“It takes more than just a good looking body, you’ve got to have the heart and soul that goes with it.” – Epictetus
Good-looking people have all the luck. They perform better in sales, are more likely to be approved for a loan and pay lower rates than their average-looking counterparts. They find jobs faster, move up the ladder quicker and earn an average of 3-4% more than the rest of us. That’s $140,000 in a lifetime, not counting the low rates and free stuff. Jealous much?
Does it mean us normals are doomed to work the least interesting jobs for the least amount of money? Hardly. As Supermodel Cameron Russell put in in a recent Ted Talk, “Image is powerful, but it’s also superficial.”Advertising
Beauty is a construction. With the right formula, it’s surprisingly easy to replicate on the job. The world’s sexiest CEOs have something in common above and beyond sex appeal: practiced self-confidence. In an interview or on the job, this is the real key to moving up the ladder and getting the recognition we all deserve.
Self-confidence denotes a kind of take charge attitude that appeals to potential employers. It’s tough to fake. You need to build it over time. Good looks, on the other hand, are remarkably easy to replicate. You can’t transform yourself into Tyra Banks overnight, but you can certainly borrow some tips from her bag of tricks.
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Dress with an ounce of pizzazz. Ever seen a CEO in sweatpants? Me neither. If only on the day of your interview, wear the best clothes you have. If you are not normally complimented on your attire, get a second opinion before selecting that all-important interview costume. Ask friends. Do a little research. Be more than just another suit. A well-placed handkerchief or silk cravat could be the thing that takes you from average to unforgettable.
Practice impeccable posture. Good posture is the mark of a confident person. In one study, participants were asked to write down why they were qualified for a particular job, and it turns out those who maintained good posture while writing were more likely to believe the thoughts they wrote down. Not only do you appear more credible to the interviewer, but you become more credible to yourself, which is the most important thing of all.
Exercise. It takes less than an hour of exercise per day to improve your mood and boost your self-confidence. A quick jog or a half hour of yoga will not only add a healthy glow to your cheeks but will also help your body to produce happiness hormones like serotonin and dopamine.
Invest in professional grooming. Estheticians are remarkably affordable, and the modern man need not shy away from such services. A day or two before your interview, get those hands professionally manicured, wax your eyebrows, get a fresh haircut. Those may seem like small details to you, but before you write it off, look at some pictures on Business Insider’s list of the Sexiest CEOs. That’s grooming you can take to the bank.
Get a tan. Sounds silly, right? But if you’re in a profession where you never see the sun, it’s the middle of February and you’re white a sheet, eight minutes in a tanning bed will bring just a little colour back in your face, giving you the appearance of being fresh and full of life.
Be irresistibly charming. If we were all as charming as Julia Roberts, there’d be no such things as unemployment. Anyone can be charming with just a little bit of practice. Express genuine interest in the person you are dealing with. Take extra care to remember the name of everyone you mean while in the company of a potential employer. Smile often. Be generous when you give compliments and gracious when you receive them. Listen. Speak well of your former employers. Look the interviewer in the eye.
Cultivating beauty and self-confidence may start with these simple tricks but eventually it will start to penetrate and become real. Starting each day by dressing nicely and greeting your colleagues with a smile and a laugh will produce long-term effects; eventually people will start seeing you the way you want to be seen whether you wear your cravat or not.
Remember, if beauty were all it took there would be a whole lot more CEOs who look like supermodels. Check out Business Insider’s latest list of CEOs of startups to watch: a nice collection of average looking people doing off-the-wall, amazing things. Success, it seems, is not only the domain of the beautiful people. It’s available to all of us.
Last Updated on November 18, 2020
50 Habits of Highly Successful People You Should Learn
If you’re like me and really into self-development, you’ve probably read many of the thousands of self-help books out there on the market. But also like me, you probably find all the information a bit overwhelming.
That’s why I wanted to do the self-less task of taking the most important, life-changing lessons I’ve drawn from these books and condensed them into 50 key points.
Here’re 50 habits of successful people you should learn:
1. Believe It to See It
Our minds tend to focus on what’s happening around us and refuse to see what could happen. Only when you trust in what’s possible and dare to dream big, big things can happen for you.
2. See Problems as a Wonderful Gift
While others only see problems and give up, successful people use the problem as a lesson to find improvement in themselves or the task at hand.
3. Keep Looking for Solutions
Even if they’re knee-deep in problems, successful people will still put all of their focus on finding solutions.
4. Remember It’s All About the Journey
Successful people are conscious and methodical in creating their own success. They don’t sit around doing the bare minimum, hoping success finds them.
5. Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway
There’s so much fear on the road to success, but instead of letting that fear control and limit them, successful people do a good job of just forging ahead regardless.
6. Always Ask Productive Questions
It’s all about asking the right questions. Successful people make sure they are questions that will elicit information for a more productive, creative and positive mindset moving forward.
7. Understand the Best Waste of Energy Is Complaining
Successful people know that choosing to see the negative side of things will only create a useless and unproductive state.
8. Don’t Play the Blame Game
Taking responsibility for actions and outcomes is a form of empowerment that you can build your success upon. While the act of blaming others or outside circumstances takes this empowerment away from you.
9. Maximize Your Strengths
Not every successful person is simply more talented than the rest, but they do use what they know they’re good at to achieve more successful results.
10. Be in It to Win It
Successful people are busy, productive and proactive. Instead of sitting around over-thinking and over-planning a great idea, they just take a step towards it no matter how small.
11. Know That Success Attracts Success
People who are successful surround themselves and seek out like-minded people. They understand the importance of being part of a team and forge win-win relationships.
12. Actually Choose to Be Successful
Dreaming big is a massive part of being successful even if your dream seems impossible. Ambition is a mindset that needs to be a daily conscious choice.
13. Visualize, Visualize, Visualize!
You’ve got to see your success in your mind’s eye even before it comes. Successful people clarify and get that certainty about what they want their reality to look like rather than being mere spectators of life.
14. Be a One-Off Original
Successful people look for what’s working and then create a unique spin on it. Imitating only regurgitates other people’s ideas with no originality.
15. The Perfect Time to Act Is Now
Waiting for the right time to act is basically procrastination wrapped up in an excuse. Successful people know there’s never a perfect time so they may as well just do it now.
16. Keep Learning, Keep Growing
Continuous learning is the key to a successful life. Whether it’s academic, being a student of life or actionable learning, it’s all about expanding your knowledge and personal development.
17. Always Look on the Bright Side of Life
Successful people have the knack for finding positive aspects in all people and circumstances no matter what.
18. Having a Bad Day? Do It Anyway!
We all have bad moods but it shouldn’t be an excuse to stop everything. Giving into a bad mood just stop-starts your life, slowing success way down.
19. Sometimes Risky Business Is Needed
Calculated risks are a must for success. It’s about weighing the pros and cons while moving forward with that element of trust.
20. Accept Challenge All the Time
Dealing with problems head-on is a must to be successful. Successful people also face challenges in order to improve themselves.
21. Make Your Own Luck
In the mindset of a successful person, there’s no such thing as ‘luck’ or ‘fate’. They take control to actively and consciously create their own best life.
22. Ignite Your Initiative
While many people are reactive, successful people are proactive – taking action before they have to.
23. Be the Master of Your Emotions
Being effective at managing emotions is key on the road to success. That’s not to say successful people don’t feel like we all do, but they’re just not slaves to their emotions.
24. Champion in Communication
Consciously working on effective communication skills gets anyone closer to success.
25. Plan Your Life Strategically
Successful people’s lives aren’t a clumsy series of unplanned events and outcomes, they methodically work at turning their plans into a reality.
26. Become Exceptional at What You Do
To become exceptional, you typically have to do things that most won’t. To become successful, hard decisions need to be made and acting on them is crucial.
27. Choose to Live Outside of Your Comfort Zone
While many people are pleasure junkies and avoid pain and discomfort at all costs, successful people understand the value and benefits of working through the tough stuff that most would avoid.
28. Live by Core Values
Successful people firstly identify their core values and what’s important to them, then do their best to live a life that reflects these values.
29. Realize Money Isn’t Everything
Money and success are not interchangeable and the most successful people understand this. Putting money on a pedestal and equating it to success is a dangerous mindset to have. Success comes in many forms.
30. Don’t Get Carried Away
Successful people understand the importance of discipline and self-control and as a result they are happy to take the road less travelled.
31. Self-Worth Is Not Tied to Success
Successful people are secure. They do not derive their self-worth from what they own, who they know, where they live or what they look like.
32. Kindness Breeds Kindness (And Success)
Generosity and kindness is a common trait among long-term successful people. It’s important to take pleasure in helping others achieve.
33. More Humility, Less Arrogance
Successful people are humble and happy to admit and apologize for mistakes. This is because they’re confident in their ability. They are happy to learn from others and happy to make others look good rather than seek their own personal glory.
34. Change Opens New Doors
People who are successful are adaptable and embrace change, while the majority are creatures of comfort and habit. They are comfortable with, and embrace, the new and the unfamiliar.
35. Success Requires a Healthy Body
It’s not just how you think, it’s about how you show up for success. Successful people understand the importance of being physically well, not for vain reasons but because being in tiptop condition creates a better personal life for success.
36. Laziness Just Doesn’t Exist
Successful people are never considered lazy. Yes, they can relax when they need to, but working hard is their game.
37. Resilience by the Bucket Load
When difficulty strikes, most would throw in the towel, but successful people are just warming up.
38. Feedback Is Just Another Chance to Improve
How people react to feedback determines their potential for success. Being open to constructive criticism and acting on it to improve is most seen in those who are successful.
39. Your Vibe Attracts Your Tribe
If people are hanging out with toxic and negative people, then they need to take a look at themselves. Successful people hang out with others who are positive and supportive.
40. Can’t Control It? Forget It
Successful people don’t invest time or emotional energy into things which they have no control of.
41. Swim Against the Tide
Successful people are not people-pleasers and they don’t need constant approval from others in order to move ahead.
42. Alone Time Is Valuable Time
More self-worth means being more comfortable with your own company. Successful people are more happy and see the value in spending time alone.
43. Self-Standard Is Higher Than Most
Everyone has a choice to set high standards for themselves. Successful people do this, which in turn produces greater commitment, more momentum, a better work ethic and of course, better results.
44. Failure Isn’t Rationalized
While many use age, health, lack of time, ‘bad luck’, or lack of opportunity to explain away their failure, the key to success is finding a way to succeed despite facing these challenges.
45. Down Time Is an Important Part of a Routine
Having an off switch and taking time to do things that make them happy is a common trait of a successful person. Take a look at here The Importance of Scheduling Downtime.
46. Career Isn’t Who You Are, It’s What You Do
Successful people know their career isn’t their identity. They are multi-dimensional and don’t define themselves by their job.
47. Be Interested in Only the Path of Resistance
While most people look for the easiest way or the shortcut, successful people are more interested in the most effective way. They look for the course of action which will produce the best results over the long term.
48. Follow Through
Many spend their life starting things that they never finish, but successful people get the job done. Even when the excitement and the novelty has worn off they still follow through and finish.
49. Invest in All Your Dimensions
We’re not just physical and psychological beings, but emotional and spiritual creatures as well. Successful people consciously work at being healthy and productive on all levels.
50. Put Your Money Where Your Mouth Is
To obtain success, it’s important to practice what you preach. Successful people don’t talk about the theory, they live the reality.
So there you have it, a summary of what I’ve learned from self-help books. But of course, you need to start taking actions so you will get closer to success too.
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