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Five Things Every Family Man Can Learn From Ozzy Osbourne

Five Things Every Family Man Can Learn From Ozzy Osbourne

You may not think of Ozzy Osbourne as a relationship role-model, but here are five reasons why Ozzy might have it all figured out when it comes to marriage and raising a family:

Surviving the Stress

With all of the reality television families out there today, it’s easy to forget that The Osbournes were one of the first to pave the way for other reality show families, such as the Kardashians. Having a film crew following you and your family around and intrusively documenting your every move would prove stressful enough to cause serious problems for almost anyone.

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We tend to see celebrities as superhuman figures who live to be in front of the flashing lights of cameras. However, no celebrity is immune to the frustration that is brought about by the total loss of privacy. Just look at the number of celebrities that have had run-ins with paparazzi, many of them violent, impulse-driven clashes that ended with costly lawsuits and negative publicity. The Prince of Darkness turned out to be the king of dealing with perpetual camera crew attention, and managed to keep his family together through all of the stressful situations that accompanied his success both on and off the stage.

Not just anyone would be comfortable with a film crew following their family during extremely difficult and trying times like the ones faced by Ozzy and the rest of the Osbourne clan. Over the course of filming The Osbournes for MTV, Ozzy and his family battled serious addiction problems, cancer, and living next door to the neighbors from hell. Most reality television couples don’t make it beyond a few seasons (look at Kim K and Kris Humphries, for example), but Ozzy and Sharon are among the few who have bucked the stereotypes and stood the test of time, keeping their marriage alive for over 30 years and counting.

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MTV’s reality show, The Osbournes, documented a dysfunctional but happy and loving family over the course of three years, four seasons and a grand total of 52 episodes. Ozzy showed everyone a unique example of patience, strength, and willingness to change and adjust for the sake of his wife and children. If Ozzy was able to do that so well with a camera crew following him around, the rest of us shouldn’t have any excuses not to be able to do it from behind closed doors.

Acceptance and Support

Ozzy encouraged his children to be whoever they wanted to be, and provided them with the resources and support necessary to do so. For better or worse, parents have the intrinsic ability to influence their children’s decisions early in life, and those decisions often play a big role in who they grow up to be as adults. While most of Ozzy’s six children have remained out of the spotlight, his children Jack and Kelly have both publicly dealt with a myriad of struggles including drug and alcohol abuse and life-threatening health problems. Ozzy has stuck by his children through it all, and his unconditional support and acceptance were the primary reasons his children have seemingly overcome their personal struggles and have established happy families and successful careers of their own. Say what you will about his music or lifestyle choices, there is no disputing the fact that he has been an exceptionally great father to his children.

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Family First!

He has the fame, the mansions, the cars and the cash, but Ozzy knows that his wife, Sharon, and his children are his most valuable assets. Sharon helped shape Ozzy’s success, beginning early in his career when she took over as his manager in 1979. Prior to Sharon taking the reins of managing the once-volatile rock star, her father, Don Arden, had been managing the heavy metal group Black Sabbath, with Ozzy providing the lead vocals. Due to substance abuse problems, the band made a unanimous decision to give Ozzy the boot and find a new front man, despite their massive success and growing fan base. It was at that time that Sharon took Ozzy on as a client to help him pursue his solo career as a musician, much to the disapproval of her father.

Ozzy’s greatest financial success of the nineties was Ozzfest, a heavy metal music festival that was managed by Sharon. She enlisted the help of their son Jack to work as her assistant and find artists to book for the show. Sharon also managed the musical career of their daughter Kelly, and has been instrumental in cultivating and maintaining the world-famous Osbourne brand. Putting his family first proved to be one of Ozzy’s best decisions, both personally and professionally.

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From Rolling Stone to Dad-at-Home

The glamorous lifestyle that accompanies the career of a rock star often comes tied to legal, financial and substance-related problems. Many who ‘make it big’ in the music industry are unable to maintain their rock star status and lifestyle without going over the edge, and often wind up losing everything trying to have it all. Ozzy is the first to admit his rock star lifestyle took its toll on his family life, and caused serious problems in his relationship with Sharon. Ozzy was arrested in 1989 after a drug-fueled domestic dispute with Sharon, but spent the following months in a treatment facility and managed to save both his marriage with Sharon and his own life. For now, Ozzy seems to have given up the rock star lifestyle for the most part to be the best version of himself he can be for his wife and children. Not letting professional success cloud your judgment and get in the way of marital and/or parental success is difficult for some people, but if a world famous rock star like Ozzy was able to do it so well, chances are you can too with a little effort.

In Sickness and In Health

Given his lengthy history with substance abuse and addiction problems, even Ozzy himself can’t believe he’s still alive and kicking! Serious medical and emotional problems can either tear a family apart or bring them closer together. The Osbournes have dealt with major health struggles as a family, including drug addiction, Sharon’s battle with cancer, Jack’s multiple sclerosis diagnosis, and a near fatal ATV accident that almost killed Ozzy. Through these life-changing challenges, Ozzy’s marriage has remained intact for over 30 years, which means he must be doing something right considering over half of all marriages end in divorce (and that number is exponentially higher for world-famous rock stars!) Having been through so many difficult trials and tribulations over the years, not allowing his personal struggles to tear apart his family speaks volumes to the unwavering dedication Ozzy has to his family above everything else.

If you and your family fall on hard times, think of Ozzy and everything he has overcome. Remind yourself that no matter what life throws at you, it shouldn’t get in the way of being the best husband and father you can possibly be.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

The Best Way to Create a Vision for the Life You Want

The Best Way to Create a Vision for the Life You Want

Creating a vision for your life might seem like a frivolous, fantastical waste of time, but it’s not: creating a compelling vision of the life you want is actually one of the most effective strategies for achieving the life of your dreams. Perhaps the best way to look at the concept of a life vision is as a compass to help guide you to take the best actions and make the right choices that help propel you toward your best life.

your vision of where or who you want to be is the greatest asset you have

    Why You Need a Vision

    Experts and life success stories support the idea that with a vision in mind, you are more likely to succeed far beyond what you could otherwise achieve without a clear vision. Think of crafting your life vision as mapping a path to your personal and professional dreams. Life satisfaction and personal happiness are within reach. The harsh reality is that if you don’t develop your own vision, you’ll allow other people and circumstances to direct the course of your life.

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    How to Create Your Life Vision

    Don’t expect a clear and well-defined vision overnight—envisioning your life and determining the course you will follow requires time, and reflection. You need to cultivate vision and perspective, and you also need to apply logic and planning for the practical application of your vision. Your best vision blossoms from your dreams, hopes, and aspirations. It will resonate with your values and ideals, and will generate energy and enthusiasm to help strengthen your commitment to explore the possibilities of your life.

    What Do You Want?

    The question sounds deceptively simple, but it’s often the most difficult to answer. Allowing yourself to explore your deepest desires can be very frightening. You may also not think you have the time to consider something as fanciful as what you want out of life, but it’s important to remind yourself that a life of fulfillment does not usually happen by chance, but by design.

    It’s helpful to ask some thought-provoking questions to help you discover the possibilities of what you want out of life. Consider every aspect of your life, personal and professional, tangible and intangible. Contemplate all the important areas, family and friends, career and success, health and quality of life, spiritual connection and personal growth, and don’t forget about fun and enjoyment.

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    Some tips to guide you:

    • Remember to ask why you want certain things
    • Think about what you want, not on what you don’t want.
    • Give yourself permission to dream.
    • Be creative. Consider ideas that you never thought possible.
    • Focus on your wishes, not what others expect of you.

    Some questions to start your exploration:

    • What really matters to you in life? Not what should matter, what does matter.
    • What would you like to have more of in your life?
    • Set aside money for a moment; what do you want in your career?
    • What are your secret passions and dreams?
    • What would bring more joy and happiness into your life?
    • What do you want your relationships to be like?
    • What qualities would you like to develop?
    • What are your values? What issues do you care about?
    • What are your talents? What’s special about you?
    • What would you most like to accomplish?
    • What would legacy would you like to leave behind?

    It may be helpful to write your thoughts down in a journal or creative vision board if you’re the creative type. Add your own questions, and ask others what they want out of life. Relax and make this exercise fun. You may want to set your answers aside for a while and come back to them later to see if any have changed or if you have anything to add.

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    What Would Your Best Life Look Like?

    Describe your ideal life in detail. Allow yourself to dream and imagine, and create a vivid picture. If you can’t visualize a picture, focus on how your best life would feel. If you find it difficult to envision your life 20 or 30 years from now, start with five years—even a few years into the future will give you a place to start. What you see may surprise you. Set aside preconceived notions. This is your chance to dream and fantasize.

    A few prompts to get you started:

    • What will you have accomplished already?
    • How will you feel about yourself?
    • What kind of people are in your life? How do you feel about them?
    • What does your ideal day look like?
    • Where are you? Where do you live? Think specifics, what city, state, or country, type of community, house or an apartment, style and atmosphere.
    • What would you be doing?
    • Are you with another person, a group of people, or are you by yourself?
    • How are you dressed?
    • What’s your state of mind? Happy or sad? Contented or frustrated?
    • What does your physical body look like? How do you feel about that?
    • Does your best life make you smile and make your heart sing? If it doesn’t, dig deeper, dream bigger.

    It’s important to focus on the result, or at least a way-point in your life. Don’t think about the process for getting there yet—that’s the next stepGive yourself permission to revisit this vision every day, even if only for a few minutes. Keep your vision alive and in the front of your mind.

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    Plan Backwards

    It may sound counter-intuitive to plan backwards rather than forwards, but when you’re planning your life from the end result, it’s often more useful to consider the last step and work your way back to the first. This is actually a valuable and practical strategy for making your vision a reality.

    • What’s the last thing that would’ve had to happen to achieve your best life?
    • What’s the most important choice you would’ve had to make?
    • What would you have needed to learn along the way?
    • What important actions would you have had to take?
    • What beliefs would you have needed to change?
    • What habits or behaviors would you have had to cultivate?
    • What type of support would you have had to enlist?
    • How long will it have taken you to realize your best life?
    • What steps or milestones would you have needed to reach along the way?

    Now it’s time to think about your first step, and the next step after that. Ponder the gap between where you are now and where you want to be in the future. It may seem impossible, but it’s quite achievable if you take it step-by-step.

    It’s important to revisit this vision from time to time. Don’t be surprised if your answers to the questions, your technicolor vision, and the resulting plans change. That can actually be a very good thing; as you change in unforeseeable ways, the best life you envision will change as well. For now, it’s important to use the process, create your vision, and take the first step towards making that vision a reality.

    Featured photo credit: Matt Noble via unsplash.com

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