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Five Things Every Family Man Can Learn From Ozzy Osbourne

Five Things Every Family Man Can Learn From Ozzy Osbourne

You may not think of Ozzy Osbourne as a relationship role-model, but here are five reasons why Ozzy might have it all figured out when it comes to marriage and raising a family:

Surviving the Stress

With all of the reality television families out there today, it’s easy to forget that The Osbournes were one of the first to pave the way for other reality show families, such as the Kardashians. Having a film crew following you and your family around and intrusively documenting your every move would prove stressful enough to cause serious problems for almost anyone.

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We tend to see celebrities as superhuman figures who live to be in front of the flashing lights of cameras. However, no celebrity is immune to the frustration that is brought about by the total loss of privacy. Just look at the number of celebrities that have had run-ins with paparazzi, many of them violent, impulse-driven clashes that ended with costly lawsuits and negative publicity. The Prince of Darkness turned out to be the king of dealing with perpetual camera crew attention, and managed to keep his family together through all of the stressful situations that accompanied his success both on and off the stage.

Not just anyone would be comfortable with a film crew following their family during extremely difficult and trying times like the ones faced by Ozzy and the rest of the Osbourne clan. Over the course of filming The Osbournes for MTV, Ozzy and his family battled serious addiction problems, cancer, and living next door to the neighbors from hell. Most reality television couples don’t make it beyond a few seasons (look at Kim K and Kris Humphries, for example), but Ozzy and Sharon are among the few who have bucked the stereotypes and stood the test of time, keeping their marriage alive for over 30 years and counting.

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MTV’s reality show, The Osbournes, documented a dysfunctional but happy and loving family over the course of three years, four seasons and a grand total of 52 episodes. Ozzy showed everyone a unique example of patience, strength, and willingness to change and adjust for the sake of his wife and children. If Ozzy was able to do that so well with a camera crew following him around, the rest of us shouldn’t have any excuses not to be able to do it from behind closed doors.

Acceptance and Support

Ozzy encouraged his children to be whoever they wanted to be, and provided them with the resources and support necessary to do so. For better or worse, parents have the intrinsic ability to influence their children’s decisions early in life, and those decisions often play a big role in who they grow up to be as adults. While most of Ozzy’s six children have remained out of the spotlight, his children Jack and Kelly have both publicly dealt with a myriad of struggles including drug and alcohol abuse and life-threatening health problems. Ozzy has stuck by his children through it all, and his unconditional support and acceptance were the primary reasons his children have seemingly overcome their personal struggles and have established happy families and successful careers of their own. Say what you will about his music or lifestyle choices, there is no disputing the fact that he has been an exceptionally great father to his children.

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Family First!

He has the fame, the mansions, the cars and the cash, but Ozzy knows that his wife, Sharon, and his children are his most valuable assets. Sharon helped shape Ozzy’s success, beginning early in his career when she took over as his manager in 1979. Prior to Sharon taking the reins of managing the once-volatile rock star, her father, Don Arden, had been managing the heavy metal group Black Sabbath, with Ozzy providing the lead vocals. Due to substance abuse problems, the band made a unanimous decision to give Ozzy the boot and find a new front man, despite their massive success and growing fan base. It was at that time that Sharon took Ozzy on as a client to help him pursue his solo career as a musician, much to the disapproval of her father.

Ozzy’s greatest financial success of the nineties was Ozzfest, a heavy metal music festival that was managed by Sharon. She enlisted the help of their son Jack to work as her assistant and find artists to book for the show. Sharon also managed the musical career of their daughter Kelly, and has been instrumental in cultivating and maintaining the world-famous Osbourne brand. Putting his family first proved to be one of Ozzy’s best decisions, both personally and professionally.

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From Rolling Stone to Dad-at-Home

The glamorous lifestyle that accompanies the career of a rock star often comes tied to legal, financial and substance-related problems. Many who ‘make it big’ in the music industry are unable to maintain their rock star status and lifestyle without going over the edge, and often wind up losing everything trying to have it all. Ozzy is the first to admit his rock star lifestyle took its toll on his family life, and caused serious problems in his relationship with Sharon. Ozzy was arrested in 1989 after a drug-fueled domestic dispute with Sharon, but spent the following months in a treatment facility and managed to save both his marriage with Sharon and his own life. For now, Ozzy seems to have given up the rock star lifestyle for the most part to be the best version of himself he can be for his wife and children. Not letting professional success cloud your judgment and get in the way of marital and/or parental success is difficult for some people, but if a world famous rock star like Ozzy was able to do it so well, chances are you can too with a little effort.

In Sickness and In Health

Given his lengthy history with substance abuse and addiction problems, even Ozzy himself can’t believe he’s still alive and kicking! Serious medical and emotional problems can either tear a family apart or bring them closer together. The Osbournes have dealt with major health struggles as a family, including drug addiction, Sharon’s battle with cancer, Jack’s multiple sclerosis diagnosis, and a near fatal ATV accident that almost killed Ozzy. Through these life-changing challenges, Ozzy’s marriage has remained intact for over 30 years, which means he must be doing something right considering over half of all marriages end in divorce (and that number is exponentially higher for world-famous rock stars!) Having been through so many difficult trials and tribulations over the years, not allowing his personal struggles to tear apart his family speaks volumes to the unwavering dedication Ozzy has to his family above everything else.

If you and your family fall on hard times, think of Ozzy and everything he has overcome. Remind yourself that no matter what life throws at you, it shouldn’t get in the way of being the best husband and father you can possibly be.

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Last Updated on August 13, 2020

12 Benefits of Meditation That Improve Your Body And Mind

12 Benefits of Meditation That Improve Your Body And Mind

As a mediation teacher, I am constantly confronted with these two questions regarding the benefits of meditation:

1. Why can’t I enjoy the benefits of meditation continuously?

I ask back: Is it maybe because you see mediation as a technique, performance, or some exclusive activity? The answer is: yes!

Or, because your mind is constantly evolving on the past negative attachments and traditional habits? After careful thinking they answer: yes, probably!

Although meditation is very simple and challenging at the same time, in the above mentioned case, it’s not easy to benefit from meditation, especially when approached with the idea that it has to be learned, studied, or applied. Meditation is to be seen as a natural, mental cleansing process that happens on a basis of awareness on a moment-to-moment experience. When that takes place, the benefits of meditation are continuous.

2. What is the purpose of meditation?

The purpose of meditation is to accomplish a level of consciousness for mastering the mind and uniting with the finest, deepest, and subtlest part of yourself as a being.

It is a conscious process of observation of the mind—helping the meditator to understand the structure of its mind and the quality of its content. During this process, countless benefits of a physical, mental, and spiritual/philosophical nature arise for the meditator.

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Meditation as a Fixer and Benefactor

In this article we’ll have a look at the primary and the ultimate benefits of mediation, which improve your body and mind at the same time. For the sake of clarity, readability, and tangible experience, I have separated the benefits into three groups.

You can change just about anything you don’t like about yourself (psychologically, as well as physically) through meditation. However, this is only possible with a specific approach, when your brain allows the benefits of meditation to do their work.

This means not to interrupt the benefit with other thoughts, but to let their effect implement itself in your body and mind. This approach is crucial.

The following exercises will make you feel the benefits of meditation instantly, but the continuity of the benefits of meditation on your body and mind depend on the discipline of your brain, how you manage external stimuli and your thoughts.

Less Physical, More Psychological

Even though the practice of meditation is more psychological and less physical, the first benefit we’re going to experience is both physical as well as mental.

This benefit happens literally immediately, right at the moment of meditation. It is the essence of mediation basically.

The First Benefit of Meditation

The first benefit of meditation is twofold:

  1. Improving inward attention (sharpening the mind)
  2. Relaxation of the body

Let’s do it right now. This benefit consists of only one step, and it is very simple to perform. It goes like this:

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Sit still and pay attention to your exhalation.

That’s it! Technically, the whole journey into the world of mediation begins here and nowhere else. And right here, you benefit from this step in the following way:

When you pay attention to the flow of your exhalation (gentle, deep, effortless exhalation), your body begins with the process of relaxation instantly (your heart rate slows down, your nervous system calms, and tension in your muscles is relieved).

When the nervous system calms, your mind calms down, and, more specifically, less thoughts are produced by your mind. How, exactly? By applying one of the most valuable mental skills—attention—the mind follows the breathing and has no space and time to generate any other thoughts. Only when the attention goes off the breath, other thoughts are constructed, and the mind is accelerating with thought production again.

Keeping the First Benefit Effective and Ongoing

Here you apply the approach of not letting the relaxation and attention process get interrupted; rather let the effects of these benefits implant in your body and mind as deeply as possible.

This is to say, the instant relaxation and inward attention happen at the same time when you follow the flow of your breath. Repeating this process—creating a constant rhythm out of the breathing and the attention—you create a process of meditation.

Keep your attention on the flow of your breath and see how the calmness of body and mind begin to rule your present moment. The longer you stay connected to your breathing, the stronger you’ll feel the benefit. Start with 3-5 minutes at a time without doing anything else, and increase to 10-20 minutes and onwards.

Can you think of a better, simpler and quicker exercise that can relax the body and improve attention in this way, at this speed?

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This benefit takes you to the second one.

The Second Benefit of Meditation

While still working with the first benefit of mediation, you slowly start to see the second benefit of mediation, which is fourfold. I call it the major value of mediation:

  1. Energy (physical and mental strength)
  2. Observance
  3. Peacefulness (stillness, and space of mind for deeper observation)
  4. Patience

Peacefulness is the source of a blissful life. The energy is the fuel to express that blissfulness. Whatever we want to accomplish in life we need: 1) Physical and mental strength, 2) Observance of that energy, 3) Peacefulness—the calmness and stillness that creates space for freedom of being and creative thinking, and 4) Patience for the process of accomplishment.

You can only get creative in thinking and boosted with physical and mental energy when you get in touch with the deepest levels of yourself—when you harmonize your mental and physiological activities. How do you do that? Let’s try it right now:

This step involves the observation of the two separate movements of your breath. After paying attention on your exhalation, you have prepared your body and mind to really see and feel what true peacefulness and true energy means.

1. Energy

Keep your attention on your inhalation (inhaling gently, deeply and lightly) and feel the new energy (new oxygen) flowing in your body. The inhalation is the symbol for aliveness and vitality. It is the the primary act that connects the baby’s body with the outside world after coming out of the womb[1]. Each inhalation is a new opportunity for your body to revive, regenerate, and renew itself.

2. Observance

The observance comes during the process of meditation, enabling you to see the physiological benefits of introducing new energy to your body. Use that benefit by utilizing its effects, and create deeper observation into yourself. With every single inhalation, this observation will enable you to generate even more energy, mentally and physically.

3. Peacefulness

Keep your attention on your exhalation, and feel how, out of the relaxation, peacefulness is spreading throughout your whole body. The exhalation is the symbol for relaxation and peacefulness. Only through meditation can you realize what absolute peacefulness means.

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4. Patience

The meditation delivers the previous benefits to you immediately and opens up the possibility for many other benefits and great virtues. A specific one to mention, which is essential for reaching the ultimate benefits of meditation, is patience. If you have experienced the aforementioned benefits, it means that you have invested a certain amount of patience into mastering yourself and your mind.

The Ultimate Benefits of Meditation

Patience is a key quality when it comes to the ultimate benefits of meditation.

Since the mind is the tool that reveals everything, mediation is the method for the proper utility of the tool.

The above mentioned benefits of mediation lead to the ultimate benefits of mediation—qualities that depict what makes a human being human. As you dwell in a meditative state of being, the following benefits begin to emanate:

  • Diligence: the persistence for righteous effort to reach an intrinsic value; inner strength.
  • Temperance: to express self-control and show excellence in managing the physio-biological and mental necessities
  • Courage: using righteous effort and braveness to look into the weaknesses of yourself and at the hardship of your life, endure it and patiently overcome the obstacles
  • Loving kindness and Compassion – a capacity to care, understand, and tolerate other people’s state of being, wishing them freedom from suffering.
  • Wisdom: the moment when you feel that mediation gives you the feeling and the knowledge that what you do relating to life and practical affairs is just.
  • Equanimity: that puts you in a state of composure, and you experience an ongoing blissful state of being.

These are the 6 ultimate benefits of meditation that put your body and mind in a state of health and balance.

Final Thoughts

Mediation exists to put order in your mind and awaken the best of you, to reconnect you to your goodness and your inborn intelligent capabilities.

Meditation is the window to your true Self. It gives you a panoramic view of your heart’s greatness. It shows you the true meaning of love, freeing you from the dungeons of ignorance and despair. The power of meditation dismantles the evil that’s trying to cloud the beauty of your heart.

Your heart, body, and soul are the bridge over which the challenges of life frequently carry their heavy load. Meditation is the support of that bridge. Make use of that support.

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Reference

[1] Medline Plus: Changes in the newborn at birth

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