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Finding Your Personal Style, Lesson #2: Changing Your Style, One Sequin at a Time

Finding Your Personal Style, Lesson #2: Changing Your Style, One Sequin at a Time

Our universe is full of things that make us either sad or happy. Things that make us feel like we’ve got it all or we’ve lost it all in the blink of an eye. Things that either motivate us or make us want to go to bed to instantly fall asleep. Everywhere around us, sometimes deeply hidden, sometimes unmistakably present, lies what has brought millions of people billions of ideas: inspiration. A simple word with a variety of meanings, mostly personal. To me, inspiration is the meaning of being connected to my environment and being aware of everything that is going on around me.

This isn’t just necessary and important for writing, or drawing, or creating collections — it is also crucial for developing yourself and your own style into a direction where you grow to be comfortable and confident in your own skin. It is about seeing your environment and attaching whatever goes on, whatever makes you feel happy or alive or great to your own personality or your way of dressing.

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Inspiration Is Personal

Wherever there’s you, there is someone else too; there are things and people and moments that wake something in you, whether it is the urge to create something or to put something down, or the urge to talk to someone, just to get to know this special person. Everything is connected and in this wonderful world of inspiration we are what we are supposed to be in this society — equals.

If you don’t know who exactly you are yet, or if you haven’t figured out what your personal style might be there need not be despair or doubt because finding out more about you and creating yourself a unique way of dressing that fits your personality, takes time, effort and self-conscious. Helpful to those who aren’t aware of what their personal style might truly be, is trying to get inspired by those we look up to — whether it is a celebrity, or an icon (of present and of past), a family member, a friend, a mentor, a teacher.

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To become who you really want to be — in style as well as in personality, character and image — it’s perfectly fine and okay to look at others to divide between certain features you’d most certainly would like to behold and others you definitely could do without. Draw from all ressources possible to define what you like and what you dislike, to get just a hint of inspiration or even a full blasted epiphany: Movies, Magazines, Songs, Icons, Role Models, Models, Fashion Shows, Red Carpets, Celebrities, Fashion Shoots, Books, whatever it is that matter to you and that gives you a kick (except for drugs and murder and so on… things like that I truly can’t support, sorry).

Look around you. It is so often so simple that we don’t notice it, yet it can be beautiful and magical.

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Lesson #2: I’m just trying to change the world, one sequin at a time.

This is one of my most favourite quotes by Lady Gaga; a singer, entertainer, songwriter, and above all, a driving force of Fashion and Invention. I think I am well allowed to state that out there in this beautiful, turbulent world of variety, there is by far no one as inspiring and provocative and inventive and ridiculous and crazy as mademoiselle Gaga. Of course, you are also allowed to doubt several choices of attire — like the meat dress— but I think she set a statement with this look, just like she does with every other look she pulls off.

That’s truly what life is about, isn’t it? Trying on everything you like and love and that makes you happy without caring about what society thinks and regardless of all the weird looks you get while strolling along a street. Trust me, that is something I experience myself every single day and by now, after almost 26 years of living and breathing and trying to find / invent myself, I can say that I simply couldn’t care less about what others think of me and my style.

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If you are confident with who you are and if you can pull yourself off perfectly, there is no glance, no bad comment, no weird attitude towards you that could possibly shake your belief in yourself. And it shouldn’t because in the end, it will turn out that most people are just a) either too shallow to realize who you are or b) jealous of not being confident enough themselves. Go your own way, set your own statement, leave a trace of your sparkling personality behind, be inspiring and get inspired by being aware of what is going on around you.

Open your eyes and see the world for what it is: a beautiful, turbulent, crazy, tough, immaculate thing of whose story you are an important part. It’s a jungle out there — dress accordingly!

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Last Updated on January 3, 2020

The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

Are you waiting for life events to turn out the way you want so that you can feel more positive about your life? Do you find yourself having pre-conditions to your sense of well-being, thinking that certain things must happen for you to be happier? Do you think there is no way that your life stresses can make you anything other than “stressed out” and that other people just don’t understand?  If your answer is “yes” to any of these questions, you might find yourself lingering in the land of negativity for too long!

The following are some tips to keep positive no matter what comes your way. This post will help you stop looking for what psychologists call “positivity” in all the wrong places!  Here are the ten essential habits of positive people.

1. Positive people don’t confuse quitting with letting go.

Instead of hanging on to ideas, beliefs, and even people that are no longer healthy for them, they trust their judgement to let go of negative forces in their lives.  Especially in terms of relationships, they subscribe to The Relationship Prayer which goes:

 I will grant myself the ability to trust the healthy people in my life … 

To set limits with, or let go of, the negative ones … 

And to have the wisdom to know the DIFFERENCE!

 2.  Positive people don’t just have a good day – they make a good day.

Waiting, hoping and wishing seldom have a place in the vocabulary of positive individuals. Rather, they use strong words that are pro-active and not reactive. Passivity leads to a lack of involvement, while positive people get very involved in constructing their lives. They work to make changes to feel better in tough times rather than wish their feelings away.

3. For the positive person, the past stays in the past.

Good and bad memories alike stay where they belong – in the past where they happened. They don’t spend much time pining for the good ol’ days because they are too busy making new memories now. The negative pulls from the past are used not for self-flagellation or unproductive regret, but rather productive regret where they use lessons learned as stepping stones towards a better future.

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4. Show me a positive person and I can show you a grateful person.

The most positive people are the most grateful people.  They do not focus on the potholes of their lives.  They focus on the pot of gold that awaits them every day, with new smells, sights, feelings and experiences.  They see life as a treasure chest full of wonder.

5. Rather than being stuck in their limitations, positive people are energized by their possibilities.

Optimistic people focus on what they can do, not what they can’t do.  They are not fooled to think that there is a perfect solution to every problem, and are confident that there are many solutions and possibilities.  They are not afraid to attempt new solutions to old problems, rather than spin their wheels expecting things to be different this time.  They refuse to be like Charlie Brown expecting that this time Lucy will not pull the football from him!

6. Positive people do not let their fears interfere with their lives!

Positive people have observed that those who are defined and pulled back by their fears never really truly live a full life. While proceeding with appropriate caution, they do not let fear keep them from trying new things. They realize that even failures are necessary steps for a successful life. They have confidence that they can get back up when they are knocked down by life events or their own mistakes, due to a strong belief in their personal resilience.

7. Positive people smile a lot!

When you feel positive on the inside it is like you are smiling from within, and these smiles are contagious. Furthermore, the more others are with positive people, the more they tend to smile too! They see the lightness in life, and have a sense of humor even when it is about themselves. Positive people have a high degree of self-respect, but refuse to take themselves too seriously!

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8. People who are positive are great communicators.

They realize that assertive, confident communication is the only way to connect with others in everyday life.  They avoid judgmental, angry interchanges, and do not let someone else’s blow up give them a reason to react in kind. Rather, they express themselves with tact and finesse.  They also refuse to be non-assertive and let people push them around. They refuse to own problems that belong to someone else.

9. Positive people realize that if you live long enough, there are times for great pain and sadness.

One of the most common misperceptions about positive people is that to be positive, you must always be happy. This can not be further from the truth. Anyone who has any depth at all is certainly not happy all the time.  Being sad, angry, disappointed are all essential emotions in life. How else would you ever develop empathy for others if you lived a life of denial and shallow emotions? Positive people do not run from the gamut of emotions, and accept that part of the healing process is to allow themselves to experience all types of feelings, not only the happy ones. A positive person always holds the hope that there is light at the end of the darkness.  

10. Positive person are empowered people – they refuse to blame others and are not victims in life.

Positive people seek the help and support of others who are supportive and safe.They limit interactions with those who are toxic in any manner, even if it comes to legal action and physical estrangement such as in the case of abuse. They have identified their own basic human rights, and they respect themselves too much to play the part of a victim. There is no place for holding grudges with a positive mindset. Forgiveness helps positive people become better, not bitter.

How about you?  How many habits of positive people do you personally find in yourself?  If you lack even a few of these 10 essential habits, you might find that the expected treasure at the end of the rainbow was not all that it was cracked up to be. How could it — if you keep on bringing a negative attitude around?

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I wish you well in keeping positive, because as we all know, there is certainly nothing positive about being negative!

Featured photo credit: Janaína Castelo Branco via flickr.com

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