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Finding Your Personal Style, Lesson #2: Changing Your Style, One Sequin at a Time

Finding Your Personal Style, Lesson #2: Changing Your Style, One Sequin at a Time

Our universe is full of things that make us either sad or happy. Things that make us feel like we’ve got it all or we’ve lost it all in the blink of an eye. Things that either motivate us or make us want to go to bed to instantly fall asleep. Everywhere around us, sometimes deeply hidden, sometimes unmistakably present, lies what has brought millions of people billions of ideas: inspiration. A simple word with a variety of meanings, mostly personal. To me, inspiration is the meaning of being connected to my environment and being aware of everything that is going on around me.

This isn’t just necessary and important for writing, or drawing, or creating collections — it is also crucial for developing yourself and your own style into a direction where you grow to be comfortable and confident in your own skin. It is about seeing your environment and attaching whatever goes on, whatever makes you feel happy or alive or great to your own personality or your way of dressing.

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Inspiration Is Personal

Wherever there’s you, there is someone else too; there are things and people and moments that wake something in you, whether it is the urge to create something or to put something down, or the urge to talk to someone, just to get to know this special person. Everything is connected and in this wonderful world of inspiration we are what we are supposed to be in this society — equals.

If you don’t know who exactly you are yet, or if you haven’t figured out what your personal style might be there need not be despair or doubt because finding out more about you and creating yourself a unique way of dressing that fits your personality, takes time, effort and self-conscious. Helpful to those who aren’t aware of what their personal style might truly be, is trying to get inspired by those we look up to — whether it is a celebrity, or an icon (of present and of past), a family member, a friend, a mentor, a teacher.

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To become who you really want to be — in style as well as in personality, character and image — it’s perfectly fine and okay to look at others to divide between certain features you’d most certainly would like to behold and others you definitely could do without. Draw from all ressources possible to define what you like and what you dislike, to get just a hint of inspiration or even a full blasted epiphany: Movies, Magazines, Songs, Icons, Role Models, Models, Fashion Shows, Red Carpets, Celebrities, Fashion Shoots, Books, whatever it is that matter to you and that gives you a kick (except for drugs and murder and so on… things like that I truly can’t support, sorry).

Look around you. It is so often so simple that we don’t notice it, yet it can be beautiful and magical.

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Lesson #2: I’m just trying to change the world, one sequin at a time.

This is one of my most favourite quotes by Lady Gaga; a singer, entertainer, songwriter, and above all, a driving force of Fashion and Invention. I think I am well allowed to state that out there in this beautiful, turbulent world of variety, there is by far no one as inspiring and provocative and inventive and ridiculous and crazy as mademoiselle Gaga. Of course, you are also allowed to doubt several choices of attire — like the meat dress— but I think she set a statement with this look, just like she does with every other look she pulls off.

That’s truly what life is about, isn’t it? Trying on everything you like and love and that makes you happy without caring about what society thinks and regardless of all the weird looks you get while strolling along a street. Trust me, that is something I experience myself every single day and by now, after almost 26 years of living and breathing and trying to find / invent myself, I can say that I simply couldn’t care less about what others think of me and my style.

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If you are confident with who you are and if you can pull yourself off perfectly, there is no glance, no bad comment, no weird attitude towards you that could possibly shake your belief in yourself. And it shouldn’t because in the end, it will turn out that most people are just a) either too shallow to realize who you are or b) jealous of not being confident enough themselves. Go your own way, set your own statement, leave a trace of your sparkling personality behind, be inspiring and get inspired by being aware of what is going on around you.

Open your eyes and see the world for what it is: a beautiful, turbulent, crazy, tough, immaculate thing of whose story you are an important part. It’s a jungle out there — dress accordingly!

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Last Updated on September 16, 2019

How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

How to Stop Procrastinating: 11 Practical Ways for Procrastinators

You have a deadline looming. However, instead of doing your work, you are fiddling with miscellaneous things like checking email, social media, watching videos, surfing blogs and forums. You know you should be working, but you just don’t feel like doing anything.

We are all familiar with the procrastination phenomenon. When we procrastinate, we squander away our free time and put off important tasks we should be doing them till it’s too late. And when it is indeed too late, we panic and wish we got started earlier.

The chronic procrastinators I know have spent years of their life looped in this cycle. Delaying, putting off things, slacking, hiding from work, facing work only when it’s unavoidable, then repeating this loop all over again. It’s a bad habit that eats us away and prevents us from achieving greater results in life.

Don’t let procrastination take over your life. Here, I will share my personal steps on how to stop procrastinating. These 11 steps will definitely apply to you too:

1. Break Your Work into Little Steps

Part of the reason why we procrastinate is because subconsciously, we find the work too overwhelming for us. Break it down into little parts, then focus on one part at the time. If you still procrastinate on the task after breaking it down, then break it down even further. Soon, your task will be so simple that you will be thinking “gee, this is so simple that I might as well just do it now!”.

For example, I’m currently writing a new book (on How to achieve anything in life). Book writing at its full scale is an enormous project and can be overwhelming. However, when I break it down into phases such as –

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  • (1) Research
  • (2) Deciding the topic
  • (3) Creating the outline
  • (4) Drafting the content
  • (5) Writing Chapters #1 to #10,
  • (6) Revision
  • (7) etc.

Suddenly it seems very manageable. What I do then is to focus on the immediate phase and get it done to my best ability, without thinking about the other phases. When it’s done, I move on to the next.

2. Change Your Environment

Different environments have different impact on our productivity. Look at your work desk and your room. Do they make you want to work or do they make you want to snuggle and sleep? If it’s the latter, you should look into changing your workspace.

One thing to note is that an environment that makes us feel inspired before may lose its effect after a period of time. If that’s the case, then it’s time to change things around. Refer to Steps #2 and #3 of 13 Strategies To Jumpstart Your Productivity, which talks about revamping your environment and workspace.

3. Create a Detailed Timeline with Specific Deadlines

Having just 1 deadline for your work is like an invitation to procrastinate. That’s because we get the impression that we have time and keep pushing everything back, until it’s too late.

Break down your project (see tip #1), then create an overall timeline with specific deadlines for each small task. This way, you know you have to finish each task by a certain date. Your timelines must be robust, too – i.e. if you don’t finish this by today, it’s going to jeopardize everything else you have planned after that. This way it creates the urgency to act.

My goals are broken down into monthly, weekly, right down to the daily task lists, and the list is a call to action that I must accomplish this by the specified date, else my goals will be put off.

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Here’re more tips on setting deadlines: 22 Tips for Effective Deadlines

4. Eliminate Your Procrastination Pit-Stops

If you are procrastinating a little too much, maybe that’s because you make it easy to procrastinate.

Identify your browser bookmarks that take up a lot of your time and shift them into a separate folder that is less accessible. Disable the automatic notification option in your email client. Get rid of the distractions around you.

I know some people will out of the way and delete or deactivate their facebook accounts. I think it’s a little drastic and extreme as addressing procrastination is more about being conscious of our actions than counteracting via self-binding methods, but if you feel that’s what’s needed, go for it.

5. Hang out with People Who Inspire You to Take Action

I’m pretty sure if you spend just 10 minutes talking to Steve Jobs or Bill Gates, you’ll be more inspired to act than if you spent the 10 minutes doing nothing. The people we are with influence our behaviors. Of course spending time with Steve Jobs or Bill Gates every day is probably not a feasible method, but the principle applies — The Hidden Power of Every Single Person Around You

Identify the people, friends or colleagues who trigger you – most likely the go-getters and hard workers – and hang out with them more often. Soon you will inculcate their drive and spirit too.

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As a personal development blogger, I “hang out” with inspiring personal development experts by reading their blogs and corresponding with them regularly via email and social media. It’s communication via new media and it works all the same.

6. Get a Buddy

Having a companion makes the whole process much more fun. Ideally, your buddy should be someone who has his/her own set of goals. Both of you will hold each other accountable to your goals and plans. While it’s not necessary for both of you to have the same goals, it’ll be even better if that’s the case, so you can learn from each other.

I have a good friend whom I talk to regularly, and we always ask each other about our goals and progress in achieving those goals. Needless to say, it spurs us to keep taking action.

7. Tell Others About Your Goals

This serves the same function as #6, on a larger scale. Tell all your friends, colleagues, acquaintances and family about your projects. Now whenever you see them, they are bound to ask you about your status on those projects.

For example, sometimes I announce my projects on The Personal Excellence Blog, Twitter and Facebook, and my readers will ask me about them on an ongoing basis. It’s a great way to keep myself accountable to my plans.

8. Seek out Someone Who Has Already Achieved the Outcome

What is it you want to accomplish here, and who are the people who have accomplished this already? Go seek them out and connect with them. Seeing living proof that your goals are very well achievable if you take action is one of the best triggers for action.

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9. Re-Clarify Your Goals

If you have been procrastinating for an extended period of time, it might reflect a misalignment between what you want and what you are currently doing. Often times, we outgrow our goals as we discover more about ourselves, but we don’t change our goals to reflect that.

Get away from your work (a short vacation will be good, else just a weekend break or staycation will do too) and take some time to regroup yourself. What exactly do you want to achieve? What should you do to get there? What are the steps to take? Does your current work align with that? If not, what can you do about it?

10. Stop Over-Complicating Things

Are you waiting for a perfect time to do this? That maybe now is not the best time because of X, Y, Z reasons? Ditch that thought because there’s never a perfect time. If you keep waiting for one, you are never going to accomplish anything.

Perfectionism is one of the biggest reasons for procrastination. Read more about why perfectionist tendencies can be a bane than a boon: Why Being A Perfectionist May Not Be So Perfect.

11. Get a Grip and Just Do It

At the end, it boils down to taking action. You can do all the strategizing, planning and hypothesizing, but if you don’t take action, nothing’s going to happen. Occasionally, I get readers and clients who keep complaining about their situations but they still refuse to take action at the end of the day.

Reality check:

I have never heard anyone procrastinate their way to success before and I doubt it’s going to change in the near future.  Whatever it is you are procrastinating on, if you want to get it done, you need to get a grip on yourself and do it.

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