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Finding Your Personal Style, Lesson #2: Changing Your Style, One Sequin at a Time

Finding Your Personal Style, Lesson #2: Changing Your Style, One Sequin at a Time

Our universe is full of things that make us either sad or happy. Things that make us feel like we’ve got it all or we’ve lost it all in the blink of an eye. Things that either motivate us or make us want to go to bed to instantly fall asleep. Everywhere around us, sometimes deeply hidden, sometimes unmistakably present, lies what has brought millions of people billions of ideas: inspiration. A simple word with a variety of meanings, mostly personal. To me, inspiration is the meaning of being connected to my environment and being aware of everything that is going on around me.

This isn’t just necessary and important for writing, or drawing, or creating collections — it is also crucial for developing yourself and your own style into a direction where you grow to be comfortable and confident in your own skin. It is about seeing your environment and attaching whatever goes on, whatever makes you feel happy or alive or great to your own personality or your way of dressing.

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Inspiration Is Personal

Wherever there’s you, there is someone else too; there are things and people and moments that wake something in you, whether it is the urge to create something or to put something down, or the urge to talk to someone, just to get to know this special person. Everything is connected and in this wonderful world of inspiration we are what we are supposed to be in this society — equals.

If you don’t know who exactly you are yet, or if you haven’t figured out what your personal style might be there need not be despair or doubt because finding out more about you and creating yourself a unique way of dressing that fits your personality, takes time, effort and self-conscious. Helpful to those who aren’t aware of what their personal style might truly be, is trying to get inspired by those we look up to — whether it is a celebrity, or an icon (of present and of past), a family member, a friend, a mentor, a teacher.

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To become who you really want to be — in style as well as in personality, character and image — it’s perfectly fine and okay to look at others to divide between certain features you’d most certainly would like to behold and others you definitely could do without. Draw from all ressources possible to define what you like and what you dislike, to get just a hint of inspiration or even a full blasted epiphany: Movies, Magazines, Songs, Icons, Role Models, Models, Fashion Shows, Red Carpets, Celebrities, Fashion Shoots, Books, whatever it is that matter to you and that gives you a kick (except for drugs and murder and so on… things like that I truly can’t support, sorry).

Look around you. It is so often so simple that we don’t notice it, yet it can be beautiful and magical.

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Lesson #2: I’m just trying to change the world, one sequin at a time.

This is one of my most favourite quotes by Lady Gaga; a singer, entertainer, songwriter, and above all, a driving force of Fashion and Invention. I think I am well allowed to state that out there in this beautiful, turbulent world of variety, there is by far no one as inspiring and provocative and inventive and ridiculous and crazy as mademoiselle Gaga. Of course, you are also allowed to doubt several choices of attire — like the meat dress— but I think she set a statement with this look, just like she does with every other look she pulls off.

That’s truly what life is about, isn’t it? Trying on everything you like and love and that makes you happy without caring about what society thinks and regardless of all the weird looks you get while strolling along a street. Trust me, that is something I experience myself every single day and by now, after almost 26 years of living and breathing and trying to find / invent myself, I can say that I simply couldn’t care less about what others think of me and my style.

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If you are confident with who you are and if you can pull yourself off perfectly, there is no glance, no bad comment, no weird attitude towards you that could possibly shake your belief in yourself. And it shouldn’t because in the end, it will turn out that most people are just a) either too shallow to realize who you are or b) jealous of not being confident enough themselves. Go your own way, set your own statement, leave a trace of your sparkling personality behind, be inspiring and get inspired by being aware of what is going on around you.

Open your eyes and see the world for what it is: a beautiful, turbulent, crazy, tough, immaculate thing of whose story you are an important part. It’s a jungle out there — dress accordingly!

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Last Updated on September 20, 2018

How to Stay Calm and Cool When You Are Extremely Stressful

How to Stay Calm and Cool When You Are Extremely Stressful

Being in a hurry all the time drains your energy. Your work and routine life make you feel overwhelmed. Getting caught up in things beyond your control stresses you out…

If you’d like to stay calm and cool in stressful situations, put the following 8 steps into practice:

1. Breathe

The next time you’re faced with a stressful situation that makes you want to hurry, stop what you’re doing for one minute and perform the following steps:

  • Take five deep breaths in and out (your belly should come forward with each inhale).
  • Imagine all that stress leaving your body with each exhale.
  • Smile. Fake it if you have to. It’s pretty hard to stay grumpy with a goofy grin on your face.

Feel free to repeat the above steps every few hours at work or home if you need to.

2. Loosen up

After your breathing session, perform a quick body scan to identify any areas that are tight or tense. Clenched jaw? Rounded shoulders? Anything else that isn’t at ease?

Gently touch or massage any of your body parts that are under tension to encourage total relaxation. It might help to imagine you’re in a place that calms you: a beach, hot tub, or nature trail, for example.

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3. Chew slowly

Slow down at the dinner table if you want to learn to be patient and lose weight. Shoveling your food down as fast as you can is a surefire way to eat more than you need to (and find yourself with a bellyache).

Be a mindful eater who pays attention to the taste, texture, and aroma of every dish. Chew slowly while you try to guess all of the ingredients that were used to prepare your dish.

Chewing slowly will also reduce those dreadful late-night cravings that sneak up on you after work.

4. Let go

Cliche as it sounds, it’s very effective.

The thing that seems like the end of the world right now?

It’s not. Promise.

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Stressing and worrying about the situation you’re in won’t do any good because you’re already in it, so just let it go.

Letting go isn’t easy, so here’s a guide to help you:

21 Things To Do When You Find It Hard To Let Go

5. Enjoy the journey

Focusing on the end result can quickly become exhausting. Chasing a bold, audacious goal that’s going to require a lot of time and patience? Split it into several mini-goals so you’ll have several causes for celebration.

Stop focusing on the negative thoughts. Giving yourself consistent positive feedback will help you grow patience, stay encouraged, and find more joy in the process of achieving your goals.

6. Look at the big picture

The next time you find your stress level skyrocketing, take a deep breath, and ask yourself:

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Will this matter to me…

  • Next week?
  • Next month?
  • Next year?
  • In 10 years?

Hint: No, it won’t.

I bet most of the stuff that stresses you wouldn’t matter the next week, maybe not even the next day.

Stop agonizing over things you can’t control because you’re only hurting yourself.

7. Stop demanding perfection of yourself

You’re not perfect and that’s okay. Show me a person who claims to be perfect and I’ll show you a dirty liar.

Demanding perfection of yourself (or anybody else) will only stress you out because it just isn’t possible.

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8. Practice patience every day

Below are a few easy ways you can practice patience every day, increasing your ability to remain calm and cool in times of stress:

  • The next time you go to the grocery store, get in the longest line.
  • Instead of going through the drive-thru at your bank, go inside.
  • Take a long walk through a secluded park or trail.

Final thoughts

Staying calm in stressful situations is possible, all you need is some daily practice.

Taking deep breaths and eat mindfully are some simple ways to train your brain to be more patient. But changing the way you think of a situation and staying positive are most important in keeping cool whenever you feel overwhelmed and stressful.

Featured photo credit: Brooke Cagle via unsplash.com

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