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How to Revamp your Life and Stop Procrastinating in Two Months

How to Revamp your Life and Stop Procrastinating in Two Months

Let me tell you a story before I start advising you on how to revamp your lifestyle and stop procrastinating. Back in 2008, my life was completely in chaos.

You think this is that same old story, don’t you? Where a guy turns around his life-like a hero and then sells you how he did it. Nope.

I had no relationships, my career was in complete breakdown, and my mind was completely taken over by confusion.

All my efforts to improve went in vain because I procrastinated upon every plan I created for myself. Eventually, the reason was that there was no one to force me to stick to important day-to-day chores and I had little or no self-discipline to keep myself on track.

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I spent most of my daily time, which should have been used to study for my upcoming professional certification exam, reading books I bought from a nearby library. Clearly, I wasn’t motivated enough to spend time doing things that were important.

I knew what my goal was. I wanted to change myself from inside. I knew that everything I saw outside was because of how I was inside. I wanted to study regularly, stop procrastinating and give my best effort. I wasn’t even giving my best effort.

Around summer 2010, I came across a few good books I should credit to for the blessed life I live now. One of them was Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill.

Here are some of the most important lessons I learned from Nap Hill. Over the next one month of my practice of these principles, I found tremendous inflow of inspiration and concentration.

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  1. Don’t wait for the perfect plan to appear before you. Just take the first step. If you find an obstacle and it looks so big you feel lazy and under motivated to tackle it, you seriously need to rethink your desires. If you desire is like a burning fire, obstacles look like opportunities.
  2. Keep reminding yourself and your subconscious about your goals. We live in a world where thousands of things happen around us everyday. It’s so easy to get distracted. We need to constantly stay focused and absolutely clear about what we want. Keep a diary and write down exactly what you want every night. Let your subconscious absorb your affirmations. Read what you wrote last night every morning right after you get up, and keep reading until your mind totally absorbs and gives you the feelings of why you should pursue that goal today.
  3. Visualization and Affirmations can become a great combination for meditation. I used to visualize the same story again and again in my mind after writing the diary, until I fell asleep.  I’d sit cross-legged, ready to go to bed instantly after my visualization and visualize and affirm to myself and feel the gratitude for following a disciplined routine, getting up and ready on time, doing my daily activities regularly.
  4. If you can can, find yourself a mentor who speaks his heart out. – This is hard. Really. People these days seem to have forgotten their manhood. In fact, if you want some real critics to keep nagging you to stay motivated, move in with your parents if you can. They’re were your first teachers. They somehow know what’s best for you.
  5. Stop over indulging in sexual activities – If you read Think and Grow Rich, you’ll find that there’s a complete chapter on the power of sex transmutation. The sexual energy resides below your navel. When one indulges too much into sexual activities, the energy gets depleted. A scientific research goes on to explain that mind literally freezes for a few seconds after ejaculation. The energy moves downwards. Try and reduce that.

In a way, I would meditate for around 10-15 minutes. Side effects were that I could sleep pretty well and get up early regularly.

It’s all about practicing again and again and staying persistent. I created a personal development plan to organize my routine activities, I tried to not procrastinate and keep in as much discipline with the routine as possible but I kept bouncing in between order and chaos. I made sure that even if I procrastinated, I completed enough to convince myself of having done something at least so that the motivation kept flowing.

These are just 5 interesting and noticeable things I practiced to begin with.  But, a huge part of my order went to understanding the relative benefit. Over the upcoming months I figured more things out of the book, I practiced more.

If there is something that benefits you and you find a task that favours that benefit, you’ll want to do it more. What I wanted was to stop being lazy and adapt to an active routine and regularly work towards my goals. But I guess following rules can’t be ignored if one wants to get his life on track.

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If I’ve done it, you can too. It isn’t rocket science.

And I used a time management activity one of my teachers used to advice. I’d forgotten it long ago but during one of my meditations, it appeared before me out of nowhere. Here is what you can do.

Take a paper and list down your daily activities one by one. Now, the next step is to divide you current daily activities in three categories. Category 1 – Activities that will improve my life in the future. Category 2 – activities that aren’t really necessary but I like doing them. Category 3 – Activities that get my time wasted and should not be on this list.

Now, make as much effort to perform the category 1 activities as possible. Don’t worry if you can’t ignore the unimportant but make sure you try your best and along with these, you’ll have take up some great activities in your life and you’ll add more over time.

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And as you get appreciated for what you’re doing and what you’ll become for improving yourself, you’ll want to do it all more.

I didn’t have much certainty in the beginning and I also found this stuff absurd and pretty boring. But, around 10-15 days later, I actually began to notice some difference in how my mind perceived those things. My habit of procrastination was suddenly taking a reverse turn. I had a sudden inspiration when I wanted to finally lift my course guides and peek inside. The rest is what happened over the course of next two months, and over the next two years.

To conclude, make sure your intentions are utterly clear, you create a personal development plan and stay persistent. The rest follows…almost automatically.

Featured photo credit: Elegant blonde woman walking in a large grace field via Shutterstock

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Science Says Screaming Is Good For You

Science Says Screaming Is Good For You

There are many reasons why people might scream – they’re angry, scared, or in pain (or maybe they’re in a metal band!). Some might say that screaming is bad, but here’s why science says it’s good for you.

“For the first time in the history of psychology there is a way to access feelings, hidden away, in a safe way and thus to reduce human suffering. It is, in essence, the first science of psychotherapy.” — Dr. Arthur Janov

Primal Therapy

Dr. Arthur Janov invented Primal Therapy in the late 1960’s. It is a practice that allows the patient to face their repressed emotions from past trauma head on and let those emotions go. This treatment is intended to cure any mental illness the patient may have that surfaced from this past trauma. In most cases, Primal Therapy has lead Dr. Janov’s patients to scream towards the end of their session, though it was not part of the original procedure. During a group therapy session that was at a standstill, Dr. Janov says that one of his patients, a student he called Danny, told a story that inspired him to implement a technique that he never would have thought of on his own.

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How it Started

“During a lull in our group therapy session, he told us a story about a man named Ortiz who was currently doing an act on the London stage in which he paraded around in diapers drinking bottles of milk. Throughout his number, Ortiz is shouting, ‘Mommy! Daddy! Mommy! Daddy!’ at the top of his lungs. At the end of his act he vomits. Plastic bags are passed out, and the audience is requested to follow suit.”

It doesn’t end there, though. Dr. Janov said that his patient was quite fascinated with that story, and that alone moved him to suggest something even he believed to be a little elementary.

“I asked him to call out, ‘Mommy! Daddy!’ Danny refused, saying that he couldn’t see the sense in such a childish act, and frankly, neither could I. But I persisted, and finally, he gave in. As he began, he became noticeably upset. Suddenly he was writhing on the floor in agony. His breathing was rapid, spasmodic. ‘Mommy! Daddy!’ came out of his mouth almost involuntarily in loud screeches. He appeared to be in a coma or hypnotic state. The writhing gave way to small convulsions, and finally, he released a piercing, deathlike scream that rattled the walls of my office. The entire episode lasted only a few minutes, and neither Danny nor I had any idea what had happened. All he could say afterward was: ‘I made it! I don’t know what, but I can feel.’”

Delving deeper

Dr. Janov says he was baffled for months, but then he decided to experiment with another patient with the same method, which lead to a similar result as before. The patient started out calling “Mommy! Daddy!” then experienced convulsions, heavy breathing, and then eventually screamed. After the session, Dr. Janov says his patient was transformed and became “virtually another human being. He became alert… he seemed to understand himself.”

Although the initial intention of this particular practice wasn’t to get the patient to scream, more than once did his Primal Therapy sessions end with the patient screaming and feeling lighter, revived, and relieved of stresses that were holding them down in life.

Some Methods To Practice Screaming

If you want to try it out for yourself, keep reading!

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  • Step 1: Be Alone — Be alone. If you live in a place that you can’t be alone, it might be a good idea to talk to your family or roommates and explain to them what you’re about to do and make sure they’re okay with it. If you’re good to go, move on to step 2.
  • Step 2: Lie Down — Lie down on a yoga mat on your back and place a pillow underneath your head. If you don’t own a yoga mat, you can use a rug or even a soft blanket.
  • Step 3: Think — Think of things that have hurt you or made you angry. It can be anything from your childhood or even something that happened recently to make yourself cry, if you’re not already crying or upset. You could even scream “Mommy! Daddy!” just like Dr. Janov’s patients did to get yourself started.
  • Step 4: Scream — Don’t hold anything back; cry and scream as loud as you can. You can also pound your fists on the ground, or just lie there and scream at the top of your lungs.

After this, you should return your breathing to a normal and steady pace. You should feel lighter, like a weight has been lifted off of you. If not, you can also try these other methods.

Scream Sing

Scream singing” is referring to what a lot of lead singers in metal or screamo bands will do. I’ve tried it and although I wasn’t very good at it, it was fun and definitely relieved me of any stress I was feeling from before. It usually ends up sounding like a really loud grunt, but nonetheless, it’s considered screaming.

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  • Step 1 — Bear down and make a grunting sound.
  • Step 2 — Hiss like a snake and make sure to do this from your diaphragm (your stomach) for as long as you can.
  • Step 3 — Breathe and push your stomach out for more air when you are belting notes, kind of like you would if you were singing.
  • Step 4 — Try different ways to let out air to control how long the note will last, just make sure not to let out too much air.
  • Step 5 — Distort your voice by pushing air out from your throat, just be careful not to strain yourself.
  • Step 6 — Play around with the pitch of your screams and how wide your mouth is open – the wider your mouth is open, the higher the screams will sound. The narrower or rounder your mouth is (and most likely shaped like an “o”), the lower the screams will sound.
  • Step 7 — Start screaming to metal music. If you’re not a huge metal fan, it’s okay. You don’t have to use this method if you don’t want to.

If you want a more thorough walkthrough of how to scream sing, here’s a good video tutorial. If this method is too strenuous on your vocal chords, stop. Also, make sure to stay hydrated when scream singing and drink lots of water.

Scream into a pillow

Grab a pillow and scream into it. This method is probably the fastest and easiest way to practice screaming. Just make sure to come up for air.

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Always remember to make sure that you’re not going to disturb anyone while practicing any of these methods of screaming. And with that, happy screaming!

Featured photo credit: Sharon Mollerus via flickr.com

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