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Everyone Should Know Why It Seems Hard to Overcome Boredom Sometimes

Everyone Should Know Why It Seems Hard to Overcome Boredom Sometimes

Boredom is a state of mind that occurs when we are no longer able to entertain ourselves or experience any level of enjoyment in our daily activities. For example, often you will hear people complain that there is nothing worth watching on television, when in fact, there are actually many programs worth watching. It’s just that your brain has decided that none of them are worth your time. Or perhaps you experience this with chores around the home, or incomplete paperwork at your place of employment. Regardless of how your experiences with boredom have manifested, the truth of the matter is that boredom is a good thing. So how does one overcome boredom?

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    Boredom and depression share a similar trait.

    As a psychotherapist, the number one group of people who often report feeling bored are depressed clients. This may not surprise a number of people, given that the primary and popular symptom of depression is poor motivation. I am not writing that boredom is exclusive to depressed persons; however, I am drawing a similarity between boredom and depression.

    You see, biological factors aside, a primary cause of depression with any person is the reluctance to accept expectations not being met in life. When people with depression experience significant difficulty with things not going their way, they become angry and take it out on themselves, primarily through depressed mood and poor motivation.

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    Boredom occurs on the same paradigm in which there is a marked difficulty in being able to accept life on life’s terms. Take for example again, the scenario with the television. When the complaint that “there’s nothing on TV,” is made, it simply isn’t true, because there are plenty of programs to watch and enjoy on television.

    Boredom warns us that we are not actively living our lives.

    The reality is that our brain’s are created mostly to respond to diverse experiences and there is a limited amount of idling that our minds can tolerate. This is what makes boredom a good thing; specifically, boredom is good because it is our mind’s way of alerting us that we are not actively living our lives, as evidenced by the brain’s yearning for a fair degree of adversity, diversity and production.

    For instance, if all you do is go to work, perform the same duties, come home to perform the same chores, and have the same type of interactions with people in your lives, with little to no variations, then you find yourself having very little to look forward to the next day. Why would you? Afterall, your lifestyle pretty much guarantees that your days are going to be roughly the same.

    What makes our experiences with boredom difficult, is our interpretation of being bored. So while our brains are telling us that we need to start doing something, some of us tell ourselves that we are not being entertained enough, or that the world around us has little to offer us. The truth is that the world around us has a lot of offer. If you find yourself bored, it’s most likely because you don’t have a well-defined vision of your life, and subsequently, you lack a sense of meaning and purpose.

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    Conquer boredom by pursuing your goals and dreams.

    The most effective way of addressing boredom is to write down what your dreams or goals are, keeping in mind that the goal is to aim as high as you want. So let’s say, for example, that you want to go back to school to earn a teaching degree to teach math. Here are some questions you might want to ask yourself.

    What are the requirements for becoming a math teacher?

    What specific demographic of students, do you plan teaching math to?

    What school will you attend to earn your teaching degree?

    How much will it cost you?

    Where will you get the money for tuition?

    What are the odds of you getting hired to teach math after you graduate?

    Are there other alternative routes to teaching math?

    As you can see with these types of questions, you will quickly realize that you have your work cut out for you. The key to discovering the cause of your boredom and overcoming it lies in your thoughts and feelings to these types of question. Ultimately, people who are able to identify their desired goals, but are resistant in following through on the questions, are unwilling to make sacrifices, specifically sacrifices of personal time. Then again, it you find your days bleeding into one another with little distinction, what do you have to lose?

    Ultimately, the path towards making that paradigm shift towards a more fulfilling life and overcoming boredom will involve a trade-off.

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    Last Updated on June 13, 2019

    5 Fixes For Common Sleep Issues All Couples Deal With

    5 Fixes For Common Sleep Issues All Couples Deal With

    Sleeping next to your partner can be a satisfying experience and is typically seen as the mark of a stable, healthy home life. However, many more people struggle to share a bed with their partner than typically let on. Sleeping beside someone can decrease your sleep quality which negatively affects your life. Maybe you are light sleepers and you wake each other up throughout the night. Maybe one has a loud snoring habit that’s keeping the other awake. Maybe one is always crawling into bed in the early hours of the morning while the other likes to go to bed at 10 p.m.

    You don’t have to feel ashamed of finding it difficult to sleep with your partner and you also don’t have to give up entirely on it. Common problems can be addressed with simple solutions such as an additional pillow. Here are five fixes for common sleep issues that couples deal with.

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    1. Use a bigger mattress to sleep through movement

    It can be difficult to sleep through your partner’s tossing and turning all night, particularly if they have to get in and out of bed. Waking up multiple times in one night can leave you frustrated and exhausted. The solution may be a switch to a bigger mattress or a mattress that minimizes movement.

    Look for a mattress that allows enough space so that your partner can move around without impacting you or consider a mattress made for two sleepers like the Sleep Number bed.[1] This bed allows each person to choose their own firmness level. It also minimizes any disturbances their partner might feel. A foam mattress like the kind featured in advertisements where someone jumps on a bed with an unspilled glass of wine will help minimize the impact of your partner’s movements.[2]

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    2. Communicate about scheduling conflicts

    If one of you is a night owl and the other an early riser, bedtime can become a source of conflict. It’s hard for a light sleeper to be jostled by their partner coming to bed four hours after them. Talk to your partner about negotiating some compromises. If you’re finding it difficult to agree on a bedtime, negotiate with your partner. Don’t come to bed before or after a certain time, giving the early bird a chance to fully fall asleep before the other comes in. Consider giving the night owl an eye mask to allow them to stay in bed while their partner gets up to start the day.

    3. Don’t bring your technology to bed

    If one partner likes bringing devices to bed and the other partner doesn’t, there’s very little compromise to be found. Science is pretty unanimous on the fact that screens can cause harm to a healthy sleeper. Both partners should agree on a time to keep technology out of the bedroom or turn screens off. This will prevent both partners from having their sleep interrupted and can help you power down after a long day.

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    4. White noise and changing positions can silence snoring

    A snoring partner can be one of the most difficult things to sleep through. Snoring tends to be position-specific so many doctors recommend switching positions to stop the snoring. Rather than sleeping on your back doctors recommend turning onto your side. Changing positions can cut down on noise and breathing difficulties for any snorer. Using a white noise fan, or sound machine can also help soften the impact of loud snoring and keep both partners undisturbed.

    5. Use two blankets if one’s a blanket hog

    If you’ve got a blanket hog in your bed don’t fight it, get another blanket. This solution fixes any issues between two partners and their comforter. There’s no rule that you have to sleep under the same blanket. Separate covers can also cut down on tossing and turning making it a multi-useful adaptation.

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    Rather than giving up entirely on sharing a bed with your partner, try one of these techniques to improve your sleeping habits. Sleeping in separate beds can be a normal part of a healthy home life, but compromise can go a long way toward creating harmony in a shared bed.

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