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Five Things Every Family Man Can Learn From Ozzy Osbourne

Five Things Every Family Man Can Learn From Ozzy Osbourne

You may not think of Ozzy Osbourne as a relationship role-model, but here are five reasons why Ozzy might have it all figured out when it comes to marriage and raising a family:

Surviving the Stress

With all of the reality television families out there today, it’s easy to forget that The Osbournes were one of the first to pave the way for other reality show families, such as the Kardashians. Having a film crew following you and your family around and intrusively documenting your every move would prove stressful enough to cause serious problems for almost anyone.

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We tend to see celebrities as superhuman figures who live to be in front of the flashing lights of cameras. However, no celebrity is immune to the frustration that is brought about by the total loss of privacy. Just look at the number of celebrities that have had run-ins with paparazzi, many of them violent, impulse-driven clashes that ended with costly lawsuits and negative publicity. The Prince of Darkness turned out to be the king of dealing with perpetual camera crew attention, and managed to keep his family together through all of the stressful situations that accompanied his success both on and off the stage.

Not just anyone would be comfortable with a film crew following their family during extremely difficult and trying times like the ones faced by Ozzy and the rest of the Osbourne clan. Over the course of filming The Osbournes for MTV, Ozzy and his family battled serious addiction problems, cancer, and living next door to the neighbors from hell. Most reality television couples don’t make it beyond a few seasons (look at Kim K and Kris Humphries, for example), but Ozzy and Sharon are among the few who have bucked the stereotypes and stood the test of time, keeping their marriage alive for over 30 years and counting.

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MTV’s reality show, The Osbournes, documented a dysfunctional but happy and loving family over the course of three years, four seasons and a grand total of 52 episodes. Ozzy showed everyone a unique example of patience, strength, and willingness to change and adjust for the sake of his wife and children. If Ozzy was able to do that so well with a camera crew following him around, the rest of us shouldn’t have any excuses not to be able to do it from behind closed doors.

Acceptance and Support

Ozzy encouraged his children to be whoever they wanted to be, and provided them with the resources and support necessary to do so. For better or worse, parents have the intrinsic ability to influence their children’s decisions early in life, and those decisions often play a big role in who they grow up to be as adults. While most of Ozzy’s six children have remained out of the spotlight, his children Jack and Kelly have both publicly dealt with a myriad of struggles including drug and alcohol abuse and life-threatening health problems. Ozzy has stuck by his children through it all, and his unconditional support and acceptance were the primary reasons his children have seemingly overcome their personal struggles and have established happy families and successful careers of their own. Say what you will about his music or lifestyle choices, there is no disputing the fact that he has been an exceptionally great father to his children.

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Family First!

He has the fame, the mansions, the cars and the cash, but Ozzy knows that his wife, Sharon, and his children are his most valuable assets. Sharon helped shape Ozzy’s success, beginning early in his career when she took over as his manager in 1979. Prior to Sharon taking the reins of managing the once-volatile rock star, her father, Don Arden, had been managing the heavy metal group Black Sabbath, with Ozzy providing the lead vocals. Due to substance abuse problems, the band made a unanimous decision to give Ozzy the boot and find a new front man, despite their massive success and growing fan base. It was at that time that Sharon took Ozzy on as a client to help him pursue his solo career as a musician, much to the disapproval of her father.

Ozzy’s greatest financial success of the nineties was Ozzfest, a heavy metal music festival that was managed by Sharon. She enlisted the help of their son Jack to work as her assistant and find artists to book for the show. Sharon also managed the musical career of their daughter Kelly, and has been instrumental in cultivating and maintaining the world-famous Osbourne brand. Putting his family first proved to be one of Ozzy’s best decisions, both personally and professionally.

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From Rolling Stone to Dad-at-Home

The glamorous lifestyle that accompanies the career of a rock star often comes tied to legal, financial and substance-related problems. Many who ‘make it big’ in the music industry are unable to maintain their rock star status and lifestyle without going over the edge, and often wind up losing everything trying to have it all. Ozzy is the first to admit his rock star lifestyle took its toll on his family life, and caused serious problems in his relationship with Sharon. Ozzy was arrested in 1989 after a drug-fueled domestic dispute with Sharon, but spent the following months in a treatment facility and managed to save both his marriage with Sharon and his own life. For now, Ozzy seems to have given up the rock star lifestyle for the most part to be the best version of himself he can be for his wife and children. Not letting professional success cloud your judgment and get in the way of marital and/or parental success is difficult for some people, but if a world famous rock star like Ozzy was able to do it so well, chances are you can too with a little effort.

In Sickness and In Health

Given his lengthy history with substance abuse and addiction problems, even Ozzy himself can’t believe he’s still alive and kicking! Serious medical and emotional problems can either tear a family apart or bring them closer together. The Osbournes have dealt with major health struggles as a family, including drug addiction, Sharon’s battle with cancer, Jack’s multiple sclerosis diagnosis, and a near fatal ATV accident that almost killed Ozzy. Through these life-changing challenges, Ozzy’s marriage has remained intact for over 30 years, which means he must be doing something right considering over half of all marriages end in divorce (and that number is exponentially higher for world-famous rock stars!) Having been through so many difficult trials and tribulations over the years, not allowing his personal struggles to tear apart his family speaks volumes to the unwavering dedication Ozzy has to his family above everything else.

If you and your family fall on hard times, think of Ozzy and everything he has overcome. Remind yourself that no matter what life throws at you, it shouldn’t get in the way of being the best husband and father you can possibly be.

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Last Updated on October 20, 2020

How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

You have a deadline looming. However, instead of doing your work, you are fiddling with miscellaneous things like checking email, social media, watching videos, surfing blogs and forums. You know you should be working, but you just don’t feel like doing anything.

We are all familiar with the procrastination phenomenon. When we procrastinate, we squander away our free time and put off important tasks we should be doing them till it’s too late. And when it is indeed too late, we panic and wish we got started earlier.

The chronic procrastinators I know have spent years of their life looped in this cycle. Delaying, putting off things, slacking, hiding from work, facing work only when it’s unavoidable, then repeating this loop all over again. It’s a bad habit that eats us away and prevents us from achieving greater results in life.

Don’t let procrastination take over your life. Here, I will share my personal steps on how to stop procrastinating. These 11 steps will definitely apply to you too:

1. Break Your Work into Little Steps

Part of the reason why we procrastinate is because subconsciously, we find the work too overwhelming for us. Break it down into little parts, then focus on one part at the time. If you still procrastinate on the task after breaking it down, then break it down even further. Soon, your task will be so simple that you will be thinking “gee, this is so simple that I might as well just do it now!”.

For example, I’m currently writing a new book (on How to achieve anything in life). Book writing at its full scale is an enormous project and can be overwhelming. However, when I break it down into phases such as –

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  • (1) Research
  • (2) Deciding the topic
  • (3) Creating the outline
  • (4) Drafting the content
  • (5) Writing Chapters #1 to #10,
  • (6) Revision
  • (7) etc.

Suddenly it seems very manageable. What I do then is to focus on the immediate phase and get it done to my best ability, without thinking about the other phases. When it’s done, I move on to the next.

2. Change Your Environment

Different environments have different impact on our productivity. Look at your work desk and your room. Do they make you want to work or do they make you want to snuggle and sleep? If it’s the latter, you should look into changing your workspace.

One thing to note is that an environment that makes us feel inspired before may lose its effect after a period of time. If that’s the case, then it’s time to change things around. Refer to Steps #2 and #3 of 13 Strategies To Jumpstart Your Productivity, which talks about revamping your environment and workspace.

3. Create a Detailed Timeline with Specific Deadlines

Having just 1 deadline for your work is like an invitation to procrastinate. That’s because we get the impression that we have time and keep pushing everything back, until it’s too late.

Break down your project (see tip #1), then create an overall timeline with specific deadlines for each small task. This way, you know you have to finish each task by a certain date. Your timelines must be robust, too – i.e. if you don’t finish this by today, it’s going to jeopardize everything else you have planned after that. This way it creates the urgency to act.

My goals are broken down into monthly, weekly, right down to the daily task lists, and the list is a call to action that I must accomplish this by the specified date, else my goals will be put off.

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Here’re more tips on setting deadlines: 22 Tips for Effective Deadlines

4. Eliminate Your Procrastination Pit-Stops

If you are procrastinating a little too much, maybe that’s because you make it easy to procrastinate.

Identify your browser bookmarks that take up a lot of your time and shift them into a separate folder that is less accessible. Disable the automatic notification option in your email client. Get rid of the distractions around you.

I know some people will out of the way and delete or deactivate their facebook accounts. I think it’s a little drastic and extreme as addressing procrastination is more about being conscious of our actions than counteracting via self-binding methods, but if you feel that’s what’s needed, go for it.

5. Hang out with People Who Inspire You to Take Action

I’m pretty sure if you spend just 10 minutes talking to Steve Jobs or Bill Gates, you’ll be more inspired to act than if you spent the 10 minutes doing nothing. The people we are with influence our behaviors. Of course spending time with Steve Jobs or Bill Gates every day is probably not a feasible method, but the principle applies — The Hidden Power of Every Single Person Around You

Identify the people, friends or colleagues who trigger you – most likely the go-getters and hard workers – and hang out with them more often. Soon you will inculcate their drive and spirit too.

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As a personal development blogger, I “hang out” with inspiring personal development experts by reading their blogs and corresponding with them regularly via email and social media. It’s communication via new media and it works all the same.

6. Get a Buddy

Having a companion makes the whole process much more fun. Ideally, your buddy should be someone who has his/her own set of goals. Both of you will hold each other accountable to your goals and plans. While it’s not necessary for both of you to have the same goals, it’ll be even better if that’s the case, so you can learn from each other.

I have a good friend whom I talk to regularly, and we always ask each other about our goals and progress in achieving those goals. Needless to say, it spurs us to keep taking action.

7. Tell Others About Your Goals

This serves the same function as #6, on a larger scale. Tell all your friends, colleagues, acquaintances and family about your projects. Now whenever you see them, they are bound to ask you about your status on those projects.

For example, sometimes I announce my projects on The Personal Excellence Blog, Twitter and Facebook, and my readers will ask me about them on an ongoing basis. It’s a great way to keep myself accountable to my plans.

8. Seek out Someone Who Has Already Achieved the Outcome

What is it you want to accomplish here, and who are the people who have accomplished this already? Go seek them out and connect with them. Seeing living proof that your goals are very well achievable if you take action is one of the best triggers for action.

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9. Re-Clarify Your Goals

If you have been procrastinating for an extended period of time, it might reflect a misalignment between what you want and what you are currently doing. Often times, we outgrow our goals as we discover more about ourselves, but we don’t change our goals to reflect that.

Get away from your work (a short vacation will be good, else just a weekend break or staycation will do too) and take some time to regroup yourself. What exactly do you want to achieve? What should you do to get there? What are the steps to take? Does your current work align with that? If not, what can you do about it?

10. Stop Over-Complicating Things

Are you waiting for a perfect time to do this? That maybe now is not the best time because of X, Y, Z reasons? Ditch that thought because there’s never a perfect time. If you keep waiting for one, you are never going to accomplish anything.

Perfectionism is one of the biggest reasons for procrastination. Read more about why perfectionist tendencies can be a bane than a boon: Why Being A Perfectionist May Not Be So Perfect.

11. Get a Grip and Just Do It

At the end, it boils down to taking action. You can do all the strategizing, planning and hypothesizing, but if you don’t take action, nothing’s going to happen. Occasionally, I get readers and clients who keep complaining about their situations but they still refuse to take action at the end of the day.

Reality check:

I have never heard anyone procrastinate their way to success before and I doubt it’s going to change in the near future. Whatever it is you are procrastinating on, if you want to get it done, you need to get a grip on yourself and do it.

Bonus: Think Like a Rhino

More Tips for Procrastinators to Start Taking Action

Featured photo credit: Malvestida Magazine via unsplash.com

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