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Why There is No Excuse for Not Pursuing Your Dreams

Why There is No Excuse for Not Pursuing Your Dreams


    Ever think you have something to share with the world and no one will listen?

    I do.

    Ever think you’re alone in your thinking?

    I did.

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    But I was wrong..and so are you if you did.

    Because you’re not.

    Finding Your Gift

    Many people search for their gifts, but never find them. (That’s not true.)

    Many people who don’t really search for their gifts never find them. (There’s the truth.)

    You have to look. You have to dwell. There is no shortcut. There is no passing “GO” to collect $200.

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    There is no choice. You have to find your gift and use it…or you’ll always be searching in life. Some people never know what they’re even searching for, that’s sad.

    3 Steps to Get Started

    1. Pray. Being a Christian, I can say that my God listens and talks back. He cares. I never push my beliefs on someone and I expect the same in return. The point of this is that you have been given a gift. How will you start to find it?
    2. Do Nothing. Spend some time doing nothing. It’s important for our minds to rest every once in awhile. I did this for about 5 minutes the other day and it completely re-energized me to carry on. Try it.
    3. Start. Sorry. There’s no other way to get going than to start. You could “begin.” You could “go.” But they all require action. Sorry, that’s the just way this works.

    You Really Do Have One (or some)

    Yes, you really do have a purpose in life. Maybe you have no idea where to start.

    No, you do. You know exactly where to start. Don’t tell me you don’t. Better yet, don’t tell yourself you don’t.

    You have a passion. A dream. A goal.

    Start small. It doesn’t matter what you want to be, there is a community for it. There’s a whole community for anything. Seriously. It’s kind of ridiculous if you ask me…but there is.

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    So if you’re into racing chickens…search for it.

    Or growing beans. Or stacking dominos. Go for it. You can at least start by connecting with someone who shares your interest.

    Now You Have No Excuses

    The Internet has taken away many things. It’s given us a ton, but it’s taken too. Most good things have pros and cons.

    The one major thing it’s taken away though is excuses.

    “I don’t know where the nearest Lowe’s is” isn’t an excuse anymore. Use your phone. Jump on a computer. Ask the dude next to you at Starbucks.

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    “I don’t know how many cups are in a gallon” doesn’t work. Ask Siri. Google it.

    Excuses are no more.

    If you’re interested in finding your gift, using it and making a life you want to live, you’re in luck. You’ve been blessed to live in a time in history where we can do anything we set our minds to.

    That’s scary for some…but incredibly awesome for those of us that start.

    What’s the one thing you’ll commit to doing this week to start finding or following your dream? 

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      Last Updated on July 23, 2019

      5 Steps To Move Out Of Stagnancy In Life

      5 Steps To Move Out Of Stagnancy In Life

      In the journey of growth, there are times when we grow and excel. We are endlessly driven and hyped up, motivated to get our goals.

      Then there are times when we stagnate. We feel uninspired and unmotivated. We keep procrastinating on our plans. More often than not, we get out of a rut, only to get back into another one.

      How do you know if you are stagnating? Here are some tell-tale signs:

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      • If you have been experiencing chronic procrastination on your goals
      • If you don’t ever feel like doing anything
      • If you keep turning to sleep, eating, games, mindless activities and entertainment for comfort
      • If you know you should be doing something, but yet you keep avoiding it
      • If you have not achieved anything new or significant now relative to 1 month, 2 months or 3 months ago
      • If you have a deep sense of feeling that you are living under your potential

      When we face stagnation in life, it’s a sign of deeper issues. Stagnation, just like procrastination, is a symptom of a problem. It’s easy to beat ourselves over it, but this approach is not going to help. Here, I will share 5 steps to help you move out of this stagnation. They won’t magically transform your life in 1 night (such changes are never permanent because the foundations are not built), but they will help you get the momentum going and help you get back on track.

      1. Realize You’re Not Alone

      Everyone stagnates at some point or another. You are not alone in this and more importantly, it’s normal. In fact, it’s amazing how many of my clients actually face the same predicament, even though all of them come from different walks of life, are of different ages, and have never crossed paths. Realizing you are not alone in this will make it much easier to deal with this period. By trying to “fight it”, you’re only fighting yourself. Accept this situation, acknowledge it, and tell yourself it’s okay. That way, you can then focus on the constructive steps that will really help you.

      2. Find What Inspires You

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      Stagnation comes because there isn’t anything that excites you enough to take action. If you don’t have a habit of setting goals, and instead just leave yourself to daily mundanes, it’s not surprising you are experiencing stagnation. What do you want to do if there are no limitations? If you can have whatever you want, what will it be? The answers to these questions will provide the fuel that will drive you forward.

      On the other hand, even if you are an experienced goal setter, there are times when the goals you set in the past lose their appeal now. It’s normal and it happens to me too. Sometimes we lose touch with our goals, since we are in a different emotional state compared to when we first set them. Sometimes our priorities change and we no longer want to work on those goals anymore. However, we don’t consciously realize this, and what happens is we procrastinate on our goals until it compounds into a serious problem. If that’s the case for you, it’s time to relook into your goals. There’s no point in pursuing goals that no longer inspire you. Trash away your old goals (or just put them aside) and ask yourself what you really want now. Then go for them.

      3. Give Yourself a Break

      When’s the last time you took a real break for yourself? 3 months? 6 months? 1 year? Never? Perhaps it’s time to take a time-out. Prolonged working can cause someone to become disillusioned as they lose sight of who they are and what they want.

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      Go take some extended leave from work. A few days at bare minimum; a few weeks or months will be great. Some of my ex-colleagues have quit their jobs and took months out to do some self-reflection. Of course, some of us might not have that luxury, so we can stick to a few weeks of leave. Go on a trip elsewhere and get away from your work and your life. Use this chance to get a renewed perspective of life. Think about your life purpose, what you want and what you want to create for your life in the future. These are big questions that require deep thinking over them. It’s not about finding the answers at one go, but about taking the first step to finding the answers.

      4. Shake up Your Routines

      Being in the same environment, doing the same things over and over again and meeting the same people can make us stagnant. This is especially if the people you spend the most time with are stagnant themselves.

      Change things around. Start with simple things, like taking a different route to work and eating something different for breakfast. Have your lunch with different colleagues, colleagues you never talked much with. Work in a different cubicle if your work has free and easy seating. Do something different than your usual for weekday evenings and weekends. Cultivate different habits, like exercising every day, listening to a new series of podcasts every morning to work, reading a book, etc (here’s 6 Proven Ways To Make New Habits Stick). The different contexts will give you different stimulus, which will trigger off different thoughts and actions in you.

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      When I’m in a state of stagnancy, I’ll get a sense of what’s making me stagnate. Sometimes it’s the environment I’m in, sometimes it’s the people I’ve been hanging out with, sometimes it’s my lifestyle. Most of the times it’s a combination of all these. Changing them up helps to stir myself out of the stagnant mode.

      5. Start with a Small Step

      Stagnation also comes from being frozen in fear. Maybe you do want this certain goal, but you aren’t taking action. Are you overwhelmed by the amount of work needed? Are you afraid you will make mistakes? Is the perfectionist in you taking over and paralyzing you?

      Let go of the belief that it has to be perfect. Such a belief is a bane, not a boon. It’s precisely from being open to mistakes and errors that you move forward. Break down what’s before you into very very small steps, then take those small steps, a little step at a time. I had a client who had been stagnating for a long period because he was afraid of failing. He didn’t want to make another move where he would make a mistake. However, not wanting to make a mistake has led him to do absolutely nothing for 2-3 years. On the other hand, by doing just something, you would already be making progress, whether it’s a mistake or not. Even if you make a supposed “mistake”,  you get feedback to do things differently in the next step. That’s something you would never have known if you never made a move.

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