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Curing the Common Cold:
 The Art of Being Sick

Curing the Common Cold:
 The Art of Being Sick

Unless you’ve been living in a hermetically-sealed plastic bubble for the last six months, you know there is a nasty flu spreading. That sound you’re hearing? It’s our collective nose being blown, along with the raspy whine of a nation that’s been knocked to its knees, thrown in bed and forced to watch countless reruns of the Andy Griffith Show.

Even as we speak, millions of congested people are wandering pharmacies everywhere, searching for just the right combination of sniffling, coughing, and achy throat medicine. We’ll try anything, too: Echinacea, Goldenseal, humidifiers, Neti Pots, Cayenne pepper, garlic, and chicken soup. Fact is, we’d rub our chests with goose grease and kerosene if we thought it would work, which just so happens to be an old Texas cold remedy.

But, the truth is, getting well isn’t our biggest challenge. Our biggest challenge is learning how to be sick. Yes, how to be sick.

For the record, we suck at it. We can put a man on the moon and split the atom, but we don’t know how to lie on our backs and get well. Unfortunately, the longer we stay stubbornly ignorant, the longer we’ll stay in our bacteria-infested pyjamas.

Bottom line: we don’t need a trip to the pharmacy. We need an attitude adjustment, which happily does not require a trip to the doctor’s office. Here are four tips on how to cure the common cold.
Feel free to nominate me for the Nobel Prize in Medicine if you’d like.

1. Admit You’re Sick: The Power of Listening to Your Body.

I know there are a lot of people out there who refuse to admit that they’re sick. These are the grin-and-bear-it types who drag their runny noses into the office lunch room, or run marathons with sprained ankles. They see a wall and run right through it. While that’s very brave and action hero-like, it’s often foolish and inconsiderate; not just to others, but to themselves.

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Admitting you’re sick is NOT a sign of weakness and defeat, any more than it’s a sign that you’re throwing up the white flag and surrendering to your illness. In fact, it’s an awakening. It’s also the ultimate act of personal responsibility: listening to your body.

Yes, being sick is inconvenient, uncomfortable and painful, but if we re-frame our perspective, it’s also a gift. It’s our body’s way of monitoring and regulating our health. It’s our body’s way of saying there is something to look at, listen to, or pay attention to. It’s our body telling us to slow down, change our habits, or live in a different way. If we listen, our sickness may very well become a pathway to even greater health.

Listening to that wisdom is not just common sense, it’s an expression of gratitude. It’s our way of saying “thank you” for the body we are fortunate enough to inhabit.

I realize it’s not always easy to do, especially when we feel like we’re one step from death, but once we do, we can stop looking at our sickness as a cruel stroke of fate. We can stop seeing ourselves as unwilling victims to the bacteria gods in the sky, and instead, we can become empowered co-creators in our own health.

That is the game-changer that will help us all to cure the common cold.

2. Nurture Yourself Part 1: It’s Okay to Whine

We can’t nurture ourselves back to health if we don’t give ourselves permission to be downright miserable, even if that means whining like a helpless baby. Of course, don’t confuse the whining guy with the sniveling dictator who demands the world to wait on him. We’re not looking for an excuse to turn our family and friends into slaves.

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We’re talking about giving ourselves permission to let down our guard; to be vulnerable and needy. And contrary to what we’ve been told since childhood, that’s not always a sign of weakness. In fact, when it comes to being sick, it’s a clear sign of strength, and a positive step toward recovery.

3. Nurture Yourself Part 2: Embrace a Healthy Lifestyle

Let’s be real. When we’re miserable, we all want the fastest route to good health. Most of us would sell our children for a good night sleep, or thirty minutes without blowing our noses, which explains why the cold medicine industry is a billion-dollar-a-year business. As someone who has downed his share of purple medicine, I make no judgments on what anyone takes to get healthy. We each do what we feel is right.

However, there is a trap to the quick fix, and it has nothing to do with whether we take flu medicine or not, or even whether it works. The trap is when we put our health in someone else’s hands and think we don’t have to do anything else. We give up responsibility to the “2 tablespoons” and then think our job is over.

The reality is this: getting well begins with putting our health back in our own hands. To do this we need to embrace a healthy lifestyle, even when we’re sick, and especially when we’re sick.This healthy lifestyle begins with rest, water and good food.

I know it’s common sense, but most of us ignore it. We take our pills, throw some tissues in our sleeves, then continue to go about our lives—back to work, to do the laundry, pick up the kids, make breakfast. Our bodies ask us to slow down and rest, and this begins with sleep—the ultimate weapon in the cure for the common cold. Sleeping forces us to put all our resources in the only things that matter; repairing cells, boosting energy and building up the immune system. You can’t do this if you won’t slow down.

So the next time you get sick, do yourself a favor. Put yourself in bed and turn on the Kardashians, CSPAN, or anything else that puts you fast to sleep. Your recovery depends on it.

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Right behind sleep comes that other magical elixir: water. Without hydration, your body is powerless to fight a cold. Drinking water not only cools down fevers, but gets rid of toxins and waste. It also helps to prevent your upper and lower respiratory secretions from thickening, which means you can clear them from your airways more easily. In short, it heals.

The final piece of the healthy lifestyle puzzle is to eat right. It doesn’t get simpler than this: avoid the bad foods and welcome healthy, natural, and organic foods. That means staying away from sugars, bad fats, and packaged foods. It means eating good proteins, home-made soups, and clear broths, like miso, chicken or veggie broth, as well as any food that contains Glutathione, which is a powerful antioxidant that has been shown to fight infection.

When it comes to embracing a healthy lifestyle, ask yourself one question: is what I’m eating and drinking enriching my body or weakening it? Make the right choice and you will have begun to take back your own health.

4. Ask for Help

We all know that life is complicated and busy, and being sick just makes matters worse, getting in the way of our work and obligations. It makes us agitated and impatient that we don’t have the energy to do what we need to do, and what happens? We become resentful of being sick, which instinctively takes us right back to acting as if we’re not ill at all.

I realize slowing down is never easy advice to take, but we can make it easier with one simple solution. Ask for help. It’s the key to getting well.

We’re not just looking for someone to bring us soup and empty our trash can full of tissues—what we really need is someone to give us the space and time to be sick. We need someone to cover for us at work, make dinner, do the wash, pick up the kids. We need our families, friends and co-workers to pitch in. We’d do it for them, right? Well, it’s time to let them do it for us.

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Having someone to help us eases our minds so that we can let go and relax. It’s easier to rest when we know that someone is taking care of all the things we think we should be doing. It allows us to put our heads back on the pillow and let nature take its course, and it allows us the gift of being patient with our illness.

All it takes is three powerful words: I need help.

There you have it: four simple steps that will cure what ails you. Of course, I’d be guilty of malpractice if I didn’t also mention the words of Ben Franklin, who gave the best piece of health advice ever given. “An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.”

So, as you make your way into the flu season, take precaution, and that doesn’t just mean washing your hands, keeping away from the snotty kids, or bathing yourself in Purell. It means eating healthy, exercising often, reducing stress, and staying positive. Most importantly, it means taking control of your own health.

Of course, should you fall ill, don’t fight it or curse your luck. Listen to your wise old body and let yourself be sick.

It’s the only way you’ll ever cure the common cold.

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How to Control Your Thoughts and Be the Master of Your Mind

How to Control Your Thoughts and Be the Master of Your Mind

Your mind is the most powerful tool you have for the creation of good in your life, but if not used correctly, can also be the most destructive force in your life. To control your thoughts means to influence the way you live your life.

Your mind, more specifically, your thoughts, affects your perception and therefore, your interpretation of reality. (And here’s Why Your Perception Is Your Reality)

I have heard that the average person thinks around 70,000 thoughts a day. That’s a lot, especially if they are unproductive, self-abusive, and just a general waste of energy.

You can let your thoughts run amok, but why would you? It is your mind, your thoughts; isn’t it time to take your power back? Isn’t it time to take control?

Choose to be the person who is actively, consciously thinking your thoughts. Be someone who can control your thoughts—become the master of your mind.

When you change your thoughts, you will change your feelings as well, and you will also eliminate the triggers that set off those feelings. Both of these outcomes provide you with a greater level of peace in your mind.

I currently have a few thoughts that are not of my choosing or a response from my reprogramming. I am the master of my mind, so now my mind is quite peaceful. Yours can be too!

Who Is Thinking My Thoughts?

Before you can become the master of your mind, you must recognize that you are currently at the mercy of several unwanted “squatters” living in your mind, and they are in control of your thoughts.

If you want to be the boss of them, you must know who they are and what their motivation is, and then you can take charge and evict them.

Here are four of the “squatters” in your head that create unhealthy and unproductive thoughts.

1. The Inner Critic

This is your constant abuser who is often a conglomeration of:

  • Other people’s words—many times your parents
  • Thoughts you have created based on your own or other peoples’ expectations
  • Comparing yourself to other people, including those in the media
  • The things you told yourself as a result of painful experiences such as betrayal and rejection. Your interpretation creates your self-doubt and self-blame, which are most likely undeserved in cases of rejection and betrayal.

The Inner Critic is motivated by pain, low self-esteem, lack of self-acceptance, and lack of self-love.

Why else would this person abuse you? And since this person is youwhy else would you abuse yourself? Why would you let anyone treat you this badly?

2. The Worrier

This person lives in the future—in the world of “what ifs.”

The Worrier is motivated by fear, which is often irrational and has no basis. Occasionally, this person is motivated by fear that what happened in the past will happen again.

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3. The Reactor or Troublemaker

This is the one that triggers anger, frustration, and pain. These triggers stem from unhealed wounds of the past. Any experience that is even closely related to a past wound will set him off.

This person can be set off by words or feelings and can even be set off by sounds and smells.

The Reactor has no real motivation and has poor impulse control. He is run by past programming that no longer serves you—if it ever did.

4. The Sleep Depriver

This can be a combination of any number of different squatters including the inner planner, the rehasher, and the ruminator, along with the inner critic and the worrier.

The Sleep Depriver’s motivation can be:

  • As a reaction to silence, which he fights against
  • Taking care of the business you neglected during the day
  • Self-doubt, low self-esteem, insecurity, and generalized anxiety
  • As listed above for the inner critic and worrier

How can you control these squatters?

How to Master Your Mind

You are the thinker and the observer of your thoughts. You can control your thoughts, but you must pay attention to them so you can identify “who” is running the show—this will determine which technique you will want to use.

Begin each day with the intention of paying attention to your thoughts and catching yourself when you are thinking undesirable thoughts.

There are two ways to control your thoughts:

  • Technique A – Interrupt and replace them
  • Technique B – Eliminate them altogether

This second option is what is known as peace of mind.

The technique of interrupting and replacing is a means of reprogramming your subconscious mind. Eventually, the replacement thoughts will become the “go-to” thoughts in applicable situations.

Use Technique A with the Inner Critic and Worrier and Technique B with the Reactor and Sleep Depriver.

1. For the Inner Critic

When you catch yourself thinking something negative about yourself (calling yourself names, disrespecting yourself, or berating yourself), interrupt it.

You can yell (in your mind), “Stop! No!” or, “Enough! I’m in control now.” Then, whatever your negative thought was about yourself, replace it with an opposite or counter thought or an affirmation that begins with “I am.”

For example, if your thought is, “I’m such a loser,” you can replace it with, “I am a Divine Creation of the Universal Spirit. I am a perfect spiritual being learning to master the human experience. I am a being of energy, light, and matter. I am magnificent, brilliant, and beautiful. I love and approve of myself just as I am.”

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You can also have a dialogue with yourself to discredit the ‘voice’ that created the thought—if you know whose voice it is:

“Just because so-and-so said I was a loser doesn’t make it true. It was his or her opinion, not a statement of fact. Or maybe they were joking and I took it seriously because I’m insecure.”

If you recognize that you have recurring self-critical thoughts, you can write out or pre-plan your counter thoughts or affirmation so you can be ready.

This is the first squatter you should evict, forcefully, if necessary:

  • They rile up the Worrier.
  • The names you call yourself become triggers when called those names by others, so he also maintains the presence of the Reactor.
  • They are often present when you try to fall asleep so he perpetuates the Sleep Depriver.
  • They are a bully and is verbally and emotionally abusive.
  • They are the destroyer of self-esteem. They convince you that you’re not worthy. They’re a liar! In the interest of your self-worth, get them out!

Eliminate your worst critic and you will also diminish the presence of the other three squatters.

Replace them with your new best friends who support, encourage, and enhance your life. This is a presence you want in your mind.

2. For the Worrier

Prolonged anxiety is mentally, emotionally, and physically unhealthy. It can have long-term health implications.

Fear initiates the fight or flight response, creates worry in the mind, and creates anxiety in the body. This may make it more difficult for you to control your thoughts effectively.

You should be able to recognize a “worry thought” immediately by how you feel. The physiological signs that the fight or flight response of fear has kicked in are:

  • Increased heart rate, blood pressure, or surge of adrenaline
  • Shallow breathing or breathlessness
  • Muscles tense

Use the above-stated method to interrupt any thought of worry and then replace it. But this time, you will replace your thoughts of worry with thoughts of gratitude for the outcome you wish for.

If you believe in a higher power, this is the time to engage with it. Here is an example:

Instead of worrying about my loved ones traveling in bad weather, I say the following (I call it a prayer):

“Thank you great spirit for watching over _______. Thank you for watching over his/her car and keeping it safe, road-worthy, and free of maintenance issues without warning. Thank you for surrounding him/her with only safe, conscientious, and alert drivers. And thank you for keeping him/her safe, conscientious, and alert.”

Smile when you think about it or say it aloud, and phrase it in the present tense. Both of these will help you feel it and possibly even start to believe it.

If you can visualize what you are praying for, the visualization will enhance the feeling so you will increase the impact in your vibrational field.

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Now, take a calming breath, slowly in through your nose, and slowly out through the mouth. Take as many as you like! Do it until you feel that you’re close to being in control of your thoughts.

Replacing fearful thoughts with gratitude will decrease reactionary behavior, taking the steam out of the Reactor.

For example: If your child gets lost in the mall, the typical parental reaction that follows the fearful thoughts when finding them is to yell at them.

“I told you never to leave my sight.” This reaction just adds to the child’s fear level from being lost in the first place.

Plus, it also teaches them that mom and/or dad will get mad when he or she makes a mistake, which may make them lie to you or not tell you things in the future.

Change those fearful thoughts when they happen:

“Thank You (your choice of Higher Power) for watching over my child and keeping him safe. Thank you for helping me find him soon.”

Then, when you see your child after this thought process, your only reaction will be gratitude, and that seems like a better alternative for all people involved.

3. For the Troublemaker, Reactor or Over-Reactor

Permanently eliminating this squatter will take a bit more attention and reflection after the fact to identify and heal the causes of the triggers. But until then, you can prevent the Reactor from getting out of control by initiating conscious breathing as soon as you recognize his presence.

The Reactor’s thoughts or feelings activate the fight or flight response just like with the Worrier. The physiological signs of his presence will be the same. With a little attention, you should be able to tell the difference between anxiety, anger, frustration, or pain.

I’m sure you’ve heard the suggestion to count to ten when you get angry—well, you can make those ten seconds much more productive if you are breathing consciously during that time.

Conscious breathing is as simple as it sounds—just be conscious of your breathing. Pay attention to the air going in and coming out.

Breathe in through your nose:

  • Feel the air entering your nostrils.
  • Feel your lungs filling and expanding.
  • Focus on your belly rising.

Breathe out through your nose:

  • Feel your lungs emptying.
  • Focus on your belly falling.
  • Feel the air exiting your nostrils.

Do this for as long as you like. Leave the situation if you want. This gives the adrenaline time to normalize. Now, you can address the situation with a calmer, more rational perspective and avoid damaging behavior, and you’ll be more in control of your thoughts.

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One of the troubles this squatter causes is that it adds to the sleep depriver’s issues. By evicting or at least controlling the Reactor, you will decrease reactionary behavior, which will decrease the need for the rehashing and ruminating that may keep you from falling asleep.

Master your mind and stop the Reactor from bringing stress to you and your relationships!

4. For the Sleep Depriver

(They’re made up of the Inner Planner, the Rehasher, and the Ruminator, along with the Inner Critic and the Worrier.)

I was plagued with a very common problem: not being able to turn off my mind at bedtime. This inability prevented me from falling asleep and thus, getting a restful and restorative night’s sleep.

Here’s how I mastered my mind and evicted the Sleep Depriver and all his cronies.

  1. I started by focusing on my breathing—paying attention to the rise and fall of my belly—but that didn’t keep the thoughts out for long. (Actually, I now start with checking my at-rest mouth position to keep me from clenching.)
  2. Then I came up with a replacement strategy that eliminated uncontrolled thinking—imagining the word in while breathing in and thinking the word out when breathing out. I would (and do) elongate the word to match the length of my breath.

When I catch myself thinking, I shift back to in, out. With this technique, I am still thinking, sort of, but the wheels are no longer spinning out of control. I am in control of my mind and thoughts, and I choose quiet.

From the first time I tried this method, I started to yawn after only a few cycles and am usually asleep within ten minutes.

For really difficult nights, I add an increase of attention by holding my eyes in a looking-up position (closed, of course). Sometimes I try to look toward my third eye but that really hurts my eyes.

If you have trouble falling asleep because you can’t shut off your mind, I strongly recommend you try this technique. I still use it every night. You can start sleeping better tonight!

You can also use this technique any time you want to:

  • Fall back to sleep if you wake up too soon
  • Shut down your thinking
  • Calm your feelings
  • Simply focus on the present moment

The Bottom Line

Your mind is a tool, and like any other tool, it can be used for constructive purposes or destructive purposes.

You can allow your mind to be occupied by unwanted, undesirable, and destructive tenants, or you can choose desirable tenants like peace, gratitude, compassion, love, and joy.

Your mind can become your best friend, your biggest supporter, and someone you can count on to be there and encourage you. You can be in control of your thoughts. The choice is yours!

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