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How to Adopt an All Or Nothing Attitude (And How It Can Level Up Your Life)

How to Adopt an All Or Nothing Attitude (And How It Can Level Up Your Life)

    There comes a point in life where your back is against the wall, options are running low…and you have to act — it’s now or never.

    You’ve been slacking, putting things on hold that are high priority, and following your passion just seems like a hopeless dream.

    I was in this situation a few years ago: I was a failing college student with no passions, goals, or any idea of where I was heading. That’s when I decided to adopt an “All Or Nothing” attitude.

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    It’s as simple as this:

    1. Ask yourself: What do I want out of this life? What is it that I want to accomplish? What is it that I love doing, that gets me up in the morning?
    2. Once you can answer number one, then ask yourself: What fundamental steps must I take to work towards building my future? My dream? If a bodybuilder wants to be Mr. Universe, then what does a bodybuilder do in order to reach his pinnacle? In order for a writer to become great, one must relentlessly read and write. Focus on the relevant, important steps towards your idea, and do just that.
    3. The last step: start today. Start right now. Think of it like this: If this were your last day, would be happy with what you’re doing?

    Why this mindset?

    Be honest with yourself: Why have you been putting off your goals? Why have you put off writing that book, building that business, or spending more time with your family? If you’re beating yourself up because you failed to do it last year (and the year before that), then are you ready to beat yourself up again at the end of this year?

    When my back was against the wall, I knew it was time to act. No more delaying. No more procrastinating. No more lying to myself that things would work out in some magical way.

    It may be extreme to tell yourself that you might die if you don’t do this final act, but if it motivates you like it did for me…then so be it. Because honestly, how much further down can you go before hitting rock bottom? How much more do you want to wind up shooting yourself in the foot before you actually realize that taking your goals a step at a time is the sensible — if not only — method?

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    All or nothing

    This is it, baby.

    A few things I told myself that motivated me to keep moving my feet forward:

    • There are people — friends and family — that want me to do well. They want to see me live a fruitful life. Why continue to disappoint them? Why continue to disappoint yourself? You’re better than this…
    • Patience. Take it a step at a time. This whole time you’ve been procrastinating; you haven’t been putting any pieces together — just staring at them. Now is the time to slowly build your way up, even if it means starting at the bottom — because there is nothing wrong with starting at the bottom.
    • Take it day by day. Or as famous writer Anne Lamont says, “Bird by bird.”
    • Focus on the relevant steps towards building your dream. If building your business requires you to brainstorm and really break down what it is you’re offering to your customers, then you must do that until it’s right. If becoming fit, healthy, and lean requires daily exercise and healthy eating habits, then stick to that. Don’t allow distractions or shortcuts divert your focus: there is no such thing as quick-and-easy success.
    • Last but not least, this is all or nothing. Tell yourself: If I don’t do this, then what will I do? Suffer? Always be frustrated and angry? Tell myself on New Years that this year I’ll be sure to accomplish my tasks? (Let’s be real…)

    It starts with your positive attitude

    Adopting this positive attitude can change your life for the better. It can give you that jumpstart that you’ve been desperately searching for. It can reinvigorate you, unleashing your potential to propel you forward in your life.

    Instead of forcing yourself to commit to productive acts, why not first adopt a productive attitude so the rest can follow through?

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    This is about challenging yourself. This is about the all-or-nothing attitude. Because at the end of the day, it really does come down to all or nothing. You have two choices:

    • Continue living the life where you procrastinate, daydream, and tell yourself that things will be alright.
    • Or…develop this mindset, exercise it, and see yourself grow into the person that you envisioned to be.

    Also, when walking this path, I must warn that at times you will be frustrated, just like anyone else who is pursuing their dreams. The point is to not allow your frustrations, resentment, or anger dictate your next move. They say patience is a virtue — and at this point, you have to be willing to be believe that. What other choice do you have?

    Adopting this positive attitude can be the start of your new life. The life where you actually meet your goals, stay productive, and learn more about yourself. This all-or-nothing attitude can be your game-changer, the butt-kicking you’ve needed to get moving, the jumpstart that will change the course of your life as long as you commit to it.

    Stop waiting for something to happen and go make something happen — consistently tell yourself:

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    “This is it, this is all or nothing. If I don’t do it, who will?”

    Not only do your friends and family need you to pursue your dreams: the world needs it. We don’t need you sitting around daydreaming, not doing what it requires to be great. We don’t need anymore frustrated people who procrastinate and complain — we have enough of that. We need people that have the positive attitude that allows them to live their life to their desire, and to inspire others to do the same. We need more people living their passions, building their dreams, and adopting a mentality that motivates them to keep moving forward.

    How will you adopt this positive attitude? What other ways have you found productive to get started on your goals and dreams? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below.

    (Photo credit: All In via Shutterstock)

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    Paul Jun is a content strategist, community builder, writer, and photographer. He shares motivational tips on Lifehack.

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    Last Updated on September 28, 2020

    The Pros and Cons of Working from Home

    The Pros and Cons of Working from Home

    At the start of the year, if you had asked anyone if they could do their work from home, many would have said no. They would have cited the need for team meetings, a place to be able to sit down and get on with their work, the camaraderie of the office, and being able to meet customers and clients face to face.

    Almost ten months later, most of us have learned that we can do our work from home and in many ways, we have discovered working from home is a lot better than doing our work in a busy, bustling office environment where we are inundated with distractions and noise.

    One of the things the 2020 pandemic has reminded us is we humans are incredibly adaptable. It is one of the strengths of our kind. Yet we have been unknowingly practicing this for years. When we move house we go through enormous upheaval.

    When we change jobs, we not only change our work environment but we also change the surrounding people. Humans are adaptable and this adaptability gives us strength.

    So, what are the pros and cons of working from home? Below I will share some things I have discovered since I made the change to being predominantly a person who works from home.

    Pro #1: A More Relaxed Start to the Day

    This one I love. When I had to be at a place of work in the past, I would always set my alarm to give me just enough time to make coffee, take a shower, and change. Mornings always felt like a rush.

    Now, I can wake up a little later, make coffee and instead of rushing to get out of the door at a specific time, I can spend ten minutes writing in my journal, reviewing my plan for the day, and start the day in a more relaxed frame of mind.

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    When you start the day in a relaxed state, you begin more positively. You find you have more clarity and more focus and you are not wasting energy worrying about whether you will be late.

    Pro #2: More Quiet, Focused Time = Increased Productivity

    One of the biggest difficulties of working in an office is the noise and distractions. If a colleague or boss can see you sat at your desk, you are more approachable. It is easier for them to ask you questions or engage you in meaningless conversations.

    Working from home allows you to shut the door and get on with an hour or two of quiet focused work. If you close down your Slack and Email, you avoid the risk of being disturbed and it is amazing how much work you can get done.

    An experiment conducted in 2012 found that working from home increased a person’s productivity by 13%, and more recent studies also find significant increases in productivity.[1]

    When our productivity increases, the amount of time we need to perform our work decreases, and this means we can spend more time on activities that can bring us closer to our family and friends as well as improve our mental health.

    Pro #3: More Control Over Your Day

    Without bosses and colleagues watching over us all day, we have a lot more control over what we do. While some work will inevitably be more urgent than others, we still get a lot more choice about what we work on.

    We also get more control over where we work. I remember when working in an office, we were given a fixed workstation. Some of these workstations were pleasant with a lot of natural sunlight, but other areas were less pleasant. It was often the luck of the draw whether we find ourselves in a good place to work or not.

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    By working from home we can choose what work to work on and whether we want to face a window or not. We can get up and move to another place, and we can move from room to room. And if you have a garden, on nice days you could spend a few hours working outside.

    Pro #4: You Get to Choose Your Office Environment

    While many companies will provide you with a laptop or other equipment to do your work, others will give you an allowance to purchase your equipment. But with furniture such as your chair and desk, you have a lot of freedom.

    I have seen a lot of amazing home working spaces with wonderful sets up—better chairs, laptop stands that make working from a laptop much more ergonomic and therefore, better for your neck.

    You can also choose your wall art and the little nick-nacks on your desk or table. With all this freedom, you can create a very personal and excellent working environment that is a pleasure to work in. When you are happy doing your work, you will inevitably do better work.

    Con #1: We Move a Lot Less

    When we commute to a place of work, there is movement involved. Many people commute using public transport, which means walking to the bus stop or train station. Then, there is the movement at lunchtime when we go out to buy our lunch. Working in a place of work requires us to move more.

    Unfortunately, working from home naturally causes us to move less and this means we are not burning as many calories as we need to.

    Moving is essential to our health and if you are working from home you need to become much more aware of your movement. To ensure you are moving enough, make sure you take your lunch breaks. Get up from your desk and move. Go outside, if you can, and take a walk. And, of course, refrain from regular trips to the refrigerator.

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    Con #2: Less Human Interaction

    One of the nicest things about bringing a group of people together to work is the camaraderie and relationships that are built over time. Working from home takes us away from that human interaction and for many, this can cause a feeling of loss.

    Humans are a social species—we need to be with other people. Without that connection, we start to feel lonely and that can lead to mental health issues.

    Zoom and Microsoft Teams meeting cannot replace that interaction. Often, the interactions we get at our workplaces are spontaneous. But with video calls, there is nothing spontaneous—most of these calls are prearranged and that’s not spontaneous.

    This lack of spontaneous interaction can also reduce a team’s ability to develop creative solutions—there’s just something about a group of incredibly creative people coming together in a room to thrash out ideas together that lends itself to creativity.

    While video calls can be useful, they don’t match the connection between a group of people working on a solution together.

    Con #3: The Cost of Buying Home Office Equipment

    Not all companies are going to provide you with a nice allowance to buy expensive home office equipment. 100% remote companies such as Doist (the creators of Todoist and Twist) provide a $2,000 allowance to all their staff every two years to buy office equipment. Others are not so generous.

    This can prove to be expensive for many people to create their ideal work-from-home workspace. Many people must make do with what they already have, and that could mean unsuitable chairs that damage backs and necks.

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    For a future that will likely involve more flexible working arrangements, companies will need to support their staff in ways that will add additional costs to an already reduced bottom line.

    Con #4: Unique Distractions

    Not all people have the benefit of being able to afford childcare for young children, and this means they need to balance working and taking care of their kids.

    For many parents, being able to go to a workplace gives them time away from the noise and demands of a young family, so they could get on with their work. Working from home removes this and can make doing video calls almost impossible.

    To overcome this, where possible, you need to set some boundaries. I know this is not always possible, but it is something you need to try. You should do whatever you can to make sure you have some boundaries between your work life and home life.

    Final Thoughts

    Working from home can be hugely beneficial for many people, but it can also bring serious challenges to others.

    We are moving towards a new way of working. Therefore, companies need to look at both the pros and cons of working from home and be prepared to support their staff in making this transition. It will not be impossible, but a lot of thought will need to go into it.

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