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How to Adopt an All Or Nothing Attitude (And How It Can Level Up Your Life)

How to Adopt an All Or Nothing Attitude (And How It Can Level Up Your Life)

    There comes a point in life where your back is against the wall, options are running low…and you have to act — it’s now or never.

    You’ve been slacking, putting things on hold that are high priority, and following your passion just seems like a hopeless dream.

    I was in this situation a few years ago: I was a failing college student with no passions, goals, or any idea of where I was heading. That’s when I decided to adopt an “All Or Nothing” attitude.

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    It’s as simple as this:

    1. Ask yourself: What do I want out of this life? What is it that I want to accomplish? What is it that I love doing, that gets me up in the morning?
    2. Once you can answer number one, then ask yourself: What fundamental steps must I take to work towards building my future? My dream? If a bodybuilder wants to be Mr. Universe, then what does a bodybuilder do in order to reach his pinnacle? In order for a writer to become great, one must relentlessly read and write. Focus on the relevant, important steps towards your idea, and do just that.
    3. The last step: start today. Start right now. Think of it like this: If this were your last day, would be happy with what you’re doing?

    Why this mindset?

    Be honest with yourself: Why have you been putting off your goals? Why have you put off writing that book, building that business, or spending more time with your family? If you’re beating yourself up because you failed to do it last year (and the year before that), then are you ready to beat yourself up again at the end of this year?

    When my back was against the wall, I knew it was time to act. No more delaying. No more procrastinating. No more lying to myself that things would work out in some magical way.

    It may be extreme to tell yourself that you might die if you don’t do this final act, but if it motivates you like it did for me…then so be it. Because honestly, how much further down can you go before hitting rock bottom? How much more do you want to wind up shooting yourself in the foot before you actually realize that taking your goals a step at a time is the sensible — if not only — method?

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    All or nothing

    This is it, baby.

    A few things I told myself that motivated me to keep moving my feet forward:

    • There are people — friends and family — that want me to do well. They want to see me live a fruitful life. Why continue to disappoint them? Why continue to disappoint yourself? You’re better than this…
    • Patience. Take it a step at a time. This whole time you’ve been procrastinating; you haven’t been putting any pieces together — just staring at them. Now is the time to slowly build your way up, even if it means starting at the bottom — because there is nothing wrong with starting at the bottom.
    • Take it day by day. Or as famous writer Anne Lamont says, “Bird by bird.”
    • Focus on the relevant steps towards building your dream. If building your business requires you to brainstorm and really break down what it is you’re offering to your customers, then you must do that until it’s right. If becoming fit, healthy, and lean requires daily exercise and healthy eating habits, then stick to that. Don’t allow distractions or shortcuts divert your focus: there is no such thing as quick-and-easy success.
    • Last but not least, this is all or nothing. Tell yourself: If I don’t do this, then what will I do? Suffer? Always be frustrated and angry? Tell myself on New Years that this year I’ll be sure to accomplish my tasks? (Let’s be real…)

    It starts with your positive attitude

    Adopting this positive attitude can change your life for the better. It can give you that jumpstart that you’ve been desperately searching for. It can reinvigorate you, unleashing your potential to propel you forward in your life.

    Instead of forcing yourself to commit to productive acts, why not first adopt a productive attitude so the rest can follow through?

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    This is about challenging yourself. This is about the all-or-nothing attitude. Because at the end of the day, it really does come down to all or nothing. You have two choices:

    • Continue living the life where you procrastinate, daydream, and tell yourself that things will be alright.
    • Or…develop this mindset, exercise it, and see yourself grow into the person that you envisioned to be.

    Also, when walking this path, I must warn that at times you will be frustrated, just like anyone else who is pursuing their dreams. The point is to not allow your frustrations, resentment, or anger dictate your next move. They say patience is a virtue — and at this point, you have to be willing to be believe that. What other choice do you have?

    Adopting this positive attitude can be the start of your new life. The life where you actually meet your goals, stay productive, and learn more about yourself. This all-or-nothing attitude can be your game-changer, the butt-kicking you’ve needed to get moving, the jumpstart that will change the course of your life as long as you commit to it.

    Stop waiting for something to happen and go make something happen — consistently tell yourself:

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    “This is it, this is all or nothing. If I don’t do it, who will?”

    Not only do your friends and family need you to pursue your dreams: the world needs it. We don’t need you sitting around daydreaming, not doing what it requires to be great. We don’t need anymore frustrated people who procrastinate and complain — we have enough of that. We need people that have the positive attitude that allows them to live their life to their desire, and to inspire others to do the same. We need more people living their passions, building their dreams, and adopting a mentality that motivates them to keep moving forward.

    How will you adopt this positive attitude? What other ways have you found productive to get started on your goals and dreams? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below.

    (Photo credit: All In via Shutterstock)

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    Last Updated on June 13, 2019

    5 Fixes For Common Sleep Issues All Couples Deal With

    5 Fixes For Common Sleep Issues All Couples Deal With

    Sleeping next to your partner can be a satisfying experience and is typically seen as the mark of a stable, healthy home life. However, many more people struggle to share a bed with their partner than typically let on. Sleeping beside someone can decrease your sleep quality which negatively affects your life. Maybe you are light sleepers and you wake each other up throughout the night. Maybe one has a loud snoring habit that’s keeping the other awake. Maybe one is always crawling into bed in the early hours of the morning while the other likes to go to bed at 10 p.m.

    You don’t have to feel ashamed of finding it difficult to sleep with your partner and you also don’t have to give up entirely on it. Common problems can be addressed with simple solutions such as an additional pillow. Here are five fixes for common sleep issues that couples deal with.

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    1. Use a bigger mattress to sleep through movement

    It can be difficult to sleep through your partner’s tossing and turning all night, particularly if they have to get in and out of bed. Waking up multiple times in one night can leave you frustrated and exhausted. The solution may be a switch to a bigger mattress or a mattress that minimizes movement.

    Look for a mattress that allows enough space so that your partner can move around without impacting you or consider a mattress made for two sleepers like the Sleep Number bed.[1] This bed allows each person to choose their own firmness level. It also minimizes any disturbances their partner might feel. A foam mattress like the kind featured in advertisements where someone jumps on a bed with an unspilled glass of wine will help minimize the impact of your partner’s movements.[2]

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    2. Communicate about scheduling conflicts

    If one of you is a night owl and the other an early riser, bedtime can become a source of conflict. It’s hard for a light sleeper to be jostled by their partner coming to bed four hours after them. Talk to your partner about negotiating some compromises. If you’re finding it difficult to agree on a bedtime, negotiate with your partner. Don’t come to bed before or after a certain time, giving the early bird a chance to fully fall asleep before the other comes in. Consider giving the night owl an eye mask to allow them to stay in bed while their partner gets up to start the day.

    3. Don’t bring your technology to bed

    If one partner likes bringing devices to bed and the other partner doesn’t, there’s very little compromise to be found. Science is pretty unanimous on the fact that screens can cause harm to a healthy sleeper. Both partners should agree on a time to keep technology out of the bedroom or turn screens off. This will prevent both partners from having their sleep interrupted and can help you power down after a long day.

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    4. White noise and changing positions can silence snoring

    A snoring partner can be one of the most difficult things to sleep through. Snoring tends to be position-specific so many doctors recommend switching positions to stop the snoring. Rather than sleeping on your back doctors recommend turning onto your side. Changing positions can cut down on noise and breathing difficulties for any snorer. Using a white noise fan, or sound machine can also help soften the impact of loud snoring and keep both partners undisturbed.

    5. Use two blankets if one’s a blanket hog

    If you’ve got a blanket hog in your bed don’t fight it, get another blanket. This solution fixes any issues between two partners and their comforter. There’s no rule that you have to sleep under the same blanket. Separate covers can also cut down on tossing and turning making it a multi-useful adaptation.

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    Rather than giving up entirely on sharing a bed with your partner, try one of these techniques to improve your sleeping habits. Sleeping in separate beds can be a normal part of a healthy home life, but compromise can go a long way toward creating harmony in a shared bed.

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