It is well to be up before daybreak, for such habits contribute to health, wealth, and wisdom.
Are morning people born or made? In my case it was definitely made. In my early 20s, I rarely went to bed before midnight, and I’d almost always sleep in late. I usually didn’t start hitting my stride each day until late afternoon.
But after a while I couldn’t ignore the high correlation between success and rising early, even in my own life. On those rare occasions where I did get up early, I noticed that my productivity was almost always higher, not just in the morning but all throughout the day. And I also noticed a significant feeling of well-being. So being the proactive goal-achiever I was, I set out to become a habitual early riser. I promptly set my alarm clock for 5AM…
… and the next morning, I got up just before noon.Advertising
I tried again many more times, each time not getting very far with it. I figured I must have been born without the early riser gene. Whenever my alarm went off, my first thought was always to stop that blasted noise and go back to sleep. I tabled this habit for a number of years, but eventually I came across some sleep research that showed me that I was going about this problem the wrong way. Once I applied those ideas, I was able to become an early riser consistently.
It’s hard to become an early riser using the wrong strategy. But with the right strategy, it’s relatively easy.
The most common wrong strategy is this: You assume that if you’re going to get up earlier, you’d better go to bed earlier.
So you figure out how much sleep you’re getting now, and then just shift everything back a few hours. If you now sleep from midnight to 8am, you figure you’ll go to bed at 10pm and get up at 6am instead. Sounds very reasonable, but it will usually fail.Advertising
It seems there are two main schools of thought about sleep patterns. One is that you should go to bed and get up at the same times every day. It’s like having an alarm clock on both ends — you try to sleep the same hours each night. This seems practical for living in modern society. We need predictability in our schedules. And we need to ensure adequate rest.
The second school says you should listen to your body’s needs and go to bed when you’re tired and get up when you naturally wake up.
This approach is rooted in biology. Our bodies should know how much rest we need, so we should listen to them.
Through trial and error, I found out for myself that both of these schools are suboptimal sleep patterns. Both of them are wrong if you care about productivity. Here’s why:
If you sleep set hours, you’ll sometimes go to bed when you aren’t sleepy enough. If it’s taking you more than five minutes to fall asleep each night, you aren’t sleepy enough. You’re wasting time lying in bed awake and not being asleep. Another problem is that you’re assuming you need the same number of hours of sleep every night, which is a false assumption. Your sleep needs vary from day to day.Advertising
If you sleep based on what your body tells you, you’ll probably be sleeping more than you need — in many cases a lot more, like 10-15 hours more per week (the equivalent of a full waking day). A lot of people who sleep this way get 8+ hours of sleep per night, which is usually too much. Also, your mornings may be less predictable if you’re getting up at different times. And because our natural rhythms are sometimes out of tune with the 24-hour clock, you may find that your sleep times begin to drift.
The optimal solution for me has been to combine both approaches.
It’s very simple, and many early risers do this without even thinking about it, but it was a mental breakthrough for me nonetheless. The solution was to go to bed when I’m sleepy (and only when I’m sleepy) and get up with an alarm clock at a fixed time (7 days per week). So I always get up at the same time (in my case 5am), but I go to bed at different times every night.
I go to bed when I’m too sleepy to stay up. My sleepiness test is that if I couldn’t read a book for more than a page or two without drifting off, I’m ready for bed. Most of the time when I go to bed, I’m asleep within three minutes. I lie down, get comfortable, and immediately I’m drifting off. Sometimes I go to bed at 9:30pm; other times I stay up until midnight. Most of the time I go to bed between 10-11pm. If I’m not sleepy, I stay up until I can’t keep my eyes open any longer. Reading is an excellent activity to do during this time, since it becomes obvious when I’m too sleepy to read.
When my alarm goes off every morning, I turn it off, stretch for a couple seconds, and sit up. I don’t think about it. I’ve learned that the longer it takes me to get up, the more likely I am to try to sleep in. So I don’t allow myself to have conversations in my head about the benefits of sleeping in once the alarm goes off. Even if I want to sleep in, I always get up right away.Advertising
After a few days of using this approach, I found that my sleep patterns settled into a natural rhythm. If I got too little sleep one night, I’d automatically be sleepier earlier and get more sleep the next night. And if I had lots of energy and wasn’t tired, I’d sleep less. My body learned when to knock me out because it knew I would always get up at the same time and that my wake-up time wasn’t negotiable.
A side effect was that on average, I slept about 90 minutes less per night, but I actually felt more well-rested. I was sleeping almost the entire time I was in bed.
I read that most insomniacs are people who go to bed when they aren’t sleepy. If you aren’t sleepy and find yourself unable to fall asleep quickly, get up and stay awake for a while. Resist sleep until your body begins to release the hormones that rob you of consciousness. If you simply go to bed when you’re sleepy and then get up at a fixed time, you’ll cure your insomnia. The first night you’ll stay up late, but you’ll fall asleep right away. You may be tired that first day from getting up too early and getting only a few hours of sleep the whole night, but you’ll slog through the day and will want to go to bed earlier that second night. After a few days, you’ll settle into a pattern of going to bed at roughly the same time and falling asleep right away.
So if you want to become an early riser (or just exert more control over your sleep patterns), then try this: Go to bed only when you’re too sleepy to stay up, and get up at a fixed time every morning.Advertising
How to Become an Early Riser | Steve Pavlina
Last Updated on January 13, 2022
10 Cheap And Amazing Honeymoon Ideas
A honeymoon is important. The wedding is over. The months, or even years, of stress and planning are finally over. It’s time for the two of you to relax, settle in, and start enjoying your time together as you embark on your first journey as a family.
To make the most of this time for the least amount of money, it’s important to focus on what you want out of a honeymoon. This isn’t your typical list of touristy honeymoon locations everyone goes to. Rather, it’s a list of cheap honeymoon experiences a couple can enjoy together, regardless of where it’s at.
A week long camping trip is a fantastic way to see how you mesh together as a couple. You’re put in a low impact “survival” situation where it’s just the 2 of you and nature. You have a chance to see how your new spouse handles themselves when left with the basics of life. There are amazing national parks all over the United States where you can camp for a week for $20-30, disconnect from technology, and enjoy some of the natural wonders our nation has to offer.
You don’t have to go anywhere for a honeymoon. In fact, the tradition of taking a honeymoon vacation is a relatively new one. Prior to the 19th century, a honeymoon involved staying home together for a month to get to know each other physically. Think of how blissful it could be to take a full month off work, disconnect from the outside world, and focus entirely on projects together. You may not be wowing your friends and family with pictures of some exotic location, but they’ll be envious of your escape from the rat race nonetheless.
3. Island Getaway
People tend to overspend on their honeymoon vacations to Hawaii, Tahiti, etc. Going to these places doesn’t have to be expensive. You don’t need to stay in a 5 star resort when you’re on a Best Western budget. You’re there to be in the atmosphere of the island, not a hotel room. Book a cheap flight and sleep in a hotel alternative, on the beach or in your car. It’s the view in paradise that really matters.
4. Fancy Resort
Book an expensive resort, spa, or retreat in the city you live in. While this may seem counterintuitive as a cheap destination, when you consider your savings on airfare and other travel costs, you can afford to be treated like royalty within your own city limits. If you book a honeymoon package, you’ll end up with a lot of free amenities and extra attention. There’s no need to fly halfway across the world to live the good life.
5. Road Trip
The journey is often more fulfilling than the actual destination. If you fly out to some exotic locale, you’ll be stuck on a plane for 8-30 hours. Rent a luxury car, pick a handful of places you each have always wanted to visit, and go on an adventure. You can keep food costs down by packing your own snacks, but it’s always a good idea to sample the local delicacies wherever you go, even if it’s only a few states over.
6. Charter a Boat
If the ocean is your thing, a week-long cruise can cost you $1500-$3000 per person, depending on the destination. You also have to factor in travel costs to and from the cruise, alcohol, souvenirs, and on-shore excursions. You’ll also be surrounded by people. For the same price (and often much cheaper), you can charter your own boat and enjoy the experience in private.
7. Las Vegas/Atlantic City
If gambling is your thing, these are the places to do it. Which one you choose depends on your preference, budget, and proximity. The way to make this vacation cheaper is to gamble smart. Stay away from low odd tables (i.e craps, roulette) and read up on the MIT blackjack strategies to beat the house. If you do it right, you can win enough for a free trip (and gain a valuable team skill in the process).
8. Themed Retreats
There are weeklong retreats all over the world where you can fully immerse yourselves as a couple into a hobby you’re both passionate about. Go on a yoga/meditation retreat, a ranch, a vineyard/farm, a backpacking adventure, treasure hunt, or whatever you’re into.
9. Working Honeymoon
Your honeymoon doesn’t have to be a vacation. For a truly memorable experience, dedicate a week to a charity or volunteer organization. You can drive out to a campground to help restore it in the offseason. Maybe you’ve always wanted to volunteer to help out your local animal shelter, plant trees, help the homeless, etc. Use the time to do something together as a couple that will fulfill you spiritually while contributing to the community. Just because you’re on a honeymoon doesn’t mean you can’t be productive.
10. Festivals, Fairs & Special Events
Every city, state, and country has festivals, fairs, and special events. Find one you’re interested in. If you time your wedding right, your honeymoon can be a trip to one of these festivals. Burning Man, SXSW, Bonnaroo, the Renaissance Fair, regional harvest festivals, Mardi Gras, New Years Eve in Times Square, a movie premiere, or whatever you’re into. If you plan your honeymoon at the right time in the right place, the possibilities are endless.
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