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How to Adopt an All Or Nothing Attitude (And How It Can Level Up Your Life)

How to Adopt an All Or Nothing Attitude (And How It Can Level Up Your Life)

    There comes a point in life where your back is against the wall, options are running low…and you have to act — it’s now or never.

    You’ve been slacking, putting things on hold that are high priority, and following your passion just seems like a hopeless dream.

    I was in this situation a few years ago: I was a failing college student with no passions, goals, or any idea of where I was heading. That’s when I decided to adopt an “All Or Nothing” attitude.

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    It’s as simple as this:

    1. Ask yourself: What do I want out of this life? What is it that I want to accomplish? What is it that I love doing, that gets me up in the morning?
    2. Once you can answer number one, then ask yourself: What fundamental steps must I take to work towards building my future? My dream? If a bodybuilder wants to be Mr. Universe, then what does a bodybuilder do in order to reach his pinnacle? In order for a writer to become great, one must relentlessly read and write. Focus on the relevant, important steps towards your idea, and do just that.
    3. The last step: start today. Start right now. Think of it like this: If this were your last day, would be happy with what you’re doing?

    Why this mindset?

    Be honest with yourself: Why have you been putting off your goals? Why have you put off writing that book, building that business, or spending more time with your family? If you’re beating yourself up because you failed to do it last year (and the year before that), then are you ready to beat yourself up again at the end of this year?

    When my back was against the wall, I knew it was time to act. No more delaying. No more procrastinating. No more lying to myself that things would work out in some magical way.

    It may be extreme to tell yourself that you might die if you don’t do this final act, but if it motivates you like it did for me…then so be it. Because honestly, how much further down can you go before hitting rock bottom? How much more do you want to wind up shooting yourself in the foot before you actually realize that taking your goals a step at a time is the sensible — if not only — method?

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    All or nothing

    This is it, baby.

    A few things I told myself that motivated me to keep moving my feet forward:

    • There are people — friends and family — that want me to do well. They want to see me live a fruitful life. Why continue to disappoint them? Why continue to disappoint yourself? You’re better than this…
    • Patience. Take it a step at a time. This whole time you’ve been procrastinating; you haven’t been putting any pieces together — just staring at them. Now is the time to slowly build your way up, even if it means starting at the bottom — because there is nothing wrong with starting at the bottom.
    • Take it day by day. Or as famous writer Anne Lamont says, “Bird by bird.”
    • Focus on the relevant steps towards building your dream. If building your business requires you to brainstorm and really break down what it is you’re offering to your customers, then you must do that until it’s right. If becoming fit, healthy, and lean requires daily exercise and healthy eating habits, then stick to that. Don’t allow distractions or shortcuts divert your focus: there is no such thing as quick-and-easy success.
    • Last but not least, this is all or nothing. Tell yourself: If I don’t do this, then what will I do? Suffer? Always be frustrated and angry? Tell myself on New Years that this year I’ll be sure to accomplish my tasks? (Let’s be real…)

    It starts with your positive attitude

    Adopting this positive attitude can change your life for the better. It can give you that jumpstart that you’ve been desperately searching for. It can reinvigorate you, unleashing your potential to propel you forward in your life.

    Instead of forcing yourself to commit to productive acts, why not first adopt a productive attitude so the rest can follow through?

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    This is about challenging yourself. This is about the all-or-nothing attitude. Because at the end of the day, it really does come down to all or nothing. You have two choices:

    • Continue living the life where you procrastinate, daydream, and tell yourself that things will be alright.
    • Or…develop this mindset, exercise it, and see yourself grow into the person that you envisioned to be.

    Also, when walking this path, I must warn that at times you will be frustrated, just like anyone else who is pursuing their dreams. The point is to not allow your frustrations, resentment, or anger dictate your next move. They say patience is a virtue — and at this point, you have to be willing to be believe that. What other choice do you have?

    Adopting this positive attitude can be the start of your new life. The life where you actually meet your goals, stay productive, and learn more about yourself. This all-or-nothing attitude can be your game-changer, the butt-kicking you’ve needed to get moving, the jumpstart that will change the course of your life as long as you commit to it.

    Stop waiting for something to happen and go make something happen — consistently tell yourself:

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    “This is it, this is all or nothing. If I don’t do it, who will?”

    Not only do your friends and family need you to pursue your dreams: the world needs it. We don’t need you sitting around daydreaming, not doing what it requires to be great. We don’t need anymore frustrated people who procrastinate and complain — we have enough of that. We need people that have the positive attitude that allows them to live their life to their desire, and to inspire others to do the same. We need more people living their passions, building their dreams, and adopting a mentality that motivates them to keep moving forward.

    How will you adopt this positive attitude? What other ways have you found productive to get started on your goals and dreams? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below.

    (Photo credit: All In via Shutterstock)

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    Paul Jun is a content strategist, community builder, writer, and photographer. He shares motivational tips on Lifehack.

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    The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

    The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

    Are you waiting for life events to turn out the way you want so that you can feel more positive about your life? Do you find yourself having pre-conditions to your sense of well-being, thinking that certain things must happen for you to be happier? Do you think there is no way that your life stresses can make you anything other than “stressed out” and that other people just don’t understand?  If your answer is “yes” to any of these questions, you might find yourself lingering in the land of negativity for too long!

    The following are some tips to keep positive no matter what comes your way. This post will help you stop looking for what psychologists call “positivity” in all the wrong places!  Here are the ten essential habits of positive people.

    1. Positive people don’t confuse quitting with letting go.

    Instead of hanging on to ideas, beliefs, and even people that are no longer healthy for them, they trust their judgement to let go of negative forces in their lives.  Especially in terms of relationships, they subscribe to The Relationship Prayer which goes:

     I will grant myself the ability to trust the healthy people in my life … 

    To set limits with, or let go of, the negative ones … 

    And to have the wisdom to know the DIFFERENCE!

     2.  Positive people don’t just have a good day – they make a good day.

    Waiting, hoping and wishing seldom have a place in the vocabulary of positive individuals. Rather, they use strong words that are pro-active and not reactive. Passivity leads to a lack of involvement, while positive people get very involved in constructing their lives. They work to make changes to feel better in tough times rather than wish their feelings away.

    3. For the positive person, the past stays in the past.

    Good and bad memories alike stay where they belong – in the past where they happened. They don’t spend much time pining for the good ol’ days because they are too busy making new memories now. The negative pulls from the past are used not for self-flagellation or unproductive regret, but rather productive regret where they use lessons learned as stepping stones towards a better future.

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    4. Show me a positive person and I can show you a grateful person.

    The most positive people are the most grateful people.  They do not focus on the potholes of their lives.  They focus on the pot of gold that awaits them every day, with new smells, sights, feelings and experiences.  They see life as a treasure chest full of wonder.

    5. Rather than being stuck in their limitations, positive people are energized by their possibilities.

    Optimistic people focus on what they can do, not what they can’t do.  They are not fooled to think that there is a perfect solution to every problem, and are confident that there are many solutions and possibilities.  They are not afraid to attempt new solutions to old problems, rather than spin their wheels expecting things to be different this time.  They refuse to be like Charlie Brown expecting that this time Lucy will not pull the football from him!

    6. Positive people do not let their fears interfere with their lives!

    Positive people have observed that those who are defined and pulled back by their fears never really truly live a full life. While proceeding with appropriate caution, they do not let fear keep them from trying new things. They realize that even failures are necessary steps for a successful life. They have confidence that they can get back up when they are knocked down by life events or their own mistakes, due to a strong belief in their personal resilience.

    7. Positive people smile a lot!

    When you feel positive on the inside it is like you are smiling from within, and these smiles are contagious. Furthermore, the more others are with positive people, the more they tend to smile too! They see the lightness in life, and have a sense of humor even when it is about themselves. Positive people have a high degree of self-respect, but refuse to take themselves too seriously!

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    8. People who are positive are great communicators.

    They realize that assertive, confident communication is the only way to connect with others in everyday life.  They avoid judgmental, angry interchanges, and do not let someone else’s blow up give them a reason to react in kind. Rather, they express themselves with tact and finesse.  They also refuse to be non-assertive and let people push them around. They refuse to own problems that belong to someone else.

    9. Positive people realize that if you live long enough, there are times for great pain and sadness.

    One of the most common misperceptions about positive people is that to be positive, you must always be happy. This can not be further from the truth. Anyone who has any depth at all is certainly not happy all the time.  Being sad, angry, disappointed are all essential emotions in life. How else would you ever develop empathy for others if you lived a life of denial and shallow emotions? Positive people do not run from the gamut of emotions, and accept that part of the healing process is to allow themselves to experience all types of feelings, not only the happy ones. A positive person always holds the hope that there is light at the end of the darkness.  

    10. Positive person are empowered people – they refuse to blame others and are not victims in life.

    Positive people seek the help and support of others who are supportive and safe.They limit interactions with those who are toxic in any manner, even if it comes to legal action and physical estrangement such as in the case of abuse. They have identified their own basic human rights, and they respect themselves too much to play the part of a victim. There is no place for holding grudges with a positive mindset. Forgiveness helps positive people become better, not bitter.

    How about you?  How many habits of positive people do you personally find in yourself?  If you lack even a few of these 10 essential habits, you might find that the expected treasure at the end of the rainbow was not all that it was cracked up to be. How could it — if you keep on bringing a negative attitude around?

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    I wish you well in keeping positive, because as we all know, there is certainly nothing positive about being negative!

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