. Rather than being stuck in their limitations, positive people are energized by their possibilities.

Optimistic people focus on what they can do, not what they can’t do.  They are not fooled to think that there is a perfect solution to every problem, and are confident that there are many solutions and possibilities.  They are not afraid to attempt new solutions to old problems, rather than spin their wheels expecting things to be different this time.  They refuse to be like Charlie Brown expecting that this time Lucy will not pull the football from him!

6. Positive people do not let their fears interfere with their lives!

Positive people have observed that those who are defined and pulled back by their fears never really truly live a full life. While proceeding with appropriate caution, they do not let fear keep them from trying new things. They realize that even failures are necessary steps for a successful life. They have confidence that they can get back up when they are knocked down by life events or their own mistakes, due to a strong belief in their personal resilience.

7. Positive people smile a lot!

When you feel positive on the inside it is like you are smiling from within, and these smiles are contagious. Furthermore, the more others are with positive people, the more they tend to smile too! They see the lightness in life, and have a sense of humor even when it is about themselves. Positive people have a high degree of self-respect, but refuse to take themselves too seriously!

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8. People who are positive are great communicators.

They realize that assertive, confident communication is the only way to connect with others in everyday life.  They avoid judgmental, angry interchanges, and do not let someone else’s blow up give them a reason to react in kind. Rather, they express themselves with tact and finesse.  They also refuse to be non-assertive and let people push them around. They refuse to own problems that belong to someone else.

9. Positive people realize that if you live long enough, there are times for great pain and sadness.

One of the most common misperceptions about positive people is that to be positive, you must always be happy. This can not be further from the truth. Anyone who has any depth at all is certainly not happy all the time.  Being sad, angry, disappointed are all essential emotions in life. How else would you ever develop empathy for others if you lived a life of denial and shallow emotions? Positive people do not run from the gamut of emotions, and accept that part of the healing process is to allow themselves to experience all types of feelings, not only the happy ones. A positive person always holds the hope that there is light at the end of the darkness.  

10. Positive person are empowered people – they refuse to blame others and are not victims in life.

Positive people seek the help and support of others who are supportive and safe.They limit interactions with those who are toxic in any manner, even if it comes to legal action and physical estrangement such as in the case of abuse. They have identified their own basic human rights, and they respect themselves too much to play the part of a victim. There is no place for holding grudges with a positive mindset. Forgiveness helps positive people become better, not bitter.

How about you?  How many habits of positive people do you personally find in yourself?  If you lack even a few of these 10 essential habits, you might find that the expected treasure at the end of the rainbow was not all that it was cracked up to be. How could it — if you keep on bringing a negative attitude around?

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I wish you well in keeping positive, because as we all know, there is certainly nothing positive about being negative!

Featured photo credit: Janaína Castelo Branco via flickr.com

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