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How to Revamp your Life and Stop Procrastinating in Two Months

How to Revamp your Life and Stop Procrastinating in Two Months

Let me tell you a story before I start advising you on how to revamp your lifestyle and stop procrastinating. Back in 2008, my life was completely in chaos.

You think this is that same old story, don’t you? Where a guy turns around his life-like a hero and then sells you how he did it. Nope.

I had no relationships, my career was in complete breakdown, and my mind was completely taken over by confusion.

All my efforts to improve went in vain because I procrastinated upon every plan I created for myself. Eventually, the reason was that there was no one to force me to stick to important day-to-day chores and I had little or no self-discipline to keep myself on track.

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I spent most of my daily time, which should have been used to study for my upcoming professional certification exam, reading books I bought from a nearby library. Clearly, I wasn’t motivated enough to spend time doing things that were important.

I knew what my goal was. I wanted to change myself from inside. I knew that everything I saw outside was because of how I was inside. I wanted to study regularly, stop procrastinating and give my best effort. I wasn’t even giving my best effort.

Around summer 2010, I came across a few good books I should credit to for the blessed life I live now. One of them was Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill.

Here are some of the most important lessons I learned from Nap Hill. Over the next one month of my practice of these principles, I found tremendous inflow of inspiration and concentration.

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  1. Don’t wait for the perfect plan to appear before you. Just take the first step. If you find an obstacle and it looks so big you feel lazy and under motivated to tackle it, you seriously need to rethink your desires. If you desire is like a burning fire, obstacles look like opportunities.
  2. Keep reminding yourself and your subconscious about your goals. We live in a world where thousands of things happen around us everyday. It’s so easy to get distracted. We need to constantly stay focused and absolutely clear about what we want. Keep a diary and write down exactly what you want every night. Let your subconscious absorb your affirmations. Read what you wrote last night every morning right after you get up, and keep reading until your mind totally absorbs and gives you the feelings of why you should pursue that goal today.
  3. Visualization and Affirmations can become a great combination for meditation. I used to visualize the same story again and again in my mind after writing the diary, until I fell asleep.  I’d sit cross-legged, ready to go to bed instantly after my visualization and visualize and affirm to myself and feel the gratitude for following a disciplined routine, getting up and ready on time, doing my daily activities regularly.
  4. If you can can, find yourself a mentor who speaks his heart out. – This is hard. Really. People these days seem to have forgotten their manhood. In fact, if you want some real critics to keep nagging you to stay motivated, move in with your parents if you can. They’re were your first teachers. They somehow know what’s best for you.
  5. Stop over indulging in sexual activities – If you read Think and Grow Rich, you’ll find that there’s a complete chapter on the power of sex transmutation. The sexual energy resides below your navel. When one indulges too much into sexual activities, the energy gets depleted. A scientific research goes on to explain that mind literally freezes for a few seconds after ejaculation. The energy moves downwards. Try and reduce that.

In a way, I would meditate for around 10-15 minutes. Side effects were that I could sleep pretty well and get up early regularly.

It’s all about practicing again and again and staying persistent. I created a personal development plan to organize my routine activities, I tried to not procrastinate and keep in as much discipline with the routine as possible but I kept bouncing in between order and chaos. I made sure that even if I procrastinated, I completed enough to convince myself of having done something at least so that the motivation kept flowing.

These are just 5 interesting and noticeable things I practiced to begin with.  But, a huge part of my order went to understanding the relative benefit. Over the upcoming months I figured more things out of the book, I practiced more.

If there is something that benefits you and you find a task that favours that benefit, you’ll want to do it more. What I wanted was to stop being lazy and adapt to an active routine and regularly work towards my goals. But I guess following rules can’t be ignored if one wants to get his life on track.

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If I’ve done it, you can too. It isn’t rocket science.

And I used a time management activity one of my teachers used to advice. I’d forgotten it long ago but during one of my meditations, it appeared before me out of nowhere. Here is what you can do.

Take a paper and list down your daily activities one by one. Now, the next step is to divide you current daily activities in three categories. Category 1 – Activities that will improve my life in the future. Category 2 – activities that aren’t really necessary but I like doing them. Category 3 – Activities that get my time wasted and should not be on this list.

Now, make as much effort to perform the category 1 activities as possible. Don’t worry if you can’t ignore the unimportant but make sure you try your best and along with these, you’ll have take up some great activities in your life and you’ll add more over time.

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And as you get appreciated for what you’re doing and what you’ll become for improving yourself, you’ll want to do it all more.

I didn’t have much certainty in the beginning and I also found this stuff absurd and pretty boring. But, around 10-15 days later, I actually began to notice some difference in how my mind perceived those things. My habit of procrastination was suddenly taking a reverse turn. I had a sudden inspiration when I wanted to finally lift my course guides and peek inside. The rest is what happened over the course of next two months, and over the next two years.

To conclude, make sure your intentions are utterly clear, you create a personal development plan and stay persistent. The rest follows…almost automatically.

Featured photo credit: Elegant blonde woman walking in a large grace field via Shutterstock

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5 Exercises To Improve Intimacy and Create a Better Relationship

5 Exercises To Improve Intimacy and Create a Better Relationship

Making love can be simultaneously the most pleasurable and the most stressful experience that we share with another human being. It is a natural conclusion of the ritual of intimacy we engage in with a person we find attractive on both a physical and psychological level. Yet, we are far removed from our animalistic roots, and that which was once a matter of instinct has become somewhat complex. This is a good thing; we have grown as a society, and there are many factors involved when it comes to the relationship between sexual partners. However, we have also lost a great deal of the physical prowess our primitive ancestors had.

They engaged in a huge amount of physical activities daily — activities that ensured their cardiovascular system and muscles were in great shape, which allowed them to have healthy libidos, strong erections, and the muscular strength, limberness and endurance to maintain different positions for a long time without getting exhausted. Luckily, we can regain some of these animalistic traits with the right kind of training. Here are some essential exercises that will help improve your relationship, but making you more confident in intimate settings, which means that you’ll have more satisfying intercourse.

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    1. Cardio for Stamina

    If you’re out of shape, the first thing you’ll notice during intercourse is that you start to breathe heavily, sweat profusely and tire easily. This means you’ll have to shift your posture frequently and limit yourself to a few positions you feel comfortable with or significantly slow down the pace. A high BMI has also been linked to potential problems with erectile dysfunction. Cardiovascular exercises like running, jumping rope, swimming and cycling will build up your aerobic stamina and enable you to perform longer before becoming fatigued, thus having better intercourse. They’ll also help manage your weight, possibly helping performance.

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      • Running – 10-20 minutes a day (1-3 miles a day is more than enough)
      • Jumping rope – 5-20 minutes a day
      • Swimming – 30 minutes a day
      • Cycling – 30 minutes a day

      The time in minutes denotes time spent actively performing the exercise, and you need to factor in a bit more time for warming up before and cooling down after the exercises.

      These exercises can be performed every day or every other day, and the goal is to work on both endurance and speed. Don’t just go at a snail’s pace; constantly try to improve your time or add some mileage.

      2. Strength-Training for Your Lower Body and Core

      The next thing you’ll need to focus on is improving both the strength and muscular endurance of the hip flexors, abdominals and spinal erectors. These are the muscles engaged in thrusting and circular motions, and they also stabilize your body in a number of different positions. The legs also play an important role, particularly in standing and kneeling positions. Here are a few exercises that will help you strengthen up this area:

      Barbell squats
        • Heavy barbell squats – set up at a power rack at the gym and make sure you use proper form and weights that you can lift 3-8 times. Do this exercise before anything else in the gym for 4-5 sets to get big and powerful legs, as well as tighten up the muscles of the core. This is useful for both men and women, particularly if you enjoy the woman-on-top positions and standing positions. You can do hack squats on the machine if your gym lacks a power rack, but you won’t get the core-strengthening benefits

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        Zercher squat
          • Zercher squatsthis type of squat is a perfect way for guys to strengthen their body for standing positions where the woman is lifted off the ground. Build up a foundation of strength first, and then use lighter weights and go for 10-12 repetitions to focus on muscle endurance.

          Glute bridge
            • Glute bridgethis exercise is great for working the glutes and hip thrusters, and should be done for ultra-high reps —up to 100 — to increase muscle endurance. Once you become stronger in this movement, you can upgrade to the barbell glute bridge and keep the reps high — around 10 to 15.

            Hyperextensions
              • Hyperextensions – excellent for strengthening the spinal erectors, this exercise (or a variation of it) may be done in most gyms and even at home. Do 2 to 3 sets of 10 to 12 repetitions at the end of your workout.

              Ab wheel rollout
                • Ab wheel rollout – this is a great exercise for strengthening the abs, and requires only a piece of inexpensive equipment. It will help you stay stable and hold positions longer without getting tired during intercourse. Do three sets of this workout for as many repetitions as you can.

                Cross body crunch
                  • Cross body crunchthis exercise improves your ability to perform explosive twisting motions, particularly good for improving your stamina in the spoon position where you’e lying on your side. Do 2 to 3 sets of this exercise at the end of your workout.

                  Incorporate these exercises into your routine 2 to 3 times a week.

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                  3. Upper-Body Strength Training

                  Upper-body strength plays an important role in many popular sex positions where the arms are used to provide a stable base or hold onto the partner. These including missionary, doggy style, the stand and carry (with the woman holding onto the man’s neck) and others. Use these simple exercises to improve upper body strength and endurance:

                  Plank exercise
                    • Plank – while bench pressing is great for building a big chest, you will find yourself in need of static strength, muscle endurance and a strong core. This exercise is a great way to increase the amount of time you are able to hold positions that require you to support yourself with your arms. For added difficulty, straighten out your arms like at the top of a pushup and hold as long as you can.

                    Close grip pushups
                      • Close pushups – a pushup variation that focuses on triceps, which are the first to give out during a prolonged missionary or similar position. Go for very high reps, 20 t0 50, to work on muscle endurance.

                      Chin ups
                        • Chin-ups – A great upper back and biceps builder, this exercise will also target the core if you try to be as straight as possible when lifting yourself up. You can jump to help make things easier, or just hold as long as you can if you aren’t strong enough to perform a single chin up. Do 3 to 4 sets for as many reps as you can.

                        These exercises, done about three times a week, will help you develop a strong upper body that can keep going and hold you up for extended periods of time.

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                        4. Pelvic-Floor Exercises

                        You don’t have to perform these at the gym, although you could do them after your workout without anyone even noticing. The idea behind Kegel exercises is to improve blood flow to the sex organs and strengthen the muscles of the pelvic floor in both men and women. By locating these muscles and tightening and relaxing them for intervals of 5 seconds for 10 to 15 repetitions at a time, several times a day, you can improve pleasure and performance during sex. Women can tighten their vaginal walls for increased pleasure to both them and their partner, while men can delay ejaculation by tightening these muscles.

                        5. Flexibility Moves for Legs and Hips

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                          If you want to avoid getting cramps — or even worse, pulling a muscle during intercourse — you should do a few simple stretches every day. The more limber you are, the more comfortable you’ll be with more exotic poses. Here are a few simple stretches to improve hip and leg flexibility:

                          Take a few minutes to warm up with some light running or jumping jacks before stretching, and spend some 10 minutes on these stretches. You can do them in the morning and at night, or shortly before intercourse.

                          With just a few hours a week devoted to exercise, you can improve your relationship significantly. If you focus on these exercises, over time, you just might become dynamite in bed.

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